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Erm... was it 'memorable because she sang well or cuz she sang horribly?Originally posted by laurence82:One memorable wedding was my cousin's one. His sister went up on stage and sang My Valentine...
*applause*Originally posted by kops21:on the other hand, u love your parents. Can't u make ur parents happy and make them able to stand tall among the relatives?
Originally posted by Rhonda:i don't think it's a matter of not having the "gumption to tread the lesser-trodden road" but more a case of respecting the wishes of my parents and wanting them to feel proud and happy.
This reminds me of a couple I knew who wanted an informal party to celebrate their wedding and do away with the traditional Chinese wedding banquet. Apparently, the parents on both sides gave them the go-ahead and said that they could do whatever they wanted.
However, a few weeks later, they revealed that the parents on both sides became alarmed at the realisation that they were really serious about not having the chinese wedding dinner and started to panic and get very upset with them. This 'loss of face' issue cropped up, as did a whole lot of other related issues like not making a proper announcement to the relatives which might be construed as being rude, inconsiderate and disrespectful, ruining a once-in-a-lifetime celebration, etc etc. I guess not everyone has the gumption to tread the lesser-trodden route, especially if the ideas are pretty novel and revolutionary, defying established age-old traditions, customs and mindsets.
In the end, this couple succumbed to parental pressure and held a wedding dinner, in order to please the elders.
Sigh... I shudder to think of the drama that would happen when my turn comes to spring that announcement on my folks.
I totally agree I think attitude is what makes the difference, especially in my case where initially, I hated the idea of a boring, traditional Chinese wedding dinner. In the end, to my surprise, I found that I quite enjoyed it after all! (except for the fact that I wasn't able to sit down to that nice yummy dinner *grumble*)Originally posted by kops21:Don't just take it as having wedding banquet as being out of fashion, troublesome and unvalued. Why spent so much for no value? And have to go through the motion & smile at so many unknown...?
Although i don't like having wedding banquet, but circumstance does not allow me to do otherwise. Put the negative thoughts aside, put your heart into preparing it. It will definitely worth your effort and a lifetime of memory.
aiyoh..its becos she sang well..my elder cousin into music...Originally posted by Rhonda:Erm... was it 'memorable because she sang well or cuz she sang horribly?
Notti Rhonda....Originally posted by Rhonda:neuros and kops21, I know... what you both said make sense. Right now, it's easy for me to spell out my terms because heck, I don't even have a boyfriend in the first place! hehe! But I guess, when it comes down to the crunch eventually, parents do have a big say because they can help make it a wedding with their blessings or a wedding with major sour-pussed faces on both sides! hahahaha!
Hmm... maybe, the delay tactic would work! Get the ROM Solemnisation Ceremony done first, then assure them that the wedding banquet shall come 'later'. Every year, assure them it's going to be 'soon'. Every year, tell them that we're still saving for the event. And then, say, oops! we splurged it all on our honeymoon / 2nd / 3rd / 4th honeymoon! I guess 4-5 years later, they'll give up waiting! hehehehehe!
hee... i know a couple who's rom'd for more than 5 yrs, bought AND sold HDB flat and still no traditional wedding... hahahaaaa... after too long, no motivation liao la...Originally posted by Rhonda:neuros and kops21, I know... what you both said make sense. Right now, it's easy for me to spell out my terms because heck, I don't even have a boyfriend in the first place! hehe! But I guess, when it comes down to the crunch eventually, parents do have a big say because they can help make it a wedding with their blessings or a wedding with major sour-pussed faces on both sides! hahahaha!
Hmm... maybe, the delay tactic would work! Get the ROM Solemnisation Ceremony done first, then assure them that the wedding banquet shall come 'later'. Every year, assure them it's going to be 'soon'. Every year, tell them that we're still saving for the event. And then, say, oops! we splurged it all on our honeymoon / 2nd / 3rd / 4th honeymoon! I guess 4-5 years later, they'll give up waiting! hehehehehe!
just arrange for a nice f.uck at your husband's bedroom...that ought to be enough to seal the deal...Originally posted by Rhonda:neuros and kops21, I know... what you both said make sense. Right now, it's easy for me to spell out my terms because heck, I don't even have a boyfriend in the first place! hehe! But I guess, when it comes down to the crunch eventually, parents do have a big say because they can help make it a wedding with their blessings or a wedding with major sour-pussed faces on both sides! hahahaha!
Hmm... maybe, the delay tactic would work! Get the ROM Solemnisation Ceremony done first, then assure them that the wedding banquet shall come 'later'. Every year, assure them it's going to be 'soon'. Every year, tell them that we're still saving for the event. And then, say, oops! we splurged it all on our honeymoon / 2nd / 3rd / 4th honeymoon! I guess 4-5 years later, they'll give up waiting! hehehehehe!