Girlfriend issues - major rant
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fuck and dump
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wow.. ur post is enuf to make freedomfighter not use caps in his posts..
and ur post started off Aunt Agony style and ended Bar style.. lol..
ok jokes aside, i conclude that u already have a decision in ur mind to break off from her, so i hope u wun feel bad about it or sth.. but given ur Bar-like post towards the end i think u have no problems bah..
just rmb not everyone will reciprocate ur feelings the way u want them to.. and if u cant accept it, den move on.. and life goes on..
hope u find someone else to bukakke on real soon=)
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wow, i didn't know the winning combi for guys is big tits + naivete. how -cough- shallow these despos can be.
well, good for you, from my p.o.v, you seem like the type who doesn't take a girl for granted, unlike those despos you mentioned. so score 1!
As for your girl, let her go and explore the world she so desperately wants to go to ... she clearly isn't the smart or practical type .. no offence. If this happens to her one day with any European or American dudes who can't wait to get her naked then dump her, she'd be really sorry. Ah well, it depends on her alone if she wants to learn her lesson the hard way. Have you been telling her any of these by any chance?
Anyways, since you prove to be able to commit, that's good. In the future, you may pick other worthier ladies, or you can give her a second chance if she's willing to. So play your cards right, yes?
And umm.. if it wasn't meant to be, then it's not. On the bright side, at least by actually informing you that she wants a break (or sth like that, cant rmb because your post was too long
), she isn't treating you like an emergency bf. It'd be a lot worse if she thought she could flirt with other guys and keep a first aid kit or a convenient boredom-dispeller. -
After reading your extremely long post, here's a curve ball bro. First of all, why you all caught up & getting your boxers all up in a bunch? Let's review the FACTS. She shows disregard by ignoring or pretending to be utterly interested in what you have to say. It ain't a girl thing, guys do that too. I've friends that do that all the time, it's a sign of the other party being disinterested. Or maybe she has the attention span of a goldfish... maybe I dunno.
Secondly, you claim she is being influenced by outside interferences (i.e friends) Well that is a clear sign, if it were true.., that she has no control over what she thinks, so she let's others tell her what to do/think. She doesn't have her own opinion on where you & her are going. Being that as it may, pretty much what I tell my friends with similar problems..., If that is the way she is, then no matter how many nights you cry, feel depressed or try to rationalize the situation... You never lost her, 'cause you never had her to begin with. If you are as good a person/boyfriend or whatever & all the above you said are true.., she doesn't deserve you. She's not prepared to give you what you need, she's more like I need my personal space kinda thing. Y'know, I'm better off alone attitude....
So pick yourself up, find friends to keep you occupied. Go bowling, golfing or better yet go clubbing. Meet new people and sooner than you think you'll be kicking yourself, thinking "Why was I that person?" She will never know what she lost 'cause she never understood what she had. Guy or girl, it's all the same. Don't play this like a game. People's feelings are not for you to mess around with. Be a gentleman, understand and love yourself. Technically, she taught you something..., a lesson in the dangers of investing emotions in someone who is unworthy. I'm sure you can do better, you're just not looking in the right places. I wish you luck.
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so did you get close to her partly because of her ample chest too?
since those guys are deperate, then what does that make you look like when you were chasing her?
since she's not ready to be tied down in a relationship, you should start looking for girls who suit your preferences.
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Originally posted by kench-an:
I realise my (ex?) girlfriend is too friendly to other people, to the point of ignoring me, her boyfriend. While friendliness is a virtue, I believe one must be selectively friendly. After all, haven't we encountered people who are distant to us but be super close to another?
For instance, when I am with her and I am talking to her about stuff, if she sees a friend (close or not close), she would just say hi and start talking to the other person, totally ignoring the fact that I have NOT ended my conversation with her YET. And once it ends, she didn't even bother asking me to resume.
Once, she happen to befriend a guy playing the piano in the piano room. Or rather, she was befriended by the guy. (The guy looks like a 'player') I sat there and read the papers, she knew I was there and she kept on talking to the guy. Then, she went out with him some more to watch a performance. On the FIRST day they met. I have been asking her out and she keeps giving me lame excuses, like busy or no money. After that, she still got the mood to sit and chat with him till midnight.
