Is marriage just a certificate?
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Why do you marry or why not?
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i have no idea
but one thing is for sure, it is the woman who drop the hint that they want to get married -
yes..
stupid lousy piece of paper -
Hard to answerOriginally posted by Rock^Star:Why do you marry or why not?
I used to think when I'm young I dun want to marry
But now I am happily married
For some reason I just knew he was the one -
I noticed that for most of my friends, it's always the girls who initiate marriage. Well, even myself too.
Divorces are so easy nowadays. Why get married if a couple can seperate in the blink of an eye? Why not just stay as a happy couple? -
That's because you get to a point in the relationship that you don't progress any further and after sometime it will just break down if you don't take the next stepOriginally posted by Rock^Star:I noticed that for most of my friends, it's always the girls who initiate marriage. Well, even myself too.
Divorces are so easy nowadays. Why get married if a couple can seperate in the blink of an eye? Why not just stay as a happy couple? -
what is it to you and what does it matter to everyone else?
to me, it'll be telling my partner that i want to be her Mr Bear and her to be my Mrs Bear.. that i am hers forever
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its a commitment to you spouse
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and an expensive proceedure if you want to break it...Originally posted by sand king:its a commitment to you spouse -
So you get married, have kids, raise them.....that's the next step?Originally posted by elindra:That's because you get to a point in the relationship that you don't progress any further and after sometime it will just break down if you don't take the next step -
I have thought of that before.Originally posted by sand king:its a commitment to you spouse
So if one marries because of committment, isn't that a disservice to one's spouse? -
it's a cheap piece of paper to get, and a damn expensive one to tear....
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I will never get married until i am able to provide for my wife..
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That marriage cert means your previous will, beneficiary are no longer valid.
So the moment you tear those papers, you need to rewrite your will, your beneficiaries with a lot of agencies.
From gahment, insurance to your office group insurances. So do take note.
That $25/- paper, cost you easily $2,500/- to tear. -
RIGHT you are unless you wanna have kids of course!
You don't want your kids to be born out of wedlock so that they are bastards!
Dictionary meaning of bastard is child born out of wedlock, that is, parents are not married to each other.
If you don't wanna have children, then cohabitation's enuff oredi! Cohabitation's indeed the preferred way to go: Less hassle, your assets are better protected (especially for the men!), happiness is enhanced, health and wellness are promoted and thus, life is prolonged..... !
Just because you marry and get a cert is no guarantee you won't divorce de wor! I've personally seen so many cases of divorce that I'm kinda paranoid!
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thought about it but with all i'm seeing going on with the people(married) around me i think staying single looks more attractiveOriginally posted by Rock^Star:Why do you marry or why not? -
Not many gals think this way. They want marriage as a form of security which I think is non-existent since divorces are so easy.
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not so easy lah ....... guys must be prepared to lose $$$$$$Originally posted by Rock^Star:Not many gals think this way. They want marriage as a form of security which I think is non-existent since divorces are so easy. -
sometimes not just the guys lose $$... the woman may also... and have nothing to gainOriginally posted by InnoHippo:not so easy lah ....... guys must be prepared to lose $$$$$$ -
Originally posted by :
Hello, where is the love?
If you don't wanna have children, then cohabitation's enuff oredi! Cohabitation's indeed the preferred way to go: Less hassle, your assets are better protected (especially for the men!), happiness is enhanced, health and wellness are promoted and thus, life is prolonged..... !
Just because you marry and get a cert is no guarantee you won't divorce de wor! I've personally seen so many cases of divorce that I'm kinda paranoid!
I agree - it's better that YOU do not get married.
A marriage is not about "How convenient or economic it is for me?", and neither is everyone is a strong advocate of cohabitation like you. Some think it's just wrong, while others still have some respect for their parents and family.
How much is that marriage certificate worth? It's worth as much as what you put into the marriage, I'd say. A warning though: a lot of hard work and commitment are needed. No one ever said maintaining a good marriage is easy. -
Been thru marriage.
Been thru divorce.
Yes. Marriage is just a certificate, when feelings change, when love is gone. Its just a proof of love, that it existed.
And those divorce papers are heartaches that wont go away.
Because unlike a death of a spouse, its harder to recover, cos there is no one to grieve for.
its kinda wrong to think that because you seen enough divorces, you are frightened of marriage. because, they should be a living example of WHAT NOT TO DO & WHAT TO DO in a marriage. A Education, A Precaution instead of a Impossibility. -
Feelings can change over time. Maybe not now, but 10 years, 20 years later.
And when divorce comes, it's gonna cost the guy half his assets. I wouldn't like to fall into that category.
More questions:
Why do we need a marriage cert to prove our love?
Why do we need wedding dinners when it's an affair between 2 people? (besides announcing to friends and relatives) -
If one marries for anything other than love, then the marriage's a wasteOriginally posted by Rock^Star:I have thought of that before.
So if one marries because of committment, isn't that a disservice to one's spouse? -
No. 1. Not necessary so anymore. Things has changed. Assets are no longer mandatory a 50% loss. Judges has allowed for the couples to work out what are assets, what are to be given instead of allowing just plain taking.Originally posted by Rock^Star:Feelings can change over time. Maybe not now, but 10 years, 20 years later.
And when divorce comes, it's gonna cost the guy half his assets. I wouldn't like to fall into that category.
More questions:
Why do we need a marriage cert to prove our love?
Why do we need wedding dinners when it's an affair between 2 people? (besides announcing to friends and relatives)
Marriage cert to prove love? Nah. Its just to prove a marriage.
Wedding dinners? Dunno. Its a handed down practise and definitely not about announcing to friends and relatives. And its just an excuse to celebrate and gather everyone around!
Previously, marrying couple gives each other families cakes to distribute to friends and relatives to announce a marriage. So.....isnt that enough of a informing?
We had allow for commercialization to overshadow what a celebration a marriage is. To take the plunge to live life as a couple. -
It does appear that some people are a tad more suited for marriage than others.
Some couples get hitched, and then they fall into their new roles comfortably. Better still, they have the same goals of having kids, starting their own families, and their value systems tend to be similar so other than a few hiccups along the way, which is inevitable in any relationship, they seem to thrive well as a couple.
Others get hitched without really understanding the full implications of it, and are thus not really prepared for the ensuing responsibilities, roles and expectations. They start to feel stifled / get scared / feel inadequate or overwhelmed, and then they start acting like a frightened, cornered and captured animal!
Also, sometimes, you don't really know a person until after marriage. If differences weren't already obvious pre-marriage, it'll definitely become glaringly obvious after.
I guess one just have to be careful about making the right choices. Then again, I'm sure that if you asked those who are divorced, at the time of marriage, they thought that they had made the 'right' choice, so sigh... it's just not easy... 