living alone..
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Yeah man. I really got frustrated at the end and decided to rent out the entire unit. I rather the struggle than to live with others.Originally posted by Rhonda:Hey, mistyblue, like you, I live alone and rent the entire unit. It costs a huge bomb and takes up a large portion of my income but I'd still rather live alone. I had not-so-nice experiences living with others too. Besides, I love the privacy and freedom of living alone.
It's a monthly struggle ... but I would have it no other way.
With PRC, they are horrible, disgusting flatmates with their adulterous men and children in tow. With a 1st time M'sian girl, she wanted everything her way, to the entend of destroying furniture, dirty the common places and refused to clean up, have immigration issues, and very dishonest with a bad temper to boot. She destroyed my toilet fixture because she was angry. Hell I gave in till I could not and the landlady though I was making up stories till she had to deal with her directly.
The landlady wanted to make more money and kept reminind me that I made her waste money by renting 1 room and leaving the rest empty thus making her life difficult. Actually I am paying above market for that room. So she decided since the rest of the house is her although I still maintained everything, she made arrangements to produce dumplings for her to sell in my unit. She chalked up power/water bills - about 150 (when I moved in I footed 250 because the landlady never pay utilities for nearly 3 months - I don't like to live without utilities but the landlady never paid back).
I footed it cause she denied that making dumplings would use much water or electricity. Every night I had to clean up the oil, wash everything. It was also very near my exams when she did this. At then end, I had to scrub down the whole place as dumpling are very oily and the grime left over is so thick I had to use bleech. Later I had to set up roach traps, ants poison and spray down the place cause I got mossie attacks. So I thought, no matter what I do, I live under someone's roof. As long as these people do not get the money, they make the trouble for me. I am endlessly cleaning up and putting up with someone somehow or the other just so to "share" a unit. These peoplke think I need them and they lorded over me telling me, what I can or cannot do instead and what I should do to give way to them.
There is really no peace of mind as these people do not respect the place or work involved to ensure the environment is clean comfortable. Nor do they respect you as a co-tanent and inform you when they bring guests and these people strut around as if they entered a brothel or hotel. When I tell them off that I co-rent the place, I get threatened verbally for fighting over my rights.
In truth, I am a very quiet and clean neighbour. Even this current neighbour plays majong late and have babies crying or whatever. They almost know my daily schedule and know I am not the sort to bring bad things and influences to the house. They kinda appreciated it that I brought peace and consistency to the place. I even wash their corridor for them and watch over everytime the landlady wanted to change the windows of toilet. Frankly, in everyone of my rentals, the landlady all cannot bear to let me go cause I am really no trouble to them and in fact left the place cleaner and better than they rented to me.
Hence I decided, I rather live alone and plan out the path towards a roof ownership. Best is that I can rent from HDB but I doubt HDB would ever allow that. Alternative is to search for a lower cost unit in future that is equally comfortable. sg is quiet mecenary. Never met a good person. -
Oh mistyblue........what an experience.
But can't you purchase a HDB flat by yourself? Sounds like you have been renting for a while now. Anyways, I wish you well and trust your "cove" will hold many happy and beautiful memories for you........today, tomorrow and everyday.
Cheers.
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Never had the experience of renting a flat and living on my own before, unless you consider Uni days in a hostel with friends.
Then again, it was with friends...or maybe I was lucky but everyone did their fair share of keeping the place clean and taking turns to do the chores. If the person can't do the chores, he or she pays for the groceries. -
For a single, you need to be 35 year old to buy a HDB flat... Alternatively, you can get a private apartment anytime, but only if you can afford it...
$600 to rent a whole unit is quite cheap! Although the living conditions are not exactly ideal... Perhaps you should snoop around for other places with similar rental cost... From the way you described it, you've got landlord and co-tenants from hell! -
I was also living alone for abt 8 mths in my grandma's 4 room flat.. That was before an executive decision was made to rent out the house. So now, I have a small room to myself and I'm living with an Indonesian family (husband, wife and a P1 girl)...
