To love ... is to obey
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I've long since learnt to 'zone out' and not let any personal attacks she makes on me get through my thick skin and thick skull!Originally posted by jOhO:man i can't stand such pple.
that statement itself is enuff for me to urge u to try get another job. i guess if it doesn't happen often then ok, but if it's like weekly or fortnightly, i think it's too much.
And yes, the working conditions are pretty bad at work with a high turnover rate.
You should see what goes through my head when I'm in the thick of one of these firing squad sessions, 'Gee, her hair's pretty dry, never use conditioner!' ... 'The trees outside are swaying - there must be a nice strong breeze out there right now!'... 'Her teeth is crooked and yellow! Eeew!' ... etc etc etc!
Oooh! The church bells just went off, as they always do on the first of every month at 12 noon.
OK, have to go off to work soon. Shall daydream of Christian Bale... oooh yesssssss!!! ... when I face them later!
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We suspect... Menopause!Originally posted by sbst275:She emotion not OK si boh?
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Your friend has a wise wife - know when to be aggressive & when to let her man take chargeOriginally posted by jOhO:maybe you're right..
have a friend who just ROMed.. the bride is a powerhouse woman at work, earning much more than him, but of course he isn't faring too bad himself.
when my fren told me that she's a very very tough and agressive boss (he used to work under her, not anymore tho) but at home, she's sweet and let's my fren take over in "heading" the family. (please take that statement with a pinch of salt, i'm sure they do discuss impt matters before coming to any decisions etc etc) mind u my fren is no weakling, nor is he a "wife basher". i was pretty shocked that he described her as such a boss when i do not see such traits in her AT ALL. i know them both pretty well, and will be photographing their wedding in dec.
boggles the mind. he INSISTS she's a real bitch at work! My personal belief is that in letting a man take charge, you not only help the man become a real man by letting his true character show through (i mean, who wants a weakling for a hubby?!). Then again, all major decisions should be discussed together. I admire my sis in law for this... she is like your friend's wife at work (and that's how she got so near the top in her industry), but yet, she respects my bro so much that she lets him head the family. 
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Guess the best thing to do is zone out, like you're doing, so it won't affect you so much! No wonder so many people don't wanna stay!Originally posted by Rhonda:I've long since learnt to 'zone out' and not let any personal attacks she makes on me get through my thick skin and thick skull! And yes, the working conditions are pretty bad at work with a high turnover rate.
You should see what goes through my head when I'm in the thick of one of these firing squad sessions, 'Gee, her hair's pretty dry, never use conditioner!' ... 'The trees outside are swaying - there must be a nice strong breeze out there right now!'... 'Her teeth is crooked and yellow! Eeew!' ... etc etc etc!
Oooh! The church bells just went off, as they always do on the first of every month at 12 noon.
OK, have to go off to work soon. Shall daydream of Christian Bale... oooh yesssssss!!! ... when I face them later! hehe... I used to think worse thoughts when people scolded me... but I'll tell you about it some other day 
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well.. when away from work, leave everything at work...
when with loved ones, love them with all the tenderness in your heart
ultimately, it's just work... the rest of the time is when it really matters
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u've adopted a very good attitude, frame of mind, watever u wanna call it.Originally posted by Rhonda:I've long since learnt to 'zone out' and not let any personal attacks she makes on me get through my thick skin and thick skull! And yes, the working conditions are pretty bad at work with a high turnover rate.
You should see what goes through my head when I'm in the thick of one of these firing squad sessions, 'Gee, her hair's pretty dry, never use conditioner!' ... 'The trees outside are swaying - there must be a nice strong breeze out there right now!'... 'Her teeth is crooked and yellow! Eeew!' ... etc etc etc!
Oooh! The church bells just went off, as they always do on the first of every month at 12 noon.
OK, have to go off to work soon. Shall daydream of Christian Bale... oooh yesssssss!!! ... when I face them later!
if your tolerance level can still endure it then good, but i'm now in a position where i've tolerated (with no problems) and over the months, the tolerance has worn razor thin. whereas, some pple have tolerated for yearssssssss.... -
heehee...u certainly deserve the compliments....so how....interested to post as reply for TODAY? cos they are actually asking ppl to reply to the write up....Originally posted by Rhonda: Thanks! What a compliment! hehe! Today, I know when I report for work, I'll be called into the Empress Dowager's office for a huge scolding but, I shall think of your compliment and 'faze out' her harsh words.
hmm....nurses also must kanna all this unless its like patients complain .....hmmmm
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easier said than done sometimes. work can be like a leech, it just clings onto your mind.Originally posted by the Bear:well.. when away from work, leave everything at work...
when with loved ones, love them with all the tenderness in your heart
ultimately, it's just work... the rest of the time is when it really matters -
It is all love... When a guy or girl falls in love, he or she will change...Originally posted by jOhO:well she was a bitch to him when he was her staff! ahah.. he used to hate her.. can u believe that?
