Polygamy?? Anyone?
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Well, we all know that it is illegal now, except for the muslims, and that it was very common in the past. I believe to the most of you, your grandfather or great-grandfather might have more than one wife. I have heard from a friend's ex-bf that one of his friends have a legal wife and a 'wife' and they are both living happily together in Singapore.
Is anyone willing to accept that? For me it's a straight NO. There is no way about it. I've always wondered how does a muslim woman feel when her husband wants to marry another woman into the family. I would think the feeling is terrible. I will be wondering if I am inadequate in anyway that he falls in love with someone else enough to want to marry her. I think the emotional wounds would be tremendous and I think my self-confidence would drop like a rock
Anyway, what do you guys think? -
Different culture, different lifetime, different way of thinking lah.
Who is to say what is right or wrong?
Depends on current societal norms.
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Waliow...I think one is enough liow. Can't imagine two people giving me curfews....Originally posted by elindra:Well, we all know that it is illegal now, except for the muslims, and that it was very common in the past. I believe to the most of you, your grandfather or great-grandfather might have more than one wife. I have heard from a friend's ex-bf that one of his friends have a legal wife and a 'wife' and they are both living happily together in Singapore.
Is anyone willing to accept that? For me it's a straight NO. There is no way about it. I've always wondered how does a muslim woman feel when her husband wants to marry another woman into the family. I would think the feeling is terrible. I will be wondering if I am inadequate in anyway that he falls in love with someone else enough to want to marry her. I think the emotional wounds would be tremendous and I think my self-confidence would drop like a rock
Anyway, what do you guys think? -
my squadron practices that~! one in singapore, another one in thailand!
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Originally posted by gentlerock:Waliow...I think one is enough liow. Can't imagine two people giving me curfews....
gentlerock so guai one meh? -
No la. Must live together than considered.Originally posted by kopiosatu:my squadron practices that~! one in singapore, another one in thailand!
That one is mistress liao
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live together as in, all wives under one roof?Originally posted by elindra:No la. Must live together than considered.
That one is mistress liao
i think that's hard. -
if its a straight NO, then why bother discussing here?Originally posted by elindra:Well, we all know that it is illegal now, except for the muslims, and that it was very common in the past. I believe to the most of you, your grandfather or great-grandfather might have more than one wife. I have heard from a friend's ex-bf that one of his friends have a legal wife and a 'wife' and they are both living happily together in Singapore.
Is anyone willing to accept that? For me it's a straight NO. There is no way about it. I've always wondered how does a muslim woman feel when her husband wants to marry another woman into the family. I would think the feeling is terrible. I will be wondering if I am inadequate in anyway that he falls in love with someone else enough to want to marry her. I think the emotional wounds would be tremendous and I think my self-confidence would drop like a rock
Anyway, what do you guys think? -
still got in Sg meh?Originally posted by elindra:Well, we all know that it is illegal now, except for the muslims, and that it was very common in the past. I believe to the most of you, your grandfather or great-grandfather might have more than one wife. I have heard from a friend's ex-bf that one of his friends have a legal wife and a 'wife' and they are both living happily together in Singapore.
Is anyone willing to accept that? For me it's a straight NO. There is no way about it. I've always wondered how does a muslim woman feel when her husband wants to marry another woman into the family. I would think the feeling is terrible. I will be wondering if I am inadequate in anyway that he falls in love with someone else enough to want to marry her. I think the emotional wounds would be tremendous and I think my self-confidence would drop like a rock
Anyway, what do you guys think?
maybe in other countries is kenna forced by parents or husband to be -
my father good friend has a mistress..and its an open secret..
when they came over to my hse during cny there were talking about it..
4 days with mistress, 3 days with wife.. -
I think elindra isn't interested in knowing what's right and wrong, nor does she want to know the 'current societal norms'. She just wants people's opinions on this issue.Originally posted by charlize:Different culture, different lifetime, different way of thinking lah.
Who is to say what is right or wrong?
Depends on current societal norms.
And so, what's yours? -
So, ok, what do you think about that then?Originally posted by stellazio:my father good friend has a mistress..and its an open secret..
when they came over to my hse during cny there were talking about it..
4 days with mistress, 3 days with wife..
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It's not acceptable to me. I'm jealous and sensitive so if my spouse ever asks to take in a 2nd wife, or keep a mistress or whatever, he can jolly well sleep out in the park bench!
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Live in the same household ah? Okay, got she do the all the chores and I am the only one who get to spend the $$ boh?
Seriously? NO.......NOT accepted! -
issit an issue for guys?
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shocked?that the wife came to terms with it..and he's been with the mistress for very long liao..Originally posted by Rhonda:So, ok, what do you think about that then?
i duno man.. -
i'd feel more sorry for the second wife...the first wife usually gets more respect and is allowed to boss the other one aroundOriginally posted by elindra:I've always wondered how does a muslim woman feel when her husband wants to marry another woman into the family. I would think the feeling is terrible. I will be wondering if I am inadequate in anyway that he falls in love with someone else enough to want to marry her. I think the emotional wounds would be tremendous and I think my self-confidence would drop like a rock
in a lot of cases they become good friends and look after each other's children. it's the way they've been brought up...i guess it seems natural to them. -
One wife is more than enough to wipe out your savings...which idiot wants more than one?
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I think one person nagging at you is plenty enough, thank you very much ...
in any case, in Singapore at least, I believe polygamy is not allowed, period.
no exceptions for Muslims or Mormons or whoever. -
A friend told me that it is possible to love a person with all your heart..... and then get to know another and love him /her with all your heart too . Without loving the first person any less . (Confused yet?
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The friend likens it to having a second child; you don't love your first child lesser.
If one believes in the above theory, that a person's capacity to love can be increased and expanded to more than one person... then I guess polygamy is rational.
Personally, I cannot accept my husband loving or marrying another, and I don't agree with the above rationale...... but I can't come up with any concrete reason to reject it, other than the fact that the love for a child is not the same as the love for your partner.
Maybe it could be pure simple seslfishness, wanting to possess your partner solely and entirely. -
Originally posted by oxford mushroom:One wife is more than enough to wipe out your savings...which idiot wants more than one?
Wei! Some wives are assets, ok! Not ALL wives are liabilities, and for that matter, neither are ALL husbands 'assets'!
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NO!
Nel dun have much time for me... if he's to have a 2nd wife or mistress or whateva...
i might as well marry maplestory.. i spend more time with maple den him, and if that happens, i'd have to spend all my time with maple -
Yeah I agree, like in Malaysia their new ruling created an uproar amongst women because if their husband decides to get a new wife, he is entitled to the first wife property etc if she doesn't agree to his new wife and he wants to divorce her.Originally posted by Rhonda:
Wei! Some wives are assets, ok! Not ALL wives are liabilities, and for that matter, neither are ALL husbands 'assets'!
Worse is, they can get a divorce via SMS!!! How scary is that
I'm talking about the Muslims here. -
i tink serial monogamy is the trend
marry, divorce
marry another one, divorce
marry one more, divorce -
Oh ya....Originally posted by FireIce:i tink serial monogamy is the trend
marry, divorce
marry another one, divorce
marry one more, divorce
alimoney
another alimony
one more alimony
Doesn't sound like fun leh...
If you have one wife, you can be losing up to 50% of whatever you have.
If you have more than one wife how ah? Divided equally in a divorce? Or they all share up to 50%?