Then, the piano guy keeps on coming, like trying to meet her. There was once me, the girl and another person were talking and I could see her giving a glance to the guy playing the piano. Upon returning to the gym (after 30 minutes, as I didn't feel well), I saw her AT the piano lounge, with the guy playing. Didn't expect her to return so soon. She said, she wants a break from work. Then, there was another occasion he came to play, on the pretext of 'teaching' her, up till midnight. She promised to come over to my room after it's done and it took her two hours to do so. Fortunately, he's no longer around. But then again, she's no longer around (in Europe doing some student exchange programme). Coincidence?
Along the way, till now, I realised that she has always been giving me the cold shoulder. Each time she comes online, I say hi to her, and it always takes a long time (sometimes 10 mins or so) to say hi. I say something, and the only thing she says is those one-word replies like haha, lol, i c . She rarely speaks to me about a lot of stuff. Funnily, when her ex and other friends (usually desperate males) talk to her online, she can rival this long post in terms of word count. And her response was lightning speed, unlike mine which is akin to snail mail. Furthermore, she classifies some of her new friends (i.e. those that she got to know after heading to student exchange) under 'friends' whereas mine is lumped under 'other contacts'.
When I ask her what's going on, she doesn't want to say. She always says it's 'private'. Funny how she spills out these problems to her pals. And funny how a lot of her pals know of her blog, which she has kept secret from me. She says 'a lot of private matters in it', which is why she doesn't want to disclose. Then, why tell others? Isn't 'private' affairs a personal thing in which NO ONE else is involved, not even pals?
When I asked her once whether she loved me and is my gf or not, she said YES. However, few days ago, she says I don't know her enough and she wanted to stay single. She wants to return to her old life. She wants more space and personal time so she wants me to 'respect the decision'.
Don't know her enough? She doesn't want to share it with me!! Privacy, she said.
Old life?? When we were going out, she said we were seeing each other too often, and she hasn't seen her other friends for so long. Friends??? Friends who don't contact her for so long? Friends who don't bother sacrificing their sleep to send her off at Changi? Mind you, I was the only one sacrificing my sleep and my S$20 to send her off at Changi. Who was the one taking the trouble to send her the important postage? You think others would care??
Old life?? She thinks she has a lot of close pals...mind you, these 'pals' are mostly guys. And the same guys would always appear in her MSN, taking her attention away from mine. Which explains why it takes 10 minutes for her to give me a one-word reply. I should say her boobs are large and she does have a 'naive-like' behaviour, which is a turn-on for guys, because when I saw their faces, they look like fucking losers. Desperate for girls, perhaps. And some of them are already attached! Why are they spending so much time with my gf? Why she doesn't say she's spending too much time with them? Only I got the 'award' of spending 'too much' time together??
Sometimes, I feel that her friends may be influencing her to be against me. After all, they all want her, right? And once I saw one of their messages condemning her 'ex-boyfriend' (i.e. me) when we were quarreling. Which meant they have a strong influence on her, stronger than mine. Otherwise, why the sudden attitude change? Then, one of the guys had the cheek to ask her if she has met 'any European hunks' on her Facebook. Since he's not in my friends list, I wouldn't know what she wrote there.
It seems that she is enjoying her life in Europe now. Ya...getting to know white hunks, f**king them like nobody's business. To the point where she's forgotten me. If she truly wants to see me, why the f*** she go and take another module OUTSIDE her exchange university, forcing her to possibly return later? If she truly likes me, why give me the cold shoulder when I call or MSN? She likes giving attention to others only interested in giving her a f***, whereas I am being the doormat. Sigh...
In addition, she wasn't planning to stay here. She wants to go to the USA so badly to do her masters, then from there hoping to do medicine. Moi thinks, if you cannot even get your good results here, forget about going to angmoh nations. I can't understand why she thinks USA is the place for her to go, citing good education, etc...brochures always look better than reality. In that case, even if she returns, I better be prepared for a ten-inch black cock to have penetrated her front and back in quintessential campus parties. If that's the case, get the fuck out of my chink arse. Remember, her tits are large.
I wonder if she wanted to be my gf in the first place...I realised that I was the one pushing and she was a mere willing participant.
