About Friendship...
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yalor.Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Yeah.. and sometimes friends have their own lives.... not being free and available for you when you need them, does not mean they are any less FRIENDS because they have their own problems too. Of course, some friends try really hard to be there, but it goes both ways ba, if they can't return a call or an sms, don't get too hurt and sad... just call them again.
If your friends are any like me, I am superduper forgetful. Sometimes friends sms me when I am very busy, I read, forget to reply then completely forget abt the sms later. And I'm glad my friends dont give up on me because of my own inadequacies too.
i can said that i am used to it liao.
my friends nowadays r either married or dating
want to get them together for a gathering oso very difficult
one of my friends even said that the best way to know the latest news of the rest of the cliche is through friendster
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Are you talking about me
Sorry didnt chat with you for so long....
Wait.. I dont even have your contact number
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wat is important in friendship?
capacity to stand by ur side in time of need?
ability to tell u the truth so tat u won't make stupid mistakes?
or just simply honesty and sincerity?
with friends whom i deem as "close", i won't even mind TAT much if i noe i'm being used... but to blatantly lie to me abt situations and only reveal the truth when situation cornered her? does she actually believe i din noe she's been lying all the while?
i keep quiet just waiting for her to be honest... is honesty among GOOD friends tat much to ask for? -
What in a friendship's birth.
for we know not how much it's worth.
Gone, the days of innocent joy,
come, the times of suspicious ploys
Only when we face the internal fight,
then we start to see the external light.
It may do one good to reflect much,
but never should one feel grudge
Whatever shall be shall be,
it is not up to me
How much a friendship's worth,
my heart has the answer it deserves -
there's always pmOriginally posted by X-men:Are you talking about me
Sorry didnt chat with you for so long....
Wait.. I dont even have your contact number 
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maybe yr gd friend just don't want to hurt the friendship or yr feelingOriginally posted by tare:wat is important in friendship?
capacity to stand by ur side in time of need?
ability to tell u the truth so tat u won't make stupid mistakes?
or just simply honesty and sincerity?
with friends whom i deem as "close", i won't even mind TAT much if i noe i'm being used... but to blatantly lie to me abt situations and only reveal the truth when situation cornered her? does she actually believe i din noe she's been lying all the while?
i keep quiet just waiting for her to be honest... is honesty among GOOD friends tat much to ask for?
for me, my friends just can't wait to tease me with my shortcomings -
I went out with a close sec sch fren last week. She used to be bubbly and was the class chairman. The last time we met was back in uni but we didn't really keep in touch since leaving sec sch. It was awakening how awkward it felt, and long uncomfortable silences.Originally posted by elindra:Awww Rhonda *hugs*
People do change and it's true that I have lost friends who were once very dear to me.
Just cherish the memories of the good times together
But I tell myself to be grateful that I still have a few (maybe 2-3??) friends whom I met recently which thankfully I still have something to say to, who don't make me feel I'm talking to myself. However, it is a sad reality that when people don't meet up much and don't have common life experiences, they will almost certainly drift apart.. -
Originally posted by Kenashi:so many category n grades
make me think of my previous job performance review
I think that what tare says applies to almost all of us and how we deal with friends though. Inevitably, there'll be some sort of categorisation taking place. I guess you can say this is some sort of auto self-protecting mechanism, in a way!
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Originally posted by X-men:Are you talking about me
Sorry didnt chat with you for so long....
Wait.. I dont even have your contact number Don't worry, when I return home to SG, I will contact you and you'd better make sure you attend at least one of our gatherings then! -
missy understands me so wellOriginally posted by Rhonda:
I think that what tare says applies to almost all of us and how we deal with friends though. Inevitably, there'll be some sort of categorisation taking place. I guess you can say this is some sort of auto self-protecting mechanism, in a way! -
was chatting with a fren last nite.
we do know a common person.
And tat brought us to discuss this common person we know and my best fren.
Anyway, thank goodness I've learnt to let go of friends when they go.
So best fren betrayal wasnt so bad. I am jaded to these betrayals. -
Although we've always heard 'stories' before and we think we know better, when it actually happens to us, a betrayal is never easy to accept.Originally posted by viciouskitty74:was chatting with a fren last nite.
we do know a common person.
And tat brought us to discuss this common person we know and my best fren.
Anyway, thank goodness I've learnt to let go of friends when they go.
So best fren betrayal wasnt so bad. I am jaded to these betrayals. Even for the strong of heart, a betrayal, esp one from a friend whom we consider close to us, can feel like a dagger being driven deep into our heart. 
I think the older we get ( ) the more such situations we would have encountered. It doesn't make it any easier, but I noticed that if and when it happens, I tend to get over it much faster than I used to. Where it used to be a 9.5 on my personal Richter Scale, it now probably gets up to only about 6.5 or 7. -
And friendship cannot stand lying.
i wouldnt cut off my friend who lied to me how she get to Seattle.
But I know. trusting her will be a issue.
she will still be a friend, someone I can still go pubbing and dancing with. someone i can still bring to meet those oil rig engineers and introduce her to them with.
but no. I cannot for the heck of me, will not advise others to beware of her lies.