Traditional Chinese Wedding Dinner Horrors!!
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...Originally posted by edLow:if i'm not wrg. malay dinner is onli eat curry chicken lor.... n maybe a few more dish.. not like chinese dinner where u get 8 dish or more dinner menu... and every dish offer in the menu doesnt come cheap..
u might be rite bout the status orientated traditonal... but u pay for wat u eat too. the malays dinner.. i think u bao $10 also too much liao.
I think it's not the amount to defray the cost but the wish to help the newly weds.
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if really so hard up on cash.. just say u working on tat day and cant attend his/her dinner.Originally posted by shinta:think if can break even for the dinner part is very good le...
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NOT TRUE!Originally posted by edLow:even if everyone not doing well now.. when come to dinner.. ppls will still give a market rate ang pow...
i take home less than 600 becos i'm a NSF and my whole pltn are giving my pltn mate the standard rate ang pow for his dinner.
yes we might not be extreme generous with the amount we give.. but we dont make him suffer a lose...
I ever spoke to an Indian colleague who was invited to a Chinese colleague's wedding dinner at a posh restaurant right in the heart of Orchard Rd.
Her ang pow was...
S$20!!!
I was
!!!!
So, you just can't assume that everyone will be generous, and you will defray the costs with the ang pow's.
And, one more question, does this mean that those who have financial constraints and won't be able to afford a big ang pow that's 'enough' to cover the cost of the dinner per pax will not be welcomed?
When the issue harpers so much on the monetary bit, that's when I think that the entire spirit of the wedding dinner is lost.
Live within your means, celebrate within your means. I do not wish to go into debt holding some fakey, lavish Chinese dinner, just so I got 'mian4 zi3'!
Even if I were to marry someone rich and had the money, I'd probably do something like rent the entire Alkaff Mansion and the gardens surrounding it, put up marquees (and make sure there's those kewl mist-fans to keep things cool) and organise free transport from designated pick-up points so even those without cars need not fret. And then, hold a feast from noon till the wee hours of the morn!
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The father-in-law wanted to see whether the daughter-in-law has enough assets to feed the children ma..Originally posted by Deportivo:still waiting for people to tell us about it. From hearsay, i heard that it did happened once. While groom, bride and family members were walking from tabe to table to take pictures, the father-in-law accidentally stepped on the train of the bride's gown. The bride continued to walk forward, and the rest is history.
nose-bleed moment of the night.
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This is a very good way of looking at it.Originally posted by Nelstar:...
I think it's not the amount to defray the cost but the wish to help the newly weds.
But honestly though, how many would actually think that way? -
i think so. either tube, or corset gowns.Originally posted by shinta:what happened?
she wore tube ar? -
Now everyone thinks of defraying the cost le..Originally posted by Rhonda:This is a very good way of looking at it.
But honestly though, how many would actually think that way? -
.... the food is not that cheap.Originally posted by edLow:... but u pay for wat u eat too. the malays dinner.. i think u bao $10 also too much liao.
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Morale of the story : Leave the loooooooooong looooooooong trains to the Princesses!Originally posted by Deportivo:i think so. either tube, or corset gowns.
Trains looks lovely when the bride's walking down the aisle in, say, a Church wedding.
But after that, it might be wiser to remove the train! Otherwise, can cause quite a few accidents of people stumbling on the train! 
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You can't expect an indian colleague to know a ridiculous market rate for Chinese Wedding.Originally posted by Rhonda:NOT TRUE!
I ever spoke to an Indian colleague who was invited to a Chinese colleague's wedding dinner at a posh restaurant right in the heart of Orchard Rd.
Her ang pow was...
S$20!!!
I was !!!!
So, you just can't assume that everyone will be generous, and you will defray the costs with the ang pow's.
And, one more question, does this mean that those who have financial constraints and won't be able to afford a big ang pow that's 'enough' to cover the cost of the dinner per pax will not be welcomed?
When the issue harpers so much on the monetary bit, that's when I think that the entire spirit of the wedding dinner is lost.
Live within your means, celebrate within your means. I do not wish to go into debt holding some fakey, lavish Chinese dinner, just so I got 'mian4 zi3'!
Even if I were to marry someone rich and had the money, I'd probably do something like rent the entire Alkaff Mansion and the gardens surrounding it, put up marquees (and make sure there's those kewl mist-fans to keep things cool) and organise free transport from designated pick-up points so even those without cars need not fret. And then, hold a feast from noon till the wee hours of the morn!
In fact, the person should be happy that the indian colleague decided to turn up and feast even though all the dishes were Chinese cuisines. -
like wat u said. she a .... must watch our words.. sorry if i offended u. one of my pltn mate is getting married.. and there this guy whom assume tat the dinner is treated free.. and when he noe need to give ang pow.. he told my frd tat he not attending...Originally posted by Rhonda:NOT TRUE!
I ever spoke to an Indian colleague who was invited to a Chinese colleague's wedding dinner at a posh restaurant right in the heart of Orchard Rd.
Her ang pow was...
S$20!!!
I was !!!!
So, you just can't assume that everyone will be generous, and you will defray the costs with the ang pow's.
And, one more question, does this mean that those who have financial constraints and won't be able to afford a big ang pow that's 'enough' to cover the cost of the dinner per pax will not be welcomed?
When the issue harpers so much on the monetary bit, that's when I think that the entire spirit of the wedding dinner is lost.
Live within your means, celebrate within your means. I do not wish to go into debt holding some fakey, lavish Chinese dinner, just so I got 'mian4 zi3'!
