Can you be frens with someone you just broke up wif?
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the same goes with u.Originally posted by icyprincess:got advice for me?
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yea...he doesn't appreciate my love *sigh*Originally posted by jusgal:u find another one who is better worth ur efforts
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be strong, the next one will be a better oneOriginally posted by icyprincess:yea...he doesn't appreciate my love *sigh*
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hopefully so. been hurt too many times le...Originally posted by jusgal:be strong, the next one will be a better one
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me also. but eventually will find the rite one.Originally posted by icyprincess:hopefully so. been hurt too many times le...
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u told me a ger must kiss a lot of toads before finding his prince -
yea...sumtimes i need to listen to my own advice dat i have given to other ppl...Originally posted by jusgal:me also. but eventually will find the rite one.
u told me a ger must kiss a lot of toads before finding his prince
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u mean u broke up w the one ur kntting for??Originally posted by icyprincess:yea...he doesn't appreciate my love *sigh*
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Haiz.. if it's not meant to be.. it's not meant to be.. everything hap for a reason..
Somehow i cant bring myself to treat my ex as a fren.. though i would like to.. even if its juz a casual talk.. there was a lot of opportunities in the past as we saw each other everyday.. but it only sends a jolt of pain sorrow n at times resentment whenever i saw her..
i used to perceive myself as immature tt i cant treat her normally like other frens.. but from wat i observe thru time.. seems like most pple cant seem to be able to.. so i guess it's just part of human nature.. but i kinda regret it.. leaving things this way..
i'm considering to do sth abt it.. before i leave for a period of time..
may be i might end up not being able to bring my self to do it.. -
yes. now the unfinished scarf will always remind me of the love I have for him...Originally posted by BabyLover:u mean u broke up w the one ur kntting for??
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it is not immature..I think he thinks that i am immature cos I told him I can't even be normal frens with him anymore, that i can't go out with him or anything anymore...but he doesn't understand I came to this painful decision because I really do love him very much and if I see him too often, I will never be able to get over him and move on...Originally posted by Gackt247:Haiz.. if it's not meant to be.. it's not meant to be.. everything hap for a reason..
Somehow i cant bring myself to treat my ex as a fren.. though i would like to.. even if its juz a casual talk.. there was a lot of opportunities in the past as we saw each other everyday.. but it only sends a jolt of pain sorrow n at times resentment whenever i saw her..
i used to perceive myself as immature tt i cant treat her normally like other frens.. but from wat i observe thru time.. seems like most pple cant seem to be able to.. so i guess it's just part of human nature.. but i kinda regret it.. leaving things this way..
i'm considering to do sth abt it.. before i leave for a period of time..
may be i might end up not being able to bring my self to do it..
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rite after brk up think diff ba...more or less will surely think abt it de...hab to let time pass by 1st....
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oh sad to hear tat... dun keep it ardy, put it away so dun c it, n wun remind u as much...Originally posted by icyprincess:yes. now the unfinished scarf will always remind me of the love I have for him...
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cannot.. coz i need time to pack away the memories..
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tt mentally was tt of the past.. i've learnt tt most pple r lidat.. but i hope to change it.. still considering whether i should make things "right".. probably being frens might be possible.. if i do try.. plus.. time is not on my side for now.. hmmm...Originally posted by icyprincess:it is not immature..I think he thinks that i am immature cos I told him I can't even be normal frens with him anymore, that i can't go out with him or anything anymore...but he doesn't understand I came to this painful decision because I really do love him very much and if I see him too often, I will never be able to get over him and move on...
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icy.. do cheer up.. as i said in the earlier posts.. memories.. be it sad or happy.. has its values to learn from n treasure.. but rem to do move on.. n alot of things in life waiting for u to explore n do.. including other guys dying to know u.. -
he came to my room the other day when he asked me to become his gf but after hearing all his reasons, even after he saw the scarf, I cudn't tell him I was knitting it for him...Originally posted by BabyLover:oh sad to hear tat... dun keep it ardy, put it away so dun c it, n wun remind u as much...
*sayang icy*
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y? is it bcoz u r too disappointed n decided not to pursue the matter anymore?Originally posted by icyprincess:he came to my room the other day when he asked me to become his gf but after hearing all his reasons, even after he saw the scarf, I cudn't tell him I was knitting it for him...
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huh i dun get it.. wat did he say wrg n why??Originally posted by icyprincess:he came to my room the other day when he asked me to become his gf but after hearing all his reasons, even after he saw the scarf, I cudn't tell him I was knitting it for him...