Comments, brickbats are welcome. I'll just go bukkake on someone else in the meanwhile.
I think there's a problem with yourself here, for you do not even know if you are in/out of a relationship with her. You have a rather wrong account and I am just surprised that you are inconclusive on this issue. So my question to you here is: Are you in/out ?
Don't mind me saying here but I perceive that you are out. On the fair side, you seem to be sore about the whole thing to such a sense you seem to loose some logic and sense here. Just because she has big boobs and friendly doesn't mean that she is loose and certainly not cheap. What's wrong with being born beautiful and attractive? Your post here is not only addressing the problem but your account is leaning towards her being a slut.
In all fairness, as much as you mention the lack of attention on your conversation (God knows what you are talking about to her and I doubt if there's anything important - which is your answer of a light attention); there is also an act of neglect on your part when she was getting acquainted with that piano guy and what were you doing? Reading the papers!! I mean what are you doing with the papers on a date? Trying to read the weather forecast or horoscope between the both of you?
Your (ex) girlfriend seems to be a smart and intelligent individual. For what I see, she is a quick witted one and certainly isn't a cup of plain tea - but rather a cup of Earl's Grey. Generalize your conversation and you are out of her planet. Has it ever occurred to you that what you are communicating may be deemed lame and boring which has been repeatedly mentioned and brought up by you ? As what you have done here posting repeatedly about her being friendly with everybody she comes in contact with>>?? Did she not agree in the first place that you are her steady? Gone out with you one to one and close to you than any other individual?
I hate to say this but I can't seem to have any reason to stand at your side of the fence. I just felt that you had let your emotions get the better of you to even generalize her being a slut going for other men instead of her pursuit for higher learning. From what you had posted, she seems to be the pursued rather than the pursuer. I am just shaking my head how you can misinterprete and misunderstood her.
I felt that part of her in the USA I think is really uncalled for and shows the kind of character you are here. Sure speaks a lot to me here about how much base you have here. BTW do you have any issues with blacks in US? I think you had better be careful with what you say here.
I don't want to dampen you here but I think you are out of her league. She is not your cup of tea. Move on.
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4get it...unappreciative girl
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Originally posted by Saf4life:
sad, join the army for a better life mate.
haha.anyway, y u stil wan dis kind of jian huo.
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Originally posted by kench-an:
I realise my (ex?) girlfriend is too friendly to other people, to the point of ignoring me, her boyfriend. While friendliness is a virtue, I believe one must be selectively friendly. After all, haven't we encountered people who are distant to us but be super close to another?
For instance, when I am with her and I am talking to her about stuff, if she sees a friend (close or not close), she would just say hi and start talking to the other person, totally ignoring the fact that I have NOT ended my conversation with her YET. And once it ends, she didn't even bother asking me to resume.
Once, she happen to befriend a guy playing the piano in the piano room. Or rather, she was befriended by the guy. (The guy looks like a 'player') I sat there and read the papers, she knew I was there and she kept on talking to the guy. Then, she went out with him some more to watch a performance. On the FIRST day they met. I have been asking her out and she keeps giving me lame excuses, like busy or no money. After that, she still got the mood to sit and chat with him till midnight.
Then, the piano guy keeps on coming, like trying to meet her. There was once me, the girl and another person were talking and I could see her giving a glance to the guy playing the piano. Upon returning to the gym (after 30 minutes, as I didn't feel well), I saw her AT the piano lounge, with the guy playing. Didn't expect her to return so soon. She said, she wants a break from work. Then, there was another occasion he came to play, on the pretext of 'teaching' her, up till midnight. She promised to come over to my room after it's done and it took her two hours to do so. Fortunately, he's no longer around. But then again, she's no longer around (in Europe doing some student exchange programme). Coincidence?
Along the way, till now, I realised that she has always been giving me the cold shoulder. Each time she comes online, I say hi to her, and it always takes a long time (sometimes 10 mins or so) to say hi. I say something, and the only thing she says is those one-word replies like haha, lol, i c . She rarely speaks to me about a lot of stuff. Funnily, when her ex and other friends (usually desperate males) talk to her online, she can rival this long post in terms of word count. And her response was lightning speed, unlike mine which is akin to snail mail. Furthermore, she classifies some of her new friends (i.e. those that she got to know after heading to student exchange) under 'friends' whereas mine is lumped under 'other contacts'.
