failed in love at 20, now i am 24, will i get her at 30?
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happened in 2001, was obsessed with this gal....I was 20 then she was 19, she knew i liked her and then all of a sudden she just "disappeared" from my life...when into army and now i am out now i am 24 this year and she has turned 23....Still not giving up, i know i will see her again..but not now..she might be not matured yet...i am gonna try again few years down the road...I believe that we are fated to be together...its just a strong feeling that we will meet again in the future...my heart pains now...the old people here (30s)....have u had any such expereince whereby u met your lost love of your past life and reconciled again?.....My story is here:
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=111816
God shall have mercy on my soul in this lifetime..God shall bless me for this conviction -
erm theres more options out there...
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Does this look like the magic 8-ball site to you?
The only thing guaranteed at 30 is that you'll be older than you are now. So make the most of your time. -
let me get my Magic "Love" Ball....my cousin gave it to me for cristmas and I havent had a chance to use it yet......
okay...here goes..... will he reunite with this girl who is the love of his life??
shake the ball....shake......shake.....and the answer is.......
"Maybe Yes Maybe No" -
I think basically, you think of her so much, you are seeking quick answers here. You forget though... being in our 30's in no way means that we suddenly become clairvoyant or gain some sort of psychic ability to foresee the future.
I've known couples who knew each other since Junior College who got married and are parents now. I've also known this guy who was utterly devoted and lovelorn for this girl in my clique, who sadly doesn't reciprocate his love but he'll hang on, week after week, month after month, lapping whatever little attention she paid to him, misinterpreting whatever little thing she said, etc etc... You could see he was pretty obsessed with her cause everywhere we went with her, he tried to follow or just blatantly tagged along uninvited.
Now? She's married... not to him though. He's also moved on.
What we like, who we are, and who we love in our 20's might not remain constant into our 30's. People change, situations evolve, things metamorphosise... It's best to find a love that's mutual cause only then can you both achieve the same steadfastness, single-mindedness and devotion towards each other that would otherwise not be possible in this constantly-revolving and evolving world. If one party is willing, and the other party is lukewarm about the whole affair, you'll never achieve a balanced partnership.
Think about it this way - do you doubt your self-worth so much that you don't think you deserve to be loved just the way you are? It's only when we've learnt to love ourselves can we then have the capacity to love someone else in a wholesome and unselfish manner. Otherwise, you'd find a lot of self-serving or self-crippling hidden intentions and desires in the relationship.
So, never be unequally yoked... we all deserve better.
Let go, move on, live in the present and look towards the future. Unshackle those old chains and live free... -
pls dun stereotype the girls.
It is whether u want to woo her or not.
If always think of failure, how to woo.
no try mean 100% fail
got try at least got no regrets -
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Can't tell you, I'm not you.
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I wish i can tell u...But life is unpredictable isnt it?...If u are really into it....here's some advice .look for chances where u can meet her....Prepare for it...but always be in the light regarding her....I am sure u will get to meet her one day..Singapore is a small place afterall.....But things arent that simple...It could be she still remembers u and regrets what she had done...u may never know till u meet her again...maybe things might be different...she might have a stead and moving on in life....if not then u r lucky .she may be more mature now or in the future..If it was successful , it might or might not be easy maintaing the relationship the second time....jus my 5 cents worth..Originally posted by Chewbacca:happened in 2001, was obsessed with this gal....I was 20 then she was 19, she knew i liked her and then all of a sudden she just "disappeared" from my life...when into army and now i am out now i am 24 this year and she has turned 23....Still not giving up, i know i will see her again..but not now..she might be not matured yet...i am gonna try again few years down the road...I believe that we are fated to be together...its just a strong feeling that we will meet again in the future...my heart pains now...the old people here (30s)....have u had any such expereince whereby u met your lost love of your past life and reconciled again?.....My story is here:
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=111816
God shall have mercy on my soul in this lifetime..God shall bless me for this conviction -
I remember a discussion with a close friend once and we both agreed that if a relationship is 'meant to be', it shouldn't have to take a lot a lot of effort all of the time to make it work. Granted, you have to put in effort to make any relationship work but it shouldn't have to be tedious all the time. If that's the case, then maybe, it just isn't meant to be and it's better off for all involved if you acknowledge that it just won't happen and live and let live.
Easier said than done, but possible. Heartbreaking at times, but hey, we all survive!
It's hard to walk away and initially, it will be hard. The head often makes up its mind way before the heart can catch up with the decision, ie. you'd experience heartbreak and heartache long after the mind has already been made up. But soon, the heart does heal and catch up and then you can move on for sure.
I always seek to learn from each encounter because surely, there are lessons that we're meant to learn with each experience. If there are patterns that repeat themselves, learn how to recognise the warning signs and nip them in the bud.
Learn to let go... I'd rather someone love me for who I am than stand pitifully in the wings, hoping to get crumbs that drop from the table of the one who's having a feast. In short, do not shortchange yourself in life - why insist on chasing after someone who obviously doesn't seem to have the hots for you the same way you do for her?
Good luck... and hope you'll finally let go and move on. -
now u feel despair....heartache....regrets......sadness.....
but trust me.....
after 3 months.....u remember her smile once a week in your dreams....
after 6 months....u try to remember the relationship senario .....
after 9 months....u try to recall what went wrong and may even start smiling abt the breakup....
after 12 months....u vividly try to recall her look.....
after 16 months.....u happily holding another hand.....
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excuse me ... what! 30 is still young ah!
