I can't take it anymore.....he's just a mother f@#ker....
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I've had numerous talks with her...all peaceful talks cos i'm not a confrontational person. I've never questiond her about the incident...Originally posted by zheshi:... for this case u are at the losing end.. working together always have the chance to meet and chatxx...
i advice u have a talk with your gf.. and than go and have a talk with the other guy... or make it as ugly as possible.. if everything turn sour. mostly your gf will side with u ba.
But see if u want do it or not lo. cuase it a bit of hmm ungentleman.
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YOu can confront the guy, you know. There is no rule saying that you cannot do that. If I were you, I will lor.
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but when you confront the guy,his gf will be pressed into an emotional state in which she's most fragile..And if that guy who has soo much free time, sure try very hard to get close to her during that period of time..So overall wrong option.. Want to do people,make it a clean job..Leave no traces behind..
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Why does this thing called "LOVE TRIANGLE" that is constantly giving us alot of headaches, pains & whatever SHIT we are going thru.....
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I prefer Circle,so can go around switching partners..Originally posted by larrenV2.003:Why does this thing called "LOVE TRIANGLE" that is constantly giving us alot of headaches, pains & whatever SHIT we are going thru..... 
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Liew another casanova for a young boy...tsk tsk....Originally posted by stellazio:I prefer Circle,so can go around switching partners.. 
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I would have favoured this option if i had no gfOriginally posted by stellazio:I prefer Circle,so can go around switching partners..
do depending on what the outcome of this incident is i might have to join you
Or should i be
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Hey err dun feel bad if things come worst to worst like she dun want u anymore...cuz all i know is tht being wishy washy in r/s can hurt all ppl in your relationship.Originally posted by kAdEn:I would have favoured this option if i had no gf
do depending on what the outcome of this incident is i might have to join you
Or should i be
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yah i know. Told her that it's actually doing more damage to me and her then him. Cause he's not the one who's gona get hurt....Originally posted by larrenV2.003:Hey err dun feel bad if things come worst to worst like she dun want u anymore...cuz all i know is tht being wishy washy in r/s can hurt all ppl in your relationship.
If it have to end, I'll prob just be depress about it for a while, bury myself in more work and then join stellazio in the circle r/s! -
Welcome to the prestigious singlehood club where you lead a carefree life with no restrictions..Darn i should be helping you instead of promoting singlehood..No don't think about it,cause sometimes you will feel very lonely..Originally posted by kAdEn:I would have favoured this option if i had no gf
do depending on what the outcome of this incident is i might have to join you
Or should i be
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Join his casanova circle...Originally posted by kAdEn:yah i know. Told her that it's actually doing more damage to me and her then him. Cause he's not the one who's gona get hurt....
If it have to end, I'll prob just be depress about it for a while, bury myself in more work and then join stellazio in the circle r/s! haha!
Okay lah let this broken hearted 5 times uncle here wish u all the best of luck..
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I should love all in my sight.."Make Love Not War"..Originally posted by larrenV2.003:Liew another casanova for a young boy...tsk tsk.... -
Come join the circle..Originally posted by larrenV2.003:Join his casanova circle... haha!
Okay lah let this broken hearted 5 times uncle here wish u all the best of luck.. -
Originally posted by stellazio:I should love all in my sight.."Make Love Not War"..
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On WHAT grounds?Originally posted by Honeybunz:YOu can confront the guy, you know. There is no rule saying that you cannot do that. If I were you, I will lor.
He can/may turn around and say "your girlfriend came to me" ...... or
"you were too busy and not doing your "job" as her boyfriend. She can still have a choice you know?".
But seriously, threadstarter........the fact that your girlfriend is in a dilemma spells trouble already. As a female myself, I wouldn't give myself that option. That is, having to choose between two men. If someone is in that position, be it male or female, then obviously there is a crack in the relationship.
I agree with rainee first para. In fact, the minute I smell something not right, I walk away from trouble. Nip in the bud, as they say. Don't start.
Relationship can be beautiful and can be painful. Both at the same time or at different time.
You both will have to talk it out. Dig deep where the problem is. You admitted that you neglected her which I wonder if you have begin to take her for granted. That is a grave mistake we make, at one point or another. It can be a poison or disease in a relationship. If you don't check it, one day the relationship will just die a natural death.
Anyways, I wish you well and good luck in your salvage. Hopefully that 7-8 years of togetherness is strong enough to bring you both back together. Sometimes, a little "incident" jolts one up and when awaken, the relationship can be more beautiful and lasting. It is one of those through thick and thin and gone through one of life's challenges. Every obstacles when handled carefully strengthens the relationship.
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Hahaha...
Making love is hardly what you're after.
you're after having sex more like it! -
I'm working for U.N secretly..World Peace through unification...Originally posted by larrenV2.003: 
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Thanks! I hardly ever see anyone reply msgs, other than myself sometimes, in such details anymore. Feel so touched....Originally posted by littlestream:On WHAT grounds?
He can/may turn around and say "your girlfriend came to me" ...... or
"you were too busy and not doing your "job" as her boyfriend. She can still have a choice you know?".
