Weddings - Need suggestions
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Originally posted by the_don:
Hee my ROM was outdoors. Friends stayed overnight to 'chope' 2 huts for me so in case of rain, guests could take shelter there. Dress code casual. Time was morning.
[b]my dearest forumites, need your help to give some suggestions and comments about past weddings you have attended.
Has anyone been to a outdoor solmisation? How you feel about it, what was the wet weather contingency plan, dress code, location, afternoon or evening?
Do it yourself la Anyone knows a good florist that does those floral arrangement for weddings? like decorating the chairs with flowers, etc.
save $$$
My friend's ROM was also outdoors at a beach side pub. Her friends tied sashes around the chairs and a simple lily at the bow of each one. You could try something like that? Any other good deco ideas dinner venue more 'unique'? the table and chairs r white (cannot change color 
) and i dun like white
Depends on your guests I think. Nowadays not that many people drink hard liquor. i was told hard liquor no corkage charge. if Jack, Jim and Johnny was served instead of Tiger, Merlot and Chardonnay, will it be very un-wedding like?
Tell them ROM not wedding just sign document only. the most important question: how to convince parents that having a wedding during chinese ghost festival is OK? 
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hahaha.. ok la my budget no so high but what I did was "waaa.. this one.. not bad.. this one ok ... this one VERYYY NICEEE HORRRRRRR.. this one nice also la.. "Originally posted by the_don:no la. haven't buy. i oready HINTed very loudly abt Charlotte Atelier.
every time we walk pass them at suntec, i'll drag TX to the window and say really really sweetly "dear, they got 105 facets, really look very brilliant, i think they are the best, I WAN MY RING FROM HERE"
and if he doesn't get it... mebeb shd think twice abt marrying tt fella!
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Mine no hints lah. We just fixed a date and went ring shopping, when it comes to my blings I don't leave it to chance or risk of misunderstanding hurhur.
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usually the ba zi is match before the whole process.Originally posted by the_don:humm which part of traditional custom?
u mean wearing the Kua? or the groom on horse bring the 'Jiao4 Zi3' to the gal house?
1. firstly got to get matchmaker(usually auntie will do) to go to bride house to matchmake (formalities) and asked her parents about the dowry
2. usually the bride side will request for si dian jin (4 pieces of gold) teochew style
3. they will also ask for other things like pork trotters(nowaday can type ok), angpow for combing, washing, teaching her daughter when they were young
4. they will also ask for wedding cakes/biscuits (teochew jia bing)
5. they will ask for X numbers of table for the wedding dinner.
6. matchmaker will then decide on behalf of groom parent to the above and also decide a date for the above to be presented to the bride parent (sometime all these are already negotiated before the meet)
7. on that day, the matchmaker will carry all these with oranges in a basket to the bride house with the groom
8. the bride parent will accept all gifts and return some back.
9 usually they will return some pork trotter, oranges, some some of the money
10. they will keep the groom si dian jing to be wore by bride on actual day.
labourious? more to come -
Originally posted by choco B:Mine no hints lah. We just fixed a date and went ring shopping, when it comes to my blings I don't leave it to chance or risk of misunderstanding hurhur.
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preparation before the actual day
spare you the shopping details.....
invitation card (usually hand written chinese lettering for elders will be send out with the wedding cakes (jia bing)
when the couple room is ready, (bed, dressing table, sticking red paper like the double happiness etc.....) get small kids (usually obedient boys or babies) to play on your bed (jump/roll whatever). two lamps (old day kerosene lamp) are place on the bed head (so you can see what you are doing at night )
on the actual day
1. fetch the bride (sometime its 4-5am ) prepare red packet for small uncle when he welcome you by opening the car door.
2. sometime it comes with more $$$ for the ah yi before see bride.
3. after meeting bride, its praying to bride ancestors before eating a bowl of ginko nuts and one whole egg. bride and groom are suppose to break the egg into two to represent "productivity"
4. fetch bride home to groom family (all other details spared).
