Are you guys looking forward to CNY?
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Ah...this suddenly reminds me of 2 of my indian friends who positively hate CNY! Both have chinese wives and their mother in laws and wives' relatives are not very nice to them.
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its ok to run about cos kids can't sit still.. touchin of other ppl's stuff = big nonoOriginally posted by Rhonda:Hey, I guess we were brought up with ah ma's from the same generation!
Same thing here... when visiting other people's house, must 'cheh diam diam, mai zao lai zao ki, ka na monkey ah ni kuan'!
And should you get carried away and forget... one tight slap!
You don't see parents instilling that value into their kids anymore, do you?
Like Nel, I dislike it when people take the liberty to touch my things without asking me first. If I know them already and we're quite pal-ly, I won't feel that way. But people I don't know well, or even strangers, touching my stuff!! AAAaargh!!
I see my colleagues digging into each other's pencil cases without asking for permission first and I'm
. But instead of realising it's not a nice thing to do, they'll ask me ''What's wrong with it? Need to ask one meh?'' 
he's a bit more extreme... some stuff like his legos... are untouchable (is there such a word?) cos they're fragile....
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any idea if the wives hate Depavalee?Originally posted by av98m:Ah...this suddenly reminds me of 2 of my indian friends who positively hate CNY! Both have chinese wives and their mother in laws and wives' relatives are not very nice to them. -
actually cny isn't about visiting relatives only. you can shop around chinatown, visit teachers, friends' houses. it's not really as bad as you think.Originally posted by elindra:I don't care about gossip la. They want to gossip all day behind my back it's ok. The thing is, the way they question is so downright insulting that it got intrusive and offensive la. (Of course not all my relatives are like that. There are those who look beyond race)
And what pissed me off was that they came on my parents for not stopping me from going out with a guy from another race.
It got so bad that I made it clear to them in a polite manner that if they don't shut-up and keep their comments to themselves, don't blame me for turning nasty.
Btw, my folks are not old-fashioned. They're just plain racist and still suffering from "Whites are supreme" mentality. (They never harp on those who marry ang mos)
actually i envy that you can celebrate cny, deepavati, christmas since both of you are multi-race.
me pic elindra look like steph song in arcar.
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i wont ask those questions dun worry...Originally posted by elindra:I'm starting to dread it
The thought of intrusive questions about "When you're having babies" and such is a turn-off, plus Chris is refusing to apply for leave as he wants to avoid the nonsense and also the nice renumeration he'll be getting if he works on CNY.
like the others... i would just..
"Gong xi fa cai!! Hong bao nah lai!!" -
Originally posted by nOrmalbOi:i wont ask those questions dun worry...
like the others... i would just..
"Gong xi fa cai!! Hong bao nah lai!!"
Hen3 Xian4 Shi2!!
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I hate Chinatown during CNY. Too crowded for my likingOriginally posted by 798:actually cny isn't about visiting relatives only. you can shop around chinatown, visit teachers, friends' houses. it's not really as bad as you think.
actually i envy that you can celebrate cny, deepavati, christmas since both of you are multi-race.
me pic elindra look like steph song in arcar.
Friends are usually out holidaying during CNY
We don't celebrate Deepavali at all. Alot of people have the misconception that all Indians celebrate Deepavali. That is only celebrated by Hindus (He's Catholic) and it is not their new year or anything. The Indian New Year is not a public holiday in Singapore.
We do celebrate Good Friday and Christmas though -
Maybe you should have gone for marriage preparation course before getting married loh. You mean you dont know that you are going to face this kinda of question?Originally posted by elindra:I don't care about gossip la. They want to gossip all day behind my back it's ok. The thing is, the way they question is so downright insulting that it got intrusive and offensive la. (Of course not all my relatives are like that. There are those who look beyond race)
And what pissed me off was that they came on my parents for not stopping me from going out with a guy from another race.
It got so bad that I made it clear to them in a polite manner that if they don't shut-up and keep their comments to themselves, don't blame me for turning nasty.
Btw, my folks are not old-fashioned. They're just plain racist and still suffering from "Whites are supreme" mentality. (They never harp on those who marry ang mos)
btw, how can you accuse your relative gossiping when they are asking your very blunt and intrusive question. The one that gossip most are probably your friends and colleagues. -
I still remembered the chaos in the 1st time they introduced the fire crackersOriginally posted by elindra:I hate Chinatown during CNY. Too crowded for my liking
Friends are usually out holidaying during CNY
We don't celebrate Deepavali at all. Alot of people have the misconception that all Indians celebrate Deepavali. That is only celebrated by Hindus (He's Catholic) and it is not their new year or anything. The Indian New Year is not a public holiday in Singapore.
We do celebrate Good Friday and Christmas though -
avoiding is not the solution. And doing that on CNY is worst. good luckOriginally posted by elindra:I'm starting to dread it
The thought of intrusive questions about "When you're having babies" and such is a turn-off, plus Chris is refusing to apply for leave as he wants to avoid the nonsense and also the nice renumeration he'll be getting if he works on CNY. -
Wei read properly.Originally posted by Gazelle:Maybe you should have gone for marriage preparation course before getting married loh. You mean you dont know that you are going to face this kinda of question?
btw, how can you accuse your relative gossiping when they are asking your very blunt and intrusive question. The one that gossip most are probably your friends and colleagues.
I said if they want to gossip behind my back I don't mind. I rather that they did than stop asking me stupid questions.
I expected it but not the really dumb questions which I dunno how they even think of.
