My Other Half

• neuros

  6 Apr 05, 11:04

  thought about this last night... just thought i'd share it here and solicit opinions...
  
  disclaimer: some of it might sound familiar. dun remember whether i read it before or i wrote it before. hahaa...
  
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  Ever heard it being said... When God made human, he split the soul in two, putting half of it in Man and the other half in Woman. That is why we all go through life trying to find our other half. And only when we find him/her will we be truly complete.
  
  Going by this logic, we all have only ONE significant other. Surely this cannot be right.
  
  What if he is married (to someone else's S.O.!)?
  
  What if he met with an accident and died before we found each other?
  
  What if we passed each other by and never knew?
  
  What if he's gay???
  
  So, I don't believe in this. I believe we meet a lot of different people at different times in our lives. Right guys, wrong guys, right timing, wrong timing.
  
  The perfect one, undoubtedly, is the Right One at the Right Time.
  
  The question is: will it ever happen?
• InnoHippo

  6 Apr 05, 11:08

  what if u meet him and detest his looks and character?
• Kenashi

  6 Apr 05, 11:25

  read something similar!!
  it talks about human are born with 2 heads, 4 hands n 4 legs.
  but god grew jealous of human been so happy that they sent lightning to strike all humans into half.
  thus human spent the rest of their life searching for their other half.
• neuros

  6 Apr 05, 11:26

  Originally posted by InnoHippo:

  what if u meet him and detest his looks and character?

  then God must be a real joker...
  
  oops. no blasphemy intended. just kidding
• shinta

  6 Apr 05, 11:34

  wat i read was... each person is like half of a circle... n we go on to find the one person, who's half of the circle matches ours... perfectly..
  
  
• Rhonda

  6 Apr 05, 11:45

  I'd rather think that each of us is a complete circle and when we find that special someone, part of our circles will be meshed together, but there'll still be a portion of our circles that'll stand apart from each other.
  
  If we think that we're only one half until we find that significant other, then what happens if we remain single? Does that mean that we're forever not whole?
  
  Nope, I don't think so. One can remain happily single, depending on circumstances. People who are stuck in unhappy relationships might even think that being single would have been a much better option.
  
  And, how about those whose partner / spouse died, leaving them behind? Or what about folks who have gone through a divorce? Does that mean that since they have found their 'other half', there are no more 'halves' out there for them anymore and so they're destined to lead the rest of their lives alone?
  
  I don't think so either.
  
  Whilst it's truly enticing to believe in something so sweet and romantic, I'd much rather think that I'm a whole person with lots to offer and he, hopefully, would be whole too and when we choose to come together, it's a conscious choice to amalgamate our lives together, to stay together in spite of and despite of issues and problems that may arise or present challenges to us.
  
  However, I hope that I'll still be given the freedom to pursue my own interests and still be able to retain my own identity apart from the unified 'US'. I would jolly well love to see him retain his own interests and all that too. Otherwise, it would be too cloying and whilst it might be fun in the beginning to feel so much alike and be immersed in sweet togetherness, in the end, when the first flushes of love fades, you would feel an overwhelming urge to have your own space.
  
  I guess, I might be what you call an 'Idealistic Realist'?
• the Bear

  6 Apr 05, 11:47

  and the circle means.. zero?
  
  but seriously... when one finds a soulmate, it's a blessing
  
  

  Originally posted by shinta:

  wat i read was... each person is like half of a circle... n we go on to find the one person, who's half of the circle matches ours... perfectly..
  
  

• LazerLordz

  6 Apr 05, 11:56

  We're like Venn Diagrams.And what we share in common is dwarfed by the total potential we can have as a couple, with each free to pursue his or her own strengths to benefit couplehood as a whole.
• ShrodingersCat

  6 Apr 05, 12:01

  i dont like the idea of human beings being 'handicapped' only half a circle, half a 'real person', unless you meet and merged with your perfect other half.
  
  No, even if I am alone, I think I can still be independent, still seek perfection, still 'roll along', (read the Missing Piece meets the Big O, by Shel Silverstein)
  
  Prefer that each other is a full circle in his/her own right, and when we overlap, the area that we overlap is merged to become a different colour which makes our own lives much more colourful than before.
  
  
• Rhonda

  6 Apr 05, 12:22

  Originally posted by LazerLordz:

  We're like Venn Diagrams.And what we share in common is dwarfed by the total potential we can have as a couple, with each free to pursue his or her own strengths to benefit couplehood as a whole.

  Ack! What I painstakingly took paragraphs to explain can be summed up in just two words - Venn Diagrams!!
  
  I had seriously forgotten what they were called! Pai seh...
  
  LazerLordz, today, you're my hero!
• ShrodingersCat

  6 Apr 05, 12:29

  hey i just realised Rhonda put up the full circle thing! How did I miss it when i read the other posts... hehehehhaha
  
  sorry!
  
  but yes, i agree with u!
  
  
• Rhonda

  6 Apr 05, 12:47

  Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:

  hey i just realised Rhonda put up the full circle thing! How did I miss it when i read the other posts... hehehehhaha
  
  sorry!
  
  but yes, i agree with u!
  
