How comfortable are you REALLY with your partner?
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Do you....
1. Belch in front of him/her?
2. use the toilet in front of him/her?
3. Chit chat while one of you is sitting on the think-tank
4. Use your hands to wipe off your mucus when you are having a cold, and no handy tissue available
5. Use your hand to wipe off his/her mucus when he/she is having a cold and no handy tissue available
6. Fart in front of each other
7. Dig your nose in front of each other?
8. Tell each other you have bad breath?
9. Squeeze blackheads for each other?
10. Others?
State also length of period you have been together. -
No partner so ... PHEW!!!! don't have to answer this!
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no partner now..
but in the past when i had one.. uhh.. yes to all..
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Oh yes.. hehehe also share.. how long before you had ur first fart together...
Just wondering you know.. cos I have friends who put on makeup before they meet their partner (before marriage) even though they've been together for years... as in the 'He has never seen me without makeup before." -
yes to all the above and then some... heheOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:Do you....
1. Belch in front of him/her?
2. use the toilet in front of him/her?
3. Chit chat while one of you is sitting on the think-tank
4. Use your hands to wipe off your mucus when you are having a cold, and no handy tissue available
5. Use your hand to wipe off his/her mucus when he/she is having a cold and no handy tissue available
6. Fart in front of each other
7. Dig your nose in front of each other?
8. Tell each other you have bad breath?
9. Squeeze blackheads for each other?
10. Others?
State also length of period you have been together.
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Hmm... there are certain things on the list that I'd never do in front of my partner. Stuff like poo-ing and pee-ing in front of him! Just can't imagine doing that!
But, with everything else, I've seen my patients do it. 
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Haha I wonder how many will admit to this embarressing post -
my fart cannot last longer than a minuteOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:Do you....
6. Fart in front of each other
State also length of period you have been together. -
I NEVER want to get THAT familiar with anyone.
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what do u mean by usin the toilet in front of him/her?Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Do you....
1. Belch in front of him/her?
2. use the toilet in front of him/her?
3. Chit chat while one of you is sitting on the think-tank
4. Use your hands to wipe off your mucus when you are having a cold, and no handy tissue available
5. Use your hand to wipe off his/her mucus when he/she is having a cold and no handy tissue available
6. Fart in front of each other
7. Dig your nose in front of each other?
8. Tell each other you have bad breath?
9. Squeeze blackheads for each other?
10. Others?
State also length of period you have been together.
think tank?
hmm point 2 n 3 dun understand.. 4 n 5 no... cos i won't do that even when i'm alone... its a mad rush to somewhere with tissue ahaha
7 no -
Hahahah i am game.... i am very comfortable with my partner and vice versa.Originally posted by elindra:
Haha I wonder how many will admit to this embarressing post
I do draw the line at certain things though, even if she is comfortable with it
Which i can not list lol.
Apart from the "wiping mucas with hand" i can say yes to pretty much all of the above.
Well as they say love is blind
Hahah u guys think that list is bad.... try 1 for a baby!!!! -
Originally posted by elindra:
Haha I wonder how many will admit to this embarressing post
Surprise! There are already folks admitting to doing ALL those things here!
For me, I can never do some of the things in the list... I mean, it's not necessary to do that ... whatever for? It doesn't make me feel more intimate if I do that! Some stuff should remain 'mysterious'.
Some stuff should be done during one's alone time. Stuff like shaving your armpits and etc. Shoo! Shoo!! Papparazzi out da door... it shall be done only in my presence alone! -
Originally posted by Rhonda:
Some stuff should remain 'mysterious'.
Some stuff should be done during one's alone time. Stuff like shaving your armpits and etc. Shoo! Shoo!! Papparazzi out da door... it shall be done only in my presence alone! 
thats what i say all the time.... "some things should remain a mystery" -
Yes to everything, so I guess we're pretty comfortable with one another.
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Originally posted by Kan_i: thats what i say all the time.... "some things should remain a mystery"
Yeah, like what they say in the US after the influx of talk-shows prompt people to become more open and divulge more personal details readily, ''Too much details!!''
If my spouse poos in front of me, I'll start to see him like one of those patients I care for at work! -
well...heheheh I'm pretty comfortable with my partner cos.. hmm having met each other first in a trekking environment where we got to be pretty open about body functions anyway, you don't have much to be embarassed and squeamish about.
Even with other girls, going to poo is a communal event where we chit chat while doing the necessary purging. There is nothing that bonds people more than toilet humour *ahem*
I think it is not so much proving a point to purposely DO things like this with your partner but rather, having to live together with someone, it gets rather inconvenient if you value your privacy a lot or are squeamish about such things.
