10 Ways to a Better Life
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Here's something that I came across in a magazine and I thought it'd be nice to share it with all of you!
I'm sure a few of you would have seen the same thing in a poster. 
1 People are illogical, unreasonable and self-centered. LOVE THEM ANYWAY.
2 If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. DO GOOD ANYWAY.
3 If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. SUCCEED ANYWAY.
4 The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. DO GOOD ANYWAY.
5 Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. BE HONEST AND FRANK ANYWAY.
6 The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds. THINK BIG ANYWAY.
7 People favour underdogs but follow only top dogs. FIGHT FOR A FEW UNDERDOGS ANYWAY.
8 What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. BUILD ANYWAY.
9 People really need help but may attack you if you do help them. HELP PEOPLE ANYWAY.
10 Give the world the bst you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth. GIVE THE WORLD THE BEST YOU HAVE ANYWAY. -
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Erm... so a picture says a thousand words... but your emoticons sure don't even say 10 words!Originally posted by ndmmxiaomayi: 
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Just say that I'm surprised and shocked. Indeed less than 10 words.Originally posted by Rhonda:Erm... so a picture says a thousand words... but your emoticons sure don't even say 10 words! 
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does better = happier?
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Ah but then??Originally posted by stellazio:does better = happier? -
3 If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. SUCCEED ANYWAY.
Hmm, I rather be a failure. True friends, false enemies is better than false friends, true enemies. -
no leh..i don't get any happiness from those mentioned above..i'm better off and happier being evil..Originally posted by Rhonda:Ah but then?? 
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Pan zhu chi lao huOriginally posted by ndmmxiaomayi:Hmm, I rather be a failure. True friends, false enemies is better than false friends, true enemies.
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Eh... 'fat pig eat tiger'?? *scratches head...Originally posted by The man who was death:Pan zhu chi lao hu -
Act as pig lah!!!Originally posted by Rhonda:Eh... 'fat pig eat tiger'?? *scratches head...
u neva heard of that chen yu meh?? -
ban zhu chi lao hu lah
Why need to act as pig? -
posted this in a few place..
mostly, on the wall of Mother Teresa's Mission in Kolkutta
p.s. btw. the post is what was known as The Paradoxical Commandments... but another version i'd rather follow is Mother Teresa's Anyway... that one is the Real McCoy and i would say has a touch of the divine in it
People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.
What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, will often be forgotten. Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it will never be enough. Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway. -
Give them all the thick gooey love...with much peanut butter
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Orh... thanks for sharing the Mother Teresa's version, Bear!
The one I posted is from Kent M Keith. Here's a short write-up on him :
"Kent M Keith wrote his "paradoxical commandments" when he was 19 as a challenge to "always do what is right and good and true, even if others don't appreciate it.'' They were first published by Harvard Student Agencies in 1968. More than 25 years later, Keith discovered that these inspirational words had spread around the world and were found hanging on the wall of Mother Teresa's children's home in Calcutta. Keith's new book, ''Anyway : The Paradoxical Commandments'' explores the ideas behind the commandments and what it means to live them.''
So, I guess Mother Teresa didn't write that! -
she didn't.. she didn't even write those words on the walls.. but she lived them... more than most people knew about...
these lines are different.. and much better:
If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, will often be forgotten.
Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it will never be enough.
Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.
which is why i say, the version on the mission wall, have a touch of divine in them... -
Originally posted by Rhonda:
This is how I have been living. Sometimes I think "what for that effort?" but then I realize that it's how I am and even when I have nothing from it, I can't do the things different and I am not expecting any benefit.
Here's something that I came across in a magazine and I thought it'd be nice to share it with all of you! I'm sure a few of you would have seen the same thing in a poster.
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1 People are illogical, unreasonable and self-centered. LOVE THEM ANYWAY.
2 If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. DO GOOD ANYWAY.
3 If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. SUCCEED ANYWAY.
4 The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. DO GOOD ANYWAY.
5 Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. BE HONEST AND FRANK ANYWAY.
6 The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds. THINK BIG ANYWAY.
7 People favour underdogs but follow only top dogs. FIGHT FOR A FEW UNDERDOGS ANYWAY.
8 What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. BUILD ANYWAY.
9 People really need help but may attack you if you do help them. HELP PEOPLE ANYWAY.
10 Give the world the bst you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth. GIVE THE WORLD THE BEST YOU HAVE ANYWAY.
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Wah, thinkdifferent... this is how you have been living?Originally posted by thinkdifferent:This is how I have been living. Sometimes I think "what for that effort?" but then I realize that it's how I am and even when I have nothing from it, I can't do the things different and I am not expecting any benefit. Wah... quite a big claim, hor?
I already find the very first one close to impossible to achieve - People are illogical, unreasonable and self-centred. LOVE THEM ANYWAY.
That, in itself, is a tremendous challenge already! -
there has to be some rebels.. and i choose to be one, although the stuff listed is really good for people who can follow it. i just cant accept the trade offs for following the ways. although sometimes.. its worth the sacrifice for others
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[quote]Originally posted by Rhonda:
[b]Here's something that I came across in a magazine and I thought it'd be nice to share it with all of you! I'm sure a few of you would have seen the same thing in a poster.
3 If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. SUCCEED ANYWAY.
This also happens to me.
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Actually if you have anyone you consider a friend, which i am sure you have lots, you are already doing that 1.Originally posted by Rhonda:Wah, thinkdifferent... this is how you have been living? Wah... quite a big claim, hor?
I already find the very first one close to impossible to achieve - People are illogical, unreasonable and self-centred. LOVE THEM ANYWAY.
That, in itself, is a tremendous challenge already! -
Wheres the smile?Originally posted by thinkdifferent:This is how I have been living. Sometimes I think "what for that effort?" but then I realize that it's how I am and even when I have nothing from it, I can't do the things different and I am not expecting any benefit.
I have learnt long ago to expect something in return for a good deed will just make you miserable when it never returns or even worse is betrayed.
Be good be kind be yourself, but do not forget to take once in a while. -
Can charity be considered charity if it is not done in kindness?
I think it best not to complicate good deeds with too many thoughts, expectations, intentions and all that.
If you know it is right, and it makes you happy - just do lor. Should just be the end to itself, not means to an end.
Too many rationalisation takes the heart out of the deed. -
with Mother Teresa, it didn't matter why or where the money came from..
she made sure the money went into helping the poor in her mission...
in that way, the whys and wheres become immaterial and there is goodness from that charity.. even if it wasn't really from the heart, it did good anywayOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:Can charity be considered charity if it is not done in kindness?
I think it best not to complicate good deeds with too many thoughts, expectations, intentions and all that.
If you know it is right, and it makes you happy - just do lor. Should just be the end to itself, not means to an end.
Too many rationalisation takes the heart out of the deed. -
"Can charity be considered charity if it is not done in kindness?" -> was misquoting a somerset maugham line " he was charitable without being kind"Originally posted by the Bear:with Mother Teresa, it didn't matter why or where the money came from..
she made sure the money went into helping the poor in her mission...
in that way, the whys and wheres become immaterial and there is goodness from that charity.. even if it wasn't really from the heart, it did good anyway
The beneficiery, well, benefits. However, when charity becomes complex and simply a duty, what happens is that it becomes a 'quota' that needs to be filled by the individual and once, achieved, enough liao - and on the other end of the scale, simple kindness to each other as individuals get lost and forgotten on the massive scope of things.