but at home and play (which is when i see them) she's NO WHERE near that. at first i debelieved him, then one nite when i was on msn with her, she confirm that wat he said is true. mauahaha
of course she didn't say she was a bitch, but she is very tough on her staff and actually she's trying not to be so aggressive at work becos it's very stressful and now that she's married, wanna have kids next time etc etc better tone down.. ahahha
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Must beOriginally posted by Rhonda:We suspect... Menopause! Ssssshhhhhh!!! -
both u and bear are absolutely right.Originally posted by JLennon:easier said than done sometimes. work can be like a leech, it just clings onto your mind.
i used to be EXACTLY as bear has mentioned. once i knock off, work is left behind.
nowadays, well i still try to be the same as before, but it's getting increasingly difficult. sometimes it's not so much thoughts and stresses about work, i mean i DEFINITELY don't lose sleep becos i know i have a MEGA problem to solve when i come in to work the next day, but incessant calling from my boss, from suppliers, staff, aiyah.. i even get pple calling me (on my handphone can u believe it!!!) to ask me if we need photocopy toner..
sometimes u just can't switch ur phone off, becos well... if i off or lose my phone, all my potential wedding work is down the drain too. -
yes generally that's true, we all try to better ourselves for our loved ones.Originally posted by sbst275:It is all love... When a guy or girl falls in love, he or she will change...
but in the case of my fren, and possibly yours, i think she is JUST like that, she didn't have to change herself. at work strong and agressive, at home well.. not say weak lar... but knows her place? dunno which way to put it.. but u know wat i mean lar.
u could even call them schitzophrenic... (did i spell that right?) -
Even my wife also... She can be powerful in the workplace (As she has high position), but at home... She just push the work awayOriginally posted by jOhO:yes generally that's true, we all try to better ourselves for our loved ones.
but in the case of my fren, and possibly yours, i think she is JUST like that, she didn't have to change herself. at work strong and agressive, at home well.. not say weak lar... but knows her place? dunno which way to put it.. but u know wat i mean lar.
u could even call them schitzophrenic... (did i spell that right?) -
Rhonda, hoped you survived the firing squad at work with your dignity intact. Just like water off a ducks' back! I am certain you held back your instinct from telling the menopausal fool to stop ranting and raving like a psychotic and to take a flying leap into oblivion. Keep your chin up, nurses do a great job.
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yeah.. hope so..
nurses have enough pressure as it is... lives are in their hands and they know the responsibilities that come with that..
thing is... i see that the entrenched people in organisations think that they have the right to treat those whom they are supposed to be looking out for with utter contempt...
i find that true even where i work.. but i am not one of those who sit quietly by or grin and bear it... i guess that's why my big bosses don't like me -
i do feel better if i keep in touch with my work cos i don't wanna find something imploding on my desk when i come back after leave or long weekend! the good thing is that my wife understands the stress and is more accomodating towards me whenever i bring work back. oh well, work sucks but it pays...Originally posted by jOhO:both u and bear are absolutely right.
i used to be EXACTLY as bear has mentioned. once i knock off, work is left behind.
nowadays, well i still try to be the same as before, but it's getting increasingly difficult. sometimes it's not so much thoughts and stresses about work, i mean i DEFINITELY don't lose sleep becos i know i have a MEGA problem to solve when i come in to work the next day, but incessant calling from my boss, from suppliers, staff, aiyah.. i even get pple calling me (on my handphone can u believe it!!!) to ask me if we need photocopy toner..
sometimes u just can't switch ur phone off, becos well... if i off or lose my phone, all my potential wedding work is down the drain too. -
and if you're still in the office now, you're working too hard
hey.. let it implode or explode or whatever... i have a philosophy.. work will still be there when i get back to itOriginally posted by JLennon:i do feel better if i keep in touch with my work cos i don't wanna find something imploding on my desk when i come back after leave or long weekend! the good thing is that my wife understands the stress and is more accomodating towards me whenever i bring work back. oh well, work sucks but it pays... -
She announced right in front of everyone during our central report before we start our shift, that she was going to give me a good, long scolding.Originally posted by kym:Rhonda, hoped you survived the firing squad at work with your dignity intact. Just like water off a ducks' back! I am certain you held back your instinct from telling the menopausal fool to stop ranting and raving like a psychotic and to take a flying leap into oblivion. Keep your chin up, nurses do a great job. So I went around joking to my colleagues that if I were to 'disappear' from my assigned room for a while later, it was because I had an appointment with Her Highness to be scolded!
In the end, she wasn't in a bad mood yesterday, so she told me, 'I'm sick of all of you! I have no time for you!' and so, I guess she's saving me for one of her super bad mood days so that she can take it out on me. Don't worry, kym, these past few years, there's been so much unjust treatment that I've kinda developed an immunity to it.