I honestly will go mad if I live with a squeamish guy who can't stand looking at me shaving my armpits or farting or don't dare to buy sanitary pads for me or whatever. More than that, I guess I will also find it difficult to imagine him looking after me if I fall badly ill or old - what if I become incontinent (used in the Lacking normal voluntary control of excretory functions meaning of this word)? Of course it and when such a time comes, I won't ever want to be a burden to him.
Heheh and as for preserving my mystery - I suppose my eccentricity does the job for me. Anyway women doesn't need to put effort to be mysterious, men will always complain " i don't UNDERSTAND them!' anyway! -
eh repeat post. why har
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Women farts? Realy?Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:I honestly will go mad if I live with a squeamish guy who can't stand looking at me shaving my armpits or farting or don't dare to buy sanitary pads for me or whatever. More than that, I guess I will also find it difficult to imagine him looking after me if I fall badly ill or old - what if I become incontinent (used in the Lacking normal voluntary control of excretory functions meaning of this word)? Of course it and when such a time comes, I won't ever want to be a burden to him.
Heheh and as for preserving my mystery - I suppose my eccentricity does the job for me. Anyway women doesn't need to put effort to be mysterious, men will always complain " i don't UNDERSTAND them!' anyway!
Hahaha i believe "Men not undertandinf women and women not uderstanding men" is a whole different topic. -
No, leh! What's wrong with living together but each cherishing their privacy? Afterall, everyone needs some amount of private time, the amt of time required varies with individuals. I'd go crazy if I don't have my alone time. I'm just wired that way.Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:well...heheheh I'm pretty comfortable with my partner cos.. hmm having met each other first in a trekking environment where we got to be pretty open about body functions anyway, you don't have much to be embarassed and squeamish about.
Even with other girls, going to poo is a communal event where we chit chat while doing the necessary purging. There is nothing that bonds people more than toilet humour *ahem*
I think it is not so much proving a point to purposely DO things like this with your partner but rather, having to live together with someone, it gets rather inconvenient if you value your privacy a lot or are squeamish about such things.
I honestly will go mad if I live with a squeamish guy who can't stand looking at me shaving my armpits or farting or don't dare to buy sanitary pads for me or whatever. More than that, I guess I will also find it difficult to imagine him looking after me if I fall badly ill or old - what if I become incontinent (used in the Lacking normal voluntary control of excretory functions meaning of this word)? Of course it and when such a time comes, I won't ever want to be a burden to him.
Heheh and as for preserving my mystery - I suppose my eccentricity does the job for me. Anyway women doesn't need to put effort to be mysterious, men will always complain " i don't UNDERSTAND them!' anyway!
Just cause I won't do some of the stuff that's listed also doesn't mean that I'll be any less intimate with my special guy than someone who does. It's just different strokes for different folks. -
I admit, I'm squeamish about a few things. There are boundaries to what I can tahan. We're 6 months old and we can do most of the listed items in front of each other.
All except pooping and farting. Pooping is strictly behind closed doors, and the room becomes a no-entry zone e.g. if the business is done in kitchen toilet, the other person auto-avoid the kitchen too
This has to do with the mentality of "your poop is smellier than mine!"
Same goes with farting - "your fart is smellier than mine!" We avoid farting in the same room But I've sneaked a fart or two under the covers with him none the wiser.
Which proves that mine is not that smelly, right???
But all others, we're ok heheheh. Admittedly, he is probably more tolerant than I am hahaha (But as above, that's cos his is smellier
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I've pondered about ShrodingersCat's point about looking after each other's bodily functions before. Would we have problems cleaning up after each other? I think this is one of those bo bian things, activities that you will adapt and carry out with good grace because there is really no other choice under the circumstance. One does it out of love and duty. Just like how a person gets grossed out by baby's puke, yet when he/she is a parent, cares for the baby without complaint, and wears the sour milk scent around him/her nonchalantly like perfume.Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Do you....
1. Belch in front of him/her?
2. use the toilet in front of him/her?
3. Chit chat while one of you is sitting on the think-tank
4. Use your hands to wipe off your mucus when you are having a cold, and no handy tissue available
5. Use your hand to wipe off his/her mucus when he/she is having a cold and no handy tissue available
6. Fart in front of each other
7. Dig your nose in front of each other?
8. Tell each other you have bad breath?
9. Squeeze blackheads for each other?
10. Others?
State also length of period you have been together. -
Originally posted by choco B:But I've sneaked a fart or two under the covers with him none the wiser. Which proves that mine is not that smelly, right???
