Wedding Banquet
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Just came back from my relative's wedding banquet...
Think I don't know 90% of the people there... I wonder why people go through so much trouble to throw a wedding dinner for so many distant relatives... I bet the wedding couple don't know at least half of the crowd...
My question is:
1) Will you throw a traditional wedding dinner when you get married?
2) If yes, will you invite all your distant relatives and what not so much so that you don't know at least half of them?
3) And will you invite all your ex-girlfriends/boyfriends to your wedding banquet?
I sure hope I don't need to throw a wedding banquet for so many people I don't know... Isn't it quite illogical and stupid? What for? So much hassle and discomfort...
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i wish i won't have to...
i'd run away with my wife and have a month-long honeymoon with the moolah we'd throw away trying to please people who'd rather be somewhere else, and critical of everything
so, "eloping" would be the way to go for me.. hopefully
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Yes Bear!!
Same thoughts as me...
Think the younger generation are generally like this... or so I think? -
Most of the ppl throw wedding dinner for the parents....i hope i dun need to do that next time also....but....if my parents insist....i will still try to say no.... i prefer to invite all my long last friends to come rather than someone i dun really know....
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well, my friend wanted a huge "come as you are" pool party...
but it was nixed by his wife's relations.. who then promptly criticised everything about the whole banquet circus thing..
can't please everyone, you gotta please yourself -
Worst thing is you're at the mercy of these total strangers who stroll into the dinner late, very late...
Ok, that's it... I'm not going to be a fool and throw a banquet for everyone... maybe just close relatives and friends... and lunch buffet, not dinner... heh heh
Going to bed... Never throw a banquet where the next day is a working day...
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Nooo wedding dinner for me... yucks, hate the idea... spend $20++K for a dinner and yet can't get to eat.. gotta walk around toasting to ppl (mostly don't even know their name)... co- ordinating the event is a headache already... maybe just a small dinner with very close relatives. Distant relatives... already say distant wat... don't trouble them lar
rather spend that amount of money go tour... -
Some thing in life, we just can't avoid.... Sigh....
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oh yes we can!
there was a brother of a long-lost friend of mine... one day, he called home (he was based in the US) and announced to his dad: "dad! guess what? i'm married!!"Originally posted by kops21:Some thing in life, we just can't avoid.... Sigh.... -
Imagine u grew up in a traditional family. U r the only child and son of the family. Ur aged parents want you to have a traditional wedding dinner...Originally posted by the Bear:oh yes we can!
there was a brother of a long-lost friend of mine... one day, he called home (he was based in the US) and announced to his dad: "dad! guess what? i'm married!!"
Do u have the heart to say NO to the old folks that raised u?
Certain thing in life, u just can't avoid to do it. As long as it is not criminal offence and morally unaccepted...does it hurt with a little bit of inconvenience? -
strangely, think about it...
if they loved you, they would let you...
and won't let you start married life in debtOriginally posted by kops21:Imagine u grew up in a traditional family. U r the only child and son of the family. Ur aged parents want you to have a traditional wedding dinner...
Do u have the heart to say NO to the old folks that raised u?
Certain thing in life, u just can't avoid to do it. As long as it is not criminal offence and morally unaccepted...does it hurt with a little bit of inconvenience? -
So folks are traditional...Sigh...Originally posted by the Bear:strangely, think about it...
if they loved you, they would let you...
and won't let you start married life in debt
on the other hand, u love your parents. Can't u make ur parents happy and make them able to stand tall among the relatives?
Most marriage are $$ losing activities nowadays...nothing we can do about it. I guess is the same about ladies wanna to take wedding photos, whereas parents wanna wedding banquet....what does the men wants? -
would you force your children to have them?
some folks forgot how traumatic it was for them... yet, they will want their children to suffer the same thing?
i don't understand it...
if my children don't wanna, they won't.. simple as thatOriginally posted by kops21:So folks are traditional...Sigh...
on the other hand, u love your parents. Can't u make ur parents happy and make them able to stand tall among the relatives?
