"I Love How You Love Me"
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Ah, now I get it, but even if you got the pinyin right without the interpretation, it'd still all be Chinese to me!Originally posted by littlestream:
Thank you, thank you.......yes, si fu. Hey, see, I remembered you don't want to be addressed as lau shi.
Oh I see, it's biao cuo qing. Aiyah, what a difference with mine. No wonder Geddy also giddy! 
Sorry ah, Geddy.
Okay, Cam....time to go back to Night Owl. I think they need you back there. Talk about supper wor. Obviously I can't join lah. I contemplate taking the Bank's van to the mini mall but lazy lah. Maybe I'll just go check out what's in the Cafe. 
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Originally posted by Gedanken:Ah, now I get it, but even if you got the pinyin right without the interpretation, it'd still all be Chinese to me!
Eh....your hokkien not bad wor. (Better than mine, in fact) You mean your Mandarin kamsi kamsa only ah? Mine is good but pin yin a bit of a challenge. Hence, when I type in Chinese, it drives me nuts!!!! 
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Geddy: if you are still online, want to join us in that Night Owl thread? I lau liao, cannot really toggle between two threads. Besides, Rhonda is there and you can fill her in on Melbourne.
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Languages, unfortunately, were never my strongest suit - I only work with direct translations. With Mandarin or Hokkien, start getting into colloquial phrases and I'm completely lost.
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I think that maybe, I really should take the lead and start the ball rolling, seeing how there's been 'non-progress' so far!
I can only recall things that were done for me previously. Such as, coming over to pick me up when they knew I'd be stuck at work till late in the night, then bringing me out for supper cause I was hungry, and making sure I got home safe and sound. Drop me off, then call me a while later to make sure I got home. Sooooo sweet!
Or him passing by a place that has a famous stall selling a certain food, then he'll call, even if he's having dinner with his buddies, to ask if I'd like him to da-bao some for me! This one has double points because : 1) he thought of me even when he was on his guys' night out thing; and 2) he bought food for me!
Then, knowing I love trinkets and baubels and buying some for me when he went overseas for work.
When I'm hit by moodiness / sulkiness / grouchiness / sadness, he'll humour me and try to cheer me up by doing silly things that'll crack me up! Nothing like playtime with tons of laughter and giggles to lighten things up and bring the sun back into my day!! -
This one from which TVB or MediaCorp drama serial?Originally posted by Rhonda:I think that maybe, I really should take the lead and start the ball rolling, seeing how there's been 'non-progress' so far!
I can only recall things that were done for me previously. Such as, coming over to pick me up when they knew I'd be stuck at work till late in the night, then bringing me out for supper cause I was hungry, and making sure I got home safe and sound. Drop me off, then call me a while later to make sure I got home. Sooooo sweet!
Or him passing by a place that has a famous stall selling a certain food, then he'll call, even if he's having dinner with his buddies, to ask if I'd like him to da-bao some for me! This one has double points because : 1) he thought of me even when he was on his guys' night out thing; and 2) he bought food for me!
Then, knowing I love trinkets and baubels and buying some for me when he went overseas for work.
When I'm hit by moodiness / sulkiness / grouchiness / sadness, he'll humour me and try to cheer me up by doing silly things that'll crack me up! Nothing like playtime with tons of laughter and giggles to lighten things up and bring the sun back into my day!!
But seriously, I think it's cool. I'll melt too. I married too long liao, Rhonda, don't know what sweet things to write. All I know is my life schedule is :
bed/kitchen/office/kitchen/TV/bed
But I am not complaining because as long as my loved ones are happy and taken care of and healthy......I AM HAPPY!!
Sorry hor, boh mi kia contribute leh. Okay, now I really go Cafe liao. Noticed we can't seem to detached from Club 30? -
littlestream, actually I'm wondering if we consciously / subconsciously try to choose spouses who are like our parents, because I just realised that my dad does all those things I just mentioned, to my mom.
Dad's very good one! He will always buy food home for us, even if he goes out with his friends. And he'll always drive us all the way to good food places to eat! Dad takes care of us very well! Tian Bao Du Zi! (Fill up our stomachs).