But all others, we're ok heheheh. Admittedly, he is probably more tolerant than I am hahaha (But as above, that's cos his is smellier ) just means he loves u enough to ignore it
that or he wants something in return -
believe me he is not the "just ignore it" type when it comes to odd smells
Yeah maybe he wants free farting rights in return Haahahah eeeeeeeeeww!Originally posted by Kan_i: just means he loves u enough to ignore it
that or he wants something in return -
Didn't say anything about it being wrong ah - i am just saying it can be inconvenient. Because our cat litter bin is occupying half our toilet, when we are alone at home, sometimes we don't bother closing the toilet door etc etc. Maybe it is cos we live in a 3 room flat with 2 pets, and our doors are mostly propped open with stoppers real hard to prevent the doors from slamming in case our cats decide to saunter in, plus lazy lah. Basically we don't have much private space so thankfully neither of us need a lot of privacy.Originally posted by Rhonda:No, leh! What's wrong with living together but each cherishing their privacy? Afterall, everyone needs some amount of private time, the amt of time required varies with individuals. I'd go crazy if I don't have my alone time. I'm just wired that way.
Just cause I won't do some of the stuff that's listed also doesn't mean that I'll be any less intimate with my special guy than someone who does. It's just different strokes for different folks.
However, your post do beg the question - does a desire for privacy compromise on intimacy and understanding?
It really depends on how private and how much alone space you need I guess. And if there is a part of you that you can't share with your partner (and sure, there will definitely be a part you can't share, and I am not talking about bodily functions here)and you prefer to keep private, it is also the part he/she will never be privy to and may never understand. To push it to extremes, it's kind of like those wives of murderers who are stunned that their partners have this part of them that they never realise, despite day in day out living with them....
But its true ba.. despite the intimacy, sometimes the partner is always the last the know. -
Hee.. true true.. nodnod.. also I guess it is a matter of time ba.. some things you learn to live with because of love... 35 years down the road, the really icky thing is when you accidentally put on his false teeth instead of your own.. or something like that.hurhurhur.Originally posted by choco B:I've pondered about ShrodingersCat's point about looking after each other's bodily functions before. Would we have problems cleaning up after each other? I think this is one of those bo bian things, activities that you will adapt and carry out with good grace because there is really no other choice under the circumstance. One does it out of love and duty. Just like how a person gets grossed out by baby's puke, yet when he/she is a parent, cares for the baby without complaint, and wears the sour milk scent around him/her nonchalantly like perfume. -
My need for private alone time does not compromise on the emotional intimacy I used to share with my ex's.Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Didn't say anything about it being wrong ah - i am just saying it can be inconvenient. Because our cat litter bin is occupying half our toilet, when we are alone at home, sometimes we don't bother closing the toilet door etc etc. Maybe it is cos we live in a 3 room flat with 2 pets, and our doors are mostly propped open with stoppers real hard to prevent the doors from slamming in case our cats decide to saunter in, plus lazy lah. Basically we don't have much private space so thankfully neither of us need a lot of privacy.
However, your post do beg the question - does a desire for privacy compromise on intimacy and understanding?
It really depends on how private and how much alone space you need I guess. And if there is a part of you that you can't share with your partner (and sure, there will definitely be a part you can't share, and I am not talking about bodily functions here)and you prefer to keep private, it is also the part he/she will never be privy to and may never understand. To push it to extremes, it's kind of like those wives of murderers who are stunned that their partners have this part of them that they never realise, despite day in day out living with them....
But its true ba.. despite the intimacy, sometimes the partner is always the last the know.
It's just that some of us are brought up to think certain acts are 'crass' and cannot shake that off when we're grown up.
Now that I live alone, I do stuff without closing doors.
When closely attached, I will do some stuff openly, others not so. Things like digging noses, etc. why would I want to subject someone that I love to the yucky sights?
In my line of work, I have more than my fair share of yucky sights from my patients, sometimes more than you can ever imagine! I have no qualms about rolling up my sleeves and doing my job to help them and sometimes, it can be really yucky muck! (Imagine cleaning up a deranged patient who just played with his stools and have smeared it all over himself and the bed and is having so much fun he's also trying to smear it all over the staff! ) When it comes to body secretions, every nurse is extremely well-acquainted with it! We're also very acquainted with seeing male and female patients peeing and pooing and what-not. Males doing the M thang with their busy hands, etc... yeah... seen it all!
Once again, the ability or inability to do the things you've listed in no way compromises on the closeness and intimacy a couple enjoys.
For me, it's out of respect that I'd like to keep some things private. Having private spit contests with my SO to see who can spit the furthest, sure! Squeeze blackheads, sure! I like to play beautician sometimes! Digging my nose in full sight in his presence... never!