Of Cheaters And Cheatees ....
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When I had to let my ex hub writes in the divorce papers that i was the one cheating....I often felt that I should return my ex his king size mattress that he loves so much.
Preferably him taking charge of the mattress which I fling down the 9th storey flat we live in.
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Originally posted by viciouskitty74:
When I had to let my ex hub writes in the divorce papers that i was the one cheating....I often felt that I should return my ex his king size mattress that he loves so much.
Preferably him taking charge of the mattress which I fling down the 9th storey flat we live in.
How come need to write it as you cheating?
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Lets see. Its old news but I was reminded of it just now when I gave my divorce papers to my tenants to scan and send to HDB for the flat sale procedures.
Reasons why I was written as cheating:
1. He begged me not to let his age old mother knows that it is I divorcing him because she is old, weak & sickly.
2. I was given a choice to act righteous or I can take the blame and buy overr my flat.
3. His new g//f was pregnant and he wanted to divorce fast. (I didnt know that till much later, I only thought his was in need of money.)
4. I have plenty of male friends, so it was easy to pick any to be the adulterer.
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Originally posted by viciouskitty74:
Lets see. Its old news but I was reminded of it just now when I gave my divorce papers to my tenants to scan and send to HDB for the flat sale procedures.
Reasons why I was written as cheating:
1. He begged me not to let his age old mother knows that it is I divorcing him because she is old, weak & sickly.
2. I was given a choice to act righteous or I can take the blame and buy overr my flat.
3. His new g//f was pregnant and he wanted to divorce fast. (I didnt know that till much later, I only thought his was in need of money.)
4. I have plenty of male friends, so it was easy to pick any to be the adulterer.
Lolz he sounds like a manipulative guy...
So it is a good thing he is an ex-husband now...
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did you have to pick someone to be the adulterer ? ...
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Originally posted by Fatum:
did you have to pick someone to be the adulterer ? ...
Nope, he picked one. The guy that was very nice came to my flat and accompany to a outing of chatters. he was with me at the busstop and he saw us at opposite busstop..My ex indicated that occasion to write in the divorce papers that I was having an affair.
There was another incident where he accused me of 'kissing the driver' of a Jagaur car downstairs my block. He didnt use that incident in the divorce papers because I think that will not ring true since that 'driver I was kissing in the car' is also a fellow VSC.
What happens, after a plain clothe ops that ended at 4am, this driver of the jaugar was nice enough to send me home. We sat in the car and chit chat a bit when suddenly my ex hub was drunk and came out of a taxi stopped behind us.
He came up, knocked on the passenger side window and me and friend came out of the car. Friend even went over to shake my ex hub's hand.
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Originally posted by viciouskitty74:
Nope, he picked one. The guy that was very nice came to my flat and accompany to a outing of chatters. he was with me at the busstop and he saw us at opposite busstop..My ex indicated that occasion to write in the divorce papers that I was having an affair.
There was another incident where he accused me of 'kissing the driver' of a Jagaur car downstairs my block. He didnt use that incident in the divorce papers because I think that will not ring true since that 'driver I was kissing in the car' is also a fellow VSC.
What happens, after a plain clothe ops that ended at 4am, this driver of the jaugar was nice enough to send me home. We sat in the car and chit chat a bit when suddenly my ex hub was drunk and came out of a taxi stopped behind us.
He came up, knocked on the passenger side window and me and friend came out of the car. Friend even went over to shake my ex hub's hand.
Hmm, what was the reason that you let him make all these accusations when you know they are not true?
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because i get to buy over my flat, that one that I committed so much to.
Another reason is that this flat, is in a good location, above my mother in law (no matter how they maligned me, I am still on top of them.) And its unit numbers is my birthday.
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Trust should be earned, with the count starting from zero, and not granted just like that. Once people can be trusted with small things, let them handle slightly greater things. I wouldn't leave very intimate or important stuff with someone I don't know well yet.
It takes 2 to start an affair, and unless one party was misled (e.g. the lover lies about his marital status), both are at fault.
Here's a question: Would you deliberately use a friend or another person to set up and tempt your partner, in order to test his/her fidelity?
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Originally posted by Kuali Baba:
Here's a question: Would you deliberately use a friend or another person to set up and tempt your partner, in order to test his/her fidelity?
