Emotional vampires
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Just continuing from our jive pad thread.
An ex-secondary school friend is the neediest person I have ever had the unfortunate luck to meet. Her life is fraught with emotional issues, low-self esteem, OMG. I was her friend for about 10 years. Heng ah I got married and left Sg and lost touch with her.
When we were in primary school, she had complaints about her mother who loved her two younger brothers and didn't care for her, etc. When we were secondary school, it was about how fat she was and how no boy found her attractive. When we left school, it was about how unloved she felt. When she finally had a boyfriend it was all about he treated her, etc. I lost track of her (heng ah) for a couple of years then (suay-suay) I bumped into her again and she had a new boyfriend and the complaints and neediness started all over again.
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I come to club 30 to be needy
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Originally posted by viciouskitty74:I come to club 30 to be needy I don't know you well since we'd only met that one time but I know that you absolutely cannot be needier than that ex-friend of mine mentioned above.
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I need to be needed.
I feels the most useless and redundant when I am left to my own devices and no one to appreciate ME!
Its extremely depressing.
So now....die die also must keep myself busy. -
late night vamps like us, no time to be emotional leh..
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Just give her what you can lor but no more than what you can spare..... She has to fend for herself some day...... if she cannot, then it's too bad............
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I'll tell you a ridiculous thing this ex-friend said to me. She had been with her bf John for about 3 years. John had been struggling to make his business succeed for many years so they were both financially tight. She told me she didn't love him anymore but she wasn't about to leave him. I was shocked when she told me " What if the day after I leave him, his business succeeds? All those years with him would have been wasted."Originally posted by :Just give her what you can lor but no more than what you can spare..... She has to fend for herself some day...... if she cannot, then it's too bad............ 
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question? is your friend single still or with a daughter...? sound like a person I know (dun really know).. i know this guy John who was struggling with his business and has a galfriend for 3 years....and she is not ready to settle down with him. She is the want-to-be glam and pretty b!tchy t-y-pe one..Originally posted by jetta:I'll tell you a ridiculous thing this ex-friend said to me. She had been with her bf John for about 3 years. John had been struggling to make his business succeed for many years so they were both financially tight. She told me she didn't love him anymore but she wasn't about to leave him. I was shocked when she told me " What if the day after I leave him, his business succeeds? All those years with him would have been wasted." -
I don't know her whearabouts. I last talked to her about 12 years ago about the time I had my second child. She didn't need to tell me but I know she was seething with jealousy that I had gotten married to a nice guy and had two kids, something that she had been craving for for herself. So it was just as well that I am no longer in touch with her.Originally posted by Celtic Knot:question? is your friend single still or with a daughter...? sound like a person I know (dun really know).. i know this guy John who was struggling with his business and has a galfriend for 3 years....and she is not ready to settle down with him. She is the want-to-be glam and pretty b!tchy t-y-pe one..
She should be 40 this year. -
Yeah I was talking to kopio about a friend of mine who is an emotional vampire
In the end I told her I can't be friends with her anymore because I cannot take her emo-ness or I will go ballistic -
I think that's the only way to tell an emotional vampire off. You know the saying, "Fair weather friends"? There is such a thing as "Foul weather friends". Boy o boy.Originally posted by elindra:Yeah I was talking to kopio about a friend of mine who is an emotional vampire
In the end I told her I can't be friends with her anymore because I cannot take her emo-ness or I will go ballistic -
Oh TS, the moon wasn't round when you met VK, was it?Originally posted by jetta: I don't know you well since we'd only met that one time but I know that you absolutely cannot be needier than that ex-friend of mine mentioned above. 
Just wait till it is! -
Aiyoh, should I be afraid?Originally posted by :Oh TS, the moon wasn't round when you met VK, was it?
Just wait till it is! -
I am a emo kid
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I think emo ppl are only attracted to certain kinds of folks...and i am not one of those kinds...coz I can spot them from miles away and siam first.
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You've just reminded me that I have leftover curry in the fridge.Originally posted by SpeedStar:I am a emo kid -
YeahOriginally posted by jetta:I think that's the only way to tell an emotional vampire off. You know the saying, "Fair weather friends"? There is such a thing as "Foul weather friends". Boy o boy.
And I tell you all they want is to whine and wallow in self pity
Because when you tell them how to improve their situation they are just not interested -
Run. Run far far away.Originally posted by elindra:Yeah
And I tell you all they want is to whine and wallow in self pity
Because when you tell them how to improve their situation they are just not interested -
I do nowOriginally posted by jetta:Run. Run far far away.
Just remembering my past experience
Even if it is a medical problem
You point them to the doctor to help them they rather not go and just whine about it
Gone case liao -
This is when we should start charging them by the minute.Originally posted by elindra:I do now
Just remembering my past experience
Even if it is a medical problem
You point them to the doctor to help them they rather not go and just whine about it
Gone case liao -
In this case, poor John will only succeed after she leaves himOriginally posted by jetta:I'll tell you a ridiculous thing this ex-friend said to me. She had been with her bf John for about 3 years. John had been struggling to make his business succeed for many years so they were both financially tight. She told me she didn't love him anymore but she wasn't about to leave him. I was shocked when she told me " What if the day after I leave him, his business succeeds? All those years with him would have been wasted." -
i want to be rented
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x 2Originally posted by InnoHippo:In this case, poor John will only succeed after she leaves him
Actually hor she should see how John work
Sometimes you know that no matter what he do also wun succeed one -
This ex-friend of mine ah, she was super duper suspicious of John. If he were to come home late, she would be at home, building up her anger because she was convinced he was out sleeping around. She told me of the physical fights they had. Aiyoh very serious one you know! Sometimes it would involve throwing things at each other, etc.Originally posted by elindra:x 2
Actually hor she should see how John work
Sometimes you know that no matter what he do also wun succeed one -
That is so immatureOriginally posted by jetta:This ex-friend of mine ah, she was super duper suspicious of John. If he were to come home late, she would be at home, building up her anger because she was convinced he was out sleeping around. She told me of the physical fights they had. Aiyoh very serious one you know! Sometimes it would involve throwing things at each other, etc.
I'm surprised John didn't dump her