5. bride and ah yi will bring gifts from bride family to groom family (usually gold [face for the bride])
6. prayer to groom ancestor before tea ceremonies to the groom faimily and relatives (get to collect gifts like angpow or gold these money can help to cover any losses during wedding dinner)
7. outdoor photoshoot before returning to bride house for tea ceremonies (more ang pow to collect)
8. return to own house to rest and change (the bed lamp will be lighted up)
9. wedding dinner
10. tong fang after dinner (usually both will be dead tired to do anything other than sleeping
11. next day, bride and groom will serve tea to groom parent before going to bride family to serve tea.
end..... hopefully detail helpful and good luck don/tx -
this thread is so interesting.... always nice to see how people are handling something that one day we will go through too...
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wah ur's very "traditional"....Originally posted by SevenEleven:preparation before the actual day
spare you the shopping details.....
invitation card (usually hand written chinese lettering for elders will be send out with the wedding cakes (jia bing)
when the couple room is ready, (bed, dressing table, sticking red paper like the double happiness etc.....) get small kids (usually obedient boys or babies) to play on your bed (jump/roll whatever). two lamps (old day kerosene lamp) are place on the bed head (so you can see what you are doing at night )
on the actual day
1. fetch the bride (sometime its 4-5am ) prepare red packet for small uncle when he welcome you by opening the car door.
2. sometime it comes with more $$$ for the ah yi before see bride.
3. after meeting bride, its praying to bride ancestors before eating a bowl of ginko nuts and one whole egg. bride and groom are suppose to break the egg into two to represent "productivity"
4. fetch bride home to groom family (all other details spared).
5. bride and ah yi will bring gifts from bride family to groom family (usually gold [face for the bride])
6. prayer to groom ancestor before tea ceremonies to the groom faimily and relatives (get to collect gifts like angpow or gold these money can help to cover any losses during wedding dinner)
7. outdoor photoshoot before returning to bride house for tea ceremonies (more ang pow to collect)
8. return to own house to rest and change (the bed lamp will be lighted up)
9. wedding dinner
10. tong fang after dinner (usually both will be dead tired to do anything other than sleeping
11. next day, bride and groom will serve tea to groom parent before going to bride family to serve tea.
end..... hopefully detail helpful and good luck don/tx
mine's simplified version....
invitation cards: throw to parents to write name of whoever they wanna invite to ceremony [i won't know the names wat]... throw to friends to fill up their own names!
bedroom: double happiness sticker on door... sorry NO kids allowed in my room! 2 red "battery-operated" lamps, now no more kerosene de lah... get small ones and hide them behind bedside photo frame hey it doesn't go with my room decor wat!
actual day:
- groom come at 10am [together with roast pig] cos our places too far apart, and to save time he came and "pretend" i return to my plc
- sabor session till 11am... tea ceremony with family [told u pretend i "return" mah]
- photo session till 1230pm... too hot so i dun wanna take photo after a while
- went to his plc for tea ceremony...
- 130pm went church... i not suppose to go together with him but i bored and to save the driver for gog the same plc TWICE, i go earlier! R&R in backroom till i supposed to "walk in"
- 2-3pm church ceremony
- 3-4pm tea reception
- 4pm go home and sleep!!!
- 7pm dinner with immediate families... i get to eat from dish #1 to desserts!
- 10pm reach home and do wat every couple does....
count angbaos!!! -
U R SOO LUCKYYOriginally posted by pwnz0r:At least these days parents (and some grandparents even) are more modern in thought. My mom gave me some sh*t, but I stood firm.
My dad didnt care and my mom-in-law is like as long as you are both happy. -
i think mine got the "hint". i even ask his sis if she wanna go look see alsoOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:hahaha.. ok la my budget no so high but what I did was "waaa.. this one.. not bad.. this one ok ... this one VERYYY NICEEE HORRRRRRR.. this one nice also la.. "
and if he doesn't get it... mebeb shd think twice abt marrying tt fella! -
i oready faint from reading all theseOriginally posted by SevenEleven:usually the ba zi is match before the whole process.
1. firstly got to get matchmaker(usually auntie will do) to go to bride house to matchmake (formalities) and asked her parents about the dowry
2. usually the bride side will request for si dian jin (4 pieces of gold) teochew style
3. they will also ask for other things like pork trotters(nowaday can type ok), angpow for combing, washing, teaching her daughter when they were young
4. they will also ask for wedding cakes/biscuits (teochew jia bing)
5. they will ask for X numbers of table for the wedding dinner.
