a sad topic with humour
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I have been inspired to write this when a friend of mine told me what happened to her. And I have heard of more such cases which gave me the idea of writing this. We should take everything with humour even when it is hard. Thinking positive. Here it goes:
The tragical phenomenon of today’s society – a guy dumps his gf. There are many species of the dumping guys (hey hey guys, don’t curse me yet …) but I want to mention only one species. The “Promise me to be happy anyway” species.
Yes, there are really guys who dump their gf and tell her “Be strong and promise me to be happy.” (Yes, there are really such guys.)
Hellooo… guys, do you know what you are asking from the girl??? You are asking her to be schizophrenic. She just got dumped! Do you think she can jump from joy and scream: “I am soo happy!!!! Yeeeehaaaa!!!!! Let’s party, I am so happy because that bastard has dumped me!” and then really make a party somewhere downtown, oozing with happiness, the party so wild that the police arrests her and the rest of the party people for disturbing the silent hours? Come on! Do you know what’s going on in her mind?
The lights are going off in your exgf’s wonderland. The sun stopped to shine, the birds are falling down dead, the rabbits are motionless rotting and stinking on the meadow with wilted flowers, the fairies are committing seppuku, make up shops and fashion boutiques have no sell outs and are closed. And she is deciding whether to buy a ticket to USA from the money she saved thanks to using you as her wallet and jump off the Empire State Building kicking King Kong’s nuts, slapping him with her handbag and shouting: “Die you baboon, you are a man too!!!!” or to buy a new night dress and eat grandmother’s pink sleeping pills which are on the bedside table beside the glass full of water in which her third teeth are swimming happily.
Dear guys, you were the reason for the happiness of your girlfriends. To dump a loving gf is like to remove all oxygen from the air she is breathing. To dump a girl and asking her to promise you to be happy is the same as cutting her both hands off and telling her: “Promise me to write letters (for those hi tech freaks also emails and sms) to me every day!”
So dear guys, next time you dump your gf, give her a huge box of tissues and a baseball bat with which she can bang you if she feels like that.
Good luck!
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i wonder.. then what?
i wonder when women dump their then guys... what would they say?
i hope you rot in hell?
he's just seen his hopes and dreams vaporise faster than a snowflake in a blast furnace... the last thing he would need is a burden of guilt to add to that feeling of hurt which tears at him so much that he would want to rip his own heart out through his own ribcage with a rusty garden trowel..
i guess what i'm saying is that.. his girl could have been his reason for getting up in the morning, his reason for wistful wishful thinking, his reason for daring to dream impossible things...
so also, dear ladies, when you dump your guy, give him a coupla crates of beer and a case of whiskey, a sponge baseball bat in case he attempts any self-inflicted violence... and maybe a kind word to soften the impact of his world collapsing around him... nice guys would rather die than see the one they love hurt.. so they would go on that bender wondering what went wrong...
good luck and be gentle... a man's heart is just as fragile...
p.s. ultimately, we all survive... scarred, shakened, and maybe a little wiser... some become a little bit more cynical, some become afraid, some still naively optimistic.. but we all survive if we want to... -
sometimes, guys say that to lessen the guilt in their heart, if it makes any difference in actual fact
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I've long had a distrust of guys. I know them too well unfortunately.
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Halleluiah!
We could write more and more and there would be no end. A coin has two sides and both are equally important and authentic. Keep it with humour, learn from the life and everything is fine. -
I've seen and heard of too many sad real-life stories of people dumping people, people making use of people, people dumping their fiance(es) at the altar... it's enough to send one into a spiral of depression and hopelessness.
However, recently, I've had a sense of quiet peace and acceptance wash over me... For me, the time has come to end a chapter and open an entirely new chapter. I've discovered how much my current job has subdued me. In order to get along with my colleagues and be as much a part of the work culture as I possibly could, I have had to stifle a lot of 'me'. I've almost forgotten the real 'me' but it's slowly re-surfacing again now.
