Cool to be cynical, jaded and bored?
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got to drag this topic up again...
looking at Heng's last post (because i didn't read any other post.. this began as a rant and a vent) i don't think i'm imposing my views on others.. rather, a lot of cynical, jaded and bored people have been going around purposefully deriding others who choose to be happy..
did my being happy and sharing it with other people who may be happier for it mess up the life of the cynical? should it? if so, what then? we be unhappy for the cynical? then turn that around.. why can't the cynical be happy for us...
this topic has been dragged up again because there have been a lot of cynics and asswipes going around, throwing their "wit" (which is isn't.. it's just you showing how pathetically unhappy you are.. is it a cry for help?) about by making happy people unhappy.. throwing one-liners to put down those who find happiness in little mercies...
i find this is one of the worst traits a terrible person has.. if someone is happy, be happy for that person...
what do you gain by making that person feel unhappy? if you gain some kind of happiness from such horrible actions, i wonder... why is it so?
the world is miserable enough... why deny others simple pleasures in life when you can't have them?
or is that the reason?
if so, isn't that one of the most *^@$ed up things you have ever heard of?
strangely, apart from being disturbed.. and initially angry at these people, i now feel an overwhelming sadness and pity for them... -
Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:hehe yeahh.. its the angsty teenhood.. some people don't outgrow it though
and yeah, thanks to media, a lot of people think misery gives them character and whining is cool.
While I am not angsty any longer.. or cynical or jaded...Hmm at least I dont think so...
I do get a bit irritated with the EXTREME-SUNSHINEY-LIFE-TREATS-ME-SO-GOOD type of people.. who come into office chirping 'GOooOooOD MorNNNiiiNNG!!!!' on a Monday morning type and always so self satisfactorily contented with life... "sigh what to do? I pretty and intelligent... bound to have such problems one..."
I was just joking with a friend here about how most of my colleagues seem to be high on some kinda happy-happy gas because early in the cold winter morning, they can be so uppity-bumpity, cheerful, it's surreal!
They step into a patient's room and start to purr, "Goooooooood MOOORRning, Sunshine! How are you, Dar? (short for 'Darling') Shall we get up and clean ourselves up and show a nice, fresh face to the sun?" ... or equivalent.
Sometimes, it's so put on, I start to look around me to see if someone will actually go, "Lights! Camera! Action!!" -
I guess some folks feel it's kewl to be seen thus. Others might have other reasons.
I know I was cynical and at times jaded, for a long while, no doubts about it. Too much heartache in too short a space of time, perpetal struggle whilst living a hand-to-mouth existence, family member(s) not in good health and in various stages of deterioration and dying, etc...
Whilst it doesn't mean that having it tough means you have an excuse to be bitter and cynical and jaded, you can't deny that it IS a huge contributing factor. Nobody's born cynical or jaded, but sometimes, it's the overwhelming problems in life that pushes one in that direction. Often, it could be a cry for help gone awry. This is another angle to look at it.
Now, my situation in life is much better. I no longer live hand-to-mouth, I'm taking control of my finances because I earn enough (FINALLY!), my job is far from perfect but it's as good as it gets for now, and I find that I no longer feel cynical nor bitter nor jaded anymore! Remove all the things that used to worry me sick and I find that I'm a happier person now.
It's easy to feel disdain for those who are trapped in cynicism and jadedness, but I think if we can't offer a helping hand to pull them out of the quagmire, let's not make remarks that will stomp them deeper into the pits. Nobody loves to be that way... but sometimes, bad situations in life cause some folks to become thus. Not endorsing that response, but just saying that it happens, just like it happened to me.
As for the bored, I got nothing much to say except - Entertain Yourself! When I used to be in chatrooms donkey years ago, I used to say, "I'm not responsible for entertaining you!" 
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if you wallow in your own misery, no one cares..
however, those who go out of their way to make others miserable by making fun and deriding their simple pleasures...
we get a lot of those these days... -
Ah well, we can't change them if they choose to be like that. But we can choose to walk away.Originally posted by the Bear:if you wallow in your own misery, no one cares..
however, those who go out of their way to make others miserable by making fun and deriding their simple pleasures...
we get a lot of those these days...
I was surrounded by a lot of cynical colleagues at work back in SG, but when I got to know them better, I realised that most of them led tough lives or had bad experiences which led to their cynicism. But basically, when you get to know them, they're actually quite nice peeps.
And, Singapore is a huge pressure cooker, and extremely overcrowded too... I'm not surprised that people are becoming 'weird' these days. Sad... -
there was an episode of House.. actually, the only half episode i watched...
so.. does his tumour in his brain give him an excuse to murder people?
what about those who fight their inner rage to commit violence?
we make our choices... they made theirs to be bitter and angry, perpetuating their own little spiral...
but nevermind.. the cynical show me.. and gives me even more reason to thank God
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Actually, if one has a tumour in the frontal region of the brain, it CAN cause one to lose control of oneself and commit things one would otherwise never do. I've seen patients with frontal tumour manifest with extreme temperament and character changes and they become totally different people - where they were once sweet and docile, they become aggressive, angry, swearing and cussing peeps.Originally posted by the Bear:there was an episode of House.. actually, the only half episode i watched...
so.. does his tumour in his brain give him an excuse to murder people?
what about those who fight their inner rage to commit violence?
we make our choices... they made theirs to be bitter and angry, perpetuating their own little spiral...
but nevermind.. the cynical show me.. and gives me even more reason to thank God
And no, it's not an excuse, it IS and can be, a valid reason explaining the behaviour. -
OK, I kinda suspect there's some underlying issue beneath this thread and I know not what so, I apologise if my posts somehow miss the mark.
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Believe it or not, I actually get a lot of derision and snide remarks by complete strangers when I'm out there photographing nature with my camera and tripod. Mostly at the botanical gardens. I really wonder what the fuck is wrong with these people.Originally posted by the Bear:if you wallow in your own misery, no one cares..
however, those who go out of their way to make others miserable by making fun and deriding their simple pleasures...
we get a lot of those these days...
And yes. I'm talking about people who will stand behind or beside you and do that. And no, in none of those instances was I blocking any walkway or path.
Weird.