This has got to be the saddest X'mas :'(
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well its a bit stupid that people dont get taught in school not to drink and drive.Originally posted by Rhonda:Noooooooo!!! Every year, during the Christmas and New Year season, we get lots of admissions due to drunk driving resulting in Road Traffic Accidents, bad falls due to intoxication, fights and assaults also due to drunkenness, and of course, there are those folks who drank so much, they needed their stomachs pumped.
Give us poor nurses some peace this year!
rhonda, you're a nurse? cool...well, i was just telling eli the other day that since her stomach cant handle it, she can drip it thru an iv... is that bad? no, seriously? -
Well I can gurentee you its not a ploy to earn sympathy points. Just say that it's written in the stars.Originally posted by jOhO:It might be a ploy to win your sympathy. of course just a wild guess, like u say, the details you've given hardly justify wat's been going on all these years.
anywayz, i'm with most of the views here.. think he just wants to move on and perhaps he thinks that's the best way for him. whether it is or not i guess no one knows, but some/most guys do that, they just have a clean break and leave "no mess" behind. if only we were that tidy about our rooms.
ok sorree for the tactless joke, but i think u are doing the right thing by leaving the decision up to him. i guess (again being tactless) u dun have much of a choice. but perhaps you could feel better in knowing and remembering the fun you had and smile each time u remember how he made u feel so at ease with being yourself.
and, one last comment, perhaps you too have something for him, but u can't admit it, becos u're married (or watever else reason) and to do so would be to open a can or worms. no need to respond to this last paragraph.. it started with a PERHAPS... probably just a poke in the wrong direction.
take care.
Yes, that is him alright. He wants to move on...throughout the years I have seen him break up friendships just coz he wants to forget something
Best I can do is leave it up to him to contact me as usual.....though I'm not sure about now, then again I respect his decision and I have informed all our mutual friends to not mention my name in front of him.
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Thinger how many times do I have to tell you that I am not feeling so hard up that I need to imbibe lots of alcohal???Originally posted by thinger:well its a bit stupid that people dont get taught in school not to drink and drive.
rhonda, you're a nurse? cool...well, i was just telling eli the other day that since her stomach cant handle it, she can drip it thru an iv... is that bad? no, seriously? -
ahh.. well done!
now, not much else to do by wait...
be well yah?Originally posted by elindra:I did -
no it was for myself.
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thatz really bad...im sorry to hear this...and may i ask for what reasons that he wants to end this friendship??Originally posted by elindra:My best friend wants to break off our friendship
I was crying in my office when I read his email today
And he sent it on X'mas day -
if you want your veins to die, go ahead and IV alcohol
once it hits your brain, you're dead
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Yup yup yupOriginally posted by the Bear:ahh.. well done!
now, not much else to do by wait...
be well yah?
Well hopefully the next time round we will have a chance to talk during our next outing.
The last outing you were stuck in a corner with mercutioz and later busy discussing about soccer -
omfgwtsh? have you been reading?Originally posted by Danisdead101times:thatz really bad...im sorry to hear this...and may i ask for what reasons that he wants to end this friendship?? -
Go to page 1 of this post and scroll down. Story is thereOriginally posted by Danisdead101times:thatz really bad...im sorry to hear this...and may i ask for what reasons that he wants to end this friendship?? -
okie...Originally posted by elindra:Go to page 1 of this post and scroll down. Story is there
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can explain?Originally posted by the Bear:if you want your veins to die, go ahead and IV alcohol
once it hits your brain, you're dead -
yeah.. sorry.. distracted... a guy thing.. football
and also, i guess the group was kinda too big...
another time i guessOriginally posted by elindra:Yup yup yup
Well hopefully the next time round we will have a chance to talk during our next outing.
The last outing you were stuck in a corner with mercutioz and later busy discussing about soccer -
Might as well imbibe paint thinner
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tooharshsmellingOriginally posted by elindra:Might as well imbibe paint thinner -
What about those cheap home distilled vodka in Russia. I heard they can have a content of as high as 97% if I didn't remember wrongly.
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neh, that thought never crossed my mind, that u could have led him on.Originally posted by elindra:Well I can gurentee you its not a ploy to earn sympathy points. Just say that it's written in the stars.
Yes, that is him alright. He wants to move on...throughout the years I have seen him break up friendships just coz he wants to forget something
Best I can do is leave it up to him to contact me as usual.....though I'm not sure about now, then again I respect his decision and I have informed all our mutual friends to not mention my name in front of him.
No, I definately did not lead him on.
i'm thinking, why so drastic? maybe it's for his good that your mutual friends not mention your name in front of you, but if i was in your situation i wouldn't impose that on my friends. they wanna talk about me, go ahead! free speech?
i dunno, his actions are pretty uncalled for, especially being adults. i would assume he would be late 20s early 30s... there's no need to be childish. actually, master's comment above, (which IS childish!!) makes some sense.
in this thread, someone mentioned that friendship, or friends are forever? i don't subscribe to that. there are COUNTLESS friends that i've lost over the years, some by "natural causes" and a few have become pple that i will never speak to again. all of them were close to me at some stage. i'm not gonna answer why such things happen here, but i'll tell you (and you prob know anyway!) that friendship does not last forever. not ALL the friends you have in your life anyway, and yes, that includes those super close ones that u never thought would leave your life. i like to remember what they have taught me, what joys we shared, regardless of whether we hate each other now, or just totally lost contact. life is a journey we travel with many people, and some pple just take off in funny directions, we cannot help it. of course, 'they' say, one will walk with you to death. and you've found that person, right? -
Hmm - I just read this thread.
