From Guesswork -> Buddies -> Guesswork?
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1. Boy + girl Meets. May consider each other potential prospects (guesswork!!!) but nothing happened.
2. so Boy + girl 'settles' into friendly buddy, like jiemei, brudder bla bla
3. so now, relack relack la, never think that each other could be 'potential' partner until...
4. suddenly.. girl (or boy) realise EH! I like leh! then HOW?
cos the other party oredi treat like friend or buddy, may not consider as 'potential partner' already.
what can one party do to make the other party 'reconsider' again to like "EH! She not bad leh!" -
Wah liao SC, what exactly do you wanna know?Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Some people may claim that platonic relationships don't exist
but the reality is, a guy and a girl may spend a period of time in guesswork (amount of time depends on initial attraction), but if nothing progresses during this time,
the relationship settles into a comfortable 'buddyhood'
where they stopped 'really' thinking of each other as opposite sex
(Discounting cases of continued attraction la on one or both parties)
what would it take on the part of one party,
for the comfortable 'buddy' relationship to be 'shaken up' enough to go back to the guesswork 'tension' period where they could re-evaluate the possibilities in the relationship?
Doing 'research' *cough cough*
I'm a guo lai ren. I used to think platonic relationships can exist but now I dun believe so liao.
I dunno about experiences other ppl have la but I think platonic relationships can only exist if the guy is gay now
For my experience, we aren't even friends now -
err.. i write very confusing ahOriginally posted by elindra:Wah liao SC, what exactly do you wanna know?
I'm a guo lai ren. I used to think platonic relationships can exist but now I dun believe so liao.
I dunno about experiences other ppl have la but I think platonic relationships can only exist if the guy is gay now
For my experience, we aren't even friends now
its all those essay writing fault lah.. and reading those toopid academic articles BAH! -shake head-
In short:
1. Boy + girl Meets. May consider each other potential prospects but nothing happened.
2. so Boy + girl 'settles' into friendly buddy, like jiemei, brudder bla bla
3. so now, relack relack la, never think that each other could be 'potential' partner until...
4. suddenly.. girl (or boy) realise EH! I like leh! then HOW?
cos the other party oredi treat like friend or buddy.
what can one party do to make the other party 'reconsider' again to like "EH! She not bad leh!" -
biangs... your questions tend to be so mind-boggling... hahahahaOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:Some people may claim that platonic relationships don't exist
but the reality is, a guy and a girl may spend a period of time in guesswork (amount of time depends on initial attraction), but if nothing progresses during this time,
the relationship settles into a comfortable 'buddyhood'
where they stopped 'really' thinking of each other as opposite sex
(Discounting cases of continued attraction la on one or both parties)
what would it take on the part of one party,
for the comfortable 'buddy' relationship to be 'shaken up' enough to go back to the guesswork 'tension' period where they could re-evaluate the possibilities in the relationship?
Doing 'research' *cough cough*
been through similar situations like these... and what does it take to shake up the feelings to go back to guesswork tension?? Don't really know but I do know one case where "tension" arised because both parties were uncomfortable with the knowledge that each could be seeing someone else and getting into a relationship with someone else.... somehow that feeling of "I don't want him/her to be with anyone else but me" sort of shook things up....
hahahaha
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*scratch head* i trying to 'research' for friend see... u know how clueless some guys are once they oredi been 'treated' like jie meis, plus see all your ugly side liao...Originally posted by KittynMeow:biangs... your questions tend to be so mind-boggling... hahahaha
been through similar situations like these... and what does it take to shake up the feelings to go back to guesswork tension?? Don't really know but I do know one case where "tension" arised because both parties were uncomfortable with the knowledge that each could be seeing someone else and getting into a relationship with someone else.... somehow that feeling of "I don't want him/her to be with anyone else but me" sort of shook things up....
hahahaha
how to kick him into a paradigm shift to make him reconsider.. need 'ideas'
Hummm yaa.. this one .. hmm must first become a significant part of each other's lives first or not? -
significant part or not.... I don't really know.... cos for the case I mentioned... it was as though lightning struck their heads one day kinda thing... hahahahha... before that both were just buddies hanging out with each other and a whole jing gang of other friends... hahahaOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:*scratch head* i trying to 'research' for friend see... u know how clueless some guys are once they oredi been 'treated' like jie meis, plus see all your ugly side liao...
