We broke up last year during March. After giving many different reasons, it turns out that she likes another guy. No idea why the hell, I told her I don't mind; and that I'll wait for her for as long as it will take. After that, she became really cold towards me. Slowly we don't talk at all.

After half a year, I met another girl. I tried to be friends with her. At first I thought I was interested in her, but when we started chatting really well - it reminded me of my ex girlfriend. I felt despaired cause.. just when I thought I could finally forget, I realise that I totally can't. didn't really talk to the other girl soon after..

Before new year, my ex girlfriend suddenly talked to me again. I was glad that we could chat as friends again, after so long. Then, she invited me to a new year party. I went that night, chatted and had a lil fun during the party. Till before sunrise when we were alone else where, I was a lil tipsy; and I broke down infront of her. I told her how terrible I felt for so long, that I couldn't forget her even if I wanted to.. I just can't. I cried, felt pathetic. And then she told me, actually.. she still loves me, but she can't think bout any relationship this year cause of her major exams. Holding on to some bit of hope, I told her I'll wait.

Now, I try to talk to her every now and then. But.. it returns to the time when she kinda ignores me.. My heart aches real hard whenever I think bout the memories we shared..

Am I being too naive to wait for her?

If I shouldn't wait, what's one way to just forget?

Sometimes it's really hard to forget..

I need help, don't know what kinda help though.

You got time, then wait lor.

Wait, if you want. There's no should or should not...

Forgetting takes time, sometimes a hell lotta time. In the meantime you can busy yourself with lots and lots of work and various activities, bring in new people into your life and try to edge her out of your mind...

*big hug*

You so poor thing...

Nope. You are not naive to wait. If you do not want to wait, then, just occupy your life with other things. But in the first place, why do you want to forget her ?

You want to forget her just because she occassionally ignore you? I guess that isnt a steady relationship.

Good memories are always hardest to forget.

Well , just be casual , Help her with her studies. Dont go arond suggesting relationships. Just well , if u really wanna be with her again u can try to help her but be restraint n dont go down crying n breaking down.

Good luck.

occupy yourrself with other friends as well, that way you won't keep thinking about her and feel miserable.

hm.. I'm waiting cause she gave me hope, and also I can't forget bout our relationship. The reason why I want to forget on the other hand, is because waiting hurts.. it's gonna be 2 years in total if I'm goin to wait. While taking her word that I should wait, things now are showing that our distance even as friends are getting further each day - which means chances are probably not possible even if I waited for this year to end.. Ironic huh..

Can you not make a decision?

Just keep everything open - your heart, your options - and focus on other things, such as your job or your studies or even focusing on being a better man so that if, just IF, the day ever comes, you'll be able to take better care of her if she gives you the chance to. :D But in the meantime if anything else comes along, give it a try and not shut yourself out from new developments... :D

haha.. sounds great.. but sometimes my mind just has her all the time. So badly, I can't really think bout much else.. So, yeah.. I can't really focus sometimes on the things I do..

Originally posted by LeBear:

haha.. sounds great.. but sometimes my mind just has her all the time. So badly, I can't really think bout much else.. So, yeah.. I can't really focus sometimes on the things I do..

It's just teething, I guess. Do something like... fold paper cranes... during those moments... in time to come, I'm sure you'll be able to carry on.

Ya.. I agree.. Time heals all wound.. Provide you are strong enough to move on..

Originally posted by LeBear:

We broke up last year during March. After giving many different reasons, it turns out that she likes another guy. No idea why the hell, I told her I don't mind; and that I'll wait for her for as long as it will take. After that, she became really cold towards me. Slowly we don't talk at all.

 

After half a year, I met another girl. I tried to be friends with her. At first I thought I was interested in her, but when we started chatting really well - it reminded me of my ex girlfriend. I felt despaired cause.. just when I thought I could finally forget, I realise that I totally can't. didn't really talk to the other girl soon after..

 

Before new year, my ex girlfriend suddenly talked to me again. I was glad that we could chat as friends again, after so long. Then, she invited me to a new year party. I went that night, chatted and had a lil fun during the party. Till before sunrise when we were alone else where, I was a lil tipsy; and I broke down infront of her. I told her how terrible I felt for so long, that I couldn't forget her even if I wanted to.. I just can't. I cried, felt pathetic. And then she told me, actually.. she still loves me, but she can't think bout any relationship this year cause of her major exams. Holding on to some bit of hope, I told her I'll wait.

