When I was fresh out of my failed O levels yr, I tried my hands in retail & was booted out the next day because the people over there thought I was too nervous, quiet & ugly.

When I was 19, my friend introduced me a job at an office & well, the boss didn't like me at all, so he made me sit in a lousy desk & kept verbally abusing me everytime I did something wrong & kept emphasizing it. I endured for some time & decided to job hop.

3 mths before this day, I found a good job at a japanese coy but I got forced resign because I was behaving badly & I made a huge mistake in my work.

After that, I found another job & it didn't turn out well too...the manager actually put up an ad by the third day I came to work & a few days later, I found out that he is looking for replacement for my position. When I probe him, he told me that I was slow in reaction & It seems we always have some kind of miscommunication with him! I swear I was at the best behaviour in this job! This job, I swear, he didn't even know my chronic odd habits yet...but I guess my minor retardedness gave it away...

Now? I am jobless & looking for a job, but it's not so easy as many ppl just dun like me at first sight. I only have a failed O's cert with me right now..I've been trying for O's for like 3 yrs & I can't seem to study properly...

What SHould I do??? I can't believe it...I always thought I've change..but I realised that perhaps I am born stupid?

me thinks u shld focus solely on ur studies first.

I think you have to get over your inferior complex. nobody is stupid.. they're just good at something but not everything. do you have n level cert?

Yes I have 'N' level cert...in all those jobs, I've already tried different kind of admin related work & it's the most lowly jobs & dun ask me to take up retail..they'll just kick me out too fast!

I seriously think there is something wrong with me..I swear I behaved so well but was busted because of "Slow Reaction"!!!! Wtf is this reason..

*cries*

retail sales must b pleasant to look at from the outside but aggressive inside. if u r an introvert ppl will assume u r not putting effort in such jobs.

Originally posted by jam on a bread:

Yes I have 'N' level cert...in all those jobs, I've already tried different kind of admin related work & it's the most lowly jobs & dun ask me to take up retail..they'll just kick me out too fast!

 

I seriously think there is something wrong with me..I swear I behaved so well but was busted because of "Slow Reaction"!!!! Wtf is this reason..

 

*cries*

then why don't you go into ITE for some training? at least you can take the time specialise in something. with the N or Os it's too general that you won't have much skills to do anything..

No, I dun have pocket money now & im trying to study for O's to get to an institue but the thing is my father insist me on working but I suck so hard at it right now!! You are right..I dun possess any basic skills or whatsoever *cries*

Originally posted by jam on a bread:

No, I dun have pocket money now & im trying to study for O's to get to an institue but the thing is my father insist me on working but I suck so hard at it right now!! You are right..I dun possess any basic skills or whatsoever *cries*

I think you should just get enrolled into ITE, learn some skills and work. It's better that way. btw how bad was your Os results? no offence..

it's no use crying now.. it's more important you find what you like and get trained in it. once you got a skill, at least you'll be confident enough to handle anything to do with it.

jam on a bread, pls dont cry big boy already. everything can b solved. working life is tough in the beginning cos in the past u were used to studying life. just rem we work in exchg for $. its a fair business transaction. try not to get 2 personal with work.

ITE dun have the skills I like & dun have the cert it possess too. What's more the cert I want to get it is too expensive & I need a job but now..I dun even know whether I even can get a job & keep it longer omg..*cries*

Originally posted by jam on a bread:

ITE dun have the skills I like & dun have the cert it possess too. What's more the cert I want to get it is too expensive & I need a job but now..I dun even know whether I even can get a job & keep it longer omg..*cries*

what is the skills/job you wanted? what cert do you want that's so expensive?

seriously, stop crying.

It's HR/admin..

Originally posted by jam on a bread:

It's HR/admin..

HR/admin? how much does it cost? you say you don't have enough pocket money, your family can't support in ur education anymore?

Without cert people despise u, with a good cert you despise people ^^

once, it may be a misunderstanding.

twice, it may be pure coincidence

thrice, i think you need to reflect on your ownself..there must be something wrong with your behaviour or attitude that had cost you your previous jobs

ite has a cert for HR/admin what.... biz & admin @ clementi

Originally posted by jam on a bread:

When I was fresh out of my failed O levels yr, I tried my hands in retail & was booted out the next day because the people over there thought I was too nervous, quiet & ugly.