I was happy being single. I was also happy being attached. I guess whatever our situation is, we should just make the most of it and live as wholesome a life as we possibly can.
For a long while, I kinda 'lost it' and started to wander around, without direction. I guess I've pulled myself out of the depths and now, am steering my ship back on course. I feel like I want to be single for now, there's so much to do and achieve and should I meet the one, well and good, if not, I'm still the captain of my ship! I'm glad that I march to my own drumbeat and I've never felt that biological clock nor that pressure to get married by a certain age, and woe to those who try to impose that on me! 
I feel sorry for your friend who has been dumped, and I wish her well. Sometimes, we feel as if we are buried under a ton of dirt and we just want to disappear off the face of earth... but hang in there... slowly but surely, one can always inch one's way out of the muck. Always. That's the basic promise of life itself - hope.
Please be there for your girlfriend, she really needs the support now. I always think back and bless my friends, esp SL, who stuck by me everytime. Let her cry, let her whine, let her repeat her story over and over again... she needs to do that... and soon, she'll be ready to embark on the journey of forgetting and moving on.
I wish her well. -
and there are gals that say the same thing and believed that they have done a good deed. sama sama lar.
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We are all more all less recycled products here. Been dumped or rejected before. Take it easy, life goes on
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Same with me. I have a new attitude to life after disappointments and sad events. Instead of getting depressed I got positive, enjoying the life, I don't get stressed over the things which stress the other people, I feel free.Originally posted by Rhonda:I've seen and heard of too many sad real-life stories of people dumping people, people making use of people, people dumping their fiance(es) at the altar... it's enough to send one into a spiral of depression and hopelessness.
However, recently, I've had a sense of quiet peace and acceptance wash over me... For me, the time has come to end a chapter and open an entirely new chapter. I've discovered how much my current job has subdued me. In order to get along with my colleagues and be as much a part of the work culture as I possibly could, I have had to stifle a lot of 'me'. I've almost forgotten the real 'me' but it's slowly re-surfacing again now.
I was happy being single. I was also happy being attached. I guess whatever our situation is, we should just make the most of it and live as wholesome a life as we possibly can.
For a long while, I kinda 'lost it' and started to wander around, without direction. I guess I've pulled myself out of the depths and now, am steering my ship back on course. I feel like I want to be single for now, there's so much to do and achieve and should I meet the one, well and good, if not, I'm still the captain of my ship! I'm glad that I march to my own drumbeat and I've never felt that biological clock nor that pressure to get married by a certain age, and woe to those who try to impose that on me!
I feel sorry for your friend who has been dumped, and I wish her well. Sometimes, we feel as if we are buried under a ton of dirt and we just want to disappear off the face of earth... but hang in there... slowly but surely, one can always inch one's way out of the muck. Always. That's the basic promise of life itself - hope.
Please be there for your girlfriend, she really needs the support now. I always think back and bless my friends, esp SL, who stuck by me everytime. Let her cry, let her whine, let her repeat her story over and over again... she needs to do that... and soon, she'll be ready to embark on the journey of forgetting and moving on.
I wish her well.
The life can give you so much more!
Yes, I am there for my friend because I exactly know what is she going through. She can't think positive yet, but I will try to show her the sunny side of life.
Come on everyone, my thread was meant to make you laugh or atleast smile else I would post it in aunt agony and without humour. Life is too short to spend it with negative minds. Take the left sock (used one can do it too) and wip the tears. -
Greenpeace would praise you.Originally posted by donchoo:We are all more all less recycled products here. Been dumped or rejected before. Take it easy, life goes on -
What else did you expect insensitive guys to say ?
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Nah nah nah, don't be so negative, even sad things can be seen with humour.Originally posted by Ferret:What else did you expect insensitive guys to say ? -
I usually look on the bright side of life, else I'll be dead a long long time backOriginally posted by thinkdifferent:Nah nah nah, don't be so negative, even sad things can be seen with humour.
