Your Model Growing-Old-Together Couple
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Do you have a good role model in your parents? Do they grow old together and are still lovey-dovey and very much in love? What do you admire about their relationship? What do you hope to have in your own relationship that you see in theirs?
Or, if it's not your own parents' relationship that you think is your 'model', do you know of any couple whom you admire? Why?
Let's keep this space in honour of those who live together, 'till death do they part', and make a good journey of it!
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my next door neighbour...celebrated... err.. emerald? gold? anniversary.. 60years of marriage I think
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I admire my parents!
They've been married for about three decades or more now, and whilst they don't have PDA (Physical Displays of Affection) due to the generation they grew up in, they are very much in love.
They make up for each other's weakness. Where one is weak, the other's strength makes up for it, and they don't make each other feel crippled because of their shortcomings. They just accept each other, and very often, make light humour out of it.
They travel together a few times every year. Dad goes around snapping photos, mom goes around posing, kinda like every woman's dream!
Then, they take shots together too, and though they literally look like ebony and ivory - mom's very fair whilst dad's very tanned, they're cute together.
They have their own hobbies and interests, and they respect each other's 'territory' - mom has her hobby space at home and goes out shopping and dad NEVER questions her on her purchases, although surely, he KNOWS that she's got one bag too many, one pair of shoes too many, but he just keeps mom about it. Mom lets dad go out on his guy's night out, and doesn't bug him about it at all. They enjoy their time together, and also respect their time apart. 
Recently, it's so cute - mom even developed an interest in dad's interest - Karaoke! Mom, who never sang in her life, suddenly decides to give it a go, because dad was so enthusiastic about it at home! She has even taken to joining him on his karaoke outings! What's cuter is that aunt and uncle, and even a cousin or two and their boyfriends have joined in too!
Mom and dad have a good combination going on... they will surely grow old gracefully! I sure hope that God will bless me with a husband who'll walk through thick and thin with me and paint a beautiful life portrait together, just like mom and dad. -
WOWEE!!!Originally posted by alexkusu:my next door neighbour...celebrated... err.. emerald? gold? anniversary.. 60years of marriage I think Did you congratulate them?
Hey, is there anything about their relationship that you hope to emulate someday?
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erm...do gardening, drink port, keep canaries, have no kids...Originally posted by Rhonda:WOWEE!!! Did you congratulate them?
Hey, is there anything about their relationship that you hope to emulate someday?
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Hi Rhonda! Can tell from the number of emoticons in your post just how wonderful your parents' marriage is.
My parents have been married for 26 years now, and although they have had their share of arguments, they are still very loving.
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sigh...I wish know where my real mum is...my family is incomplete.
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mine is 22 years..
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When I was rollerblading/jogging just now, I saw an old man riding a bicycle, an old woman (presumably wife) in front of him, sitting on the horizontal bar...Originally posted by Rhonda:Do you have a good role model in your parents? Do they grow old together and are still lovey-dovey and very much in love? What do you admire about their relationship? What do you hope to have in your own relationship that you see in theirs?
Or, if it's not your own parents' relationship that you think is your 'model', do you know of any couple whom you admire? Why?
Let's keep this space in honour of those who live together, 'till death do they part', and make a good journey of it! -
Originally posted by foxwalk:When I was rollerblading/jogging just now, I saw an old man riding a bicycle, an old woman (presumably wife) in front of him, sitting on the horizontal bar... Reminds me of a scene in that movie by Maggie Cheung and Leon Lai - 'Comrades, Almost a Love Story'.
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I think good relationships like this take a lot of effort to nurture. Rome was not built in one day.Originally posted by Rhonda: Reminds me of a scene in that movie by Maggie Cheung and Leon Lai - 'Comrades, Almost a Love Story'.