Anyway marriage preparation course focuses more on living together and together with in-laws if they are.
Anyway there are no need for my friends to gossip. They have more interesting things to gossip about than inter-racial marriage -
Living with in laws is not just about being physically there. You have to understand that your in laws or parents are related to your relatives and they TALK.Originally posted by elindra:Wei read properly.
I said if they want to gossip behind my back I don't mind. I rather that they did than stop asking me stupid questions.
I expected it but not the really dumb questions which I dunno how they even think of.
Anyway marriage preparation course focuses more on living together and together with in-laws if they are.
Anyway there are no need for my friends to gossip. They have more interesting things to gossip about than inter-racial marriage
For a married couple, family issue is always the most complicated if not difficult issues to handle and if dont start with the right note it will bring disaster to your marriage. -
I don't need to explain the situation to you but all I can say is that things are nice and smooth and there will be no disaster and I'm not being guilable here.
As mentioned before it is only caused by those distant kaypoh relatives which I see once a year during CNY and I don't care about them just that I don't like the things they ask. -
i dun like my cousin...Originally posted by elindra:I don't need to explain the situation to you but all I can say is that things are nice and smooth and there will be no disaster and I'm not being guilable here.
As mentioned before it is only caused by those distant kaypoh relatives which I see once a year during CNY and I don't care about them just that I don't like the things they ask.
sometimes... i wish she'd get sore throat during chinese new year... so that i dun have to listen to her sarcastic remarks regarding my choice of education/partner whateva!
now that she's married (and with a girl i heard) her hubby will shush her when she's startin her remarks again
now i'm learning how to give sarcastic remarks... trainin under my colleague n nellie (more under teh former) -
I hold my tongue only coz they are my elders laOriginally posted by shinta:i dun like my cousin...
sometimes... i wish she'd get sore throat during chinese new year... so that i dun have to listen to her sarcastic remarks regarding my choice of education/partner whateva!
now that she's married (and with a girl i heard) her hubby will shush her when she's startin her remarks again
now i'm learning how to give sarcastic remarks... trainin under my colleague n nellie (more under teh former)
If the same age group you think I won't shoot back -
Hmmm not sure if my wife has the same problem as you Elindra... prob doesOriginally posted by elindra:I don't need to explain the situation to you but all I can say is that things are nice and smooth and there will be no disaster and I'm not being guilable here.
As mentioned before it is only caused by those distant kaypoh relatives which I see once a year during CNY and I don't care about them just that I don't like the things they ask.
marrying non Chinese, but hey forget them ppl
Nasty people will always have something to gossip about -
Hmm... Kan_i, so can you tell us more about yourself besides revealing that you're 'non-Chinese'?Originally posted by Kan_i:Hmmm not sure if my wife has the same problem as you Elindra... prob does
marrying non Chinese, but hey forget them ppl
Nasty people will always have something to gossip about
You've been here for quite a while now but it seems that we don't know much about you still. Enlighten us! -
I've never been to Chinatown during the CNY period but this year, I'm determined to do so!
I'm planning to gather a few colleagues from my previous ward to go down there for a look-see and to chou4 chou4 re4 nao4!
A few of my colleagues are very boisterous one so it will be pretty fun! I might pick up a few CNY decorations so that come this time next year, if I can't return home, at least, I can do up my place and have that CNY ambience!
This is the only time of the year when cheeeena decorations and ang ang gong gong gim gim garish stuff are tolerated!
And oh, I just bought a small pot of fake tangerine plant for decor! Saw a bunch of them, including fake peaches, longevity buns, and apples for sale. Quite cute! -
i pity my elder cousins..alot of the female ones are getting married this year,and the guys all don't seem to be anywhere near it..
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Eh... the topic's about CNY leh!Originally posted by stellazio:i pity my elder cousins..alot of the female ones are getting married this year,and the guys all don't seem to be anywhere near it.. -
I'm looking forward to just the holiday and the ang pao. And I'm thankful my relatives don't ask me stupid questions about my dating scene...at the moment they have a hard-enough time trying to remember which stage of education/life I'm in.
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When I feel that any of my relatives are going to ask silly, intrusive questions, one of the tricks I resort to is to whip out my cellphone and start being very busy sms'ing or pretending to sms.
Then when they start asking their questions, you act really distracted! ''Huh? Eh... Oh... Erm... Sorry! Hold on please!... OK, you were saying?... '' All the while, busy fingers fly over the phone keypad and you DON'T give eye contact. I repeat, DO NOT give eye contact!
Sooner or later, they'll get the msg. The smarter ones will get it sooner and back off! Yeah, it's an intelligence meter in disguise! -
Y'know, KB... I was wondering why I no longer look forward to the ang bao's and then, it hit me - the amount I've been collecting has dwindled to a trickle and it's no longer exciting to get 'em!
Nowadays, I treat the ang bao's more like 'lucky paper'! -
I find the mobile phone tactic rather impolite actually (I prefer to be straightfoward). Maybe that's why you're getting less and less.Originally posted by Rhonda:Y'know, KB... I was wondering why I no longer look forward to the ang bao's and then, it hit me - the amount I've been collecting has dwindled to a trickle and it's no longer exciting to get 'em!
Nowadays, I treat the ang bao's more like 'lucky paper'! Or maybe they're hinting it should be your turn to give out ang pao instead. -
Actually, if they'd stop asking their stupid questions I'll be more than happy to give THEM hongbao just to shut them up.