how to kick him into a paradigm shift to make him reconsider.. need 'ideas'
Hummm yaa.. this one .. hmm must first become a significant part of each other's lives first or not? -
I guess for this to happen got to have mutual attraction. this one is.. 'can hope' but cannot... what's that chinese proverb thingy - ke yu bu ke qiu.Originally posted by KittynMeow:significant part or not.... I don't really know.... cos for the case I mentioned... it was as though lightning struck their heads one day kinda thing... hahahahha... before that both were just buddies hanging out with each other and a whole jing gang of other friends... hahaha
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wah like that v tough sia.... especially when the one not "feeling it" is the guy.....Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:I guess for this to happen got to have mutual attraction. this one is.. 'can hope' but cannot... what's that chinese proverb thingy - ke yu bu ke qiu. -
I think the only way is to stop treating the other party as a friendOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:err.. i write very confusing ah
its all those essay writing fault lah.. and reading those toopid academic articles BAH! -shake head-
In short:
1. Boy + girl Meets. May consider each other potential prospects but nothing happened.
2. so Boy + girl 'settles' into friendly buddy, like jiemei, brudder bla bla
3. so now, relack relack la, never think that each other could be 'potential' partner until...
4. suddenly.. girl (or boy) realise EH! I like leh! then HOW?
cos the other party oredi treat like friend or buddy.
what can one party do to make the other party 'reconsider' again to like "EH! She not bad leh!"
They need a paradigm shift to attract attention
Like starting to ignore the person to get attention so that the other party will stop taking the friendship for granted and may start to see things in a different view.
But this kind of things very hard to say leh
I think different ppl react differently
So far hor one thing is alot of Hindi movies have this kind of scenerios which you just asked. -
hehehe... not just Hindi movies lah... basically a lot of movies and tv series have this kind of scenario... hahaahahhaaOriginally posted by elindra:I think the only way is to stop treating the other party as a friend
They need a paradigm shift to attract attention
Like starting to ignore the person to get attention so that the other party will stop taking the friendship for granted and may start to see things in a different view.
But this kind of things very hard to say leh
I think different ppl react differently
So far hor one thing is alot of Hindi movies have this kind of scenerios which you just asked. 
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I don't watch teebeeOriginally posted by KittynMeow:hehehe... not just Hindi movies lah... basically a lot of movies and tv series have this kind of scenario... hahaahahhaa
Only watch movies and the hollywood movies I watch tend to not have this kind of scenarios
But I like Bollywood movies too which is filled with them -
yayay!! a fellow bollywood fan... kekekekekekekeOriginally posted by elindra:I don't watch teebee
Only watch movies and the hollywood movies I watch tend to not have this kind of scenarios
But I like Bollywood movies too which is filled with them
Just read the news that SRK is going to act in another Karan Johar film called "My Name is Khan".... kekkeeke -
Are you a fan of SRK tooOriginally posted by KittynMeow:yayay!! a fellow bollywood fan... kekekekekekeke
Just read the news that SRK is going to act in another Karan Johar film called "My Name is Khan".... kekkeeke
I got a few of his DVDs
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basically I'm a bollywood fan.... i have a few DVDs starring SRK too.... generally i like SRK, Hrithik Roshan and Saif Ali Khan... kekekekekeOriginally posted by elindra:Are you a fan of SRK too
I got a few of his DVDs
Actresses i like Kajol and Preity Zinta... -
Same. I like SRK, Hrithik Roshan, Saif Ali Khan and Akshay KumarOriginally posted by KittynMeow:basically I'm a bollywood fan.... i have a few DVDs starring SRK too.... generally i like SRK, Hrithik Roshan and Saif Ali Khan... kekekekeke
Actresses i like Kajol and Preity Zinta... Oh oh I must not forget Amitabh Bachchan
Actresses I like Preity Zinta and Kajol too but I also like Sushmita Sen
Very rare to find bollywood fans here leh without the bollywood morons around spamming bollywood stuff -
Which is yr fav Hindi movie so far
I think for me it's Main Hoon Na
Love the song and dances
I think Kal Ho Na Ho is the perfect story for friends to lovers
But too bad SRK died
I love the song Kal Ho Na Ho too -
My fav I think is Kuchi Kuchi Hota Hai and Kal Ho Na Ho..... the first time I watched KHNH, I cried buckets when SRK's character died...Originally posted by elindra:Which is yr fav Hindi movie so far
I think for me it's Main Hoon Na
Love the song and dances
I think Kal Ho Na Ho is the perfect story for friends to lovers
But too bad SRK died I love the song Kal Ho Na Ho too
For song and dances, I love Kabhi Khushi Khabi Gham.... that's the other reason that I like Hrithik Roshan cos he can really dance well!! And the songs are infectious... "Shava Shava... "
Just finished watching Fanaa recently.... I still have Babul and Eklavya which I haven't watched...
