Are we grown up and a matured adult
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Sometime I just wonder at my ripe old age y am I still behaving like a kid... I am neither strong nor firm... either decisive nor assertive ... i am alway lost ...do not know where my life directin is
In short I just dun feel like an adult ... sometime I thot I am no different from a 18 yrs old kid..
So what make one grow up... is it father hood or when you are in your 40s ...my subordinates are afore category ... but they are surprisingly more immature in their thought and actions
Maybe like someone told me MAturity is a state of mind ... probably its our life experience ... the trial and tribulation we have gone thry that shape us and mold us to Maturity ... just sharing my boliao thought tonite... -
directions are sometimes overrated... sometimes, there may be none... or if you had, you just end up somewhere else anyway?
sometimes, just enjoy the ride...
but as to behaviour, it would be dependent on what we are doing at that time...
behaviour where necessary...
for playful behaviour is fun.. but when seriousness is necessary, the ability to recognise it and behave accordingly, that would be the mark of maturity...
besides, someone who is serious all the time, doesn't mean that the person is actually mature or wise.. he's just not having a good time
take heart... recognise the difference...
mostly, live life.. don't mull over it too much... if you do, you'll miss it.. -
This is call Flexible, no?Originally posted by seancannot:... I am neither strong nor firm... either decisive nor assertive ...
In a way, life's experience mold our thoughts lor. So, when one evaluates their actions, failures, successes, behaviours, blah, blah......and they learn from it or do something positive about it, they become better than the last time, right? After a while, it's call maturing lor. I think lah, huh.
I am mid 40s but still learning to be a better person/wife/mother/colleague/and the list goes on....everyday is a learning experience. We "die" (spiritually and mentally) when we stop learning.
After looking around me, sickness among friends, young death in family......I try my best to live well each day. Of course there will be down days, but I owe it to myself to pick me up as soon as I can. When one gets moody, upset or negative, it affects the people around them too. That, is not a very good thing/environment.
Cheers
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nothing wrong with young at heart.
you can be older, but the hearts feel young.
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Yeap.....that's me!!!!Originally posted by kops21:nothing wrong with young at heart.
you can be older, but the hearts feel young. -
in other words ...... old but act cuteOriginally posted by kops21:nothing wrong with young at heart.
you can be older, but the hearts feel young. -
my behaviour shows a 7 year old kid.. my actual age is 3 times older..
do u see 21 year olds jumpin about when they get excited? say about gg somewhere??
i'm one of them if any.. -
you said it yourself, as you grow older, you should display the capacity to be decisive and firm.
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I agree with this - experience builds maturity.
The more you go through and the more people you meet, the experiece and knowledge builds up and shapes you. It changes the way you behave and react to things. So if you wanna "grow up", I think the first step is to get out of your usual routine and try somethings different.Originally posted by seancannot:Maybe like someone told me MAturity is a state of mind ... probably its our life experience ... the trial and tribulation we have gone thry that shape us and mold us to Maturity ... just sharing my boliao thought tonite... -
maturity do not necessarily improves with age.
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true but not necessarily.... there are always those who never learn.....Originally posted by choco B:I agree with this - experience builds maturity.
to me, maturity grows with the ability to accept responsiblity... if one doesn't take responsiblity of his/her own life/actions, he/she is just plain childish... *ouch*
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totally agree... :>Originally posted by the Bear:directions are sometimes overrated... sometimes, there may be none... or if you had, you just end up somewhere else anyway?
sometimes, just enjoy the ride...
but as to behaviour, it would be dependent on what we are doing at that time...
behaviour where necessary...
for playful behaviour is fun.. but when seriousness is necessary, the ability to recognise it and behave accordingly, that would be the mark of maturity...
besides, someone who is serious all the time, doesn't mean that the person is actually mature or wise.. he's just not having a good time
take heart... recognise the difference...
mostly, live life.. don't mull over it too much... if you do, you'll miss it..
maturity has less to do with how one behaves than how one thinks.