No way, thats too childish.And its too irresponsible to the friend too. What happens if the person you love fails the test and runs off with your friend. Will that be good?
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Originally posted by Kuali Baba:
Trust should be earned, with the count starting from zero, and not granted just like that. Once people can be trusted with small things, let them handle slightly greater things. I wouldn't leave very intimate or important stuff with someone I don't know well yet.
It takes 2 to start an affair, and unless one party was misled (e.g. the lover lies about his marital status), both are at fault.
Here's a question: Would you deliberately use a friend or another person to set up and tempt your partner, in order to test his/her fidelity?
I know of someone who actually did that..the friend went to flirt with the boyfriend online....the boyfriend didn't know and went to flirt back, thinking that it was just a playful one-time banter...the friend went to tell...they quarrelled and broke up cos of this.
I find it damn childish. Without trust, the relationship cannot function.
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Originally posted by Kuali Baba:
Here's a question: Would you deliberately use a friend or another person to set up and tempt your partner, in order to test his/her fidelity?
I doubt I would.For me to love someone, she'd already had my impeccable trust. There is not a need to put such a person to an unfair test.
Faith
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Originally posted by rainee:
I know of someone who actually did that..the friend went to flirt with the boyfriend online....the boyfriend didn't know and went to flirt back, thinking that it was just a playful one-time banter...the friend went to tell...they quarrelled and broke up cos of this.
I find it damn childish. Without trust, the relationship cannot function.
whoa.. daring.. go out eat jiu suan le.. still dapao back hide in cupboard eat.. too bad lo.. the smell leaked out.. lol..
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Originally posted by viciouskitty74:
No way, thats too childish.And its too irresponsible to the friend too. What happens if the person you love fails the test and runs off with your friend. Will that be good?
The "third party" is just a ruse, but they tell themselves that they are better off without such a partner.
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Originally posted by purpledragon84:
whoa.. daring.. go out eat jiu suan le.. still dapao back hide in cupboard eat.. too bad lo.. the smell leaked out.. lol..
huh? -
for me is, i do my best, i give my best, i try my best.. if she will jump ship, i'll just let her.. coz she's not meant to be.. i put in 100% liao, still canot retain, also no choice la..
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Originally posted by Kuali Baba:
The "third party" is just a ruse, but they tell themselves that they are better off without such a partner.
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Really not fair to the guys lah.
Probaby 9 out of 10 will take the bait.
I mean, come on, what you expect the guy to do when a pretty model goes up to him and starts flirting?
Give her the finger and tell her to fuck off because he is a fathful one-girl guy?
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Originally posted by viciouskitty74:
huh?meaning want to flirt also flirt with ppl ur gf duno mah.. flirt with gf's friend, not wait to die den what..?
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Originally posted by Detached:
I doubt I would.For me to love someone, she'd already had my impeccable trust. There is not a need to put such a person to an unfair test.
Faith
But if he/she falls for it (and you set up all the conditions), you have evidence that the person is not trustworthy in the first place.
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Originally posted by charlize:
Really not fair to the guys lah.
Probaby 9 out of 10 will take the bait.
I mean, come on, what you expect the guy to do when a pretty model goes up to him and starts flirting?
Give her the finger and tell her to fuck off because he is a fathful one-girl guy?
no la.. just say u bought lehman bro minibonds.. see the pretty model still want u or not
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I am suddenly reminded of this gal with beautiful g/fs flirting with her b/f.
the b/f does not respond to the beautiful girls but he responded to a guy.
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Originally posted by Kuali Baba:
But if he/she falls for it (and you set up all the conditions), you have evidence that the person is not trustworthy in the first place.
True la...but what for want to tempt fate...
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Originally posted by Kuali Baba:
But if he/she falls for it (and you set up all the conditions), you have evidence that the person is not trustworthy in the first place.
people are not saints. even if he passed the trustworthy test does not mean he would be trustworthy after the test. you have to factor in that people will change. -
Originally posted by Kuali Baba:
But if he/she falls for it (and you set up all the conditions), you have evidence that the person is not trustworthy in the first place.
Hypothetical, but I'd humor you.If she falls for it - then feels remorseful and repents, that kinda trust I'd still give her.
If she falls for it - still try to cook up some lame excuses, then adios amigo, I wouldn't even grieve.