Moving to my mid-30s, is it going to a crisis?
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I'm 33 this year. Wkg for my father-in-law in his retail biz.
I studies CBS (Acctg) in ITE-Bishan. Worked after my NS as admin, then moved on to Accounting.
All my life till 2 yrs ago, i'm doin accounting jobs. Holding a below-executive position, I have strived to study in ACCA but never get past the MSER topics. Knowing to stay top and alive in the accounting industry, I need to study & attain more than just a CBS. But coping with work alone already stressed me out.
Now i'm moving to my mid-30s, anyone like me in this situation where you felt you have not accomplished anything meaningful in life?
I have not earned my first million dollars, is it a "must-have" goal for everyone?
Moving to my mid-30s, is it going to a crisis? What crisis are we all talking about anyway?
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i dunno.. what do you really want in your life?
not what others want.. -
This is also my question to you..Originally posted by the Bear:i dunno.. what do you really want in your life?
not what others want..
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by far, i dunno too...Originally posted by the Bear:i dunno.. what do you really want in your life?
not what others want..
but can say i'm quite a "anything-comes-i-receive" person...
how do i find back my direction? -
maybe your goal isn't part of your work?
people like me? simple person.. i just want to be happy... even one day at a time, also can
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What you need is more work in the office.
You are too free to be thinking of such crap.
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don't U have any goal in life?Originally posted by the Bear:maybe your goal isn't part of your work?
people like me? simple person.. i just want to be happy... even one day at a time, also can -
What do you want in life?Originally posted by alvin74:by far, i dunno too...
but can say i'm quite a "anything-comes-i-receive" person...
how do i find back my direction?
Earning your first million bucks is not a must for everyone
If your direction in life is just to put food on the table and be happy, maybe you are already living the life you want.
Or is there something else bothering you like not living your dreams or what not? -
isn't being a happy person a difficult goal enough?Originally posted by alvin74:don't U have any goal in life?
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I believe even you have more work than you could manage, when you settle down after your daily bath every night, you would be thinking...Originally posted by charlize:What you need is more work in the office.
You are too free to be thinking of such crap.
Man, what's all this routine about huh?
day-in day-out, repeating the same actions, isn't it mundane?
Is it mundane enough for you to think about it?
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[quote]Originally posted by elindra:
What do you want in life?
Earning your first million bucks is not a must for everyone
If your direction in life is just to put food on the table and be happy, maybe you are already living the life you want.
do you think this goal is too simple? i mean for someone, fairly, he can provide meals for his loved ones, after that is done, what else is there to look forward everyday? -
for me definitely lah...
at tis age, no hubby, no house, no cpf, no $$
i only wanna be happy... trust me TAT is very damn difficult goal
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to be happy
first must understand that life is a journey
not a destination
so as long as you learn to take pleasure in everyday life
to not lose the sense of wonder, to continue learning new things
see the world in new ways
then even in mundanity you can find miracles -
all of those things are lost when one succumbs to cynicism.. which i see in a lot of people these days...
and with it, a lot of their humanity is lost...
so.. why trade their humanity for a bunch of goals which don't amount to much in the end?
was one happy if he amassed a fortune? maybe fleetingly..
oh well.. i choose to try and lead a happy lifeOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:to be happy
first must understand that life is a journey
not a destination
so as long as you learn to take pleasure in everyday life
to not lose the sense of wonder, to continue learning new things
see the world in new ways
then even in mundanity you can find miracles -
Some people are happy and just happy with what they haveOriginally posted by alvin74:[quote]Originally posted by elindra:
do you think this goal is too simple? i mean for someone, fairly, he can provide meals for his loved ones, after that is done, what else is there to look forward everyday?
And yes that to them is their goal in their lives
To be able to put food on the table
To have a healthy life and spend time with their loved ones
You are obviously not happy or not satisfied with something
Maybe you should think what is it you are looking for
Better standards of living?
Better opportunities?
Finding love?
I guess once you can put a finger to what you are looking for you will know which road to take.
But you really have to work for it because if you don't you might just end up bitter -
The time when you asked yourself that question. Shows you are awakening to your possibilities.
We sometimes equates goals...like earning our 1st million, thus we can be happy.
We drive big cars, then we can be happy.
Or we put foot on the table for our little ones, and seeing them eat....we are happy.
Goals arent all material things. It can be as simple as having a shower and savouring the soap.
But all in all, you already moved in the right directiion to join Club30
These are a bunch of people. That frankly....are just happy to hang out with. -
ur goal in life
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Originally posted by elindra:Some people are happy and just happy with what they have
And yes that to them is their goal in their lives
To be able to put food on the table
To have a healthy life and spend time with their loved ones
You are obviously not happy or not satisfied with something
Maybe you should think what is it you are looking for
Better standards of living?
Better opportunities?
Finding love?
valuable advice and deep thots.Originally posted by the Bear:all of those things are lost when one succumbs to cynicism.. which i see in a lot of people these days...
and with it, a lot of their humanity is lost...
so.. why trade their humanity for a bunch of goals which don't amount to much in the end?
was one happy if he amassed a fortune? maybe fleetingly..
oh well.. i choose to try and lead a happy life
good for digress. -
Wad crisis can there be just because you are getting older?
Unless you have been putting off living your life the way you want and been living the life others want you to live..........
Yes, lots of soul searching to do. ... and you'd better do it fast. Time and tide waits for no man! -
erm.... actually i thot mid-life crisis is when we hit 40?
i wonder wat's the chance of me marrying myself off by 40? *presses av laugh button* -
hey.. i should be saying thatOriginally posted by tare:erm.... actually i thot mid-life crisis is when we hit 40?
i wonder wat's the chance of me marrying myself off by 40? *presses av laugh button* -
It seems that lately, AV's laugh button is very popular
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bear u get marry not marry urself off lahOriginally posted by the Bear:hey.. i should be saying that -
yes yes av even have to do an upgrade to it due to overusage.....Originally posted by elindra:It seems that lately, AV's laugh button is very popular -
Me 36 this year, Just contented to have a simple job that earn my need and spend more time with my daughter.