Best Kept Secret

• SydneyLibrarian

  30 Mar 05, 12:59

  Ok... I know this may not be appropriate for everyone here at this time, but just wanted to share this little nugget of wisdom! Got this in an email recently:
  
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  Best Kept Secret
  
  Think the secret to a happy marriage is passionate sex or a weekly date? Nope. It's self-confidence. A study at the University of New York at Buffalo and Canada's University of Waterloo revealed that people who were bothered by self-doubt were less satisfied with their relationships than more confident people were, which led them to find greater fault with their partners and to back off from them emotionally.
  
  Sound familiar? If so, you won't solve the problem by asking for reassurance or by pulling back from your spouse. "Take risks instead," says researcher John Holmes, Ph.D. Confide your fears, initiate sex, fight the urge to focus on the negative. Look for the kindness your spouse shows and don't explain it away by saying, "He's nice to everyone." Believe in your mate—and yourself.
  
  —Source Redbook (May 2002)
  
• InnoHippo

  30 Mar 05, 13:03

  first learn to believe in yourself.
  
  then learn to believe in your loved ones.
  
  
• the Bear

  30 Mar 05, 19:03

  words of wisdom
  
  i wish i figured these things out a few years ago.. but what the heck.. better late than never