I don't like you already ,,, -
give her a chance to look for a better guy
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Nicely said Rhonda...Originally posted by Rhonda:I remember a discussion with a close friend once and we both agreed that if a relationship is 'meant to be', it shouldn't have to take a lot a lot of effort all of the time to make it work. Granted, you have to put in effort to make any relationship work but it shouldn't have to be tedious all the time. If that's the case, then maybe, it just isn't meant to be and it's better off for all involved if you acknowledge that it just won't happen and live and let live.
Easier said than done, but possible. Heartbreaking at times, but hey, we all survive!
It's hard to walk away and initially, it will be hard. The head often makes up its mind way before the heart can catch up with the decision, ie. you'd experience heartbreak and heartache long after the mind has already been made up. But soon, the heart does heal and catch up and then you can move on for sure.
I always seek to learn from each encounter because surely, there are lessons that we're meant to learn with each experience. If there are patterns that repeat themselves, learn how to recognise the warning signs and nip them in the bud.
Learn to let go... I'd rather someone love me for who I am than stand pitifully in the wings, hoping to get crumbs that drop from the table of the one who's having a feast. In short, do not shortchange yourself in life - why insist on chasing after someone who obviously doesn't seem to have the hots for you the same way you do for her?
Good luck... and hope you'll finally let go and move on. -
Maybe what u said is right...But miracles do happen..And there are people in this world who have hopes that such thing would happen..Hopes motivate and inspire u......take me for example...there have been a few cases where things didnt work out initially but later on it wroked like a charm , it worked out..not in love but in other areas...Sometimes things are worth giving a second try if not multiple tries as well...as u yrself have said.there are patterns which repeat themselves...on a brighter note......The ability to strike at the right moment results in unexpected outcomes even better than what u expected initially..dont give up hope .just let it rest in one corner of your head...Be ready when it pops up occasionally..my 5 cents worth for Valentine's Day....Happy Valentine's DAyOriginally posted by Rhonda:I remember a discussion with a close friend once and we both agreed that if a relationship is 'meant to be', it shouldn't have to take a lot a lot of effort all of the time to make it work. Granted, you have to put in effort to make any relationship work but it shouldn't have to be tedious all the time. If that's the case, then maybe, it just isn't meant to be and it's better off for all involved if you acknowledge that it just won't happen and live and let live.
Easier said than done, but possible. Heartbreaking at times, but hey, we all survive!
It's hard to walk away and initially, it will be hard. The head often makes up its mind way before the heart can catch up with the decision, ie. you'd experience heartbreak and heartache long after the mind has already been made up. But soon, the heart does heal and catch up and then you can move on for sure.
I always seek to learn from each encounter because surely, there are lessons that we're meant to learn with each experience. If there are patterns that repeat themselves, learn how to recognise the warning signs and nip them in the bud.
Learn to let go... I'd rather someone love me for who I am than stand pitifully in the wings, hoping to get crumbs that drop from the table of the one who's having a feast. In short, do not shortchange yourself in life - why insist on chasing after someone who obviously doesn't seem to have the hots for you the same way you do for her?
Good luck... and hope you'll finally let go and move on. -
damned determined...
*clap clap*
just don't do anything on valentine's day. everything costs a farking bomb. -
hahahaa!!!Originally posted by kopiosatu:damned determined...
*clap clap*
just don't do anything on valentine's day. everything costs a farking bomb.
I'd rather designate my very own Valentine's Day as the day when my sweetheart and I officially became a couple. That's actually more meaningful, I think. (And also more economical! Can stretch the dollar further! haha!!) -
What happened to the guy?..could u tell me, how is he now?..Does he has a stead?...or is he still living wif her memories?Originally posted by Rhonda:I've also known this guy who was utterly devoted and lovelorn for this girl in my clique, who sadly doesn't reciprocate his love but he'll hang on, week after week, month after month, lapping whatever little attention she paid to him, misinterpreting whatever little thing she said, etc etc... You could see he was pretty obsessed with her cause everywhere we went with her, he tried to follow or just blatantly tagged along uninvited. Now? She's married... not to him though. He's also moved on. -
We lost touch with him... and once he found out she had a boyfriend, he 'disappeared' too. Last I heard, he found himself a girlfriend and is very happy.Originally posted by Chewbacca:What happened to the guy?..could u tell me, how is he now?..Does he has a stead?...or is he still living wif her memories?
Chewbacca, we never know how what the script in our life holds, what turns we'd have to manipulate, who we'll meet, who we'll end up with, how it'll all turn out... important thing is to sometimes relax, not push it, not rush things, not force things... and let fate take control. If you believe in God, then commit all these things to Him and He'll take control and reveal His plans for you in His time.
Chewbacca, I'm sorry you have to go through this... I can understand the pain... and seriously, there's someone out there for you but you'll only meet her when the two of you are ready to meet each other.
Also, Chewbacca, with each relationship, you're bound to have memories. Remember the happy ones and discard the bad ones. You can't help having memories cause they're etched into your history. Besides, with each relationship, we learn something, we give something, we take something, we gain experience and then, depending on our attitude, we will either grow from it, or regress from it. Choose to take the positive stance. Then you'll grow as an individual. The danger is to become cynical... but don't. You'll only deprive yourself of the chance to be with the person you're meant to be with in your future.
Just drop a note here if you wish to get things off your chest. -
hey chewbacca, things are not down forever....its just am experience in life everyone goes through..afterall this world is a fine place and worth fighting for...