The Quarter-Life Crisis
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i aso duno wat to do, jus everyday go work den go home machiam robotOriginally posted by coolger03:was i considered one? i quit in aug last year cos i got sick of my job, then went japan tour for abt a month... that one month was so relaxing... was hoping to be able to find a job there... but my japanese sucks major...
and i just got a perm job recently after bumming for erm... 4 mths... but i still dunno if this job is what i want in the long term...
sometimes i wonder if i'm the only one ard at this age who still dunno what i want to do...
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Nope. It says you have to finish school already, and have started on your career then you get disillusioned.Originally posted by bladez87:i dont want to continue the rat race ma. as if getting O level cert, then get Dip and go out work.
it fits the definition right?
You? You haven't even finished school! -
Too much chicky stuff to do!Originally posted by sherling22:have u ever wondered you will get sick of buming around and doing those chicky stuff after a while?
i used to enjoy lazing around doing nothing except going to beaches, reservoirs and parks everyday to enjoy the breeze and scenaries. after a while, i got bored and then i went on to try other buming activities and i will get bored one by one, until i found my passion.
I can also finally pursue interests that I love too! Stuff like write that novella that I've always wanted to, learn how to write a script, learn Japanese, read read read, publish my very own cookbook with full-colour photos, etc.
Can also volunteer with my favourite charities!
SPCA and the Canossaville Children's Home... Can even do volunteer nursing activities, go on the odd mission now and then to poor villages.
Soooooo much stuff to do!!
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Why am i being ignored by you?
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I'm not old enough to talk about it yet, am I?
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oppsOriginally posted by Rhonda:Nope. It says you have to finish school already, and have started on your career then you get disillusioned.
You? You haven't even finished school! 
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oh, your chicky stuff are very meaningful!!!Originally posted by Rhonda:Too much chicky stuff to do!
I can also finally pursue interests that I love too! Stuff like write that novella that I've always wanted to, learn how to write a script, learn Japanese, read read read, publish my very own cookbook with full-colour photos, etc.
Can also volunteer with my favourite charities! SPCA and the Canossaville Children's Home... Can even do volunteer nursing activities, go on the odd mission now and then to poor villages.
Soooooo much stuff to do!!
come to think of it, if everyone of us do what we like to do, and they are meaningful stuffs, wouldn't spore economy more diversified and culturally more colourful? everyone of us is unique and our interests are diversified too, so if we focus on our passion, we will do our best in our fields. for example, in japan, there are people who are innovators, that is, their main "job" is to invent something and then patent it. some of them even have thousands of patents! u could be an excellent novel writer, script writer too -
I've had my quarter life crisis about... 3-4 years ago...
I started with SERIOUSLY bumming for months and realised you need to have a lot of stamina, and commitment to be a REAL BUM (It aint easy bumming). And when I say bum, it means you don't do ANY work, and you don't do ANYTHING meaningful. U BUM. It's extremely boring so.. I figured what's missing was excitement. So...
I've broke up a failing relationship, got into a rut, dated, got heartbroken. Resigned from my job and temped and starved on a part time pay while wasting my time on non paying activities for the fun or it. And it was really funny looking back (forgot to add this) cos it was like real angsty. you know.. the.. I'M SO CONFUSED!!!!!
Now that's all over, and I am glad, cos it means I'm gonna live till 100 since it happened while I was about 25. So NOW all I got to do is to wait for kids to arrive and the mid life crisis to descend on me. -
25 year old next year, and graduating soon
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Har?? Eh... who are you directing this post to, ah?Originally posted by Master -_-:Why am i being ignored by you? -
Originally posted by sherling22:oh, your chicky stuff are very meaningful!!!
come to think of it, if everyone of us do what we like to do, and they are meaningful stuffs, wouldn't spore economy more diversified and culturally more colourful? everyone of us is unique and our interests are diversified too, so if we focus on our passion, we will do our best in our fields. for example, in japan, there are people who are innovators, that is, their main "job" is to invent something and then patent it. some of them even have thousands of patents! u could be an excellent novel writer, script writer too
You think so??
Thank you! 
It's my dream to write a novella... easiest is to 'warm up' by writing a chicky novel!
