Retired couples told cruise may sink marriage
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Tue Feb 21, 10:30 AM ET
TOKYO (Reuters) - Japanese couples who celebrate the husband's retirement with a leisurely cruise or overseas trip may find themselves headed for a divorce court when they get home.
Many Japanese men who retire have spent decades living largely apart from their families as they devoted themselves to their jobs -- a recipe for trouble when they decide to take extended trips abroad with their wives.
"It is dangerous for couples to suddenly go on overseas trips after the husbands retire," author Sayoko Nishida, who wrote a popular book called "Why Are Retired Husbands Such a Nuisance?" was quoted as telling Kyodo news agency.
Nishida, who runs a school in Tokyo called "Retirement Cram School" to help couples deal with the issue, recommends that couples take one-day bus tours as practice.
Others say the real kiss of death for a relationship is a cruise, since couples are stuck together with each other on a ship for days or even weeks.
The number of divorces among couples married 20 or more years hit 42,000 in 2004, double what it was in 1985, while the number among those married over 30 years is four times higher, according to Japan's Health Ministry.
"What is most important for couples after retirement is communication," Kazumi Taniguchi, editor of a magazine aimed at retiring baby-boomers, was quoted as saying.
"Overseas trips and moving abroad without considering this factor ... will only enhance the possibility of divorce."
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http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20060221/od_nm/japan_retirement_dc;_ylt=AhPMxOPkJaiwXBnuQNqut6PtiBIF;_ylu=X3oDMTA5aHJvMDdwBHNlYwN5bmNhdA--
I don't believe this! They actually have a cram school for retirement!!!! -
the japanese are nuts...
they need lessons to become human...
did you read the insanity that happens in their typical school? if not, just go read shro-cat's topic about being a japanese school teacher...
i think the default setting for being japanese is that they must be perverts and unable to cope with normal daily human things
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couples need a break from each other every now and then
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Been too lazy to read that yet. Just breifly browsed through.Originally posted by the Bear:the japanese are nuts...
they need lessons to become human...
did you read the insanity that happens in their typical school? if not, just go read shro-cat's topic about being a japanese school teacher...
i think the default setting for being japanese is that they must be perverts and unable to cope with normal daily human things -
read the quotes denOriginally posted by elindra:Been too lazy to read that yet. Just breifly browsed through.
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just tell them to "kancho" each other during times when the other least expects it
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isn't marriage a long horrible cruise? 2 persons stuck together for 50 years, geez.
*runs away, dun flame me =p -
Originally posted by TehJarVu:isn't marriage a long horrible cruise? 2 persons stuck together for 50 years, geez.
*runs away, dun flame me =p
some how i got reminded of "titanic" -
That is sick bearOriginally posted by the Bear:just tell them to "kancho" each other during times when the other least expects it
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well, if perversion is a default setting for them, who knows? that sicko hobby may bring them closer together Originally posted by elindra:That is sick bear
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Originally posted by the Bear:well, if perversion is a default setting for them, who knows? that sicko hobby may bring them closer together
Maybe it's their private joke -
private joke?Originally posted by elindra:
Maybe it's their private joke
u should have seen dodge balls in sg..
i've seen a guy close to tears after a session of dodge balls back in sg..
tsk tsk tsk...
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x 2.Originally posted by the Bear:the japanese are nuts...
they need lessons to become human...
did you read the insanity that happens in their typical school? if not, just go read shro-cat's topic about being a japanese school teacher...
i think the default setting for being japanese is that they must be perverts and unable to cope with normal daily human things
Beneath the veneer of a civilised society, with all that politeness and bowing and whatnot, lies a very disturbing picture. -
Did you read the article elindra posted, Hippo? The article states that these couples barely spend time together when the husband is working because of the long hours he has to clock in and then, suddenly, upon retirement, they see each other more in a week than they probably had in a few years and then all the problems of living with a partner surfaces!Originally posted by InnoHippo:couples need a break from each other every now and then
The Japs sure have erm... to be politically-correct, lifestyles that deviate from the norm. -
I can't help but agree! You know there is a problem when you need to go to cram school to prepare you for retirement......as in how to relax and enjoy lifeOriginally posted by Rhonda:The Japs sure have erm... to be politically-correct, lifestyles that deviate from the norm. -
lookin at how they work... i'm very sure i won't fit into their society... i rush home to chiong game after work..Originally posted by elindra:I can't help but agree! You know there is a problem when you need to go to cram school to prepare you for retirement......as in how to relax and enjoy life
and for their citizens to wish for destruction to come their way just so that they get an extra day off.... its scary.. (azrael said this in his editorials.. not sure if its word for word anot.. ) -
why does this thread seem like a jappo bashing thread??
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i read the article .......Originally posted by Rhonda:Did you read the article elindra posted, Hippo? The article states that these couples barely spend time together when the husband is working because of the long hours he has to clock in and then, suddenly, upon retirement, they see each other more in a week than they probably had in a few years and then all the problems of living with a partner surfaces!
The Japs sure have erm... to be politically-correct, lifestyles that deviate from the norm.
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depends on who you askOriginally posted by TehJarVu:isn't marriage a long horrible cruise? 2 persons stuck together for 50 years, geez.
*runs away, dun flame me =p
for singaporeans, if the hubby isnt home by six or seven, and comes home at ten pm or one am every night, the wife will be asking if the hubby 'gui hun' or 'have mistress' outside
for japanese, if the wife sees the hubby coming home so early, she will freak out, because it means the hubby is not busy at work, and it spells trouble for his career -
So, how, Lau?? Since you're wise to this, does it mean that next time when you're married and wanna gui3 hun4, you'll make sure to reach home before 10pm nevertheless so your wife would hopefully be clueless?!Originally posted by laurence82:depends on who you ask
for singaporeans, if the hubby isnt home by six or seven, and comes home at ten pm or one am every night, the wife will be asking if the hubby 'gui hun' or 'have mistress' outside
for japanese, if the wife sees the hubby coming home so early, she will freak out, because it means the hubby is not busy at work, and it spells trouble for his career -
abudenOriginally posted by Rhonda:So, how, Lau?? Since you're wise to this, does it mean that next time when you're married and wanna gui3 hun4, you'll make sure to reach home before 10pm nevertheless so your wife would hopefully be clueless?!
or take leave, dont tell wife, go out as usual, spend the day with mistress
or pretend to go overseas for work, but when in foreign land, have fun time with the local gals
classic cases
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Just don't catch some STD can liao horOriginally posted by laurence82:abuden
or take leave, dont tell wife, go out as usual, spend the day with mistress
or pretend to go overseas for work, but when in foreign land, have fun time with the local gals
classic cases
Didn't know Ah Lau is so -
Not me larOriginally posted by elindra:Just don't catch some STD can liao hor
Didn't know Ah Lau is so
I done so many of your personality tests
All said I am a faithful person
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You must have cheatedOriginally posted by laurence82:Not me lar
I done so many of your personality tests
All said I am a faithful person