Can a guy be too nice?
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...well?
I've often heard my buddies complaining that if they're too nice... chances are the girl would climb all over them. When they don't really care because they aren't so keen on that particular girl - the reverse happens.
I have to admit I've had my 'bad boy' phase as well - the guy that mothers warned you about, and you know will eventually break your heart.
Older (but not necessarily wiser now), I wonder what is it about the nice guys that remains elusive to some? Is it the quest for excitement, the constant adrenaline rush or just a rebellious stage that we go through?
Can a guy really be too nice?
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y not?Originally posted by BabyRS:...well?
I've often heard my buddies complaining that if they're too nice... chances are the girl would climb all over them. When they don't really care because they aren't so keen on that particular girl - the reverse happens.
I have to admit I've had my 'bad boy' phase as well - the guy that mothers warned you about, and you know will eventually break your heart.
Older (but not necessarily wiser now), I wonder what is it about the nice guys that remains elusive to some? Is it the quest for excitement, the constant adrenaline rush or just a rebellious stage that we go through?
Can a guy really be too nice? 
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yup, have had my bad boy phase too
i tink when you finally want to settle down you will look for a nice guy instead of those bad boy type? -
Im so nice that girls treat me like carpet and walk all over me
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err think the nice guys finish last theory is quite true
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nan ren bu huai, nu ren bu ai
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who asked you to be so chee hong.........Originally posted by alexkusu:Im so nice that girls treat me like carpet and walk all over me -
Good things come to those who wait...Originally posted by RaTtY81:err think the nice guys finish last theory is quite true 
I suppose when a girl has gone through that period of heartbreak, heartache - and the feeling of getting trampled and used by a guy, they would appreciate even the smallest things done for them even more.
Maybe we need to experience the bad in order to recognise the good.
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wa...u better dun look up hor...Originally posted by alexkusu:Im so nice that girls treat me like carpet and walk all over me -
Must sometimes exert influence and authority mah....dun like me alsoOriginally posted by alexkusu:Im so nice that girls treat me like carpet and walk all over me 
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Sadly only a few girls truly learnt their lesson.Originally posted by BabyRS:Good things come to those who wait...
I suppose when a girl has gone through that period of heartbreak, heartache - and the feeling of getting trampled and used by a guy, they would appreciate even the smallest things done for them even more.
Maybe we need to experience the bad in order to recognise the good. -
Well, I guess nice also must have tactic lah. There were times when I was too nice to people and they were freaked out, they were like, how come this guy is so nice to me, he must be having ulterior motives. I guess that's a common way of reacting to nice people, because as the world grows smarter, people tend to be overly cautious of others. I'm not saying that it's bad to be distrusthful of others, but this is why nice guys often freak people out, it's the instinct that if people are too nice, they will be thought of as having ulterior motives. I guess often the movies portray such things, like evil people pretending to be nice with a deep hidden agenda. Well, movies are movies afterall, there can truly be really nice sincered people in this world. I've met my fair share of them, and I'm a collector of such friends, because I love to be surrounded by such people.
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o0 hmm wat if the guy is the rebound? the gal picked herself liao n find another bf?Originally posted by BabyRS:Good things come to those who wait...
I suppose when a girl has gone through that period of heartbreak, heartache - and the feeling of getting trampled and used by a guy, they would appreciate even the smallest things done for them even more.
Maybe we need to experience the bad in order to recognise the good. -
And the sad part is when she has finally recognised the good, he's already 2 miles away into the distance.That happens to many guys..Originally posted by BabyRS:Good things come to those who wait...
I suppose when a girl has gone through that period of heartbreak, heartache - and the feeling of getting trampled and used by a guy, they would appreciate even the smallest things done for them even more.
Maybe we need to experience the bad in order to recognise the good. -
I've had my share of being with the bad guys too - guys who are extremely exciting and 'forbidden' and needless to say, disliked by my family and close friends!
The forbidden fruit tastes sweeter, what can I say?
It's not just nice guys who finish last, cause nice girls do finish last too!
Maybe, it's this need for 'challenge' in some of us. If someone is 'too nice' and 'too available', we tend to take that person for granted. However, if someone's touted as a 'difficult' catch, it might suddenly render that person extremely desirable, notwithstanding their bad boy or bad girl image, which, in these instances, can actually enhance their desirability because of the exciting challenge they become to people who love the thrill of the chase.