When I ask her what's going on, she doesn't want to say. She always says it's 'private'. Funny how she spills out these problems to her pals. And funny how a lot of her pals know of her blog, which she has kept secret from me. She says 'a lot of private matters in it', which is why she doesn't want to disclose. Then, why tell others? Isn't 'private' affairs a personal thing in which NO ONE else is involved, not even pals?
When I asked her once whether she loved me and is my gf or not, she said YES. However, few days ago, she says I don't know her enough and she wanted to stay single. She wants to return to her old life. She wants more space and personal time so she wants me to 'respect the decision'.
Don't know her enough? She doesn't want to share it with me!! Privacy, she said.
Old life?? When we were going out, she said we were seeing each other too often, and she hasn't seen her other friends for so long. Friends??? Friends who don't contact her for so long? Friends who don't bother sacrificing their sleep to send her off at Changi? Mind you, I was the only one sacrificing my sleep and my S$20 to send her off at Changi. Who was the one taking the trouble to send her the important postage? You think others would care??
Old life?? She thinks she has a lot of close pals...mind you, these 'pals' are mostly guys. And the same guys would always appear in her MSN, taking her attention away from mine. Which explains why it takes 10 minutes for her to give me a one-word reply. I should say her boobs are large and she does have a 'naive-like' behaviour, which is a turn-on for guys, because when I saw their faces, they look like fucking losers. Desperate for girls, perhaps. And some of them are already attached! Why are they spending so much time with my gf? Why she doesn't say she's spending too much time with them? Only I got the 'award' of spending 'too much' time together??
Sometimes, I feel that her friends may be influencing her to be against me. After all, they all want her, right? And once I saw one of their messages condemning her 'ex-boyfriend' (i.e. me) when we were quarreling. Which meant they have a strong influence on her, stronger than mine. Otherwise, why the sudden attitude change? Then, one of the guys had the cheek to ask her if she has met 'any European hunks' on her Facebook. Since he's not in my friends list, I wouldn't know what she wrote there.
It seems that she is enjoying her life in Europe now. Ya...getting to know white hunks, f**king them like nobody's business. To the point where she's forgotten me. If she truly wants to see me, why the f*** she go and take another module OUTSIDE her exchange university, forcing her to possibly return later? If she truly likes me, why give me the cold shoulder when I call or MSN? She likes giving attention to others only interested in giving her a f***, whereas I am being the doormat. Sigh...
In addition, she wasn't planning to stay here. She wants to go to the USA so badly to do her masters, then from there hoping to do medicine. Moi thinks, if you cannot even get your good results here, forget about going to angmoh nations. I can't understand why she thinks USA is the place for her to go, citing good education, etc...brochures always look better than reality. In that case, even if she returns, I better be prepared for a ten-inch black cock to have penetrated her front and back in quintessential campus parties. If that's the case, get the fuck out of my chink arse. Remember, her tits are large.
I wonder if she wanted to be my gf in the first place...I realised that I was the one pushing and she was a mere willing participant.
Comments, brickbats are welcome. I'll just go bukkake on someone else in the meanwhile.
a girl treat you like this and u actully still call her your gf and have to come in here to ask for advice?
wake up yr friggin idea and be a man. tell the biatch to FO.
thn again. idiots who land themselves into sh1t deserve to wallow in it.
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To TS,
She is only using you! Can't you see that? Are you blind or that ignorant you prefer to pretend that she will treat you better? Come on just dump her like others suggested. There is nothing to talk about. If you respect yourself then you deserve better than this otherwise continue to let her use you as a doormat.
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Already ex so why whine?
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wtf ur ex is like my ex! cb i know how u feel
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she's not interested in you anymore. and she's doing it the extreme way just to show you that. i suggest, ditch her before she ditches you.
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Hmm...does she work for a magazine company called Composure or something along the line?