Everytime dad travels overseas for business, he would always bring back exotic stuff for us too! When he went to Indonesia, I got this carved pendant that I kept like treasure, and this snake toy where you hold the tail and the snake seemed to move about. When he went to New Zealand, I had this cow bell! Come to think of it, where are those things, ah? Hopefully, mom, in one of her crazy clean-up moods, didn't dispose of them. 
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I do agree, Rhonda.......and it's been said guys look for gals who are like their mum. I think they are so used to their mum, either pampering or whatever cooking and style. That's why no matter how good a cook I am, my husband still prefers his mum's. It's a matter of used to. That was initial lah. Now, he has spent more years with me than with his mum liao, so he is more used to me.
Even my son said he will look for someone like me. He said, his exact words, okay (don't laugh) "no so gorgeous and simple". Yes, I am a simple person. Low expectations (less disappointment). Main thing is I am contented. That is success already. Success not only measured by monetary gains, right? "Not so gorgeous"? Hmm.....that's debatable. -
hahahahaha!!!!Originally posted by littlestream:I do agree, Rhonda.......and it's been said guys look for gals who are like their mum. I think they are so used to their mum, either pampering or whatever cooking and style. That's why no matter how good a cook I am, my husband still prefers his mum's. It's a matter of used to. That was initial lah. Now, he has spent more years with me than with his mum liao, so he is more used to me.
Even my son said he will look for someone like me. He said, his exact words, okay (don't laugh) "no so gorgeous and simple". Yes, I am a simple person. Low expectations (less disappointment). Main thing is I am contented. That is success already. Success not only measured by monetary gains, right? "Not so gorgeous"? Hmm.....that's debatable. 'Not so gorgeous and simple'?
The fact that we consciously / subconsciously look for spouses that mirror our parents may be heartwarming, but in certain circumstances, may be frightening too!
What if our parent was a neat freak or an unbelievable nag or a control freak or a gambler or an alcoholic or physically / verbally abusive?
Hmm... is that why some men seem to get turned on by women who control them, bark at them, nag them, etc? And what about those who get attached to women with bad habits and who don't seem to be really that into them and the men have to keep doing the chasing like that?
Or, women who are into pai kia's or men who control them or men with anger / jealousy problems, etc etc?
Hmm... interesting turn of discussion!
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Alamak........I thought you are friend. You actually laugh. Just kidding.
Maybe not all. I grew up without a mum so I don't have a role model. As for dad, he is usually not home. The TV sort of was my guardian. I took in a lot of "cho lang eh toh li" from there. But back in the early 60s, the HKG drama always the "cham cham" one. Always grievance type and then got to bear in silence type. I became like that. About pre-teen, my neighbour noticed these group of children "boh lang kuan" took us to church. From then on, I have only God to thank that I didn't turn out to be some "sam seng", which I mean anything is a possibility.
So, yes, the Bible and God was then, my parents (and spiritually still is). But pai seh....now, not church goer but I don't feel any less inferior. Maybe my bible knowledge sucks but FAITH.....no way!!! He is with me....all along.
Okay, change directions. I don't know if my hubby is like my dad. But certainly, hubby is strong, in will, mind and I guess physical strength too. So, he is our rock. And I belong to the category who look up to the man. I mean I can be "strong" in the office but then at home, sing a different tune. I guess everything is comfort level, whatever we are comfortable doing and also peace in the family.
Am I out of sync with topic already? I think I go get a tea. Want one? -
Wow... your childhood is so interesting, littlestream!
God sure protects His little children! You turned out to be so successful.
I totally agree that at work, we can be strong and all that, but at home, there shouldn't be two headstrong people otherwise, there'll be head-butting! -
*start rolling*Originally posted by Rhonda:Share the ways that you would love to be loved!
tare, you wanna start the ball ROLLing? Since ROLLing seems to be a panda's specialty?
paiseh tis panda slow har.....
hmmm.....
well i like it when i had nightmares, he will shake me up and hug me.... dunnoe to feel sweet or not, cos he 1st shake me so rough, then hug me so gentle....
wah liao together too long liao, can't rem the sweet things.... plus memory failing.... gimme a while more to recall ya?
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Welcome to our OOL
As you can see, there's no P in it.
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but wat im refering to is the other way.. will such r/s last?Originally posted by littlestream:Aiyah, not like that. You read up tare's explanation. I know what you mean but it is not meant that way.
