Weddings - Need suggestions
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so hows the planning?
Soloemisation at the beach ready.
Dinner confirmed
party at the beach after the dinner can also mah. -
lau as the guy holding the flowers basket
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I hope the best man dont dropped the ring and bends down to pick it up.Originally posted by laurence82:lau as the guy holding the flowers basket
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who will be the best man? handsum or notch?Originally posted by viciouskitty74:I hope the best man dont dropped the ring and bends down to pick it up.
don must post peekture -
I think that would be hilarious to watch.Originally posted by viciouskitty74:I hope the best man dont dropped the ring and bends down to pick it up. 
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Tch.. pple's wedding ah lau also muz be opportunistic..
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Planning is going hay-wire. Am doing deep breathing exercises to stop myself from screamingOriginally posted by viciouskitty74:so hows the planning?
Soloemisation at the beach ready.
Dinner confirmed
party at the beach after the dinner can also mah.
Dinner location is confirmed. date not confirmed cos mum and dad still not agreeable to the 7mth thing. Solomization location is confirmed. dad is complaining that it will be hot ( 'but i'm getting a tentage that will set me back by 3K!' ) Traditional chinese wedding or quiet western wedding still in discussion. mum & dad wans 'noisy'. TX and I wan quiet. dad has successfully irritated the sheet out of me but talking abt other stuff during wedding discussions Just found out my church only does weddings on sat and my referred solomization date is friday. Am very disappointed abt it (I been attending that church since 2003) and am trying v v v hard to 'understand'. party at beach after dinner has not been planned due to the above issues.
at this point, i am like ---->| |<---- this close to calling it off.
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havent choose who is best man leh. i got some one in mind but TX gotta choose his own.Originally posted by laurence82:who will be the best man? handsum or notch?
don must post peekture
the bride's maids are more or less confirmed tho -
Poor don.Originally posted by the_don:Planning is going hay-wire. Am doing deep breathing exercises to stop myself from screaming Dinner location is confirmed. date not confirmed cos mum and dad still not agreeable to the 7mth thing. Solomization location is confirmed. dad is complaining that it will be hot ( 'but i'm getting a tentage that will set me back by 3K!' ) Traditional chinese wedding or quiet western wedding still in discussion. mum & dad wans 'noisy'. TX and I wan quiet. dad has successfully irritated the sheet out of me but talking abt other stuff during wedding discussions Just found out my church only does weddings on sat and my referred solomization date is friday. Am very disappointed abt it (I been attending that church since 2003) and am trying v v v hard to 'understand'. party at beach after dinner has not been planned due to the above issues.
at this point, i am like ---->| |<---- this close to calling it off.
why not do this. do the solomization at the church, has the dinner at the hotel and flies to hawaii or another country instead.
You can fight with the parents, thats bad for your new life with your SO. It wont brode well. -
haiz..... truly understands your stressOriginally posted by the_don:Planning is going hay-wire. Am doing deep breathing exercises to stop myself from screaming Dinner location is confirmed. date not confirmed cos mum and dad still not agreeable to the 7mth thing. Solomization location is confirmed. dad is complaining that it will be hot ( 'but i'm getting a tentage that will set me back by 3K!' ) Traditional chinese wedding or quiet western wedding still in discussion. mum & dad wans 'noisy'. TX and I wan quiet. dad has successfully irritated the sheet out of me but talking abt other stuff during wedding discussions Just found out my church only does weddings on sat and my referred solomization date is friday. Am very disappointed abt it (I been attending that church since 2003) and am trying v v v hard to 'understand'. party at beach after dinner has not been planned due to the above issues.
at this point, i am like ---->| |<---- this close to calling it off. 
learn to give and take. wedding is not about the 2 of you. it's about the families, relatives, friends and all. enjoy yourself coz you are doing something for yourself. -
I dont quite understand soloemisation and the church thingy.
tot the church can soloemise the wedding at the church? its done by the pastor?
why need another location to do soloemising when you can get a JP to do it any time & any location?
why dinner must be quiet? when everyone is there to celebrate your union?
And wouldnt it be better to be celebrating your union with your SO instead? -
haiz. the problem with my church is that the premises is not available for functions like wedding. it is like an auditorium that they rent out. that's why gotta look for solomization location.Originally posted by viciouskitty74:Poor don.
why not do this. do the solomization at the church, has the dinner at the hotel and flies to hawaii or another country instead.
