Life is so fragile
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We visited his friend in hospital yesterday. He has been in hospital for 3.5 months from a motorbike accident. No one knows exactly what happened though some eye witnesses said that he lost control of the bike and crashed.
He is still young (27 yrs old) with a good career and future ahead of him but now he is bedridden and can't even breathe properly (throat was cut to insert airtube
). We're not even sure if he will be paralysed waist down as he is just slowly regaining control of his limbs. He can only move his arms now, though he still can't use his hands.
Makes you wonder if sometimes you just take things in life for granted till you lose 'normal rights' to them. We are all praying for his fast recovery as he is the only child in his family as well. -
reminded me of this guy from my sec sch.. he passed away last year this mth from an accident.. think he lost control over his bike..
he's my age, just came out of poly not long ago..
his gf was grief stricken... they were together for 6 years already.. -
another colleague died.
we're getting used to deaths here. -
Life's fragile, so did we learn anything?
Have we done anything different? -
what u workin as how come gettin used to deathOriginally posted by kopiosatu:another colleague died.
we're getting used to deaths here.
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oh my squadron has the highest death rate in the entire airforce.Originally posted by shinta:what u workin as how come gettin used to death
i think its the 3rd in 6 yrs. -
Originally posted by kopiosatu:oh my squadron has the highest death rate in the entire airforce.
i think its the 3rd in 6 yrs. -
ayiah, i've got a classmate who passed away in a m/cycle accident also.
when your time is up, its up.
xi guan jiu hao -
Yeah SO lost a colleague due to work related accident in 2003 but that was in a long long time. So far so good too -
i won't be surprised if i die in a road accident also la.
everytime i get on my bike i'm prepared to die. with all the drivers out there, especially some of the characters in "cars" forum, you better be prepared to get into an accident.
death is eventual. question is, when? -
dun ride lar..Originally posted by kopiosatu:i won't be surprised if i die in a road accident also la.
everytime i get on my bike i'm prepared to die. with all the drivers out there, especially some of the characters in "cars" forum, you better be prepared to get into an accident.
death is eventual. question is, when?
take public transport
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I mean if you die, that's sad and all...Originally posted by kopiosatu:i won't be surprised if i die in a road accident also la.
everytime i get on my bike i'm prepared to die. with all the drivers out there, especially some of the characters in "cars" forum, you better be prepared to get into an accident.
death is eventual. question is, when?
But what if you ended up having to lie in bed the whole day
I dunno......if I'm SO's friend, I think I rather die.....SO said that the last time when I was not around, all he talked about was death -
isnt it human's nature to take things for granted?
most people, upon hearing about misfortunes and deaths will sympathise and appreciate life for a few days, but will be back to his old self soon after. -
hahahaha and take more than an hour to get to work?Originally posted by shinta:dun ride lar..
take public transport
i do take public transport occasionally when i'm runing errands because it is really mentally tiring to ride in Singapore. the last thing i want to think about is the road condition, traffic condition and driving habits of the guy beside/ in front of me.
but still, i'm waiting to die
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I used to see deaths so often in my job, but the ones that really break your heart are the young chaps who die cause of Road Traffic Accidents or Industrial Accidents.
Usually, the motorbike riders have it really bad. Car accidents can be devastating too but usually, the impact isn't as great, compared to a bike rider's.
We see a number of these young people recover very slowly and become better and better and when we send them out of the ICU, it's a happy day for us as well because it means that they're out of the critical stage.
However, some of them suffer from permanent disabilities whilst others do not survive the accidents.
I remember admitting an 'active bleeder' from A&E. Immediately after getting the call, I quickly prepared the room for my patient because I knew he was in a very serious and critical condition. When they wheeled him in, one glance and we all knew the gravity of the situation and we all worked quietly and very fast, with the constant beeping of the alarms in our monitors going off.
He was in a motorbike accident, a very nasty one. He came in bleeding through all his orifices - eyes, nose, ears, mouth... and his X-rays showed multiple fractures all over. His face X-rays showed that his facial bones had been shattered to small bits and pieces in several places and if he had survived, he would have had to undergo extensive facial reconstruction.
