Traditional Chinese Wedding Dinner Horrors!!
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To reiterate my desire.Originally posted by Nelstar:Like I mentioned before, if I have the ability, then I hold wedding dinner and I'll make sure I put the words in bold "Please do not give red packets, my fengshui teacher said I'll be cursed for life if I accept on my wedding dinner red packets."
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my wife's boobs were safety kept in the gown that night.Originally posted by Rhonda:Well, how about you tell us ... about your own bride, no less!!
ofcourse i ravaged it a few hours later.
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Well, it's a good thing we can host and be a guest according to our own principles and methodsOriginally posted by Nelstar:There's a fine point between reading and understand. The red packet should never be about how much the bill of the table is. And that's the wrong mentality from some crazy folks and our edlow is telling me, it's the right thing to do.
The custom was practised wrongly, and here he embodies the I pay for the bill notion. And that fact that you must pay exactly or more for the bill was wrong already. Our dear fellow kept harping if you can't pay equivalent you shouldn't turn up and such things.
Come on, if you're going to have a wedding dinner and if you can afford it without the defraying from the guests, would you want a friend to be put off by the price tag?
And if you can't have a wedding dinner without the defraying by the guests, WHY are you making it so difficult for everyone? -
Ok, you don't have to tell the whole world you didn't get some on your wedding night.Originally posted by Deportivo:my wife's boobs were safety kept in the gown that night.
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Ooops.Originally posted by Deportivo:my wife's boobs were safety kept in the gown that night.
ofcourse i ravaged it a few hours later.
The whole world also doesn't need to know you had too much that night.
But some people in Bar maybe interested.
Just maybe. -
Originally posted by Deportivo:my wife's boobs were safety kept in the gown that night.
ofcourse i ravaged it a few hours later. -
they only interested in one night stands.Originally posted by charlize:Ooops.
The whole world also doesn't need to know you had too much that night.
But some people in Bar maybe interested.
Just maybe. -
yes.. some might be already married here....
i noe many of u dont wan to hold a dinner. but it's not within choice if ur parents or ur in-laws insist to hav one becos of the face probs.
just put urself in the shoe of the couple whom is force to hold a dinner at an average resturant.
u might be fine with the ang pow ur frds gave u.. and if let say u have 10 tables for ur frds of all status and all of them all surprise u with an amt and cause u to end up with a huge debt. it's fine... cos it ur wedding and u lan lan hav no choice becos it's ur parent whom insist to have one.
so who is the one whom suffer in the end? the couple rite? most of u would agree rite?
if tat the case.. why cant we (as frds) attend the dinner by doing some research bout how the dinner is host and try to share tat burden with ur frds by giving an ang pow which wont allow him/her to chalk up a debt becos of the dinner.
u guys might say there are less fortunate ppls in the society. yes... if they really cant afford to give u .. it's okay becos we noe of their finicial status. and there are some whom are really so desperate with their cash tat they seriously cant afford anything luxury like a nice dinner.
and wat about those whom are doing well and they simply just give any amt as their well-wish for u n ur partner?
at the end of the day... yes dinner cost money. but wat in sg doesnt cost any money unless we can survive by consuming air lor. and since we are frds of the couple.. why cant we just give a generous ang pow within our limit for our frds. yes it's the money talk again.
okay.. perhaps my language isnt good and many might mis-understand me. since if u or ur frd is holding a dinner. i believe many here if ur best frd is getting married and invited over to their dinner... as a best frds of them, even if u are really desperate with ur wallet. u will still find ways n means to attend the dinner becos ur best frd is getting married and u wan to share this joyful occasion with them and their families.
if u all still find my comments as a money orientated stuffs. so be it lah. i cant be bother anymore. i'm one whom dont think there a need for a dinner.. but my parents told me before tat they would insist to hav one. mind, i've relatives n my parents hav frds in malaysia and they expect me to hold dinner at 2 place next time. i hav nobody to blame if i end up with a big debt becos of getting married. -
I always believe the wrong concept was too widely spread and became contagious. The idea of spreading the mass damage for the face value to the guests is ugly.Originally posted by choco B:Well, it's a good thing we can host and be a guest according to our own principles and methods
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Can don't go r(A) or not?Originally posted by Deportivo:my wife's boobs were safety kept in the gown that night.
ofcourse i ravaged it a few hours later.
We got kids reading the forums u know? -
In the first place, if you cant climb a tree, don't do it because someone asked you to.Originally posted by edLow:yes.. some might be already married here....
i noe many of u dont wan to hold a dinner. but it's not within choice if ur parents or ur in-laws insist to hav one becos of the face probs.
just put urself in the shoe of the couple whom is force to hold a dinner at an average resturant.
u might be fine with the ang pow ur frds gave u.. and if let say u have 10 tables for ur frds of all status and all of them all surprise u with an amt and cause u to end up with a huge debt. it's fine... cos it ur wedding and u lan lan hav no choice becos it's ur parent whom insist to have one.
so who is the one whom suffer in the end? the couple rite? most of u would agree rite?
if tat the case.. why cant we (as frds) attend the dinner by doing some research bout how the dinner is host and try to share tat burden with ur frds by giving an ang pow which wont allow him/her to chalk up a debt becos of the dinner.
