Lonely Hearts
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How come tonight(Christmas Eve) only guys in the SB?
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Because no females.
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Because like ur topic suggest...Most of the guys are lonely hearts...
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ah lau will like it
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wa buay song ! becos gals all go dating
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U everything also buay song, then where can get ger !!!Originally posted by chunyong:wa buay song ! becos gals all go dating
Si Bei Buay Song leow... -
Originally posted by kops21:U everything also buay song, then where can get ger !!!
Si Bei Buay Song leow... 
then how ? change to "wa jin song" ? -
Have some variety lah..everytime same pattern...read also buay songOriginally posted by chunyong:
then how ? change to "wa jin song" ? -
Originally posted by kops21:Have some variety lah..everytime same pattern...read also buay song
mai an nee gong lah.... -
To talk some sense into u is to respect you.Originally posted by chunyong: mai an nee gong lah....
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ha...not respect chaos and death meh ? heh.Originally posted by kops21:To talk some sense into u is to respect you. -
no more lonely hearts leow har?
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me me me ...
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December 21, 2004
Another lonely Christmas
In transit by Janice Wong
WE sat by the swimming pool under the stars, holding hands and chatting about everything except what we felt for each other. What was unsaid was more significant than what was said.
After an hour, my composure cracked. I asked: "What do you want?"
"Nothing at all, I cannot tell you what to do. You are a very eligible girl - young, pretty and smart - but I am afraid of getting hurt again," he replied, brushing a wisp of stray hair from my face.
He was speaking in riddles that only men are capable of deciphering. The ghosts of relationships past were creeping up on us. My mind raced: Does he want me to exorcise them, ignore them or accept them? Somehow I didn't ask; he didn't tell.
I had my own fears, too, that night, but I momentarily suspended them.
Reasoning that you do not want to have a relationship because you are afraid of getting hurt is like reasoning you do not want to learn how to swim because you are afraid of drowning.
Such a problem can never be resolved. I deserve someone more emotionally available. So my parting shot to him was: "Let's remain friends".
I went home, popped a Valium pill and fell asleep.
I woke up stranded in a familiar limbo, somewhere between practicality and sentimentality, cynicism and idealism.
I felt weary. Most of all, I felt helpless.
Why am I born so needy and dependent, ever pining for a man to share my life, and, as one reader pointed out, ever reaching out despite finding myself utterly alone in the end each time?
And if I am so eligible, why am I still single?
For the rest of the day, I busied myself with Christmas shopping.
As I traipsed around Orchard Road with carols ringing in the air, good friends by my side and a bigger budget than I needed, I tried to convince myself that I was enjoying the freedom of singlehood until a pair of his-and-hers Guess watches in a gift box caught my eye.
My heart ached that I had no one special to give the man's watch to.
For all the dancing lights of Christmas, the season is a dull, dim one for some singles.
Being lonely does not get easier with age and practice. In fact, I think it gets harder, but we become better at corralling it.
When our carefully constructed emotional stability is threatened, we immediately become defensive and make a pre-emptive strike.
I guess this was another reason that I shrugged my shoulders in indifference, forced a smile and told him we should stay friends.
Yet, hope lingers. The truth is, I want someone to grow old with, someone exclusive to share my everyday ups and downs, and, yes, to have children with.
My heart will sing each time I think of such a man. Days will be happier, colours will be brighter and champagne more sparkling because I have him in my life.
I have been on countless dates. I am tired, unbearably, excruciatingly heart-wrenchingly tired. Where is he? Does he even exist?
Send your comments to streats@sph.com.sg or log on to www.janice-wong.com. -
haiz.. pop more valium pills..
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So depressing early on Christmas morning.....sighh..............
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me too. feel like me never wake up... ever!Originally posted by care bear:So depressing early on Christmas morning.....sighh.............. -
Come get me Baby!Originally posted by kops21:Janice Wong......
Where is he? Does he even exist? -
i was invited to one of my friend's xmas party but i choose to go home early and mourned at one dark corner alone in the hall...
yesterday was the saddest day of my life. -
Ohhh dear... hope u feel better todayOriginally posted by 798:i was invited to one of my friend's xmas party but i choose to go home early and mourned at one dark corner alone in the hall...
yesterday was the saddest day of my life. -
i wish i never wake up...Originally posted by LeftBallBigger:Ohhh dear... hope u feel better today
i bleeding like you... -
Wow... this Janice has expressed what I feel! And so eloquently too!Originally posted by kops21:December 21, 2004
Another lonely Christmas
In transit by Janice Wong
I think the longer one stays single, the longer one would take to actually make the decision to get hitched because their expectations might become higher and one becomes more and more critical of any and all potential mates simply because, as the lyrics go in the song, "Feel", 'Before I fall in love, I'm preparing to leave her /(him)'. There could be this world-weariness, a quicksand pool of cynicism and a pervasive feeling of being jaded. A 'been there, done that, would love to do it again, but ain't gonna be fooled so easily now' mentality.
Sometimes, I think people think too much about relationships. Too nit-picky, even. Sometimes, the 'perfect' relationship does not rest in finding that one 'perfect' mate but rather, the onus is on walking hand-in-hand through the journey of life with someone who has the same goals, same vision, same beliefs. You can't find perfection in any one person... but you can build perfection together!
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I think I read somewhere (maybe in her webpg) that she's a Scorpio tooOriginally posted by Rhonda:Wow... this Janice has expressed what I feel! And so eloquently too! -
well, i thought i'd be lonely. But i found things to do with my friends
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Aaaaahhhhhhhhhh!!!Originally posted by SydneyLibrarian:I think I read somewhere (maybe in her webpg) that she's a Scorpio too 
Explains it! hehe!