If my hubby tells me that, it means I am doing something right. That is, he likes the way I love him. It doesn't mean he loves me because I love him. Sometimes we can love somebody but our actions may not reflect that. So, if our actions are affirmed by the other party that they feel our love, that is romantic, right? Feels good isn't it?
Of course there are some who are so blur that they cannot tell nor appreciate, that whatever you do also wrong type or bu mah ju. Reminds me Tan Lui's Hokkien number, that "today wind very windy one". Got one line said "salted veggie cook not enough salty". Wah piang *hits forehead*. In conclusion, it is nice to be appreciated by our love ones.....with words too. -
Rhonda.. why did i know that it was you that posted this.
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Yes.. I believe this. But I believe sometimes we meet role models in our lives that change this. Otherwise.. i'll be effed royally. HAHAH..Originally posted by Rhonda:littlestream, actually I'm wondering if we consciously / subconsciously try to choose spouses who are like our parents, because I just realised that my dad does all those things I just mentioned, to my mom.
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Originally posted by Lingos:Rhonda.. why did i know that it was you that posted this.
Hheehehe...
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DOn't be embarrassed Rhonda, i'm glad someone is not a cynic.
Can i ask.. if your parents are still together now???
U dont' have to answer.. just curious.. about this parents affecting their kids thing. -
Oh yeah! They're still very much together! They've gone through rough patches here and there and for the most recent one, I kinda had to intervene a little.Originally posted by Lingos:DOn't be embarrassed Rhonda, i'm glad someone is not a cynic.
Can i ask.. if your parents are still together now???
U dont' have to answer.. just curious.. about this parents affecting their kids thing. Overall though, they tango well together!
Now that brother's married and I've moved out, they pak tor a lot. Dad would pick mom up at work almost everyday and they'd drive out to somewhere where there's nice food for dinner. Dad can write a Makansutra manual single-handedly, I think!
They also go for movies together. Sometimes, grocery shopping for themselves and for my grandma and grandpa. They go on tours together pretty frequently too!
Mom and Dad are kinda cute together. If you look at them, you wouldn't have thought that they would have married cause they're pretty different from each other but somehow, they've struck on a formula that works well! It's endearing to see how much they've compromised over the years and have found 'middle ground' and are more and more like each other in little little ways. hehe!
I'm surrounded by a lot of other positive examples of couples growing old together - in my neighbourhood, at my workplace, amongst my friends, so yeah, I guess despite the setbacks I've had to face so far, and the uglier relationships I've witnessed around me, I'm still pretty uppity when it comes to love and marriage and the whole happily growing old together bit. The standing joke between my friends and I now when I play-whine about where 'the one' for me could possibly be is this stock answer, 'He's in Melbourne, waiting for you! Hurry up and get your ass over!'
Erm... are yours still together? You don't have to answer if you don't want to. Just kaypoh, like I always am! -
It's so nice to see that despite going thru' so many ups and downs in their marriage life, there are still some couples who are so loving even after being together sooo many years! I'd like my relationship to be like my parents, and yours, tooOriginally posted by Rhonda:Oh yeah! They're still very much together! They've gone through rough patches here and there and for the most recent one, I kinda had to intervene a little. Overall though, they tango well together!
Now that brother's married and I've moved out, they pak tor a lot. Dad would pick mom up at work almost everyday and they'd drive out to somewhere where there's nice food for dinner. Dad can write a Makansutra manual single-handedly, I think!
They also go for movies together. Sometimes, grocery shopping for themselves and for my grandma and grandpa. They go on tours together pretty frequently too!
Mom and Dad are kinda cute together. If you look at them, you wouldn't have thought that they would have married cause they're pretty different from each other but somehow, they've struck on a formula that works well! It's endearing to see how much they've compromised over the years and have found 'middle ground' and are more and more like each other in little little ways. hehe!
I'm surrounded by a lot of other positive examples of couples growing old together - in my neighbourhood, at my workplace, amongst my friends, so yeah, I guess despite the setbacks I've had to face so far, and the uglier relationships I've witnessed around me, I'm still pretty uppity when it comes to love and marriage and the whole happily growing old together bit. The standing joke between my friends and I now when I play-whine about where 'the one' for me could possibly be is this stock answer, 'He's in Melbourne, waiting for you! Hurry up and get your ass over!'