Hopefully, we get over this stage and move on wiser and become mellower and more mature. Sadly, some don't proceed beyond this stage!
If you're very restless, easily bored, and are always on the lookout for exciting, new stuff, you might find a nice guy/girl too boring, too predictable, too stifling, etc. However, if you're more or less a homebody sort who like the idea of a stable relationship with little to no nasty surprises, you'd go for the 'nice' peeps.
We go through stages of our life when we prefer different people and oh well, different strokes for different folks, as they say.
Me? I'm looking for a nice, decent guy I can hole up with and go on discovery vacations with, share interests with, and journey through life together, hand-in-hand.
No more adrenaline-rush, bad boys liao! No more a teenager liao! -
One might think, whats the point of being nice when one could be just as bad and have fun doing so?
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That's so very very true.Originally posted by LazerLordz:And the sad part is when she has finally recognised the good, he's already 2 miles away into the distance.That happens to many guys.. -
to quote from a 31 year old female friend .....
girls want to bed the bad boys .... but they want to "breed" with the good boys .......
true ? ....
of course ... some females think differently ... that's why you see tattooed gangsters pimping their gfs and such sick shit like that ... men (and sane women) can never imagine why such farktards can get access to a .... ermmm .... receptacle, at all ..... but then again ... women's logic circuits are wired differently of course .... -
All the best.Originally posted by Rhonda:I've had my share of being with the bad guys too - guys who are extremely exciting and 'forbidden' and needless to say, disliked by my family and close friends!
The forbidden fruit tastes sweeter, what can I say?
It's not just nice guys who finish last, cause nice girls do finish last too!
Maybe, it's this need for 'challenge' in some of us. If someone is 'too nice' and 'too available', we tend to take that person for granted. However, if someone's touted as a 'difficult' catch, it might suddenly render that person extremely desirable, notwithstanding their bad boy or bad girl image, which, in these instances, can actually enhance their desirability because of the exciting challenge they become to people who love the thrill of the chase.
Hopefully, we get over this stage and move on wiser and become mellower and more mature. Sadly, some don't proceed beyond this stage!
If you're very restless, easily bored, and are always on the lookout for exciting, new stuff, you might find a nice guy/girl too boring, too predictable, too stifling, etc. However, if you're more or less a homebody sort who like the idea of a stable relationship with little to no nasty surprises, you'd go for the 'nice' peeps.
We go through stages of our life when we prefer different people and oh well, different strokes for different folks, as they say.
Me? I'm looking for a nice, decent guy I can hole up with and go on discovery vacations with, share interests with, and journey through life together, hand-in-hand. No more adrenaline-rush, bad boys liao! No more a teenager liao!
I believe you can find the rite one. -
I think some women see the so-called "bad boys" as a challenge. Maybe they're exciting to be with, just a bit rough around the edges. And the women delude themselves into thinking that they can change the person over time.
That being said, who says a person cannot be nice and yet interesting/exciting to be with? The stereotypical definition of "nice guy" seems to be that of a guy who's nice, caring, but boring. -
alright...i admit i'm a bad guy..........
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Some guys I know finally got laid after they got round to thinking like this.Originally posted by alexkusu:One might think, whats the point of being nice when one could be just as bad and have fun doing so? -
WHEN SOMETHIN SEEMS TO BE TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE..IT'S BEST TO ASSUME THAT IT'S TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE
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Females may say things like they want a nice guy who treats them nice, do things for them, take them out for dinner, etc. But thats what they 'think' they want.
What they 'think' they want is not necessarily what they go for in a guy, but rather their emotional wantings. Hence, for a guy to be have some success, he should engage their emotions and not their minds. Same like strategies marketeers used to entice consumers. -
I want a guy who can match me emotionally and mentallyOriginally posted by alexkusu:Females may say things like they want a nice guy who treats them nice, do things for them, take them out for dinner, etc. But thats what they 'think' they want.
What they 'think' they want is not necessarily what they go for in a guy, but rather their emotional wantings. Hence, for a guy to be have some success, he should engage their emotions and not their minds. Same like strategies marketeers used to entice consumers. He has to be engaging enough to keep me interested.
Had my fair share of nice guys and bad guys
My SO falls in the cat where he is nice but can be bad