When I was 19, my friend introduced me a job at an office & well, the boss didn't like me at all, so he made me sit in a lousy desk & kept verbally abusing me everytime I did something wrong & kept emphasizing it. I endured for some time & decided to job hop.

3 mths before this day, I found a good job at a japanese coy but I got forced resign because I was behaving badly & I made a huge mistake in my work.

After that, I found another job & it didn't turn out well too...the manager actually put up an ad by the third day I came to work & a few days later, I found out that he is looking for replacement for my position. When I probe him, he told me that I was slow in reaction & It seems we always have some kind of miscommunication with him! I swear I was at the best behaviour in this job! This job, I swear, he didn't even know my chronic odd habits yet...but I guess my minor retardedness gave it away...

Now? I am jobless & looking for a job, but it's not so easy as many ppl just dun like me at first sight. I only have a failed O's cert with me right now..I've been trying for O's for like 3 yrs & I can't seem to study properly...

What SHould I do??? I can't believe it...I always thought I've change..but I realised that perhaps I am born stupid?

Nobody is born stupid.

But you certainly have to brush up on your PR skills! Don't be afraid to do that.

Perhaps you lack self-confidence?

If you keep psycho-ing yourself that you're stupid, you'll react like how you said - stupid.

no lah, when you first go out to work, it's like that one......first time mah, sure get lots of scolding and crap.

i was pretty much like you previously 2 - 3 years ago and quit tons of jobs less than 1 week of working. BBB can testify to that.

once you get the hang of it, then it will be much smoother cos' u know how the game is played. i got a shock for myself also.....work very different from school.

best is to get a data-entry job if you can.

simple one....mainly just enter data and do routine chores.....can also find some temp contract work while you study......i suggest find those light simple mundane jobs so you won't be tired when you study.

and u must make effort to groom yourself and look yourself, don't be afraid to ask questions if you've doubts.

try to avoid retail jobs....these jobs are really not for humans. find an office job, because that's the kinda thing you'll be doing when u graduate, right?

can also go find job agent.

you blew your chance at the japanese comp. Take a good look at yourself and adjust yourself accordingly.

I believe everyone has their own strength. Maybe your are not cut out to do what you had done. Have you thought of yourself what is your biggest strength ? Work on it.

J

I am a GCE N lvl student and i am in the IT field now.. Been working for 1yrs or so .. So there's nothing wrong in being a O's lvl student.. Just learn from your mistake.. Ppl are not afraid of those who dunno thing but afraid of those who do not wish to learn..

Based on your above posting, i think you have a decent intelligence. Well i think  you are not stupid, maybe your actions and attitude wasn't well-received. Everyone did some stupid things more than once in a life time. Reflect and learn so that you can become a better person. Meanwhile, find out what you are cut out for, work on your strength. Have you thought of retaking your o'level or take up some courses that will make you employable ?

go for something like sky-diving etc. In s'pore, go for the reverse bungy jumping at clarke quay...

Then:

get your PRIORITIES straight.

If you find yourself to be slower than others, than that means you cant really multi task. But that does NOT make you stupid...

set a clear goals list. And then execute... Be discipline in setting your goals.

You failed o levels... So what? Just repeat... You may work part time, a few hrs a day to pay for tuition etc... The rest is to sleep(max 8 hrs) & study...

You say that you are ugly... In what sense? got acne? fat? If your are on the big size then exercise to slim down... If you are too thin then exercise to build some muscles... No hunk is ugly...

Just be discipline and stick to the schedule you make... DONT ever procrastinate... Then you should be fine... More importantly, what do YOU want to be? It's your life, you have to make the decisions.

oei brother.

the traditional mindset for singaporeans would mean getting a nice job at an office, but since you never did got through O' Lvls, maybe ur just not cut out for it, THAT DEFINATELY DOESN'T MEAN UR STUPID!!! look at it that ur just special as compared to other people.

what is ur financial situation in your family now? do u need to urgently support ur parents? if not...take some time off, learn a skill. ask urself what do u like besides an office job. do u like music? wana be a small time musician? or do u like arts? u can go into an art school and see whether ur more suited for it. or are u good at fixing things, look into the engineering sector and see where ur talents lie.

what matters is...DON'T EVER GIVE UP! life is not a walk in a park, especially so in singapore. find a field that ur interested in and where you can excel in it.