For all the 30's singles...Why are you not married yet?
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Go get this book ' turning 30s'. A very gd book for those above 30s and still single to read.Originally posted by care bear:Yeah I told them something like that to...but they keep on bugging...even the wondrous marriage suitability of cheating ex-boyfriends has been brought up!!
I was told that I'm not supposed to return home without a man this year for Chinese New Year cos my cousins are all married and it will be embarressing....well, I'm not going back!!!
You would think that with all the education they put into me and the lessons on independence and self-sufficiency that they would support me in what I want to do with my life and not do this to me....why do I suddenly need a man to complete me??!! and I'm only 29 this year!!! crap!! cant imagine what its gonna be like when I hits the 30's!!
crap.crap,crap.crap!!! please excuse me, but I have stem coming out of my ears now...c r a p !!!!!!!!! -
i guess its juz a way for them to pick up a topic?Originally posted by care bear:OMG!!! start earlier than me!!!
I this year 29, just starting to get all this crap...but 27 is still young mah...still got time what!! People are so funny...
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organise outings for single guys and girls from age 29 and above lor
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Yeah, Agree with you..those are my sentiments exactly!!..amazingly my non existant marriage has suddenly become everyones business...seeshh!!!Originally posted by zoik:i dont care really.
i'll get married when i want to.
its nothing to do with age really. its about you, and your prospective partner[s]
so, whoevers bugging you about marriage, tell them to mind their own business. -
hm...think got quite some "huan ying jie shao suo" ard in SG mah...u can find easily on net for SG...recently i got a fren joined oso...i try to find out more den let u all noe...
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The relatives have a point too. Start a family late n the children will also grow up later. Simple maths. Imagine u still working when old, to support the children to U etc.
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what's more important?
a loving family for the child to grow up in, or whatever the alternative is?Originally posted by SnowFlag:The relatives have a point too. Start a family late n the children will also grow up later. Simple maths. Imagine u still working when old, to support the children to U etc. -
That's really said relatives' problem, isn't it?Originally posted by SnowFlag:The relatives have a point too. Start a family late n the children will also grow up later. Simple maths. Imagine u still working when old, to support the children to U etc.
First, you're only as old and tired as you set yourself out to be. I've got plenty of friends who became parents at a late age, and they're a helluva lot more energetic as parents than some of the deadbeat late-teens/early-twenties parents I've had the misfortune to work with as a welfare worker.
Second, those relatives had better wake up and smell the coffee. If you're slaving away at someone's behest, you're buggered financially regardless of your age. Again, the late-age parents I know are financially independent enough to make a bucket putting in 35 hours of work a week, with the rest of the time to spend with their kids.
Whatever those relatives motivations for concern are, they're misguided. -
philosophical explanation:
found no valid reason to get married...singlehood is just another way of life
frank explanation:
noone wants me -
99.9% of girls all over the world are shallow and materialistic.Originally posted by care bear:
Rejected because you not handsome enough and dun have a car??!! then those girls were really not worth it loh!!! such a stupid reason....be thankul that you didnt end up with a wife thats so materialistic and shallow man!!! I can guarantee not all girls are like that loh... -
My point of view is friendship is more lasting than love.... so make more friends while you still can...
Marriage is the graveyard of love anyway...
Unless you really do find a great partner for life, why get married for the sake of getting married?
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Men (most) are just as shallow lah...Originally posted by EvilDead:99.9% of girls all over the world are shallow and materialistic.
Human beings (most) are shallow by nature... -
Being a bachelor rocks! you can do what you want and are not on a tight leash. Can fart my ass off, can scratch my nuts and sniff my fingers without the wife going "eww" , can belch national anthems , can be as untidy as you want etc etc
I will not get married. Its too scary.
Besides, I am ugly, out of shape, have the worst luck in the world, broke and I don't trust girls
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Being a bachelor rocks! you can do what you want and are not on a tight leash. Can fart my ass off, can scratch my nuts and sniff my fingers without the wife going "eww" , can belch national anthems , can be as untidy as you want etc etc
I will not get married. Its too scary.
Besides, I am ugly, out of shape, have the worst luck in the world, broke and I don't trust girls -
hmm, apparently being a bachelor gives you the power to double post
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anybody want me bo..?
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Haha....do you think that getting married is the end of the questions?
20 minutes after you're married, they'll start asking questions like "so when is the first baby coming?".
And 25 minutes after the first child is born, they'll start saying "he/she is lonely leh, must give him a brother/sister".
Its never-ending lah..... -
i think the best answer to give them would be:
"why don't you shut the $#&@ up?"Originally posted by gentlerock:Haha....do you think that getting married is the end of the questions?
