Traditional Chinese Wedding Dinner Horrors!!
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Yipers!!
I just returned from dinner and a shopping spree with mom and an aunt and we were discussing my brother's Chinese wedding dinner over supper. I had the shock of my life!!
- Mom says dad will have like 10 tables of guests, she will have 15, the in-laws wanted 10, and including my brother and his wife's guests, it's a grand total of 45 tables!!
At $800 per table, that makes it a grand total of... *gasp... Wha!!!!! $36,000!!!!!
I made the mistake of saying out loud, "Poor brother! He will end up having 80% of guests at his wedding who are total strangers to him!"
And then, I kena a huge scolding from mom, who got wide-eyed defensive and exclaimed, "Of course! He's MY son! It's a BIG DEAL!"
- So I said, "I'm having cold sweat just sitting here, listening to this... and it isn't even my wedding! Boy, am I jolly glad I'm not the one getting married!"
And then, kena more scolding!
It's absolutely crazy!! It's my brother's wedding and there'll be all these strangers milling about there! -
Die... I think I'd better find a nice guy overseas, and get married overseas. That way, there'll be absolutely no need whatsoever for these scary Chinese wedding dinners!
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there isn't a need whatsoever..
the wedding fiascos are all for the parents..
to me, it's actually selfish for parents to force it on their children if their children don't want it...
the wedding is NOT for the parents.. it's for the children...
and they want the children to be saddled with a pointless debt just when they need the money most?
i've told my folks this before... and i would be willing to walk away and boycott whatever the hell they want to force on us if we decide we don't want it... and they know i'm capable of it..
i still think this whole "face" thing is insanely stupid, moronic and those who fall into the trap, are just following "society" without questioning what the hell they are doing... -
So, per person, got to pau ang pow at least $80 to break even. Sg got tax one or not? $800 nett or what? If his guest, each person pau $100, your brother can make profit. So, no worries. Besides, relatives must pau more.
But wah, now per table $800 ah? Very ex leh. Wu jiak si mi? -
u can go east and west fusion wedding dinnersOriginally posted by Rhonda:Die... I think I'd better find a nice guy overseas, and get married overseas. That way, there'll be absolutely no need whatsoever for these scary Chinese wedding dinners! -
So, Bear..........got interest in "Runaway Bridegroom" ah?
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both same idea and both single, go and get married loh kekeke......
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Originally posted by KiamSngTee:both same idea and both single, go and get married loh kekeke......
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i can be ur bestman!!!! bear and rhonda!!
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and I can be your maid of honour.Originally posted by The man who was death:i can be ur bestman!!!! bear and rhonda!! 
My son can be your ring boy.
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nope... i'm takin' my bride with me if she'll follow and run away from the horrors that are Chinese Wedding Circuses...Originally posted by littlestream:So, Bear..........got interest in "Runaway Bridegroom" ah?
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But what happens if she is into the Chinese wedding fiasco? Like to her, it is a big deal and it is once in a lifetime thing and she wants to be showing off her most beautiful day, beautiful gowns, and now wedding dinners got dancing too, karaoke even.Originally posted by the Bear:nope... i'm takin' my bride with me if she'll follow and run away from the horrors that are Chinese Wedding Circuses... -
Hmm... I'll probably opt for a garden party with a gazebo or marquees, and that's it.Originally posted by The man who was death:u can go east and west fusion wedding dinners
Or, have a small function room in a nice hotel, and have only 50 guests, and that's it.
Or, hold a party at some hotel's large rooftop garden, invite close friends and colleagues, a few relatives, and that will have to suffice.
I've already prepared my arsenal of answers when cornered by the parents!
- "So, we cannot afford a huge thingamadoo of a Chinese wedding dinner! You still want me to get married or not?!"
- "I threaten to elope! And you won't hear from me again, until your grandchild is born!"
- "I'm already pregnant! How to face all the relatives? Besides, the hotel function rooms are all fully booked till nine months later! Then, liao... gotta bring baby along to the xi jiu!"