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contrary to what people think including him, it was a very difficult and painful decison for me...it is always very hard to break up, and it is even harder for someone who cares more in the relationship to tell the other person that she wants to break up and doesn't want to see him again...Originally posted by Gackt247:y? is it bcoz u r too disappointed n decided not to pursue the matter anymore?
anyway.. i muz say u r quite a brave girl..
it took me a lot of courage to say that to him and I was crying when I was saying it, while he remained emotionless in all his response. I told that to him online cos I cudnt say it face to face, I know I would break down and I did, but luckily he din have to see my tears. I dun wan him to feel guilty or anything, cos nobody is to blame in this matter, it is just that we are both not ready and we have different ideas and expectations in a relationship...
yes I am disappointed and I think this decision is the best for both of us, cos no point dragging it on and on and it will only hurt more later on. So I told him that it will be better if we don't see each other for now so that it is easier for us to move on and forget about the whole thing. He said he understands, I really hope he does...
Sometimes the person who lets go is not the person who cares less than the other, but maybe he/she cares more...
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well, he said he wanted us to become a couple, just for the sake of company and fun cos he likes hanging out with me and he can talk to me. And he said it won't be something of long term commitment cos we will graduate in 1 year and 1/2 time. So he wants us to be together for this time and after we graduate, we will go our separate ways. So I asked him if he loves me at all, and he said it is not possible for him to love anyone now cos it is just not practical. I was already very disappointed by his answers...but still I told him yes, I would try it...Originally posted by BabyLover:huh i dun get it.. wat did he say wrg n why??
but after he went back, I thought things thru and decided that it is best for us to just break up and not see each other anymore because the longer this drags on, the more I will get involved emotionally, as opposed to him. I am afraid if I don't break up now, it might just cause me more pain later on. So i told him that I can't see him anymore because I wanted to forget him and move on with my life. I told him to take care and wish him all the best, maybe he will find someone better than me for him in the future, someone he will enjoy being with and also someone he feels he can commit to for a longer term. He remained emotionless thru out the whole thing, asked me to take care and call him when I am ready to see him again, but I told him mebbe I won't be able to do dat for a long time le. So said my last goodbye to him and haven't spoken to him since 2 days ago
My frens saw him yesterday and said he looked miserable, like it is my fault he is now feeling that way. But I like to believe that this is nobody's fault and we will soon be able to move on and be happier even if it is without each other. Right now, I guess I am feeling a bit empty, so I tried to swamp myself with work to get him out of my mind lor...
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depend how the break was. nice break ok lar... ugly how? cannot.Originally posted by icyprincess:just wondering...I cannot
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maybe not immediately
but after a while when both parties have moved on n it doesnt hurt anymore
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well, i din get into a big quarrel with him or anything, I just can't be frens with him at this moment cos I need to get over him and move on with my life. I think he doesn't even realize I have been in love with him all this while...Originally posted by Joshua1975:depend how the break was. nice break ok lar... ugly how? cannot.
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guys will never know if a gal like him or love him or not unless he is being told. we have so many things in our mind that need logi to work it out. not like gals go on feeling. that why guys can like many gals but not love all he like. he loves the one he love.Originally posted by icyprincess:well, i din get into a big quarrel with him or anything, I just can't be frens with him at this moment cos I need to get over him and move on with my life. I think he doesn't even realize I have been in love with him all this while...
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this is for those who had think the thinking = alright the love words had been abuse so no one really know which is which now. but the words love will scare guys away but not the words like. when a guy say to a gal "i love you, will you marry me" he is making a commitment, a promise to her and that takes a long time running in his mind before he say it out. guys dun like to break promise in this case. you can say it the ego thing and you are right.
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guy are the most f*king insensitive creature...they cant take hints...obvious hints and whatsoever....jus have to tell them straight in the face.... haiz...they keep ther promise only for the sake of egoistic matters and commitments...anyway got say i love u or din say also doesnt matter la.. as long as he got show it out can liao.... ususally guys who sweet talk talk wun do one... is those who dun say frequently not so "ba" type will treat u good one... hui shuo bu hui zhou de....
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well, he did do a lot of things to show me he cared last time, and i made the mistake of thinking he loves me...Originally posted by m)phosis:guy are the most f*king insensitive creature...they cant take hints...obvious hints and whatsoever....jus have to tell them straight in the face.... haiz...they keep ther promise only for the sake of egoistic matters and commitments...anyway got say i love u or din say also doesnt matter la.. as long as he got show it out can liao.... ususally guys who sweet talk talk wun do one... is those who dun say frequently not so "ba" type will treat u good one... hui shuo bu hui zhou de....
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