Most marriage are $$ losing activities nowadays...nothing we can do about it. I guess is the same about ladies wanna to take wedding photos, whereas parents wanna wedding banquet....what does the men wants? -
I agree that Don't do to others what u do not want to receive.Originally posted by the Bear:would you force your children to have them?
some folks forgot how traumatic it was for them... yet, they will want their children to suffer the same thing?
i don't understand it...
if my children don't wanna, they won't.. simple as that
As a child to my parents, i will feel oblige to follow their wishes.... -
i might throw one if our parents insist...however, i won't force my kids to do it if next time they prefer not to have the wedding dinner....
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Oh, wedding banquets scare the living daylights out of me!!! I shudder to think of having to plan for one so I'd really rather not have one at all!
I mean, think of it, when you issue invitations, the people who receive it usually complain and see if they can weasel their way out of it. I wouldn't want to celebrate my wedding with a bunch of grumpy folks who feel obliged to go, not because they're my good friends who truly feel happy for me and genuinely want to attend. 
Just doesn't make sense to me.
Worse, you can't even sit down and enjoy the food! If I'm holding a wedding banquet, sorry but I'm sitting down to the 10-course dinner! hahahaha!!! (And give my parents and the in-laws a grand heart attack! hahaha!) I hate yam-seng's and I would hate walking to ALL the tables smiling at folks I barely even know.
I'd rather hold a small cozy celebration with close friends. And then, hmm... splurge on a honeymoon on a nice location, where we spend the days lazing away, eating, snapping photos, and er... doing married couple 'stuff'!! Whoooopeeeeee!!!
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1)i will throw a traditional wedding for wure..orelse my dad will kill me for sureOriginally posted by EricDraven:Just came back from my relative's wedding banquet...
Think I don't know 90% of the people there... I wonder why people go through so much trouble to throw a wedding dinner for so many distant relatives... I bet the wedding couple don't know at least half of the crowd...
My question is:
1) Will you throw a traditional wedding dinner when you get married?
2) If yes, will you invite all your distant relatives and what not so much so that you don't know at least half of them?
3) And will you invite all your ex-girlfriends/boyfriends to your wedding banquet?
I sure hope I don't need to throw a wedding banquet for so many people I don't know... Isn't it quite illogical and stupid? What for? So much hassle and discomfort...
2)yep...can get more ang paos mah...
3)depends that i still got contact with them ornot lor.. -
still think the pool party is the way to go
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Y'know, Bear, I just realised that Santabear looks like you... hunched! hehehe!
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Guess its tuff saying NO to parents when urs is a traditional chinese family. Most of the time, if u'r the only son, ur wedding muz b real GRAND. So those of u who can't escape.. better start recording down how much u've bao & for who b4. Next time ur turn ah.. muz invite them & tally ur ang bao $$ back!
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Actually, I felt like you all when it came to my turn to get married. I was dreading having to invite all those relatives & friends, half of which I didn't even know! I was thinking "What a load of crap, why can't I just have a small party with people whom I know & thus can enjoy the whole day?!"
But I'll have to say, at the end of the dinner (we had 20+ tables), I felt quite satisfied about the whole thing, we actually did enjoy ourselves despite our negative thinking about people bitching about the food, venue, etc (PLUS! we made more $$ than the total cost of the banquet! ) It was truly a memorable event for us, and for our parents & in laws too... a win-win situation for all! 
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hmm..i also just come back from a wedding dinner....hmm...is your wedding dinner..hang at a place call pine tree country club?
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Nope!Originally posted by zheshi:hmm..i also just come back from a wedding dinner....hmm...is your wedding dinner..hang at a place call pine tree country club?
Sunday wedding dinners... argh, now I'm gonna be late for work... -
no wedding banquet for me... Beach side barbeque ...in Bali if possible...
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It was experience of a lifetime...i throughly enjoy mine.Originally posted by SydneyLibrarian:Actually, I felt like you all when it came to my turn to get married. I was dreading having to invite all those relatives & friends, half of which I didn't even know! I was thinking "What a load of crap, why can't I just have a small party with people whom I know & thus can enjoy the whole day?!"
But I'll have to say, at the end of the dinner (we had 20+ tables), I felt quite satisfied about the whole thing, we actually did enjoy ourselves despite our negative thinking about people bitching about the food, venue, etc (PLUS! we made more $$ than the total cost of the banquet! ) It was truly a memorable event for us, and for our parents & in laws too... a win-win situation for all!