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the goal would be to work hard now, establish myself by 40 God willing, then go off to more important stuff than work...
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And judging from the looks of it, it seems like you're well on your way!Originally posted by breytonhartge:the goal would be to work hard now, establish myself by 40 God willing, then go off to more important stuff than work... -
Here's the Financial and Social Aspects of this Quarter-Life Crisis, also from Wikipedia :
Financial and social aspects
A primary cause of the stress associated with the "quarter-life crisis" is financial in nature. Real wages for most people have been dropping since the 1970s, and most professions have become highly competitive. Positions of relative security, such as tenured positions at universities and "partner" status at law firms, have dwindled in number. This, combined with excessive downsizing, means that many Americans will never experience occupational security in their lives, and this is doubly unlikely in young adulthood. Generation X was the first generation to meet this uncertain "New Economy" en masse.
The era when a professional career meant a life of occupational security, thus allowing an individual to proceed to establish an "inner life", is coming to a crashing end. Financial professionals are often expected to spend upwards of 80 hours per week in the office, and people in the legal, medical, educational, and managerial professions may average more than 60. In most cases, these long hours are de facto involuntary, reflecting economic and social insecurity. While these ills plague adults at all ages, their worst victims are ambitious, unestablished young adults.
In The Cheating Culture, David Callahan illustrates that these ills of excessive competition and insecurity do not always end once one becomes established, by being awarded tenure or "partner" status, and therefore the "quarter-life crisis" may actually extend beyond young adulthood. Some measure of financial security, which usually requires occupational security, is necessary for psychological development. Some have theorized that insecurity in the "New Economy" will place many Americans in a state of, effectively, perpetual adolescence, and that the rampant and competitive consumerism of the 1990s and 2000s indicates that this is already taking place.
Really food for thought...
It's true that these days, the younger folks graduate into a pretty 'unfriendly' working environment - in the job market, it's the employers' market these days.
Terms of employment, remuneration and benefits aren't what they used to be, and on top of that, permanent employment can be pretty difficult to get, leaving most job-seekers with contract or temporary positions, which does not offer any job security at all.
No wonder greater and greater numbers experience a sort of 'burn out' in their jobs much faster and end up with the Quarter-Life Crisis! -
It's already hit me in uni.
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I think I'm suffering from a quarter-life crisis right now. I wanna just quit my job, stay at home and write a book (my dream, don't laugh) and play WoW and also do whatever I want. Take up new courses like sailing etc etc
But as usual, reality is biting me in the butt and refusing to let go so......
In fact I forgot what I was telling my boss and he was like
"You're too young to be feeling so jaded" -
x 2.Originally posted by elindra:I think I'm suffering from a quarter-life crisis right now. I wanna just quit my job, stay at home and write a book (my dream, don't laugh) and play WoW and also do whatever I want. Take up new courses like sailing etc etc
But as usual, reality is biting me in the butt and refusing to let go so...... (except for the book writing part. I just want to read books.) -
Originally posted by av98m:x 2. (except for the book writing part. I just want to read books.)
"You're too young to be feeling so jaded" -
Originally posted by elindra:
"You're too young to be feeling so jaded" I should be like the guy in the movie Office Space. He got himself hypnotised so that he basically started acting like Wally. Within weeks he was identified by consultants as management material!! -
I think you forgot to mention, quit your job, bum around AND somehow, magically, receive a huge, fat allowance every month!Originally posted by elindra:I think I'm suffering from a quarter-life crisis right now. I wanna just quit my job, stay at home and write a book (my dream, don't laugh) and play WoW and also do whatever I want. Take up new courses like sailing etc etc
But as usual, reality is biting me in the butt and refusing to let go so......
In fact I forgot what I was telling my boss and he was like "You're too young to be feeling so jaded"
Oh man, if that happened to me, I'll travel round the world, writing articles for travel mags!
I'd also like to be on one of those culinary holidays where you stay at some nice resort which is also a cooking school that you attend according to schedule, and by the end of your holiday, you'd have earned a cooking certification too! -
Well, my ToTo ticket didn't buy me any returnsOriginally posted by Rhonda:I think you forgot to mention, quit your job, bum around AND somehow, magically, receive a huge, fat allowance every month!