I know that you count this guy as a friend, elindra, but I reckon you're better off without him. He's extremely rude on a number of counts.
First, and most obviously, he used email to tell you that he doesn't want to be friends with you anymore. That's just shockingly poor form - for something of that importance, the least he could have done is to deliver the message over the phone, if not face-to face.
Then again, it doesn't seem to be his style. He sat back for years with some silly expectation that you could read his mind and tell how he felt about you. That's childish, but that's still all right. On the other hand, throwing his toys out of the pram when he obviously shot himself in the foot is just plain silly, on top of being unfair to you.
The bottom line is that this guy's childish, and he thinks the world owes him a living. I assume that if you've been friends for so long, he's old enough to know that fortune favours the bold, and if he loses out for sitting around like a bump on a log, well, tough luck for him. If he expects you, instead of himself, to bear the cost of his screw up, it doesn't measure up to the most rudimentary standards of friendship.
In your place, I wouldn't put any particular effort in mourning his departure. People like that can't even be good to themselves, so what capacity do they have to be friends? You've just offloaded a liability, and congratulations for it. -
are you being funny?Originally posted by elindra:What about those cheap home distilled vodka in Russia. I heard they can have a content of as high as 97% if I didn't remember wrongly.
i like knowing how much i take in.
ged - bit harsh? but so true. -
elindra... do u like him?? i mean do u have that kind of feelings for him?? or maybe have u ever tot that u did have that kind of feelings for him before or now, juz that u havent realised it....
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wow, powerful words, but dude, women dun work with logic all the time. it is time that (hopefully) instills logic!Originally posted by Gedanken:Hmm - I just read this thread.
I know that you count this guy as a friend, elindra, but I reckon you're better off without him. He's extremely rude on a number of counts.
First, and most obviously, he used email to tell you that he doesn't want to be friends with you anymore. That's just shockingly poor form - for something of that importance, the least he could have done is to deliver the message over the phone, if not face-to face.
Then again, it doesn't seem to be his style. He sat back for years with some silly expectation that you could read his mind and tell how he felt about you. That's childish, but that's still all right. On the other hand, throwing his toys out of the pram when he obviously shot himself in the foot is just plain silly, on top of being unfair to you.
The bottom line is that this guy's childish, and he thinks the world owes him a living. I assume that if you've been friends for so long, he's old enough to know that fortune favours the bold, and if he loses out for sitting around like a bump on a log, well, tough tits.
In your place, I wouldn't put any particular effort in mourning his departure. People like that can't even be good to themselves, so what capacity do they have to be friends? You've just offloaded a liability, and congratulations for it.
women are emotional, and she's feeling that way now. but very good logical advise u presented there nonetheless! -
Because he told me that he is erasing whatever he has memories of me out of his life. Well, he told me he has already gotten rid of the gifts I gave him and whatever contacts. Btw, he changed his cellphone number as well!!! I figured that if this is what he wants, so be it. I respect his wishes and I know him wayyy too well that he will not contact people whom he thinks will mention my name and it is not fair to the rest.Originally posted by jOhO:neh, that thought never crossed my mind, that u could have led him on.
i'm thinking, why so drastic? maybe it's for his good that your mutual friends not mention your name in front of you, but if i was in your situation i wouldn't impose that on my friends. they wanna talk about me, go ahead! free speech?
i dunno, his actions are pretty uncalled for, especially being adults. i would assume he would be late 20s early 30s... there's no need to be childish. actually, master's comment above, (which IS childish!!) makes some sense.
in this thread, someone mentioned that friendship, or friends are forever? i don't subscribe to that. there are COUNTLESS friends that i've lost over the years, some by "natural causes" and a few have become pple that i will never speak to again. all of them were close to me at some stage. i'm not gonna answer why such things happen here, but i'll tell you (and you prob know anyway!) that friendship does not last forever. not ALL the friends you have in your life anyway, and yes, that includes those super close ones that u never thought would leave your life. i like to remember what they have taught me, what joys we shared, regardless of whether we hate each other now, or just totally lost contact. life is a journey we travel with many people, and some pple just take off in funny directions, we cannot help it. of course, 'they' say, one will walk with you to death. and you've found that person, right?
I know not all friends last forever, I have lost my fair share of friends, except this one really hurt because of the way he wanted to cut me off like discarding some unwanted rubbish and also because we shared wayyyy too much in interests, thoughts etc
One thing though, he has shattered my thoughts that a guy and a girl can just be friends *sigh* ... looks like this will apply only if the guy is gay. -
I suppose it is harsh, but when it comes to friendship, I make a point of not mucking about - life's too damned short to waste on people who are just looking for a free ride.Originally posted by thinger:ged - bit harsh? but so true. -
Yes I was trying to be funnyOriginally posted by thinger:are you being funny?
i like knowing how much i take in.
ged - bit harsh? but so true. -
that is true, as i just recently found out...well i keep on finding out every now and then...Originally posted by Gedanken:I suppose it is harsh, but when it comes to friendship, I make a point of not mucking about - life's too damned short to waste on people who are just looking for a free ride.