OK, I'm still coming up with outrageous retorts! It's a fun pasttime!
Always be prepared! And, like the ACS motto goes, "The Best Is Yet To Be!", so, there must be cornier answers that are yet to be thought of! -
well nowsaday unless parents openminded, up to children to decide what they want.. if not.. haizi...
But again depends on what, where and when u guys want to held the dinner.. then best is some parents want to choose liang chen ji ri.. then got to book like one year ahead.. -
well, i guess we start life together in debt..
a friend of mine got married a few years ago... the couple wanted a poolside party, so that people could come as they wanted to, have a GOOD time and remember the day joyously..
the parents messed everything up...Originally posted by littlestream:But what happens if she is into the Chinese wedding fiasco? Like to her, it is a big deal and it is once in a lifetime thing and she wants to be showing off her most beautiful day, beautiful gowns, and now wedding dinners got dancing too, karaoke even. -
you really like ACS hor? kekeke.....Originally posted by Rhonda:Always be prepared! And, like the ACS motto goes, "The Best Is Yet To Be!", so, there must be cornier answers that are yet to be thought of!
/runs away -
Hmmm.......glad to know you will/may compromise. Sometimes, after living your own life for so long, one tends to be unaccommodative. Like, they are so used to their styles and ways that it is hard to assimilate with another person's styles and ways.Originally posted by the Bear:well, i guess we start life together in debt..
I also heard about this couple who spent tens of thousands on a wedding but in the end, divorce after two years. -
ur hubby got qian jiu u??Originally posted by littlestream:Hmmm.......glad to know you will/may compromise. Sometimes, after living your own life for so long, one tends to be unaccommodative. Like, they are so used to their styles and ways that it is hard to assimilate with another person's styles and ways.
I also heard about this couple who spent tens of thousands on a wedding but in the end, divorce after two years. -
one of my classmates' brother was hilarious..
he was in the US... one day he called home and announced to his dad "Dad, I'm married!"
his father did not forgive him because he wanted a huge HUGE fiasco... and he was not having any of that
in the end, all was well when the first grandchild was born -
i think "oh yeah? well, we'll NOT have any wedding thing and live in sin instead"
notice something terrible these days?
they plan and plan their wedding, but few plan their marriage.. -
marriage isn't supposed to be planned, it's supposed to be builtOriginally posted by the Bear:i think "oh yeah? well, we'll NOT have any wedding thing and live in sin instead"
notice something terrible these days?
they plan and plan their wedding, but few plan their marriage.. -
aiya no need overseas ma... just stand proud n say u prefer your own kind of wedding to your mum lo...Originally posted by Rhonda:Die... I think I'd better find a nice guy overseas, and get married overseas. That way, there'll be absolutely no need whatsoever for these scary Chinese wedding dinners! -
not from scratch just after the wedding it ain't...Originally posted by The man who was death:marriage isn't supposed to be planned, it's supposed to be built
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Aiyah, ah death, your mandarin so cheem. Almost didn't get it. Qian jiu means accommodate is it?Originally posted by The man who was death:ur hubby got qian jiu u??
Got lah otherwise how you think we can be together for 25 years??? We are all not angels. I'm sure he has to put up with some of my idosyncracies as well as me, his. I think he appreciates that I am like modern woman in the office but traditional wife at home. In any case, one mountain cannot have two tigers, so I have become the cat. -
ya lah. woah cannot become sick cat leh, dun let him step all over u, must be a tigress sometimesOriginally posted by littlestream:Aiyah, ah death, your mandarin so cheem. Almost didn't get it. Qian jiu means accommodate is it?
Got lah otherwise how you think we can be together for 25 years??? We are all not angels. I'm sure he has to put up with some of my idosyncracies as well as me, his. I think he appreciates that I am like modern woman in the office but traditional wife at home. In any case, one mountain cannot have two tigers, so I have become the cat.