You can fight with the parents, thats bad for your new life with your SO. It wont brode well.
my dad started asking for a lot of stuff like number of tables, 'ping jing', etc. then i said 'eh the whole wedding is paid by Tx and I okie.' he then he gave the most stupid retort 'shouldn't his parent pay? isn't TX their son?' so i shut him by by saying 'i'm your daughter and you are not paying my wedding'. and this is only the start of his nonsense. *blood boil*
i dun wanna fight my parents too. i'm good with my mum but she is the typical 'soft' chinese lady and ends up giving in mostly. as for my dad, it takes effort for me to not snap.
oh well, anyway it seems like a lot of issues right now are tempting me to throw in the towel. i'm gonna try to hang on, and pray all these problems are temporary -
Oh don, hang in there *hugs*
Give and take ba. Sometimes it's not about achieving a spectacular dream-come-true event... making it through unscathed and everyone smiling is a success in itself.Originally posted by the_don:Planning is going hay-wire. Am doing deep breathing exercises to stop myself from screaming -
piak chek more accurate actually.Originally posted by SevenEleven:haiz..... truly understands your stress learn to give and take. wedding is not about the 2 of you. it's about the families, relatives, friends and all. enjoy yourself coz you are doing something for yourself.
it is like doing the whole wedding for people using my own hard earned money.
sigh, i haven't announce it to my grand parents and close relatives yet. dun know wat kind of talk will come.
if really wan me to enjoy, i would choose to open invitation to all my frens and have a party on the beach. -
need to work on the psyche of the parents.
the number of tables shows the honour of the family.
the ping jing shows the respect of the family to bring up the daughter.
soloemisation & partying is your own to plan and excute.
you need to work out the priorities of the families plus your own.
putting them parents priorities first, will make it easier to eventually get to execute your own.
tables to budget, ping jing to give and take.
dons family has to return a portion of the ping jing to the grooms family too. they are not daughters as pigs. neither was dons upbringing free of charge. -
i think i was not clear. sorry for confusing youOriginally posted by viciouskitty74:I dont quite understand soloemisation and the church thingy.
tot the church can soloemise the wedding at the church? its done by the pastor?
why need another location to do soloemising when you can get a JP to do it any time & any location?
why dinner must be quiet? when everyone is there to celebrate your union?
And wouldnt it be better to be celebrating your union with your SO instead?
the church wedding + signing of marriage cert cannot be done at where I go for service as the premises is like a rented auditorium. i was trying to have a 'church wedding' minus the 'church building' by having it at the beach. wanted to invite pastor and worship team to rasa by the beach and hold the whole walk down, signing paper thing.
the noisy vs quiet thing is about the chinese tradition of havin jie meis at the door and the groom 'cheonging' in to get the bride. TX and I do not like that cos very noisy. but my parents like it cos they can get all the relatives to gather and they can do their old folks get to together thing. my mum says 'wo jie nu er, wu zi leng qing qing. hao xiang bu dui leh'
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thanks choco... i just din think a wedding was so troublesomeOriginally posted by choco B:Oh don, hang in there *hugs*
Give and take ba. Sometimes it's not about achieving a spectacular dream-come-true event... making it through unscathed and everyone smiling is a success in itself. -
It's the merging of 2 familiesOriginally posted by the_don:thanks choco... i just din think a wedding was so troublesome
Just compromise and it be better then you think -
why when i say to compromise and take it easy shui bian i get scolded deOriginally posted by choco B:Oh don, hang in there *hugs*
Give and take ba. Sometimes it's not about achieving a spectacular dream-come-true event... making it through unscathed and everyone smiling is a success in itself.
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Cos life is unfairOriginally posted by hisoka:why when i say to compromise and take it easy shui bian i get scolded de
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don why not take tis approach... it's my wedding on tis date at tis place... and u r invited. FULLSTOP!
tat's almost wat i did with mine.. i decided everything then informed my parents, tat's it.... i just tell them wat time to come tat's it... but put it nicely, i told them i dun want them to worry so much -
i'm so misunderstoodOriginally posted by choco B:Cos life is unfair -
Cos the_don is special. Nothing should be shui bian.Originally posted by hisoka:why when i say to compromise and take it easy shui bian i get scolded de -
WTB Merger Expert.Originally posted by elindra:It's the merging of 2 families
Just compromise and it be better then you think -
take it easy and shui bian very different meaning..... doh!Originally posted by hisoka:why when i say to compromise and take it easy shui bian i get scolded de