A discussion on Life and Marriage...
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Coz I can't hold in my barfOriginally posted by gentlerock:Sigh...whats with our toilet training nowadays? Why can't people be trained to just vomit into the toilet bowl instead of the sink?? They're often just next to each other anyway!
Heck just recently I was sick and I just threw up all over our paraquet floor coz I couldn't make it to the toliet in time
And yes he cleaned up and I was sent to bed
The kitchen sink was nearer compared to the toliet ma
But not before I got an earful on playing WoW instead of resting in bed -
You think too much
- Don't apologize for your principles or preferences. You are what you are, you need what you need. If other people subscribe to a different theory, that's their problem. There is no strictly right or wrong.
- To really understand more about love (and marriage) , I guess the best teacher is experience. Talk is nothing. But first you have to open your heart for love to come in.Originally posted by Ferret:So length of time does not really determines the outcome of the marriage. then...what would ?
Another mad grab... ? Sounds like "trifling" the whole concept off marriage (yay i found the word!) -
Because the toilet bowl is at a lower level , thus further from the mouth You go for the nearest -> sinkOriginally posted by gentlerock:Sigh...whats with our toilet training nowadays? Why can't people be trained to just vomit into the toilet bowl instead of the sink?? They're often just next to each other anyway!
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so what happens when you empty the bag?Originally posted by honeymouse:Scream won't help. I tried that a few times too.... usually just do it for fun.
Anyway, yes vacuum cleaner can surely do the job!
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Originally posted by elindra:I think he is just a romantic with romantic notions on what love really is about
Shouldnt romance be interlinked with love ?Originally posted by fairlady_xoxo:I guess he hasn't met the one who can make him love again...
Love is a very complicated thing.....there's no right or wrong...its about feelings and timing i guess...
And though love is a complicated thing...I think Marriage is even more complicated.... -
Dead. It's very dusty so can't breathe and suffocated. That's my assumption for the cause of death anyway.Originally posted by hisoka:so what happens when you empty the bag? -
the thought of puking into toilet bowl makes me want to puke even moreOriginally posted by choco B:Because the toilet bowl is at a lower level , thus further from the mouth You go for the nearest -> sink -
ic. but what if it was still alive? i mean i think there should be somet hat would be still alive?Originally posted by honeymouse:Dead. It's very dusty so can't breathe and suffocated. That's my assumption for the cause of death anyway. -
first statement.. no.. not necessarily.. a person who loves you may not be romantic at all.. but he may love you in his own humdrum, straightlaced, boring way.. he'll give his right arm to make you happy but he's probably seen as a boring wallflower..
the second statement.. nail got hit right on the head
Originally posted by Ferret:Shouldnt romance be interlinked with love ?
And though love is a complicated thing...I think Marriage is even more complicated.... -
They will just end up in the bin anyway. We don't have a bag in the vacuum cleaner but like a "container" type thing which we can lift it out of the VC, open it and empty the content.Originally posted by hisoka:ic. but what if it was still alive? i mean i think there should be somet hat would be still alive? -
I just wish that when you find such a person u can be [i]certain]/i] u know ?Originally posted by sillyme:If that someone is someone you can love, and that he/she love you in return, then 50 years is too short! By love, I mean one puts the other first, and have mutual respect and trust for each other.
It takes a lifetime to know another person. No matter how much time we have, there is always something we do not know. I think it's more important to ask ourself if we are ready to love another person and to be responsible for another person's trust he/she has placed in you. Perhaps if we can constantly remember the vows we take, to love another for better and for worse, then we are ready. -
There are other factors ? >.<"Originally posted by elindra:You know know the answer when you meet that someone special Ferret.
Well I guess it depends on yr morals and what you deem is right
However, usually there is no right or wrong and that you are marrying the person because besides love, there are other factors involved too
So love isnt the paramount of marriage ? >.<" -
You can't survive on love alone you knowOriginally posted by Ferret:There are other factors ? >.<"
So love isnt the paramount of marriage ? >.<"
For example my ex
I loved him before but when I imagine myself married to him I was like
The more I thought about it the more I felt and ultimately we broke off
We were together for over 4 yrs.
I get along well with his family and he is doing well in his job as a private banker
He is not ugly either and is of above average looks with a nice build
One reason is that I cannot accept his shortcomings and I kept trying to change him and the thing is that I know that even if we were married I will never be able to accept him for who he is.
I had it all. I had loved him before, he has a future, he is good looking, I get along with his family but it didn't work out anyway
That is why I said it's a hell lot of factors.
I really don't know how to explain to you but once you experience it, you will know it. -
there is no such thing as certainty.. which is why it's vital to work on things...
even when the both of you work on things, it may not work out..
that is why, when things do work out, it's a beautiful sight to behold
Originally posted by Ferret:I just wish that when you find such a person u can be certain u know ? -
Art...sigh. Did I tell u I flunked my art classes.Originally posted by gentlerock:But Ferret....if you can put it down in words, then its a science. Marriage is more of an art, not a science. The best answer is: you'll know when the time comes.