Even if I were to marry someone rich and had the money, I'd probably do something like rent the entire Alkaff Mansion and the gardens surrounding it, put up marquees (and make sure there's those kewl mist-fans to keep things cool) and organise free transport from designated pick-up points so even those without cars need not fret. And then, hold a feast from noon till the wee hours of the morn!
well, maybe he is ignorance bout of chinese custom.. maybe he is having finical diffuclties.. (chasing a french whom doesnt give a damn to him).
personally... i dont intend to hold a dinner. perhaps a buffet style event will be nice where everyone can gather together... dinner isnt a thing bout showing face.. but a thing bout showing scene.
if wan cheap n good, conduct ur dinner in JB lor. hahaha -
OK, see, now you're giving us a perfect example of people being money-orientated when attending wedding dinners, wanting to pay only for what the spread is 'worth', rather than giving money because you want to help the newlyweds.Originally posted by edLow:if i'm not wrg. malay dinner is onli eat curry chicken lor.... n maybe a few more dish.. not like chinese dinner where u get 8 dish or more dinner menu... and every dish offer in the menu doesnt come cheap..
u might be rite bout the status orientated traditonal... but u pay for wat u eat too. the malays dinner.. i think u bao $10 also too much liao.
I rest my case! -
doesnt the bro's task n sis's task of the groom n bride consider helping out already?Originally posted by Nelstar:...
I think it's not the amount to defray the cost but the wish to help the newly weds.
seriously.. when come to help out.. we must look at our culture too. the malays maybe help out in preparation of location n food.
but the chinese do also help out wat. follow the groom to fetch the bride and the overcome the stupid stunt done by the bride's sister.
helping out in some preparation works... taking photo on the dinner? all these not helping out? it might doesnt seem a lot of works.. but it still help. -
Not true!Originally posted by Nelstar:You can't expect an indian colleague to know a ridiculous market rate for Chinese Wedding.
In fact, the person should be happy that the indian colleague decided to turn up and feast even though all the dishes were Chinese cuisines.
We don't live in an isolated society! When I get invited to a Malay or Indian colleague's party or what-not, I'll always ask other Malay / Indian colleagues what's the 'norm', what to expect, what's considered 'suitable' gifts, etc.
In Singapore, all we have to do, is turn to a friend / colleague of the other races, and just ask! -
i nvr attend one.. but frm wat i noe. is just some simple dishs..Originally posted by choco B:.... the food is not that cheap.
correct me if i'm wrg. tks -
Actually, sometimes, my budget gets really really tight, almost like a corset squeezing the life outta me!
And in such occasions, when and if I get a dinner invitation, it causes me more grief than anything. As a friend, I would be happy for them, but the thought of forking out the money I can ill-afford just to attend the dinner, leaves me in cold sweat.
Things like that, they DO happen. -
hmm.. we're talkin from the bride n groom's perspective.Originally posted by edLow:if really so hard up on cash.. just say u working on tat day and cant attend his/her dinner. -
Uh huh... and how many invited Singaporean guests would ACTUALLY turn up, you think?Originally posted by edLow:if wan cheap n good, conduct ur dinner in JB lor. hahaha -
gives you a cleavage, which is a good thing.Originally posted by Rhonda:Actually, sometimes, my budget gets really really tight, almost like a corset squeezing the life outta me! -
I think simple or otherwise, you're not attending a wedding dinner to just pay for the cost of the dishes alone.Originally posted by edLow:i nvr attend one.. but frm wat i noe. is just some simple dishs..
correct me if i'm wrg. tks
Your ang pow is actually meant as a gift to the bride and groom. It's not like paying a dinner bill like that! -
I don't think it's nice to give what others think you should give.Originally posted by Rhonda:Not true!
We don't live in an isolated society! When I get invited to a Malay or Indian colleague's party or what-not, I'll always ask other Malay / Indian colleagues what's the 'norm', what to expect, what's considered 'suitable' gifts, etc.
In Singapore, all we have to do, is turn to a friend / colleague of the other races, and just ask!
I think that makes the idea of giving wrong. -
AAAaaaahhh... but I don't need to resort to that contraption to have a cleavage!! hahahahahahahaha!!!Originally posted by Deportivo:gives you a cleavage, which is a good thing.
OK, back to the topic at hand... things are getting a tad... sleazy in here now! -
it's a fact wat.. so lets say are u willing to give a 100 bucks ang pow to ur malay frd's dinner? no link rite...Originally posted by Rhonda:OK, see, now you're giving us a perfect example of people being money-orientated when attending wedding dinners, wanting to pay only for what the spread is 'worth', rather than giving money because you want to help the newlyweds.
I rest my case!
and when u decided to help ur frd by giving a bigger ang pow (200 bucks) for a chinese dinner. u end up cursing n swear like others bout being ex$, no money n etc.. isnt it the same.. so why dont we just give an ang pow tat is within our limit and doesnt make ur frd suffer a huge lose for the dinner.
ex: if u noe it cost bout 800 per table.. each table can seat 10 ppls. divide down. is bout $80 per person..
- if u are extremely tight with ur wallet.. maybe u just tell ur frd early tat u cant attend becos of work commitment and maybe visit them on another day with some small gifts.
- if u are doing fine n abit tight with ur wallet.. maybe u just give a 80 or 88 angpow?
- if u are doing fine and extremely generous with ur wallet. u can give how much u wan. -
there are ppls whom simply doesnt ask.. arent approachable..Originally posted by Rhonda:Not true!
We don't live in an isolated society! When I get invited to a Malay or Indian colleague's party or what-not, I'll always ask other Malay / Indian colleagues what's the 'norm', what to expect, what's considered 'suitable' gifts, etc.
In Singapore, all we have to do, is turn to a friend / colleague of the other races, and just ask! -
Va va voom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Originally posted by Rhonda:AAAaaaahhh... but I don't need to resort to that contraption to have a cleavage!! hahahahahahahaha!!!
OK, back to the topic at hand... things are getting a tad... sleazy in here now!