Over the next four hours, I didnt' get to leave his side as I was assigned in-charge of him. We were all trying hard to stop his bleeding, infuse blood, and start several procedures to try and stabilise him before we sent him off for an Emergency Operation. He was seen by several doctors from various disciplines and everyone worked hard to help save him.
He passed away about five days later. His injuries, both internal and external, were too major.
When I heard the news, I was numb for a while... His came to us with his life tethering on edge and we all fought so hard to save him but it was all in vain. -
yeah, sometimes in a situation like this, death seems to be the better option.Originally posted by elindra:I mean if you die, that's sad and all...
But what if you ended up having to lie in bed the whole day
I dunno......if I'm SO's friend, I think I rather die.....SO said that the last time when I was not around, all he talked about was death
so i gotta ride faster and if i get into any accident, confirm die -
Originally posted by Rhonda:I used to see deaths so often in my job, but the ones that really break your heart are the young chaps who die cause of Road Traffic Accidents or Industrial Accidents.
Usually, the motorbike riders have it really bad. Car accidents can be devastating too but usually, the impact isn't as great, compared to a bike rider's.
We see a number of these young people recover very slowly and become better and better and when we send them out of the ICU, it's a happy day for us as well because it means that they're out of the critical stage.
However, some of them suffer from permanent disabilities whilst others do not survive the accidents.
I remember admitting an 'active bleeder' from A&E. Immediately after getting the call, I quickly prepared the room for my patient because I knew he was in a very serious and critical condition. When they wheeled him in, one glance and we all knew the gravity of the situation and we all worked quietly and very fast, with the constant beeping of the alarms in our monitors going off.
He was in a motorbike accident, a very nasty one. He came in bleeding through all his orifices - eyes, nose, ears, mouth... and his X-rays showed multiple fractures all over. His face X-rays showed that his facial bones had been shattered to small bits and pieces in several places and if he had survived, he would have had to undergo extensive facial reconstruction.
Over the next four hours, I didnt' get to leave his side as I was assigned in-charge of him. We were all trying hard to stop his bleeding, infuse blood, and start several procedures to try and stabilise him before we sent him off for an Emergency Operation. He was seen by several doctors from various disciplines and everyone worked hard to help save him.
He passed away about five days later. His injuries, both internal and external, were too major.
When I heard the news, I was numb for a while... His came to us with his life tethering on edge and we all fought so hard to save him but it was all in vain. -
xi guan jiu hao
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bu kan yi ji.
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Originally posted by kopiosatu:yeah, sometimes in a situation like this, death seems to be the better option.
so i gotta ride faster and if i get into any accident, confirm die -
A lot of people who end up paralysed or suffer from chronic disabilities end up wanting to die.Originally posted by elindra:I mean if you die, that's sad and all...
But what if you ended up having to lie in bed the whole day
I dunno......if I'm SO's friend, I think I rather die.....SO said that the last time when I was not around, all he talked about was death
There were lots of these people that I encountered in my previous ward. The stroke patients, brain tumours as well as the Accident or Assault victims all came to us.
Whenever I could spare the time, I'd talk to them and a lot of times, although they are unable to talk, they'll try so hard to communicate with you. Most of the time, they wanted to know what was happening to them and I'd always try to explain to them and encourage them to not give up. Sometimes, it's really really hard to communicate and you have to use some sort of board with alphabets written and point to each row and alphabet and spell out the words one-by-one before you knew what they wanted.
When I was sent to nurse a patient with an 'unknown' disease for a period of time once, I was so fearful. Because the diagnosis was 'unknown' and the colleagues she had come into contact with were falling ill one-by-one, it was really frightening. We couldn't enter her room without the full safety gear, ie. the goggles, the N95 mask, the disposable hair cover, the full disposable gown, and double-gloved, and it was hot under that gear.
I nursed her for weeks and I remember having a nightmare where I woke up in her room, critically ill myself, with a breathing tube, not able to talk, people looking at me from the glass wall but not able to come in... and I was crying and crying thinking, "Noo... don't let me catch her disease, please!!" I woke up in tears.