Erm... are yours still together? You don't have to answer if you don't want to. Just kaypoh, like I always am! -
I knew it!!!! I'm screwed for life. I'm always attracted to people who are unavailable. I know that i get stuffed around and hurt all the time, but i still fall head first. Nice boys always finish last for me. Mine are not together.. and that's fine with me. Anyway, nice to hear your story. I shall not delve into mine.Originally posted by Rhonda:Oh yeah! They're still very much together! They've gone through rough patches here and there and for the most recent one, I kinda had to intervene a little. Overall though, they tango well together!
Now that brother's married and I've moved out, they pak tor a lot. Dad would pick mom up at work almost everyday and they'd drive out to somewhere where there's nice food for dinner. Dad can write a Makansutra manual single-handedly, I think!
They also go for movies together. Sometimes, grocery shopping for themselves and for my grandma and grandpa. They go on tours together pretty frequently too!
Mom and Dad are kinda cute together. If you look at them, you wouldn't have thought that they would have married cause they're pretty different from each other but somehow, they've struck on a formula that works well! It's endearing to see how much they've compromised over the years and have found 'middle ground' and are more and more like each other in little little ways. hehe!
I'm surrounded by a lot of other positive examples of couples growing old together - in my neighbourhood, at my workplace, amongst my friends, so yeah, I guess despite the setbacks I've had to face so far, and the uglier relationships I've witnessed around me, I'm still pretty uppity when it comes to love and marriage and the whole happily growing old together bit. The standing joke between my friends and I now when I play-whine about where 'the one' for me could possibly be is this stock answer, 'He's in Melbourne, waiting for you! Hurry up and get your ass over!'
Erm... are yours still together? You don't have to answer if you don't want to. Just kaypoh, like I always am!
Anyway, what's this joke about the Melbourne dude? I don't get it. I'm sure you have high expectations Rhonda, why compromise?? -
"The Way"..by Clay Aiken...
There's something 'bout the way you look tonight,
There's something 'bout the way that I can't take my eyes off you.
There's something 'bout the way your lips invite,
Maybe it's the way that I get nervous when your around.
And I want you to be mine
and if you need a reason why,
It's in the way that you move me, and the way that you tease me,
The way that I want you tonight,
It's in the way that you hold me, and the way that you know me,
When I can't find the right words to say,
You feel it in the way, you feel it in the way.
There's something 'bout how you stay on my mind,
There's something 'bout the way that I whisper your name when I'm asleep Oh girl
Maybe it's the look you get in your eyes.
Maybe it's the way that makes me feel to see you smile.
And the reasons they may change
But what I'm feeling stays the same.
I can't put my fingers on just what it is that makes me love you, you baby.
So don't ask me to describe, I get all choked up inside, just thinking bout the way.
There's something 'bout the way you look tonight.
There's nothing more to say then, I feel it in the way. -
wow...kinda of inspiring...
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That is the opposite for me. My dad is a good father and husband. He loves my mum lots but coz of his upbringing he has never lifted his finger to do any housework before and he does think a woman's place is in the kitchenOriginally posted by Rhonda:littlestream, actually I'm wondering if we consciously / subconsciously try to choose spouses who are like our parents, because I just realised that my dad does all those things I just mentioned, to my mom.
Dad's very good one! He will always buy food home for us, even if he goes out with his friends. And he'll always drive us all the way to good food places to eat! Dad takes care of us very well! Tian Bao Du Zi! (Fill up our stomachs).
Everytime dad travels overseas for business, he would always bring back exotic stuff for us too! When he went to Indonesia, I got this carved pendant that I kept like treasure, and this snake toy where you hold the tail and the snake seemed to move about. When he went to New Zealand, I had this cow bell! Come to think of it, where are those things, ah? Hopefully, mom, in one of her crazy clean-up moods, didn't dispose of them. 
Therefore, I made a promise to myself if anything, I'll make sure that I marry a guy who is everything like him in the love bit and nothing like him in other areas -
tat's the way my father in-law behaves.... major MCP!Originally posted by elindra:He loves my mum lots but coz of his upbringing he has never lifted his finger to do any housework before and he does think a woman's place is in the kitchen
thank goodness my hubby helps me with the housework.... erm... rather he does MOST of the housework!