But I see nothing funny about this situation. unless you are asking me to laugh at the girl ? Haha you got dumped ? >_<""" -
would anybody actually be glad that your gf/bf dumped you?
I felt this way for one particular relationship...
the first few feelings was really horrible ... detachment ... disappointed ...
after a while , I started thinking , she wasn't so great after all ...
I've seen the flaws before and accepted them ...
after being dumped ... somehow these flaws tells me that , perhaps it was a release from these bondings ...
then , sadisticity (no such word) took over ...
I actually thought that " Glad it's over , thank heaven I didn't stick around"
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I dont think so... If you got dumped, usually its because the relationship isnt working out in the first place but you are still hanging on and mayhaps hoping for a miracle. It's just that the other partner chose to end it first, thus shattering all hopes that you might have cherished and causing you much grief and despair.Originally posted by SilverRevo:would anybody actually be glad that your gf/bf dumped you?
I felt this way for one particular relationship...
the first few feelings was really horrible ... detachment ... disappointed ...
after a while , I started thinking , she wasn't so great after all ...
I've seen the flaws before and accepted them ...
after being dumped ... somehow these flaws tells me that , perhaps it was a release from these bondings ...
then , sadisticity (no such word) took over ...
I actually thought that " Glad it's over , thank heaven I didn't stick around"
There was one r/s I was in when I didnt feel anything at all for the guy. So, when we broke up, it was a mutual relief... Erm. Strangest r/s I had but heck, I was young and a bit of an idiot at that time. -
Hey fellows, I have been in the same situation. The humour helps me to move on. Ofcourse it's not funny for the persons who are suffering, but when they get over it, maybe the humour helps them to see the bright side of the life.
The other possibility - be depressed and mourning. Will that help anyone?
We should be there for those who are going through hard times, be sensitive to them and support them and help them to see the life with positive eyes again, to move on though it might take some time. Ofcourse not playing the clown when they are crying and mourning. -
I dunno. If me and my gfs are upset, we usually go drinking >_<"Originally posted by thinkdifferent:Hey fellows, I have been in the same situation. The humour helps me to move on. Ofcourse it's not funny for the persons who are suffering, but when they get over it, maybe the humour helps them to see the bright side of the life.
The other possibility - be depressed and mourning. Will that help anyone?
We should be there for those who are going through hard times, be sensitive to them and support them and help them to see the life with positive eyes again, to move on though it might take some time. Ofcourse not playing the clown when they are crying and mourning. -
yeah...
it's "hey dude... c'mon.. let's go get drunk.."
notice "a coupla crates of beer and a case of whiskey"
it's terrible, it's self-destructive for a while.. but after that, hey.. we've done that bit and it's time to move on... and somehow, even if it takes a long time, we invariably do... -
have anybody maintained a record of never mentioning breakup?
both times my relationship , the girl initiates
must be something wrong with me ... -
oohhh..i did it over sms..last time no mms yet,cannot send my toilet roll over..
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and what bout girls telling guys after they ditch them..
"i'm sure u can find a better one den me"...this is rubbish.. -
i've always been the one who gets dumped.Originally posted by SilverRevo:have anybody maintained a record of never mentioning breakup?
both times my relationship , the girl initiates
must be something wrong with me ... -
Originally posted by donchoo:We are all more all less recycled products here. Been dumped or rejected before. Take it easy, life goes on
That's quite a novel way of looking at it! -
Originally posted by thinkdifferent:Greenpeace would praise you.
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Haiz... if something's said, the person's insensitive.Originally posted by stellazio:and what bout girls telling guys after they ditch them..
"i'm sure u can find a better one den me"...this is rubbish.. 
If nothing's said, the person's callous and still insensitive.
Look at it this way, a breakup is a breakup. No matter what's said or not said, the receiving party won't be happy to hear whatever's being said.