u guys might say there are less fortunate ppls in the society. yes... if they really cant afford to give u .. it's okay becos we noe of their finicial status. and there are some whom are really so desperate with their cash tat they seriously cant afford anything luxury like a nice dinner.
and wat about those whom are doing well and they simply just give any amt as their well-wish for u n ur partner?
at the end of the day... yes dinner cost money. but wat in sg doesnt cost any money unless we can survive by consuming air lor. and since we are frds of the couple.. why cant we just give a generous ang pow within our limit for our frds. yes it's the money talk again.
okay.. perhaps my language isnt good and many might mis-understand me. since if u or ur frd is holding a dinner. i believe many here if ur best frd is getting married and invited over to their dinner... as a best frds of them, even if u are really desperate with ur wallet. u will still find ways n means to attend the dinner becos ur best frd is getting married and u wan to share this joyful occasion with them and their families.
if u all still find my comments as a money orientated stuffs. so be it lah. i cant be bother anymore. i'm one whom dont think there a need for a dinner.. but my parents told me before tat they would insist to hav one. mind, i've relatives n my parents hav frds in malaysia and they expect me to hold dinner at 2 place next time. i hav nobody to blame if i end up with a big debt becos of getting married.
When you fall like an idiot, don't blame the others for watching you become a monkey. -
The nonsense of 'You cant marry my girl if you dont give XYZ' is a nonsense in our society.
After 21, the parents got no call in their marriage, their whatsoever. -
If you're worried about unused tables or no-show guests , you can minimise them by being very stringent in your RSVPs.
Spread the word about the dinner early and ask guests to keep the date free. Send out invitations early. About 2-3 weeks before dinner, call guests to confirm attendance. Adjust guest list accordingly. This will minimise the unused tables.
Keep in mind your hotel will also allow for some changes in # of tables. Usually, you commit to the fewer number of tables with the option of increased capacity, and increase if necessary at a later date when your guest list is more firmed up, because decreasing pax past a certain % of guests may incur some penalty - check the hotel contract. Also, hotel usually gives 2 extra tables on the night for unexpected guests.
If you expect the bulk of guests to be your mom's contacts, and you expect the chances of no-show to be high there too ... then it's best to remind her to do her RSVPs properly.Originally posted by BufPuf:although he told me my mum to invite as much as he wan..i also heart pain for him
image really 45 tables..end up only fill up 30+ tables.. -
spot on.Originally posted by choco B:If you're worried about unused tables or no-show guests , you can minimise them by being very stringent in your RSVPs.
Spread the word about the dinner early and ask guests to keep the date free. Send out invitations early. About 2-3 weeks before dinner, call guests to confirm attendance. Adjust guest list accordingly. This will minimise the unused tables.
Keep in mind your hotel will also allow for some changes in # of tables. Usually, you commit to the fewer number of tables with the option of increased capacity, and increase if necessary at a later date when your guest list is more firmed up, because decreasing pax past a certain % of guests may incur some penalty - check the hotel contract. Also, hotel usually gives 2 extra tables on the night for unexpected guests.
If you expect the bulk of guests to be your mom's contacts, and you expect the chances of no-show to be high there too ... then it's best to remind her to do her RSVPs properly. -
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what's rsvp? -
répondez s'il vous plaît = please replyOriginally posted by shinta:qn!
what's rsvp? -
waaaaaaaaahhhhOriginally posted by Deportivo:répondez s'il vous plaît = please reply
kkz =D
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Precisely why I say don't marry an Asian if you can help it. They aren't liberal enough.Originally posted by Nelstar:The nonsense of 'You cant marry my girl if you dont give XYZ' is a nonsense in our society.
After 21, the parents got no call in their marriage, their whatsoever. 
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girls, pls dun marry iveco.Originally posted by iveco:Precisely why I say don't marry an Asian if you can help it. They aren't liberal enough. -
That's the problem with societal norms.
The good thing is, our generation (ok la this is term quite hard to define also ) is placing less value in the old-fashioned notions of weddings.Originally posted by Nelstar:I always believe the wrong concept was too widely spread and became contagious. The idea of spreading the mass damage for the face value to the guests is ugly. -
First, list the size of the entire family or the people you'll be inviting.
Then, call to conclude how many will be turning up.
In-laws will do their own job of friends/relatives tables. And Couple their job of friends/colleagues.
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I say, don't listen to iveco. He got no brains to match the words coming out of his mouth.Originally posted by iveco:Precisely why I say don't marry an Asian if you can help it. They aren't liberal enough. -
Originally posted by Nelstar:I say, don't listen to iveco. He got no brains to match the words coming out of his mouth.
Out of Point:
Nellie, later could u reach say, around 5pm?
>.< need the envelopes ar... -
WA, i visiting grandpa leh...Originally posted by shinta:
Out of Point:
Nellie, later could u reach say, around 5pm?
>.< need the envelopes ar...
i try lor..
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before 5.45 den...Originally posted by Nelstar:WA, i visiting grandpa leh...
i try lor..
to rhonda.. nah here's ur thread again