I watched a documentary on Ch8 last nite about this old man whose wife became mentally unwell, and despite people around him telling him to divorce her, he did not forsake her. I don't know if he loves her, but what is love? Sometimes love is a duty, a responsiblity, but that doesn't mean it is any less in value. -
yeap, my folks are excellent role models...
but too sleepy to go into details.
suffice to say, if i can be a father, husband and provider like HALF my dad, i'll be damn proud of myself already, dun even say totally like my dad.
Love you daddy!! (and mama too of course!!) -
Yesterday got see qian xian zui zhong, the mentally ill couple married for 30+ years liao. wife got mental illness but still the husband no abandon her
really more model than model -
model..? my parents.. arh.. they still together after so long. i think very li hai already.
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Wow..........so sweet. As a parent myself, if my child thinks that of me, I'll be so happy.Originally posted by jOhO:yeap, my folks are excellent role models...
but too sleepy to go into details.
suffice to say, if i can be a father, husband and provider like HALF my dad, i'll be damn proud of myself already, dun even say totally like my dad.
Love you daddy!! (and mama too of course!!) Priceless. -
yes...
my folks are still very loving.
Usually will go for breakfast / meals and marketing daily. As for my dad will usually carry all the marketing stuffs for her.
Fetching her to and from from marketing if he is too busy on that day.
Not to mention short trips to oversea too -
some folks "fight" everyday, but it is the way they show affection to each other.
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a long time ago.. i used to stay near one of those old folks villages in australia...
and when i was walking to the supermart, i saw this old man shouting at his wife for walking so slowly.. very chilling fear that one day my life will end up this way.
My parents have their fair share of quarrels due to personality differences but when they decided to 'bond' their power, they are invincible. (Ask cars salesmen) heh Heh.
Mate and I long for simple life when old ma. Build lots of memories so when we too old to move around, we can sit in our chair and talk about them. Grandchildren too.
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A few days ago, I saw a middle-aged Indian guy at a taxi stand. Suddenly, he turned around and motioned to someone. I turned and saw that he was motioning to a lady, presumably his wife.
She seemed to have sprained her ankle and was hobbling slowly and painfully across to him. He looked impatient as he was nearing the end of the queue and she was still quite a distance away.
Instead of standing beside her, helping her walk, he went ahead of her to wait for a cab and then, looked so angry at her slow progress!
If I were the lady, I would have walked away from him and taken my own cab to the nearest clinic, without him!
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ah. my parents are amazing too... i admire my mum completely.... i hope i can be as strong as she is one day.
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I love to see old folks walking on the streets very slowly and still holding hands. It's just so heart-warming...this little gesture of care and concern. That's why I've already set the rule and insisted that my SO must do the same next time.
And when the time comes for him to go, I hope I will be around to hold him in my arms as he says goodbye. -
My parents have done a great job keeping it together all these years. But it's not my ideal "model" marriage. There are things I wouldn't want to see in mine, or want done differently. One thing I've learnt from them is that it takes more than love to keep a marriage going.
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The man did not forget his wedding wows....in sickness and in health, till death do us part.Originally posted by foxwalk:I think good relationships like this take a lot of effort to nurture. Rome was not built in one day.
I watched a documentary on Ch8 last nite about this old man whose wife became mentally unwell, and despite people around him telling him to divorce her, he did not forsake her. I don't know if he loves her, but what is love? Sometimes love is a duty, a responsiblity, but that doesn't mean it is any less in value. -
What other things? Pray tell.Originally posted by choco B:My parents have done a great job keeping it together all these years. But it's not my ideal "model" marriage. There are things I wouldn't want to see in mine, or want done differently. One thing I've learnt from them is that it takes more than love to keep a marriage going.
My parents aren't the role model too...it's the old fashioned type of marriage...I think too outdated for today's couples.
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Heh It's too private to reveal, sorry. Theirs is old fashioned too.
They have their hits and misses, just like any other couple I suppose. There are some traits I admire.Originally posted by Wanda:What other things? Pray tell.
My parents aren't the role model too...it's the old fashioned type of marriage...I think too outdated for today's couples.