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Originally posted by Naughtius Maximus:
So pick yourself up, find friends to keep you occupied. Go bowling, golfing or better yet go clubbing. Meet new people and sooner than you think you'll be kicking yourself, thinking "Why was I that person?" She will never know what she lost 'cause she never understood what she had. Guy or girl, it's all the same. Don't play this like a game. People's feelings are not for you to mess around with. Be a gentleman, understand and love yourself. Technically, she taught you something..., a lesson in the dangers of investing emotions in someone who is unworthy. I'm sure you can do better, you're just not looking in the right places. I wish you luck.
There are signages along the path of your relationship which you does not take heed. If you have been holding in all these grudges about this relationship and has been willingly glueing yourself to this relationship, then perhaps it is not totally her fault. You should have learn to love yourself and stopped this relationship from escalating to a horrible cumulative point.
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DUMP
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hi there , how old r u ? damn , i'm having the farking same prob . just fark and dump . or u can just dump . i did neither . i'm just plain ignoring my gal , she gave me the cold sholder first . so i'll play along , got time to go out with her frens no time for me knn . i'll just be repeating what TS was stating . good luck !
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hmm... i have a friend who is easily influced by some of her 'close' friends. T happens to be one of her so called 'close' friend. T will always tell her how bad her bf is and that her bf is not well-educated. Then me and some other friends will have to try to psyco her back to the right track.. her previous bf is really a nice guy. i think T is just jealous and wanted them to break off so that her bf will stand out more..
Having this kind of friend (like T) is something the guy can control. Some people are just so easily influenced.
But for kench-an case, i think its far worse than my friend's case. Your gal simply wanted attention from other guys to make herself more popular i suppose. she is not the kind of gf guys will want. Maybe it's good to be her male friend instead of her boyfriend. Right guys?
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its like TS's ex likes attention from guys,
sigh, i can understand how u feel, its always weird and strange when the one whom supposed to get closer to you ended you finding their own time getting closer with other ppl more than you.
it always hurt when u never feel loved by your partner especially when u 've done so much for your partner... i mean, even blind man can know if some1 really love them.. its all based on actions...
TS, this kind of gal are just not commited enough to stay long in r/s. She's just too young or rather the wild type to play around.
My advice, just forget her and move on.. u don have to check how was she doin anywhere. She wont care for you and u know you shouldnt care for her too. You can still be friend with her but i dont think u can be good friend.. the way she treated you will always haunt u evertime u chat with her...
one day, u will find one whom really love you and wanted to marry u. No worries. When that time comes, you will feel like living in heaven. Let her out of your life. She will regret one day
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hmmm just like my gf last time ... but now she loves me alot =D
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Originally posted by kench-an:
I realise my (ex?) girlfriend is too friendly to other people, to the point of ignoring me, her boyfriend. While friendliness is a virtue, I believe one must be selectively friendly. After all, haven't we encountered people who are distant to us but be super close to another?
For instance, when I am with her and I am talking to her about stuff, if she sees a friend (close or not close), she would just say hi and start talking to the other person, totally ignoring the fact that I have NOT ended my conversation with her YET. And once it ends, she didn't even bother asking me to resume.
Once, she happen to befriend a guy playing the piano in the piano room. Or rather, she was befriended by the guy. (The guy looks like a 'player') I sat there and read the papers, she knew I was there and she kept on talking to the guy. Then, she went out with him some more to watch a performance. On the FIRST day they met. I have been asking her out and she keeps giving me lame excuses, like busy or no money. After that, she still got the mood to sit and chat with him till midnight.
Then, the piano guy keeps on coming, like trying to meet her. There was once me, the girl and another person were talking and I could see her giving a glance to the guy playing the piano. Upon returning to the gym (after 30 minutes, as I didn't feel well), I saw her AT the piano lounge, with the guy playing. Didn't expect her to return so soon. She said, she wants a break from work. Then, there was another occasion he came to play, on the pretext of 'teaching' her, up till midnight. She promised to come over to my room after it's done and it took her two hours to do so. Fortunately, he's no longer around. But then again, she's no longer around (in Europe doing some student exchange programme). Coincidence?