You know, we are often fearful. Often, its because we look at the empty half of the glass. Sometimes, we should look at the filled half of the glass and realise that lots of marriages do work too.
I am indeed terrified.
Because there were times when I did considered settling down for convenience...comfort...and out of sheer loneliness.
Knowing I will probably regret later probably saved me.
And the last one still horrified me. Because if I had, I am probably dead by now.
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You can be certain but you will never 100% certain. Life is full of possibilities both good and bad. The fact is, you could be happy too with someone else - who knows who will come into your life in the future? Love and marriage is also a choice - you choose to be faithful, you choose to be be happy and content with what you have. (within certain limits of course)
You need love, and then someOriginally posted by Ferret:I just wish that when you find such a person u can be [i]certain]/i] u know ?
So love isnt the paramount of marriage ? >.<" -
So erm...do we try and try again T.TOriginally posted by Wanda:Some people tend not to remarry after a failed marriage...perhaps it just takes too much work..without a guarantee that it will work a second time.
Since you can't control the future, what's the use of worrying about it... (to quote The Dalai Lama).
I worry if only because we are all so keen to find people with the same ideals as our own.
And I sense a declining state in faith of marriages.
How not to worry liddat >.<" -
let's look at it this way.. you worry.. that is good because you know the gravity of it..
which is heaps better than a whole lot of them out there.. who end up spending all their time and energy preparing for the wedding instead of preparing for the marriage -
Ferret, I think when you meet the right one...the one you love, and who loves you too, and both of you are happy and wants to be together - when that happens, you would then know some of the answers to your own questions, and you will be brave to want to take chances (because you want to be happy). So until that happens, there is no point worrying so much about it.Originally posted by Ferret:So erm...do we try and try again T.T
I worry if only because we are all so keen to find people with the same ideals as our own.
And I sense a declining state in faith of marriages.
How not to worry liddat >.<" -
Under fear of "dying alone" and pressure from friends, family, well meaning relatives...u wont succumb to it ?Originally posted by av98m:If never then too bad lor. I'm prepared to live with the consequences of that mindset (stay single forever)
(btw, that doesn't mean I'm looking for some perfect 10 woman with zero flaws ok. I just mean I want to only marry someone that I really really really want to spend the rest of my life with, and hopefully she feels the same. that person may come in any shape or form. I'll know it when or if she ever appears I guess lol)
I cannot stand the thought of 'settling' for 'second best'
Yes.
U wont even pick up...say, a sweet thai girl ? (no offend ah, i think u all know what i mean)
Did those people ever regret ? -
Yeah well I thought so. Until some ppl explained to me what a quickie marriage is.Originally posted by Fatum:love is a pre-requisite for marriage, no ? ....
yes, I'd just grab ... cos if you think and compare and dissect anyone or any relationship too much ... you'll start to find it wanting ....
you'll have to take it on blind faith ... or the butterflies in the stomach shall never flutter .....
And the shocked me thought it was only that few of them who viewed marriage liddat. Only to be even more shocked when I find that prevalent notion of marriage doesnt put love as top. T.T
Let's just say...my butterflies did fluttered.
And then smashed and died. -
I haven't succumbed up to this pointOriginally posted by Ferret:Under fear of "dying alone" and pressure from friends, family, well meaning relatives...u wont succumb to it ?
U wont even pick up...say, a sweet thai girl ? (no offend ah, i think u all know what i mean)
Did those people ever regret ?
Hey, if I meet a sweet girl from thailand I like, who knows?
(but I wun ever go to those ridiculous china/thai/viet wife agencies to purchase a wife ok)
One of those couple started separation proceedings not long after the honeymoon lol. The rest I have no idea, lost contact. -
Well, I have only this to say:Originally posted by Ferret:And the shocked me thought it was only that few of them who viewed marriage liddat. Only to be even more shocked when I find that prevalent notion of marriage doesnt put love as top. T.T
Let's just say...my butterflies did fluttered.
And then smashed and died.
love alone doesn't guarantee a successful marriage
but the absence of love will guarantee failure
(by failure I do not necessarily mean divorce. it may just mean being unhappily married ever after) -
just because they do not believe, does not mean you must stop believingOriginally posted by Ferret:Yeah well I thought so. Until some ppl explained to me what a quickie marriage is.
And the shocked me thought it was only that few of them who viewed marriage liddat. Only to be even more shocked when I find that prevalent notion of marriage doesnt put love as top. T.T
Let's just say...my butterflies did fluttered.
And then smashed and died. -
being unhappily married ever after is the saddest thing lor...Originally posted by av98m:Well, I have only this to say:
love alone doesn't guarantee a successful marriage
but the absence of love will guarantee failure
(by failure I do not necessarily mean divorce. it may just mean being unhappily married ever after)
i rather be happily divorced ever after...
i dun live with second best