I got herpes from my ex.
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Originally posted by Phantomnite:
At least you know how to kena cos you kiss so many people! But I didn't even kissed a freaking chicken!
I read through a lot of articles on the internet, but till now, they are not able to tell me how serious it is, whether is it a cause for worry, and when I don't have that blister, is there any risk of passing it to my partner when kissing.
And also there is the ethic issue, I now never kiss/ share drinks with my girl already hais. If she got it cause of me, I will feel so bloody guilty.
but how come you think you have herpes? what symptoms you have?
if no symptoms at all, how come u seem to suspect you have leh?
if you are really really paranoid, then u spend some time and go see polyclinic doctor lor. at most pay some $$$ nia. instead of having to worry and suspect so much....... right?
and yah, dun share drinks better. with gf still ok la, not those outside girls.
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YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
I'm a carrier myself (got it from my ex-bf of 3 years). I was very depressed, but eventually convinced myself to snap out of it. Many times I thought about being single forever (haha) but eventually found out that there are online dating/support sites for hsv+ people. I learn to cope with my condition and issues of dating in future.
It has been 4 years since, and I have moved on and found fulfilling relationship with a real man who truly loves me and is willing to look beyond the this flaw. Actually in a way, having herpes helped me. It helped me realise that a man is really serious about me when he choose to take the next step with me knowing the risks involved.
I have been on suppressive therapy taking daily acyclovir. It is not expensive if you take it from the DSC clinic as it is highly subsidised. I think about $50 for 3-months. Till date, my partner has never had any outbreaks at all. In fact, the doctors are very positive that the chances are completely negligible when I am on suppressive therapy.
Stay positive and hang in there. It is not the end of the world. If you need someone, drop me a msg. *hugs*
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Originally posted by pink_dandelion:
YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
I'm a carrier myself (got it from my ex-bf of 3 years). I was very depressed, but eventually convinced myself to snap out of it. Many times I thought about being single forever (haha) but eventually found out that there are online dating/support sites for hsv+ people. I learn to cope with my condition and issues of dating in future.
It has been 4 years since, and I have moved on and found fulfilling relationship with a real man who truly loves me and is willing to look beyond the this flaw. Actually in a way, having herpes helped me. It helped me realise that a man is really serious about me when he choose to take the next step with me knowing the risks involved.
I have been on suppressive therapy taking daily acyclovir. It is not expensive if you take it from the DSC clinic as it is highly subsidised. I think about $50 for 3-months. Till date, my partner has never had any outbreaks at all. In fact, the doctors are very positive that the chances are completely negligible when I am on suppressive therapy.
Stay positive and hang in there. It is not the end of the world. If you need someone, drop me a msg. *hugs*
Very happy for you. :D
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omg so scary so many people have it!
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Hi There....I've just got the results that i got HSV from my ex gf...almost same case as you..
I've never cheated or sleep with any other gals other than my gf...Im into sports, i go diving, rock climbing etc, always leading a healthy life..& now tis happens.......I so disappointed in her n myself....I feel so lost & lonely at the moment..I don't know how to face myself, how m i going to get married? who is going to wan me..?..really need someone to talk to..If you don't mind & willing to share your experience pls drop me a msg...
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this is due to danger of unfilial re-ships.
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Hi Newperson,
U r not alone.
I'm also a carrier myself and I've been coping with this for 5 years now.
I got it from my ex bf of 4.5 years.I was devastated at that point when i learned about this.I understand how you feel right now.But we still have to accept the fact,learn to cope with it and get on with life.Although in our present environment and society people are rather conservative about such issues,they are still people with compassion.Don't fear rejection.I know its hard to break this news to people around you.But you will be surprised by the response you will get (just like i did when i told my Friends and my present bf).My friends gave me all the support I needed after learning about my situation.
Please know that we are as innocent and ignorant during the transition of getting this virus.It is not what we want either.Don't feel depress and bury yourself in self-reproach and depression with negative thoughts.This will make the situation worsen as herpes breaks out even more frequently if we are emotionally depress.
Just like pink_dandelion experience,she still found a man who truly loves her and accept the way things are by taking another step further with her.I have moved on and I truly believe you can too.
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Originally posted by Ordinaryjaine:
I was with this guy for about a month, and I really loved him, so one day we decided to have sex. There was a condom of course, but about 3 days after, my genitals started feeling sore, and I had the worst fever. I thought it was just a reaction because i didn't eat till 5pm, so I dismissed it.
The next day some blisters popped up down there and it was extremely painful when I peed. Agonizing. Everytime I want to scream, but I force myself not to. I searched online and was devastated when I read that my symptoms matches that of herpes. I confronted my then-bf, and he said that well he had sex with many other women as well, so he might have it. I immediately broke up with him. But he has left me scarred and tainted.
Not only that, this is the 5th day of my first outbreak and I feel like committing suicide. Partly because the pain is really unbearable, partly because I have compromised my health, partly because society will label me a disease-ridden dirty whore, but mostly because I have let my family down.
What should I do? I can't tell anybody, I fear they will not understand. Not many in this society does anyway.
Can you please post a picture of your vagina?We need to see the affected area before we can advise effectively.
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Maybe can go chinese sinseh, maybe chinese medicine can help to cure it permanently.
while western medicine science is good , but i believe is overated worldwide,sometimes overlooking others.
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you should not have had premarital sex. now you just have to accept the consequences and bear with it. let your future lover / husband know.
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If her future husband dun mind at all, TS should stick with the guy. After all such guys are gems among the thousands. He would make a good husband
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If the blisters pop up the next day, most probably she is already a carrier before the sex act. The stress of the sex (just one month r/s) may be the cause of the outbreak.
The virus is a dormant one, and symptoms appear only when the immunity level is low. Anxiety, fear, excitement, fever, poor diet, anything that lowers the immunity can cause the outbreak.
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*shivers*
Not to mention those carriers with Hep B n stuff.
Need my child-bearer to be free of disease! lol