ROM & Marriage Question
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mmm...wasn't there a case few year back abt a women sue her hubby for rape?Originally posted by Gedanken:I'd have to look up chapter and verse to confirm this, but it makes sense that even in marriage, sex without consent would qualify as rape.
I suppose it would be difficult to report, though. "My husband" would be an awkward answer to the question, "Can you identify the rapist?".
I think was more like a case of jealousy revenge on the womens part. I believe in the end the guy got prosecuted.
Anyway I think such women has to be in the state of mind whereby they no longer wish to be part of the man's family to be able to want to take this very personal thing public. -
I think you both need help, shud go for marriage counselling course.Originally posted by subzero_baby:communication broke down since the day we rom. basically he thinks that since we rom already, i won't run away..... barely even have time to talk.
Dun get the wrong concept that the course is to bring ppl back together, is more a means to let you discover what you didn't know abt your partner before.
Like when I was younger my parents they quarrel over the most miniscule of things like wats good to eat for lunch, or where to go pump petrol for the car.
but as I got older and wiser(hopefully) I realised that most times they not quarreling over where to eat or pump petrol or which shop sells the cheapest sugar, they quarreling over something else other than those things something bigger and more troubling. It's a mind game thing that they both developed as a means to communicate.
It is very important for couples to communicate even if they quarrel, quarrel then come back again.
If you dun communicate, dun talk and dun quarrel, the 1 big time that you do will be the last time. -
firstly i thank you for your suggestion. I don't think counselling would help. The last time i went to see a doctor for depression... he started calling me crazy woman... that hurts...Originally posted by KumSioJui:I think you both need help, shud go for marriage counselling course.
Dun get the wrong concept that the course is to bring ppl back together, is more a means to let you discover what you didn't know abt your partner before.
Like when I was younger my parents they quarrel over the most miniscule of things like wats good to eat for lunch, or where to go pump petrol for the car.
but as I got older and wiser(hopefully) I realised that most times they not quarreling over where to eat or pump petrol or which shop sells the cheapest sugar, they quarreling over something else other than those things something bigger and more troubling. It's a mind game thing that they both developed as a means to communicate.
It is very important for couples to communicate even if they quarrel, quarrel then come back again.
If you dun communicate, dun talk and dun quarrel, the 1 big time that you do will be the last time.
though it happened quite some time back, i still feel uncomfortable about it.
we don't quarrel at all... calls are made mainly to "report" eg" i'm home.. going to work blah blah blah..." We don't live together even though we had ROMed... -
I'm appalled that the doctor was so unprofessional, subzero. Don't give up... approach another doctor. You really do need to talk this issue out because it's not something you should have to live with - it already seems to make you extremely miserable and this is just the beginning!
I think you really need to get him to sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk first.
Could be that he's so busy trying to earn money that he didn't even realise what's happening. I know some guys who are so traditional in their thinking that once they get married, they feel this tremendous burden to live up to their head of the household responsibility that they start feeling stressed out trying to be a good breadwinner and kinda forget what the relationship was about in the first place. Talk, and soon too! Good luck!