Singaporeans are so cold nowadays..
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Most of these crude people who feel shocked at a kind deed done to them, are simply those without a good upbringing that emphasised manners and gentility.Originally posted by Nelstar:Question: You meant the ones you met?
Sometimes, they may not react in time or appropriately when helped. And most of the encounters I've had is that most Singaporeans aren't really taught when to say it right except when they are given what they bought.
Most of the times, it's because of the fast pace our society is moving that has made us unaware of our general behaviour.
And many learnt to be impatient because of the hectic lifestyle we're in.
Many were brought up such a way that they are only reminded to occupy best places, best spots, quickly go to one place and another.
Can't be helped. Blame the lifestyle, blame the parents.
And its proportionately speaking that we end up seeing the polite ones and they happen to be of the more educated sort.I'd bet more people will pay attention to culture and civility when they do not have to worry about money or work.
Then again, there are exceptions.I think its still your upbringing that matters.You can be poor but poverty is no excuse to teach your children well. -
Cold? I think their parents just didn't teach them basic courtesy. People are surprised when I smile and thank them because they are just not used to it.
I have witnessed too many occassions in public whereby I feel like going up to the parent to give them a lecture because they are teaching their children the wrong thing.
For example, once I was at Takashimaya, in the ladies and this young mother was telling her child that he correct way to dry her hands is to shake the water off all over the floor....
Just imagine what our society will be like a few more years down the road if all parents taught their kids the wrong things.
Lots of Singaporeans just complain about poor service these days but I wonder if they have paused to think if they gave the other party even the basic respect one gives to another fellow human being. -
saying thank you is a reflex here in europe..Originally posted by shinta:ppl sometimes gives me a weird look when i said thank you -
Yes they are...
Take bus, no one want to move in, say politely they give you ming or or..
Then car, filter w/o signalling -
3 days ago i saw a parent feeding his son fruits inside bedok ntuc. the father asked the son to throw the seed on the floor.
parents nowadays are amazing!!!! -
You shd see some parents' reactions, or rather, non-reaction when their kids inflict pain on small helpless stray animals.
And studies showed that such kids will grow up with the tendency to inflict pain on other human beings as adults --> violence alert! -
happens all the time..
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These people are unfit to be parents.
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Well, it has to do with how the parents were brought up..Originally posted by LazerLordz:These people are unfit to be parents. -
The next thing we know, the government will have to start a program on educating parents on how to educate their kids.
Seriously if a kid's parent/s act like an uneducated boor, who has no shame or courtesy, you can't really blame the kid, though that shows that we have a real problem which is likely to balloon in the future and it is just feastering now. -
Please DO NOT give the government any new ideas for yet another public campaign! The last thing Singapore needs now is a 'Raise Your Child Right' campaign.Originally posted by elindra:The next thing we know, the government will have to start a program on educating parents on how to educate their kids.
Seriously if a kid's parent/s act like an uneducated boor, who has no shame or courtesy, you can't really blame the kid, though that shows that we have a real problem which is likely to balloon in the future and it is just feastering now.
Or perhaps we do need one...
One has to wonder if the chronic lack of graciousness in Singapore society today (as reflected in both the children and parents) is a consequence of the country's overbearing emphasis on money and achievement.
MG