Heee..... now hoping one of my colleagues can help me buy Chak De India DVD when they come back from their India posting.... much cheaper there.... -
KKHH is nice. I cried buckets when SRK charc died in KHNH as wellOriginally posted by KittynMeow:My fav I think is Kuchi Kuchi Hota Hai and Kal Ho Na Ho..... the first time I watched KHNH, I cried buckets when SRK's character died...
For song and dances, I love Kabhi Khushi Khabi Gham.... that's the other reason that I like Hrithik Roshan cos he can really dance well!! And the songs are infectious... "Shava Shava... "
Just finished watching Fanaa recently.... I still have Babul and Eklavya which I haven't watched...
Heee..... now hoping one of my colleagues can help me buy Chak De India DVD when they come back from their India posting.... much cheaper there....
There is another movie I really like but I can't remember the title. I only know the title of the song in that movie which is "I love India"
I still have Pardes which I have not watched yet
Actually hor I need to bug MPB to go to Mustafa again to buy Hindi DVDs
Err in India does the DVD come with English subs ><
Alamak! I just read wiki on the synopsis of Pardes and just found out that I watched before liao -
Yup.... they do come with English subs but not all of them. Must check the packaging to see that it has English subs....Originally posted by elindra:KKHH is nice. I cried buckets when SRK charc died in KHNH as well
There is another movie I really like but I can't remember the title. I only know the title of the song in that movie which is "I love India"
I still have Pardes which I have not watched yet
Actually hor I need to bug MPB to go to Mustafa again to buy Hindi DVDs
Err in India does the DVD come with English subs ><
But generally the DVDs there are much cheaper when it comes to Bollywood movies.... even the latest movie DVDs cost about the same or even less than how much one would pay for a bollywood VCD here....
I used to travel there pretty frequent for work, and after every trip, I come back with at least 3 movie DVDs... hahaha -
Damn I should have bugged MPB for DVDs when he was posted in INdia for about a month but he refused to walk around !!!!!!!!Originally posted by KittynMeow:Yup.... they do come with English subs but not all of them. Must check the packaging to see that it has English subs....
But generally the DVDs there are much cheaper when it comes to Bollywood movies.... even the latest movie DVDs cost about the same or even less than how much one would pay for a bollywood VCD here....
I used to travel there pretty frequent for work, and after every trip, I come back with at least 3 movie DVDs... hahaha
I thought I'm the only fan chang one that likes Hindi movies
Coz my friends always go ga-ga over the Korean movies or Japanese movies leh or tell me guys like F4 very shuai >.<"
I rather look at the bollywood hunks -
hahah thread reallly kenna hijacked
SC, if the guy is not getting it hor ... i think nothing short of a "get-him-drunk-and-rape-him" will do
seriously for me, i got a timeframe... if the initial stage no "chemistry", never will have... if bec buddy liao, never will have either... unlike pinky bear, i do believe platonic friendship... -
Aiya I used to believe in platonic friendship till someone burst my bubble in a very bad way laOriginally posted by tare:hahah thread reallly kenna hijacked
SC, if the guy is not getting it hor ... i think nothing short of a "get-him-drunk-and-rape-him" will do
seriously for me, i got a timeframe... if the initial stage no "chemistry", never will have... if bec buddy liao, never will have either... unlike pinky bear, i do believe platonic friendship...
Now the platonic friendship I have are with guys who are attached and devoted to their other half or gay or just friends la not close enough to say very buddy buddy
Buddy Buddy kind after kenna burn liao dun have.
I read SC thread I think buddy buddy kind as can do alot of things together including sleeping on the same bed without sex or any funny things lor
I used to have such a friend but that is history la. Now we don't even talk -
Originally posted by tare:hahah thread reallly kenna hijacked
hahahahaha you've got a fellow "fan chang" one here... hahahahahaOriginally posted by elindra:Damn I should have bugged MPB for DVDs when he was posted in INdia for about a month but he refused to walk around !!!!!!!!
I thought I'm the only fan chang one that likes Hindi movies -
oh yes.... I absolutely agree... somehow they look more macho and manly than those korean / taiwanese boys....Originally posted by elindra:I rather look at the bollywood hunks -
YaOriginally posted by KittynMeow:oh yes.... I absolutely agree... somehow they look more macho and manly than those korean / taiwanese boys....
I always say I want to look at men who look like men
And not men that look like girly boys