6. matchmaker will then decide on behalf of groom parent to the above and also decide a date for the above to be presented to the bride parent (sometime all these are already negotiated before the meet)
7. on that day, the matchmaker will carry all these with oranges in a basket to the bride house with the groom
8. the bride parent will accept all gifts and return some back.
9 usually they will return some pork trotter, oranges, some some of the money
10. they will keep the groom si dian jing to be wore by bride on actual day. labourious? more to come -
OMG so many thingsOriginally posted by SevenEleven:preparation before the actual day
spare you the shopping details.....
invitation card (usually hand written chinese lettering for elders will be send out with the wedding cakes (jia bing)
when the couple room is ready, (bed, dressing table, sticking red paper like the double happiness etc.....) get small kids (usually obedient boys or babies) to play on your bed (jump/roll whatever). two lamps (old day kerosene lamp) are place on the bed head (so you can see what you are doing at night )
on the actual day
1. fetch the bride (sometime its 4-5am ) prepare red packet for small uncle when he welcome you by opening the car door.
2. sometime it comes with more $$$ for the ah yi before see bride.
3. after meeting bride, its praying to bride ancestors before eating a bowl of ginko nuts and one whole egg. bride and groom are suppose to break the egg into two to represent "productivity"
4. fetch bride home to groom family (all other details spared).
5. bride and ah yi will bring gifts from bride family to groom family (usually gold [face for the bride])
6. prayer to groom ancestor before tea ceremonies to the groom faimily and relatives (get to collect gifts like angpow or gold these money can help to cover any losses during wedding dinner)
7. outdoor photoshoot before returning to bride house for tea ceremonies (more ang pow to collect)
8. return to own house to rest and change (the bed lamp will be lighted up)
9. wedding dinner
10. tong fang after dinner (usually both will be dead tired to do anything other than sleeping
11. next day, bride and groom will serve tea to groom parent before going to bride family to serve tea.
end..... hopefully detail helpful and good luck don/tx
okie. LAS VAGAS anybody???? -
eh i read all these, all very ma fan one leh...
no need so much one la. best is sign paper, go home koonz -
Originally posted by tare:- 10pm reach home and do wat every couple does.... count angbaos!!! the wedding coordinator at rasa also ask "u all not going to count ang bao? " after we told her we heading to CHONG after wedding dinner
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did anyone do the "Bachelor Nite"/"Hens Night" thing?
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I did it for a few of my friends, but not for myself. Usually not much in SG one la.Originally posted by the_don:did anyone do the "Bachelor Nite"/"Hens Night" thing? -
The bach's night usually organised by the best man while the hen's night by the maid of honour or bridesmaid.Originally posted by the_don:did anyone do the "Bachelor Nite"/"Hens Night" thing?
I didn't have bridesmaid for our wedding but one of my female friends organised a mini party for me anyway.
It doesn't have to be a crazy night. It can be a bowling session with a group of friends and have nice dinner afterwards.
Over here, you can hire a stripper for the bach's/hen's night if you wish to. When my female got married, her sister organised one for her. I didn't go to her hen's night though as I was trying to cut cost at that time for our wedding.
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Just a party at my girlfren's house, with lots of Margaritas & gossip. They were very nice to sponsor me a spa & nail session.Originally posted by the_don:did anyone do the "Bachelor Nite"/"Hens Night" thing?
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choco getting married soon?Originally posted by choco B:Just a party at my girlfren's house, with lots of Margaritas & gossip. They were very nice to sponsor me a spa & nail session. -
Signed sealed delivered
But still owed a stripper tmd!Originally posted by hisoka:choco getting married soon? -
Originally posted by choco B:Signed sealed delivered
But still owed a stripper tmd!
warrantee how many years? -
As long as my eyes still clear and fingers still nimble enough to tuck dollar notes in , I will claim *determined*Originally posted by hisoka:
warrantee how many years? -
Originally posted by choco B:As long as my eyes still clear and fingers still nimble enough to tuck dollar notes in , I will claim *determined*
i ehard stellazio has aspirations along that line. maybe can ask him for it -
choco use coins! more jiggle!
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stripper thingy still can arrange.
i used to work for beauty pageants...male beauty pageant too. mind you....Singapore.
some of the old contestants frens can be pretty sporting about it if asked nicely.