My mom told me to go and die...
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well, i might be thinking too much into the future..but i am positive what they have done to me is not sth i wud ever repeat doing to my own child, no matter how much i want him or her to succeed in life.Originally posted by sbst275:It's good you have that thinking abt your future kids...
Your parents are of the pa shu type
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Relax... So, the counselling session, it only involves you?Originally posted by icyprincess:i understand that..but can't they take the time and ask what's wrong instead of scolding me and telling me to goa nd die? I mean, yes I am their daughter so I should respect them...but cudnt they take time to understand me as a human being???
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endure through these studying years loh ......Originally posted by icyprincess:yes she did and she still does. her reason is so that i can enjoy a good life after i graduate and of cos, so that i can take care of them when they are old. what she said has truth in it, I like to think of myself as someone who is fair so I won't deny that what she said is true. But last time if I dun get a near perfect score in my tests, she will really cane me. or slapped me. or did a lot of other things that can be considered as abuse. but i just bit the bullet and din say anything because they are my parents and i respect them to a certain extent. but i can't say i really love them for what they have done to me.
i have never really enjoyed my childhood and teenage years because all they want me to do is study. even when i go out they will go with me to make sure i dun spend too much time outdoor. when i come back, it will be study time again. how can you love someone who did this to you?
i know it is all for my own good, but if next time i have my own kids, i will never ever treat them in this way, even if i want them to have a good life after they grow up.
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life would be better once u start earning ur own paycheck
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Originally posted by Drain-V-:
There is no excuse for such behaviour even if she's going thru a [b]bad patch...It's an e-mail, for goodness sake...There's no Freudian slip here...If she had any intention of even considering your feelings, she would have edited her e-mail before she sent it...
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they are used to saying this kinda thing to me...they used to say it to me last time when i was back home...but right now i m also having a lot of other problems, i just wish i can have someone who will listen and understand...
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You are not... You think of this way is because of what you have experienced. Neither am I usign the rod on my child...Originally posted by icyprincess:well, i might be thinking too much into the future..but i am positive what they have done to me is not sth i wud ever repeat doing to my own child, no matter how much i want him or her to succeed in life.
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20 years? are u joking?Originally posted by Axelheat755:wah~~ omg~
my mum also no say that to me when i failed my O levels....
she only say how to support family aiyo u cannot find job la, u better stay at home and wait to die...
thats what i been doing for the last 20 yrs
anyway...gees..my psle did very well..my mum cried. my o level did not do so well my mum also cried (joking)..
results dun mean anything ba..i still manage to get in poly now..
when there's a will, there's a way.
Parents never expect high from me. They always say can pass means can pass, cannot means then can't be helped. Just like me took O level maths twice yet still failed. But I chose another alternative.
It's a matter of whether you have tried your best. Concentrate on your studies, dun let matters of the heart afffect you lor. -
yea, me and the counsellor...Originally posted by sbst275:Relax... So, the counselling session, it only involves you?
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Originally posted by Drain-V-:
When ppl is angry, they will write things out of anger...
There is no excuse for such behaviour even if she's going thru a [b]bad patch...It's an e-mail, for goodness sake...There's no Freudian slip here...If she had any intention of even considering your feelings, she would have edited her e-mail before she sent it... [/b] -
Because, if they want to see ur parents... It is in a sense better as they will realise what is going on..Originally posted by icyprincess:yea, me and the counsellor...
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my parents take results very seriously...i know why they do and i dun blame them for that. what I really hate is when they dun take the time to ask what's wrong in my life and listen patiently...they will just get into a fit of anger w/o even realizing dat i m having a hard time over here...Originally posted by LilO gIrL:20 years? are u joking?
anyway...gees..my psle did very well..my mum cried. my o level did not do so well my mum also cried (joking)..
results dun mean anything ba..i still manage to get in poly now..
when there's a will, there's a way.
Parents never expect high from me. They always say can pass means can pass, cannot means then can't be helped. Just like me took O level maths twice yet still failed. But I chose another alternative.
It's a matter of whether you have tried your best. Concentrate on your studies, dun let matters of the heart afffect you lor.
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last time i tried to go to a counsellor in my high school bcos of wat my mom did to me, my mom found out and i was caned even more severely...Originally posted by sbst275:Because, if they want to see ur parents... It is in a sense better as they will realise what is going on..
But it can only be effective unless you dun know that they are called and looking at a dif room
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You scared you get caned again?Originally posted by icyprincess:last time i tried to go to a counsellor in my high school bcos of wat my mom did to me, my mom found out and i was caned even more severely...
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Looks like u need tuition la.
(WHO'S NEXT TO NEED TUITION?!
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How long does it take to say something compared to composing an e-mail? Apparently, this isn't the 1st time that such unreasonable behaviour has been exhibited...Originally posted by sbst275:When ppl is angry, they will write things out of anger...
Sometimes, you can't just use "fit of an anger" to justify doing something hurting to someone else... -
my parent doesnt use "fit of anger" as an excuse. they use the fact that they are my parents as an excuse to do anything they like to me...Originally posted by Drain-V-:How long does it take to say something compared to composing an e-mail? Apparently, this isn't the 1st time that such unreasonable behaviour has been exhibited...
Sometimes, you can't just use "fit of an anger" to justify doing something hurting to someone else...
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Actually... You are right...Originally posted by Drain-V-:How long does it take to say something compared to composing an e-mail? Apparently, this isn't the 1st time that such unreasonable behaviour has been exhibited...
Sometimes, you can't just use "fit of an anger" to justify doing something hurting to someone else...
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Haiz...Originally posted by sbst275:Actually... You are right...
But it depends on what has happened to that person...
icy icy...Though I do not know you well, I emphathise with what you are going through..Originally posted by icyprincess:my parent doesnt use "fit of anger" as an excuse. they use the fact that they are my parents as an excuse to do anything they like to me...
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The fact that they are your parents doesn't mean they can do anything they want to you though...Do you have any younger siblings? (I know its OT though but I somehow feel that the likelyhood of them treating your younger siblings this way is rather slim..) -
I am the only child...Originally posted by Drain-V-:icy icy...Though I do not know you well, I emphathise with what you are going through..
The fact that they are your parents doesn't mean they can do anything they want to you though...Do you have any younger siblings? (I know its OT though but I somehow feel that the likelyhood of them treating your younger siblings this way is rather slim..)
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No wonder....Originally posted by icyprincess:I am the only child...
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I have friends in the same scenario as you...Their parents seems to treat their younger children much better for some strange reason...
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I am the oldest and youngest child in the family...Originally posted by Drain-V-:I have friends in the same scenario as you...Their parents seems to treat their younger children much better for some strange reason...
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I am the youngest... They spent the most $ on meOriginally posted by Drain-V-:I have friends in the same scenario as you...Their parents seems to treat their younger children much better for some strange reason...
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del.
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icy ...u take care
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Me too...Originally posted by jusgal:icy ...u take care
Hey... Jus!!