Oh man, if that happened to me, I'll travel round the world, writing articles for travel mags!
I'd also like to be on one of those culinary holidays where you stay at some nice resort which is also a cooking school that you attend according to schedule, and by the end of your holiday, you'd have earned a cooking certification too!
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I still haven't learnt how to buy ToTo yet!Originally posted by elindra:Well, my ToTo ticket didn't buy me any returns
Well, any money I have right now has to go towards the impending move anyways. -
I wonder if we'll see the work situation improve in our lifetime!
Highly unlikely though. Previously, there was this 'iron rice bowl' concept. Now, even in the civil service, there's no longer such a perk.
And it's no secret that firms will not hesitate to 'downsize' in a recession.
They pay you a crushed peanut bit, work you to death, expect you to bleed dry for them, and in return, there's might not even be monetary compensation fitting for the work you've put in!
In a way, it's a sort of abuse! But when the abuse is so rampant that it becomes the 'norm', what other choice do we really have?
Ah well, let's hold on tight to our belts and wait for the chaps in the US to come up with some new industrial reform / revolution that's more family-friendly and individual-friendly, like they did in the 90's, and hopefully, Consultants here will then get the hang of these buzzwords, and help sell the concept to employers here!
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I think the crisis we experience in certain periods of our lives means we develope and want to progress. Looking for something what would makes us happy and satisfied for ever, something in what we would find ourselves or the sense of our life.
We get a crisis usually when some big changes happen in our life or when no changes happen for long time. As for the changes - we feel insecure about the new things which interrupt the safe way of the life we used to live. This feeling disappears when we get used to the changes and accept them and they become our every day's life.
As for the no changes for a long time - we get fed of it and start to question the life, is this all I reached? Isn't there something more? Can't I do something else? Is this the sense of my life? What should I do? I feels so lost!
Then when we dare to change our life, we feel the initial insecurity.
But when we found our passion, we don't get fed of it so easily.
Some people need changes else they feel depressed. Some people prefer the security of their stable non changing life and fear the changes. Some people never get satisfied.
People have few needs but many wants.
I like and need changes but also I like some things in my life stable. When I'm very busy and can't get proper rest for a long time, I wish I could have few free days where I can just bum. But when I get these few days when I don't have to do anything, I feel bored and I must find some acitivity, something what makes me busy, what fills my day and makes me spend it effective or productive.
Even when I am busy, I try to find the time for my hobbies and balance the things I have to do with the things I like to do.
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well said!!!Originally posted by thinkdifferent:I think the crisis we experience in certain periods of our lives means we develope and want to progress. Looking for something what would makes us happy and satisfied for ever, something in what we would find ourselves or the sense of our life.
We get a crisis usually when some big changes happen in our life or when no changes happen for long time. As for the changes - we feel insecure about the new things which interrupt the safe way of the life we used to live. This feeling disappears when we get used to the changes and accept them and they become our every day's life.
As for the no changes for a long time - we get fed of it and start to question the life, is this all I reached? Isn't there something more? Can't I do something else? Is this the sense of my life? What should I do? I feels so lost!
Then when we dare to change our life, we feel the initial insecurity.
But when we found our passion, we don't get fed of it so easily.
Some people need changes else they feel depressed. Some people prefer the security of their stable non changing life and fear the changes. Some people never get satisfied.
People have few needs but many wants.
I like and need changes but also I like some things in my life stable. When I'm very busy and can't get proper rest for a long time, I wish I could have few free days where I can just bum. But when I get these few days when I don't have to do anything, I feel bored and I must find some acitivity, something what makes me busy, what fills my day and makes me spend it effective or productive.
Even when I am busy, I try to find the time for my hobbies and balance the things I have to do with the things I like to do.
I can't be a proper bum
to add on, being in the same emotional state for too long a time will also dull our sensitivity. for instance, being sad for too long will numb our response to new sad events; whereas, being happy for too long will attenuate our joyous feeling towards a new happy event. if i can choose, i would choose the 80/20 rule, that is, 80% stability, 20% changes. 80% happy events, 20% sad events........