But seriously, threadstarter........the fact that your girlfriend is in a dilemma spells trouble already. As a female myself, I wouldn't give myself that option. That is, having to choose between two men. If someone is in that position, be it male or female, then obviously there is a crack in the relationship.
I agree with rainee first para. In fact, the minute I smell something not right, I walk away from trouble. Nip in the bud, as they say. Don't start.
Relationship can be beautiful and can be painful. Both at the same time or at different time.
You both will have to talk it out. Dig deep where the problem is. You admitted that you neglected her which I wonder if you have begin to take her for granted. That is a grave mistake we make, at one point or another. It can be a poison or disease in a relationship. If you don't check it, one day the relationship will just die a natural death.
Anyways, I wish you well and good luck in your salvage. Hopefully that 7-8 years of togetherness is strong enough to bring you both back together. Sometimes, a little "incident" jolts one up and when awaken, the relationship can be more beautiful and lasting. It is one of those through thick and thin and gone through one of life's challenges. Every obstacles when handled carefully strengthens the relationship.
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She's a mother,so good advises are plenty..Originally posted by kAdEn:Thanks! I hardly ever see anyone reply msgs, other than myself sometimes, in such details anymore. Feel so touched.... -
Frankly speaking...i dun think what's wrong with that guy going after your gf...note...she's your GF...not your wife...whether or not he got ask your gf for a chance or not is not really an issue...if your gf loves u so much..where can tat guy stands?Originally posted by kAdEn:Sorry about my language...
I just wanted to find some place to talk about my frustrations...
how would you feel if another guy comes for your girl when he already knows that she has a bf?! And that ass has the cheek to ask her for a chance!
Taking full advantage of the knowledge that i've been freaking busy at work for the last 6 mths! My f@uKing GOD! -
1stly, i strongly think that, that guy is a jerk... but i think that ur r/s had dragged on for too long w/o progress, thats why ur gf had a change of heart or a dying of passion. anyway i think that her heart is no longer with you. she still stays with u because of her commitment to you, sadly, not much feelings involved here.
i feel sry for you pal... i know you must be in pain... but if she leaves u in the end, i know that she would be the one who lose out... coz she left a man who really loves her. recently i saw this quote "she lost someone who loves her, she should be sad. you lost someone who doesnt love you, you should be happy." -
Actually, i dun find that confronting the guy is a good solution.
There are all sorts of guys ard lah.. Especially if your gf is attractive, then there will be many 'houseflies' ard her. So in a way, it shows that your 'yan guang' is good.
Ultimately, the decision lies with the gal.
I think you should have faith in your gf lah. In the meantime, spend more time with her and let her understand what you have been busy with. (and bluff/ hong3 her a bit by saying that.... you're working hard so that you can make more money she can have a comfortable life in future, etc.. all those bullSh!t stuff gals like to hear.. ) -
I also hardly ever write until so much. I was shocked to see the final text myself.Originally posted by kAdEn:Thanks! I hardly ever see anyone reply msgs, other than myself sometimes, in such details anymore. Feel so touched....
Well, to reinforce, you both are young (I presume). You both will meet more/new people, friends, colleagues, blah, blah. There will be/may be temptations but if there is NO commitment or there is problems in the relationship, it is so easy to give an excuse to sway. Our partners are after all, not angels. And neither are we.
One thing I tell my husband is, he has to give me the chance to right a wrong so if he is unhappy with either me or an issue, he has to speak up. Likewise, I do the same which pai seh, sometimes can be classified as nagging.
If I can be of any encouragement to you at all, I have been with my husband for 25 years and am still in love with him. They were not all smooth sailing but like I said, with each hurdle we crossed, we bond stronger.
Again, good luck and please hor.......don't join stellazio in his circles. I know he was joking. Thought I'll take a ride on the bandwagon too. It is after all a boring Thursday afternoon. *yawnz* -
Empty promises??? Liar??? It doesn't make much diff between him n that guy then....Originally posted by k4korny:Actually, i dun find that confronting the guy is a good solution.
There are all sorts of guys ard lah.. Especially if your gf is attractive, then there will be many 'houseflies' ard her. So in a way, it shows that your 'yan guang' is good.
Ultimately, the decision lies with the gal.
I think you should have faith in your gf lah. In the meantime, spend more time with her and let her understand what you have been busy with. (and bluff/ hong3 her a bit by saying that.... you're working hard so that you can make more money she can have a comfortable life in future, etc.. all those bullSh!t stuff gals like to hear.. ) -
Heed the words from someone who is experienced.. Orh corny quotes..I working hard to save money for our wedding..Originally posted by k4korny:Actually, i dun find that confronting the guy is a good solution.
There are all sorts of guys ard lah.. Especially if your gf is attractive, then there will be many 'houseflies' ard her. So in a way, it shows that your 'yan guang' is good.
Ultimately, the decision lies with the gal.
I think you should have faith in your gf lah. In the meantime, spend more time with her and let her understand what you have been busy with. (and bluff/ hong3 her a bit by saying that.... you're working hard so that you can make more money she can have a comfortable life in future, etc.. all those bullSh!t stuff gals like to hear.. )