 

Now, I try to talk to her every now and then. But.. it returns to the time when she kinda ignores me.. My heart aches real hard whenever I think bout the memories we shared..

 

Am I being too naive to wait for her?

If I shouldn't wait, what's one way to just forget?

Sometimes it's really hard to forget..

 

I need help, don't know what kinda help though.

I would suggest wasting no more time waiting and move on and socialise with other girls around you.

From my point of view, she just wants to maintain a platonic friendship with you. The New Year party was simply an opportunity for you and her to be normal friends, but you screwed it up when you broke down and pour out all that I-can't-forget-you stuff in front of her. And no one would be so bad-ass enough to rub salt into the wounds of a heartbroken guy by saying something like "Oh stop telling me all these crap and get off me, creep.", so naturally she threw in the common school/projects/major-exams/i'm-too-busy excuse to make you feel better.

This is probably why she is cold towards you all the time - she didn't want you to be hopeful of a closer-than-friends relationship with her, and it seemed to her that a platonic relationship is not possible.

You've already lost her as a girlfriend. If you don't wish to lose her as a friend, I would advice you to talk it out with her and assure her that you will not try to start another BGR with her but would like to keep her as a normal friend.

I think you should move on . Don't waste anymore time.  You still can consider her as a normal friend?  As time past on.. u will find your bright for sure.. But if really loves her  alot don't give up. 

u are the guy whom we, guy call is wussy and timid..

Shes already gone n u still not moving on. Gosh. cant believe man nowadays. Im sure u are only studying now where your true purpose or dream in your life is not clear. That is why u stuck in love cuz love is everything u got in your life now.

Stop being a wussy , dude. U've been too serious in r/s at your age. Dont u?

ok.. let give me giv u a suggestion..

Let say u going to botanic garden. You want to go see the orchid (her).

You go there see the orchid only meh? Go see the Rose, Lily and any other flower also la..

Dont waste your time. Maybe the orchid is not the prettiest flower around.

Fren ahh.. got many other flower out there. You still very young. Dont limit to one.

Forgetting someone u love is always hard .. Everytime when u feel like moving on things will hinder your way. Memories is called memories for a reason.. I waited for a girl close to 3 years.. I tried moving on but i just can't cos whenever i do .. She will pop out of nowhere.. At least for now i am still trying ..

sigh.. i know how you feel.. *pat pat*.

i screwed up recently, and a special someone got angry. i don't think it's really my fault though, it's just that she's abit too sensitive ba.

Originally posted by dumbdumb!:

sigh.. i know how you feel.. *pat pat*.

i screwed up recently, and a special someone got angry. i don't think it's really my fault though, it's just that she's abit too sensitive ba.

U screw up and still not your fault, then who screw up!!??

Yo bear bear,

Be a man lah, why no more girls around liao meh, a guy must be strong on relationship, break up break up lor, so what, we gals also dun bother so much, why u so lovesick ar??

Originally posted by dumbdumb!:

sigh.. i know how you feel.. *pat pat*.

i screwed up recently, and a special someone got angry. i don't think it's really my fault though, it's just that she's abit too sensitive ba.

You screwed up.. Or maybe she misunderstood.. But then you still screwed up ma..

wow.....guys always fall for such lousy "kind" words from girls. Most of the time, they probably just give you false hope, just in case they have nobody to fall back on...or they cant find a better excuse to reject you.

You mentioned that there was another ger whom you can relate to. Go for her if she is good. Why cling on to a history when the future is in front? And let your ex knows what she has missed out..

Originally posted by BadzMaro:

Good memories are always hardest to forget.

i think that way too

It's a gamble you'd have to take -
> wait, and pray for the best; or
> move on, and start searching the rest.

hmm i understand how u feel.. it must be difficult trying to focus and do your stuff when she keeps coming into your mind. juz try to carry on with your life as per normal bah. try to keep yourself occupy and try not to be left alone or else you will start to think again. Best is try to make new friends. As for what will happen between her and you, dont think so much. Time will tell. Keep your options open at the mean time. :)

yeah man u are a wuss just like wat zarks said. so many gals around in the world. just don’t be like me and go back to the same girl. once broken it’s never the same. just move on and know more girls. it’s very easy knowing girls. i think i am going to get flamed again. but heck who cares?