Along the way, till now, I realised that she has always been giving me the cold shoulder. Each time she comes online, I say hi to her, and it always takes a long time (sometimes 10 mins or so) to say hi. I say something, and the only thing she says is those one-word replies like haha, lol, i c . She rarely speaks to me about a lot of stuff. Funnily, when her ex and other friends (usually desperate males) talk to her online, she can rival this long post in terms of word count. And her response was lightning speed, unlike mine which is akin to snail mail. Furthermore, she classifies some of her new friends (i.e. those that she got to know after heading to student exchange) under 'friends' whereas mine is lumped under 'other contacts'.
When I ask her what's going on, she doesn't want to say. She always says it's 'private'. Funny how she spills out these problems to her pals. And funny how a lot of her pals know of her blog, which she has kept secret from me. She says 'a lot of private matters in it', which is why she doesn't want to disclose. Then, why tell others? Isn't 'private' affairs a personal thing in which NO ONE else is involved, not even pals?
When I asked her once whether she loved me and is my gf or not, she said YES. However, few days ago, she says I don't know her enough and she wanted to stay single. She wants to return to her old life. She wants more space and personal time so she wants me to 'respect the decision'.
Don't know her enough? She doesn't want to share it with me!! Privacy, she said.
Old life?? When we were going out, she said we were seeing each other too often, and she hasn't seen her other friends for so long. Friends??? Friends who don't contact her for so long? Friends who don't bother sacrificing their sleep to send her off at Changi? Mind you, I was the only one sacrificing my sleep and my S$20 to send her off at Changi. Who was the one taking the trouble to send her the important postage? You think others would care??
Old life?? She thinks she has a lot of close pals...mind you, these 'pals' are mostly guys. And the same guys would always appear in her MSN, taking her attention away from mine. Which explains why it takes 10 minutes for her to give me a one-word reply. I should say her boobs are large and she does have a 'naive-like' behaviour, which is a turn-on for guys, because when I saw their faces, they look like fucking losers. Desperate for girls, perhaps. And some of them are already attached! Why are they spending so much time with my gf? Why she doesn't say she's spending too much time with them? Only I got the 'award' of spending 'too much' time together??
Sometimes, I feel that her friends may be influencing her to be against me. After all, they all want her, right? And once I saw one of their messages condemning her 'ex-boyfriend' (i.e. me) when we were quarreling. Which meant they have a strong influence on her, stronger than mine. Otherwise, why the sudden attitude change? Then, one of the guys had the cheek to ask her if she has met 'any European hunks' on her Facebook. Since he's not in my friends list, I wouldn't know what she wrote there.
It seems that she is enjoying her life in Europe now. Ya...getting to know white hunks, f**king them like nobody's business. To the point where she's forgotten me. If she truly wants to see me, why the f*** she go and take another module OUTSIDE her exchange university, forcing her to possibly return later? If she truly likes me, why give me the cold shoulder when I call or MSN? She likes giving attention to others only interested in giving her a f***, whereas I am being the doormat. Sigh...
In addition, she wasn't planning to stay here. She wants to go to the USA so badly to do her masters, then from there hoping to do medicine. Moi thinks, if you cannot even get your good results here, forget about going to angmoh nations. I can't understand why she thinks USA is the place for her to go, citing good education, etc...brochures always look better than reality. In that case, even if she returns, I better be prepared for a ten-inch black cock to have penetrated her front and back in quintessential campus parties. If that's the case, get the fuck out of my chink arse. Remember, her tits are large.
I wonder if she wanted to be my gf in the first place...I realised that I was the one pushing and she was a mere willing participant.
Comments, brickbats are welcome. I'll just go bukkake on someone else in the meanwhile.
one word u are stupid... u should dump her like other say i am sorry but u really are.... she is a flirter your intelligence not up her to play.....
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you love your gf or love her big tits?
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Originally posted by Guardx:
you love your gf or love her big tits?
i think this kind of thing is like u like the car and u like the extra surround sound speakers that comes with it u noe.. like bonus stage kinda thing..
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ur gf sounds so immature not NAIVE!
treating you for granted why you still wanna keep in contact with her?
perhaps she's happily enjoying herself over there,befriending more 'friends',widening her social circle.
but who knows whether she's being 'friendly' or........
plainly,
flirting?
get over her la.
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As wat others had said.. Fuck and dump ... U never know when u will be wearing a green hat for no reason.. Happen to mi once. It will be soooo lateeee to realise.