Maybe part of loving is learning to let go....
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i also know. but not all codes supported by blog right?Originally posted by The man who was death:just search for html codes lah
u so li hai, u teach me la.
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It would be deceiving ourselves if we coax ourselves in believing ain't having any wrenching heartache. Esp if it's an cohabitated couple.
Imagine lazying on the familar sofa watching the same program, taking meals maybe from the same plate, using the same toiletries and discussion while using PC together ? And suddenly everything collapse, and finding yourself sitting alone in the living room, kitchen and infront of the pc tears juz rolling down.
It's never really easy to walk out and away from heartaches.
Never try hard to forget coz it's only made u wanna remember even more.
And very much agreed with Rhonda, if we truely love that someone let him / her go. Seeing them smile is better off when both of us frown in a relationship. It hurt us even more to do so.
Love is non selfish, its self scarificing...
Sad to say some takes months to recover from heartaches, some took years and some never really recover at all.
But also remember, dn't stare at an closed door for long.
Cheers
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Are you describing my predicament? Hai~Originally posted by subarugal:It would be deceiving ourselves if we coax ourselves in believing ain't having any wrenching heartache. Esp if it's an cohabitated couple.
Imagine lazying on the familar sofa watching the same program, taking meals maybe from the same plate, using the same toiletries and discussion while using PC together ? .
Cheers
it's really difficult when everywhere you turn, everywhere you look, it reminds you of the times you had and shared.... -
Well, true. If you have cohabited, or if you have been intimate ( and I don't mean just in the sexual sense... emotional intimacy can be more binding, in my opinion, esp if you're a pretty private person), it is much harder to forget.
Or, if you achieved a lot of first's together, like, first person you kissed, first person you wanted to marry, etc.
But then, ultimately, one has to face the fact that the person's time in your life is now over. Maybe, he/she was meant to walk just part of your life's journey with you, but someone else will take over the baton and walk the remaining rest of your life with you.
Different people enter our lives at different times to teach us the lessons we perhaps needed to learn. And then, it's time for the next phase.
Who knows, if we had ngeah ngeah pushed that relationship forward, it would have ended really nastily, with a divorce and bitterness on both sides. Better to end it nicely, right? Such things are unforeseen so no matter how much it hurts, it's better to acknowledge that your combined fate ends here, it was sweet whilst it lasted, but there's something better for you up ahead, and then, prepare to mourn, get over your loss gradually, and be ready to embrace that better someone and the better future.
If you keep carrying your carcasses of loves lost, you will never have space in your heart for another.
If you keep focusing on the pain and hurts of your lost relationship, you will be blind to the intended one, even if he/she were to stand right in front of you.
The real tragedy is not the breakup... it's not seeing, not cherishing the one who is really meant for you and letting him/her get out of your sight and out of your life, all because you're still so besotted with the past lover, with an ideal that won't stand up to harsh reality. THAT is the real tragedy! -
For me, just hope to find my MR Subarugal.Originally posted by Rhonda:If you keep carrying your carcasses of loves lost, you will never have space in your heart for another.
If you keep focusing on the pain and hurts of your lost relationship, you will be blind to the intended one, even if he/she were to stand right in front of you.
The real tragedy is not the breakup... it's not seeing, not cherishing the one who is really meant for you and letting him/her get out of your sight and out of your life, all because you're still so besotted with the past lover, with an ideal that won't stand up to harsh reality. THAT is the real tragedy!
Coz i am looking not for a boyfriend but on a hubby to love me.
And sharing the same thick and thin.
Thru sickness too..
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Tell you a very touching story, subarugal...Originally posted by subarugal:For me, just hope to find my MR Subarugal.
Coz i am looking not for a boyfriend but on a hubby to love me.
And sharing the same thick and thin.
Thru sickness too..
I once had an ex who loved me so much, when I got drunk and threw up on myself,
, he cleaned me up.
If a guy loves you THAT much, to clean up your vomit and all that, now, he really really really loves you.
That's one reason why I don't get myself drunk these days... scared I'll throw up on myself again!
Sadly, if that happens, this time round, there'll be no one to help clean me up.
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Tsk...i really don't know what to say esp when i'm feeling exactly what was posted.Originally posted by Rhonda:Tell you a very touching story, subarugal...
I once had an ex who loved me so much, when I got drunk and threw up on myself, , he cleaned me up.
If a guy loves you THAT much, to clean up your vomit and all that, now, he really really really loves you.
That's one reason why I don't get myself drunk these days... scared I'll throw up on myself again!
Sadly, if that happens, this time round, there'll be no one to help clean me up.
Terrible.
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Eh... what is terrible? Your post is way too vague!Originally posted by M©+square:Tsk...i really don't know what to say esp when i'm feeling exactly what was posted.
Terrible.
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I felt terrible reading your post la.Originally posted by Rhonda:Eh... what is terrible? Your post is way too vague!
Terrible - lost, tinge of hope and sadness mixed together.
cheers
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Whoa, sorry to hear that, Kaden.
In your last thread about your relationship, the guys in Club 30 provided a lot of interesting and important thoughts and pieces of advice. Those would be good things to keep in mind for your next relationship.
Hang in there, and when you're ready, move on!
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yup, when a man or lady willing to clean up the mess for u.Originally posted by Rhonda:Tell you a very touching story, subarugal...
I once had an ex who loved me so much, when I got drunk and threw up on myself, , he cleaned me up.
If a guy loves you THAT much, to clean up your vomit and all that, now, he really really really loves you.
That's one reason why I don't get myself drunk these days... scared I'll throw up on myself again!
Sadly, if that happens, this time round, there'll be no one to help clean me up.
Could really show how much we/ they mean to us at that moment.
humh...
and i did wash up some soiled garments for ex bf when he is sicked.
But .. but.. anyway it's all the past.. Dnt worry Rhonda..
We will find our love And i just know somewhere The Lord is listening to our prayers..
As for me i met a man who love me as much, but it's just right man at the wrong place and time
And surprise this man is half my age. Well this live up the true of love has no age barriers...
I am a lousy drinker so seldom you guys will see my drunk.
hee... i am a non smoker cum drinker but i am a great dancer
Me just love nice music n dance to the rythems..
That's was the only moments where i am lost in my world
But now just hardly club anymore.. maybe i am yearning to settle down.. -
when one door closes, another opens!
Congrats to your new found freedom! -
Am i suppose to say thanx?Originally posted by ilovemyrolex:when one door closes, another opens!
Congrats to your new found freedom!
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Alway think on the positive side
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i feel the same wif u...Originally posted by M©+square:I felt terrible reading your post la.
Terrible - lost, tinge of hope and sadness mixed together.
cheers 
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Whilst that rings true, you'll still need a period of grieving for your loss and then, a period of solitude before you gain acceptance and are ready to move on.Originally posted by ilovemyrolex:when one door closes, another opens!
Congrats to your new found freedom!
Not that easy, really. -
in time you will... especially when you find your next true love...
hoho!Originally posted by kAdEn:Am i suppose to say thanx?
Hoho...