  

  Hey, no worries. It only goes to accentuate that great minds think alike!
  
  Always great to read your posts, ShrodingersCat!
• neuros

  6 Apr 05, 15:10

  *applause*
  
  totally agree with what you say!
  
  

  Originally posted by Rhonda:

  I'd rather think that each of us is a complete circle and when we find that special someone, part of our circles will be meshed together, but there'll still be a portion of our circles that'll stand apart from each other.
  
  If we think that we're only one half until we find that significant other, then what happens if we remain single? Does that mean that we're forever not whole?
  
  Nope, I don't think so. One can remain happily single, depending on circumstances. People who are stuck in unhappy relationships might even think that being single would have been a much better option.
  
  And, how about those whose partner / spouse died, leaving them behind? Or what about folks who have gone through a divorce? Does that mean that since they have found their 'other half', there are no more 'halves' out there for them anymore and so they're destined to lead the rest of their lives alone?
  
  I don't think so either.
  
  Whilst it's truly enticing to believe in something so sweet and romantic, I'd much rather think that I'm a whole person with lots to offer and he, hopefully, would be whole too and when we choose to come together, it's a conscious choice to amalgamate our lives together, to stay together in spite of and despite of issues and problems that may arise or present challenges to us.
  
  However, I hope that I'll still be given the freedom to pursue my own interests and still be able to retain my own identity apart from the unified 'US'. I would jolly well love to see him retain his own interests and all that too. Otherwise, it would be too cloying and whilst it might be fun in the beginning to feel so much alike and be immersed in sweet togetherness, in the end, when the first flushes of love fades, you would feel an overwhelming urge to have your own space.
  
  I guess, I might be what you call an 'Idealistic Realist'?

• ilovemyrolex

  6 Apr 05, 19:11

  Honestly, being in a relationship is over-rated.
• the Bear

  6 Apr 05, 23:08

  i beg to differ
  
  it will be nice to have someone to love... and to love you right back
  
  maybe the hopeless and hopeful romantic in me speaking
  
  

  Originally posted by ilovemyrolex:

  Honestly, being in a relationship is over-rated.

• ilovemyrolex

  6 Apr 05, 23:37

  Originally posted by the Bear:
  i beg to differ
  it will be nice to have someone to love... and to love you right back
  maybe the hopeless and hopeful romantic in me speaking

  f course it's nice! that's the good bit.
  
  then you realize that you are no longer in control of your own happiness as how your mood undoubtedly be subjected to your partner's mood, and also whether your love is loving you back.
• the Bear

  6 Apr 05, 23:39

  with love, trust must come first for it to work
  
  and if you trust, trust completely... so much so that you'd believe your partner even if she lied to you... and your partner trusts you so much that she'd do the same... and both of you would die before betraying that trust
  
  p.s. maybe it's that romantic in me speaking again
  
  

  Originally posted by ilovemyrolex:
  
  
  [b]f course it's nice! that's the good bit.
  
  then you realize that you are no longer in control of your own happiness as how your mood undoubtedly be subjected to your partner's mood, and also whether your love is loving you back.[/b]

• Rhonda

  7 Apr 05, 01:07

  Originally posted by ilovemyrolex:

  Honestly, being in a relationship is over-rated.

  It IS over-rated in that a lot of folks talk about it as if being in a relationship will cure all problems, as if it's the be-all and end-all, which it definitely isn't.
  
  However, being in a relationship does offer its joys and bliss too. There are some things that can only be enjoyed by couples in an exclusive relationship, bound by love and trust and fidelity. It does feel awesome to know that whatever you do, whatever happens, there'll be someone standing by your side, giving you their full support. When you return from work frustrated or upset, they'll be there to lend a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on. When he is in a rough patch, you can hug him and pamper him and do nice things to him to cheer him up. You can spend time together in activities that one or both love or you can just spend time enjoying each other's company and not doing anything at all!
  
  There's happiness in being able to do whatever you want whenever you want and however you want when you're single. There's also happiness in doing things with someone, for someone and together with someone when you're in a relationship. I don't think one can replace the other, we'll just have to make the most of our current situation, whatever it is.
• ilovemyrolex

  7 Apr 05, 20:26

  As of today, I've step over the other side.
  
  Though a little sad , but i'm sure I'll enjoy my new found freedom!
  
  yayee!
• kops21

  7 Apr 05, 21:08

  Old one dont go, new one wont come.
  
  /runs away
• Rhonda

  8 Apr 05, 00:18

  Originally posted by ilovemyrolex:

  As of today, I've step over the other side.
  
  Though a little sad , but i'm sure I'll enjoy my new found freedom!
  
  yayee!

  
  
  I'm sorry to hear that. Don't know what to say. Hey, if you need company, come join us at this Saturday's feast! We're your new friends but still friends, nevertheless.
• Rhonda

  8 Apr 05, 00:19

  Originally posted by kops21:

  Old one dont go, new one wont come.
  
  /runs away

  *gasps!
  
  Wah! Kops, you so bad one, ah!!! I'll tell your girl!!! Be prepared for an early demise!