I just feel really bad for my colleagues who kena before me. Most of them ended up crying because she really used nasty and very harsh words. She's not objective at all when she handles these issues, she just jumps right in and goes for the jugular, ripping your ego to shreds. And yesterday, she was even boasting about her ability to do that! 
You know what I really feel like doing? Sneaking in a recorder... so I can play it back to my friends and they will finally realise how unconducive and oppressive my work environment gets. Sometimes, it feels like I'm in the military with Hitler as boss. -
I had a good, long, heart-to-heart talk with two pals recently, on the last night of my bond, and I'm starting to wonder if 'zoning out' was a good tactic to employ because I've lost so much of myself in the end - from a Type A to a Type C at work.Originally posted by jOhO:u've adopted a very good attitude, frame of mind, watever u wanna call it.
if your tolerance level can still endure it then good, but i'm now in a position where i've tolerated (with no problems) and over the months, the tolerance has worn razor thin. whereas, some pple have tolerated for yearssssssss.... And this created a sort of domino effect and ended up affecting the state of my home too, in a way.
I'm trying to shake myself out from the stupor right now. Not gonna be easy since I've been cocooning myself these past few years, but I'm gonna do it. Basically, I think I reached my tolerance level a long long time ago but because of my bond, I had no choice but to bear with it.
I've got a Plan B to fall back on now so I'm no longer feel like a trapped bunny! Press the hot button and they will get a verbal tirade from me! Afterall, how long can a lioness be a pussycat?
Psst... my tolerance has worn so thin that at times, I feel I might go postal and pull a Columbine! hahaha!!! -
Well, I love my job, but I hate the working environment and the management.Originally posted by the Bear:yeah.. hope so..
nurses have enough pressure as it is... lives are in their hands and they know the responsibilities that come with that..
thing is... i see that the entrenched people in organisations think that they have the right to treat those whom they are supposed to be looking out for with utter contempt...
i find that true even where i work.. but i am not one of those who sit quietly by or grin and bear it... i guess that's why my big bosses don't like me
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humh reading those above posting hmp...
i dnt noe if i shloud consider a submissive type ?
me do heed and submissive to partner if that make him hapi, for i am only of those gal who love beening taking care of.. but on the other hand i am stubborn and having the win win character so tend to challenge my partner when he try to force me to submissive.
So i guess depending on my partner how smart is he to put those words across.
The right tone will see a kitten, if nt i guess ... haaa... -
Originally posted by Rhonda:She announced right in front of everyone during our central report before we start our shift, that she was going to give me a good, long scolding. So I went around joking to my colleagues that if I were to 'disappear' from my assigned room for a while later, it was because I had an appointment with Her Highness to be scolded!
In the end, she wasn't in a bad mood yesterday, so she told me, 'I'm sick of all of you! I have no time for you!' and so, I guess she's saving me for one of her super bad mood days so that she can take it out on me. Don't worry, kym, these past few years, there's been so much unjust treatment that I've kinda developed an immunity to it.
I just feel really bad for my colleagues who kena before me. Most of them ended up crying because she really used nasty and very harsh words. She's not objective at all when she handles these issues, she just jumps right in and goes for the jugular, ripping your ego to shreds. And yesterday, she was even boasting about her ability to do that!
You know what I really feel like doing? Sneaking in a recorder... so I can play it back to my friends and they will finally realise how unconducive and oppressive my work environment gets. Sometimes, it feels like I'm in the military with Hitler as boss. Maybe she has what you said -
i see... u were on bond.. that's right, healthcare.. ok! well it's good to be "freed" now.. hope things get better for ya!Originally posted by Rhonda:I had a good, long, heart-to-heart talk with two pals recently, on the last night of my bond, and I'm starting to wonder if 'zoning out' was a good tactic to employ because I've lost so much of myself in the end - from a Type A to a Type C at work. And this created a sort of domino effect and ended up affecting the state of my home too, in a way.
I'm trying to shake myself out from the stupor right now. Not gonna be easy since I've been cocooning myself these past few years, but I'm gonna do it. Basically, I think I reached my tolerance level a long long time ago but because of my bond, I had no choice but to bear with it.
I've got a Plan B to fall back on now so I'm no longer feel like a trapped bunny! Press the hot button and they will get a verbal tirade from me! Afterall, how long can a lioness be a pussycat?
Psst... my tolerance has worn so thin that at times, I feel I might go postal and pull a Columbine! hahaha!!! -
Thank you! I've hit rock-bottom so the only way from now on, is up!Originally posted by jOhO:i see... u were on bond.. that's right, healthcare.. ok! well it's good to be "freed" now.. hope things get better for ya! -
Wanda, this is also another one of our more 'stimulating' threads that made for interesting discussion.