20 minutes after you're married, they'll start asking questions like "so when if the first baby coming?".
And 25 minutes after the first child is born, they'll start saying "he/she is lonely leh, must give him a brother/sister".
Its never-ending lah..... -
lol that's very true
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helloooooo, i 'm late 20s but single now, most of frds keep saying i got high stds mah, no leh, jus no feelings to those guys mah, mentality oso v. impt leh, i'm stil not ready to settle down so better dun mess up marriage lor,a anyone share the same view?
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Uh, if you mean what I think you mean, I agree. No sense doing it unless you feel it's right.Originally posted by 101wish:helloooooo, i 'm late 20s but single now, most of frds keep saying i got high stds mah, no leh, jus no feelings to those guys mah, mentality oso v. impt leh, i'm stil not ready to settle down so better dun mess up marriage lor,a anyone share the same view?
Let me guess - conversation's not high on your list of priorities, is it? -
I am not the marrying sort, there are also many compelling factors for me to be against marriage. Additionally, I think for me to have any kids is very difficult, I suppose, indirectly due to my state of health.
I don't favour marriage and see it a shackle and a ball. I see so many problems being with a person 24x7 and worse is the in-laws for which I always felt that, in-laws, no matter how your other half thinks is endearing. In laws are one of the causes of many a break up and sometimes, I guess out of protecting their offsprings, they do get nasty with "outsiders". I understand that my lack of contribution of the family tree will not be view favourable and I will expect that painful label of barren woman. I do not know if some parent might get a bit over the edge and attempt to intervene so as to get a grandchild. But imagine that your husband's siblings are all surrounded by many kids, and we are still poor and childless. Instead of relatives telling you to get married during CNY, they would be telling you to divorce that barren woman and get a better one who can bear many kids. People's words always hurt. People's tongues are swords.
I look at the examples of married life around me and I observed none that influence me to ever wanting to be a part of this concept. I much rather keep at status quo. My own parents are arranged marriage in rtheir mid 20s. It was more out of duty they stayed together and perhaps to them its love. As the years grow, they grew apart and just hung around because they only have each other. My sister is in late 30s and she is single and happy, living alone. I suppose she might be dating men now but I think there is really no hurry as she is comfortable with life. I have wish to be able to feel that freedom and happiness she has and that she does not have to commit but just live for herself. My brother in his hurry married a materialistic women from taiwan and in a blink of an eye, divorced and penniless. Now they are fighting child custody and whatever money she can scrapped from my brother (who she bankrupt) and parents (my dad is a hawker and he recycles trash as a side line). My poor parents who had been paying out of their noses for this son is still paying in their old age and yet my brother has never woke up to his failures and faults. For me, I didn't really enjoy childhood and cannot bear to bring one to suffer. I remeber my parent's fights. I remembered being bullied by my much older siblings mentally and physically. I remembered relative's hash words that I was too fat and ugly to ever have anyone love me. I remember no one ever being there for me. Its not to say that I will also have these things happen to me but in my nearest experience, there is just so much unhappiness, suffering and pain for everyone in married life. -
I guess when you meet the right person it happens.
Before I got married it was .... When are you getting married? Everytime, I just smile at them but I feel like answering them with a smarty pants answer like:
1. What??? And ruin my swinging lifestyle?
2. I can't! The government don't recognize a union of the same sex
3. I will, I will, once I complete my sex-change operation.
But I held my tongue because I figured I don't want to be the cause of fatal heart-attacks during Chinese New Year.
Now I am buffing myself up for.... When are you going to have a baby
P.S. When I got married, the question they asked was," Why didn't you join the SDU to get yourself a chinese guy" -
That's precisely it. It's never-ending.
Some people who live a certain lifestyle think theirs is the right and only way to go. And they'll impose their lifestyle on others who are different, the singles, the childless, etc.
Doesn't help that the government, thru policies and campaigns has somewhat dictated the way people ought to live - marriage before moving out, have kids, extended families, etc. So people who have done so (not passing judgement here on whether that's right or wrong) subconsciously feel justified in telling people to follow the same path. Like -- this is what everyone does, why aren't you doing it ?
You can't change people but you gotta be strong enough not to let them bother you.Originally posted by gentlerock:Haha....do you think that getting married is the end of the questions?
20 minutes after you're married, they'll start asking questions like "so when is the first baby coming?".
And 25 minutes after the first child is born, they'll start saying "he/she is lonely leh, must give him a brother/sister".
Its never-ending lah..... -
Awful. This is just bad manners.
I'd be totally offended by this.Originally posted by elindra:P.S. When I got married, the question they asked was," Why didn't you join the SDU to get yourself a chinese guy"