I'm not the type that like living alone leh.. Pros are that you can mess up the place anyhow you like without anyone nagging, but that's also the cons of living alone. It gets awfully quiet and lonely at night, eg. when you have dinner alone. or b4 bedtime. I couldn't get used to it the first few nights, cos the house felt so empty.
When the Indon family moved in, it sorta liven up the place.. by a lot!! cos the little girl is soooo noisy!
. Did i mention that she likes to jump on the sofa?? think they are quite well to do in indon cos the wife doesn't know how to use an washing machine, mop, and can even screw up cooking chicken nuggets. 
.. But they are nice ppl lah. so far not much complains.. when living with strangers, have to learn to give and take.
They will be moving back home by Nov.. hopefully, if i get new tenants, I wun kenna those horror stories mistyblue mentioned!!
BTW, will anyone be interested in looking for a room by nov? -
I was also living alone for abt 8 mths in my grandma's 4 room flat.. That was before an executive decision was made to rent out the house. So now, I have a small room to myself and I'm living with an Indonesian family (husband, wife and a P1 girl)...
I'm not the type that like living alone leh.. Pros are that you can mess up the place anyhow you like without anyone nagging, but that's also the cons of living alone. It gets awfully quiet and lonely at night, eg. when you have dinner alone. or b4 bedtime. I couldn't get used to it the first few nights, cos the house felt so empty.
When the Indon family moved in, it sorta liven up the place.. by a lot!! cos the little girl is soooo noisy! . Did i mention that she likes to jump on the sofa?? think they are quite well to do in indon cos the wife doesn't know how to use an washing machine, mop, and can even screw up cooking chicken nuggets. .. But they are nice ppl lah. so far not much complains.. when living with strangers, have to learn to give and take.
They will be moving back home by Nov.. hopefully, if i get new tenants, I wun kenna those horror stories mistyblue mentioned!!
BTW, will anyone be interested in looking for a room by nov? -
u can live alone yet not alone. u can live with other yet be alone.
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mistyblue, I'm sorry that you had such nasty encounters. I had both good and bad encounters so I guess I'm better off in a sense.
I'm wondering, would you call yourself an introvert? I feel that introverts might find an easier time living alone and might adapt to it much faster than our extrovert counterparts.
k4korny, you must be an extrovert! That's why you tak boleh tahan (cannot stand) being alone for even a short while!
I feel that being an introvert or an extrovert will influence our thoughts about living alone. What do you think? -
i am something in between.
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trying to say that i tok a lot isit?Originally posted by Rhonda:k4korny, you must be an extrovert! That's why you tak boleh tahan (cannot stand) being alone for even a short while!
I feel that being an introvert or an extrovert will influence our thoughts about living alone. What do you think?
No i tak boleh tahan living alone cos i scared of ghost!
hmm. i think u probably wun be introverted or extroverted all the time, rite.. if u're predominantly introverted, there will be times where you will wish that you have more company..
while if u're extroverted, some times u will also want to have some peace and quiet... (and wish that the kid in my house will stop screaming out of the window for fun, just so that she can hear her own echo bouncing off the opposite block! )
I suppose whether u're introverted or not, there will be ups and downs on your thoughts abt ur decision. cos there will be situations that arises which makes u think 'heng ah! i live alone".. and vice versa.
But when living with others, the main consideration is the housemates.. if both parties are not understanding or doesn't click or keeps trying to find fault, then IMO, its better to live alone. -
Originally posted by k4korny:trying to say that i tok a lot isit?
No i tak boleh tahan living alone cos i scared of ghost!
hmm. i think u probably wun be introverted or extroverted all the time, rite.. if u're predominantly introverted, there will be times where you will wish that you have more company..
while if u're extroverted, some times u will also want to have some peace and quiet... (and wish that the kid in my house will stop screaming out of the window for fun, just so that she can hear her own echo bouncing off the opposite block! )
I suppose whether u're introverted or not, there will be ups and downs on your thoughts abt ur decision. cos there will be situations that arises which makes u think 'heng ah! i live alone".. and vice versa.