We are all mortals and we won't know when our time on earth shall come to an end. Our bodies will slowly fail us, we may be hit with afflictions that might render us immobile or chronically ill. The best thing to do is to stay courageous and soldier on. It's hard to accept it when our body parts fail us, but gradually, we'll have to accept that we cannot change anything but our attitudes and live on for ourselves, for our family, for our friends, and most importantly, for God.
elindra, I encourage you and Chris to visit your friend as often as you can. A lot of times, they get visitors in the beginning, then the visitors slowly trickle to a stop, and they're left feeling all alone and forgotten. That's what my friend, who had Leukemia and died told us. She cried and said that in the first week or so, EVERYONE came to visit her and she felt so loved. Then, over the next few months, only a small handful remembered her and she felt very depressed.
My heart goes out to your friend... the road ahead will not be easy. I hope he finds the will to live on. -
You know what, sometimes, Death is a mercy!Originally posted by kopiosatu:yeah, sometimes in a situation like this, death seems to be the better option.
so i gotta ride faster and if i get into any accident, confirm die
What if one ends up badly injured and disabled or worse, paralysed, but still alive?! Then, it will be chiu2 sheng1 bu4 de2, chiu2 si3 bu4 neng2! A fate worse than death!
I've met way too many patients crying and begging for us to help end their lives or to let them die liao. -
ok i gotta let ppl know,
"just let me die if i'm not going to recover la, cheers" -
Well, Chris and his friends have been taking time to visit him ever since he came out of coma, though yesterday was the first time I saw him. Been hearing updates from Chris so far.Originally posted by Rhonda:A lot of people who end up paralysed or suffer from chronic disabilities end up wanting to die.
There were lots of these people that I encountered in my previous ward. The stroke patients, brain tumours as well as the Accident or Assault victims all came to us.
Whenever I could spare the time, I'd talk to them and a lot of times, although they are unable to talk, they'll try so hard to communicate with you. Most of the time, they wanted to know what was happening to them and I'd always try to explain to them and encourage them to not give up. Sometimes, it's really really hard to communicate and you have to use some sort of board with alphabets written and point to each row and alphabet and spell out the words one-by-one before you knew what they wanted.
When I was sent to nurse a patient with an 'unknown' disease for a period of time once, I was so fearful. Because the diagnosis was 'unknown' and the colleagues she had come into contact with were falling ill one-by-one, it was really frightening. We couldn't enter her room without the full safety gear, ie. the goggles, the N95 mask, the disposable hair cover, the full disposable gown, and double-gloved, and it was hot under that gear.
I nursed her for weeks and I remember having a nightmare where I woke up in her room, critically ill myself, with a breathing tube, not able to talk, people looking at me from the glass wall but not able to come in... and I was crying and crying thinking, "Noo... don't let me catch her disease, please!!" I woke up in tears.
We are all mortals and we won't know when our time on earth shall come to an end. Our bodies will slowly fail us, we may be hit with afflictions that might render us immobile or chronically ill. The best thing to do is to stay courageous and soldier on. It's hard to accept it when our body parts fail us, but gradually, we'll have to accept that we cannot change anything but our attitudes and live on for ourselves, for our family, for our friends, and most importantly, for God.
elindra, I encourage you and Chris to visit your friend as often as you can. A lot of times, they get visitors in the beginning, then the visitors slowly trickle to a stop, and they're left feeling all alone and forgotten. That's what my friend, who had Leukemia and died told us. She cried and said that in the first week or so, EVERYONE came to visit her and she felt so loved. Then, over the next few months, only a small handful remembered her and she felt very depressed.
My heart goes out to your friend... the road ahead will not be easy. I hope he finds the will to live on.
I mean you know when he tells me, " X's situation is very bad" you don't see h ow bad it is till you see it yourself -
Is he a quadriplegic? (Paralysed totally and cannot move any of his limbs)Originally posted by elindra:Well, Chris and his friends have been taking time to visit him ever since he came out of coma, though yesterday was the first time I saw him. Been hearing updates from Chris so far.
I mean you know when he tells me, " X's situation is very bad" you don't see h ow bad it is till you see it yourself 