But when living with others, the main consideration is the housemates.. if both parties are not understanding or doesn't click or keeps trying to find fault, then IMO, its better to live alone.
Wah, I am impressed ley. Words of wisdom ah.
Lucky you......living in an apartment all by yourself, I mean san parents. Where are your parents?
Your apt got ghost meh? Maybe it's that "knocking" noise. You know that thread? Talk about sound of marbles ones.
Anyways, mostly there are two sides to a coin lah, hor? Hey, if your tenants move home in November, maybe you can find some flatmates here, in this forum. Or rent out your whole apt and move in with jOhO. He has a room for rent. And you still end up with some income from the rent. Good idea? No? -
thanks for your compliment leh!! I'm floating rite now.. hehe.Originally posted by littlestream:
Wah, I am impressed ley. Words of wisdom ah.
Lucky you......living in an apartment all by yourself, I mean san parents. Where are your parents?
Your apt got ghost meh? Maybe it's that "knocking" noise. You know that thread? Talk about sound of marbles ones.
Anyways, mostly there are two sides to a coin lah, hor? Hey, if your tenants move home in November, maybe you can find some flatmates here, in this forum. Or rent out your whole apt and move in with jOhO. He has a room for rent. And you still end up with some income from the rent. Good idea? No?
my apt no ghost lah.. just that there was once TV was showing a very scary Ghost show (on Ch U) during the 7th month some more.. then i realise dat i was alone. It's that rare moment of weakness...
(even if there is ghost i also wun reveal here rite.. i'm still trying to get ppl to rent my place, remember? keke.. )
if i rent out my whole appt, then most likely, i'll be moving back to my parent's place. Long story how i end up living alone lah.. -
Originally posted by k4korny:
thanks for your compliment leh!! I'm floating rite now.. hehe.
my apt no ghost lah.. just that there was once TV was showing a very scary Ghost show (on Ch U) during the 7th month some more.. then i realise dat i was alone. It's that rare moment of weakness...
([b]even if there is ghost i also wun reveal here rite.. i'm still trying to get ppl to rent my place, remember? keke.. )
if i rent out my whole appt, then most likely, i'll be moving back to my parent's place. Long story how i end up living alone lah.. [/b]
Hee hee.......oh yeah hor. (in response to above text in red)
And you are welcome.
Oh I see. Long story ah? Perhaps, not convenient to pen here, I understand. But sounds like you are "Richie Rich" ley. Got choice some more, stay here, stay there. Not bad, not bad. -
initially when i moved into my flat i was afraid and hypersensitive.
the feeling gradually dies away. -
Same here, I thinkOriginally posted by dragg:i am something in between.
I prefer living with people rather than by myself! Then again, the person must be easy going and cannot be those type who flies into rages often / temperamental else I cannot tahan! -
i live alone since i'm 19yr old. quite used to it already
but there were 3 times i woke up n found that my tv was on.
no joke, it's true -
living alone since age 19?
care to elaborate? -
the hse is not rent. some sort of inheritOriginally posted by dragg:living alone since age 19?
care to elaborate? -
wow.
so lucky.
so you are very loaded? -
nope....can lend me some $$Originally posted by dragg:wow.
so lucky.
so you are very loaded? -
sell the house and you will be rich.Originally posted by makiko:nope....can lend me some $$ -
Originally posted by dragg:sell the house and you will be rich. den i'll move in with u. i'm very nice to xiang chu de, wun waste electricity, wun waste water, wun come hm late, wun bring frx hm, wun make noise.
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you are a bit like sgboy2004.Originally posted by makiko: den i'll move in with u. i'm very nice to xiang chu de, wun waste electricity, wun waste water, wun come hm late, wun bring frx hm, wun make noise.
i'll be a very good room mate
should make a good couple. -
i dun like xiao di diOriginally posted by dragg:you are a bit like sgboy2004.
should make a good couple. -
are you sure he is xiaodidi?Originally posted by makiko:i dun like xiao di di
maybe he is lying.