Would you sign a pre-nup ? ....
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ruminated on this while I was chomping on my beehoon with egg breaky this morning ....
cos there's an article on pre-nups in Singapore advertised right on the front page of the sunday times .....
This singaporean woman who married some frog aristocrat had to sign a pre-nup to keep his french castle out of her hands in case they split up ....
would you sign one if your future spouse asks you to sign on before marriage ? .... would you ask your future spouse to sign on ? ....
I've seen, among some of the people I personally know, that splitting up can be very very expensive, and not only if you're rich (remember my plutonian landlord ? ) .... at least a pre-nup can keep most of your hard-earned matrimonial assets away from the paws of some slimey divorce lawyer, if not your spouse ...
but I simply don't feel right about signing a document preparing for the failure of a union even before it's began ... somehow it discordant with my romantic notions of what a marriage should be (what's mine shall be hers, what's hers shall still be hers v
). If I were to marry someone, I'd have given her my heart ... and if she turned out to be some gold digging harpy from the gutters .... then really, it wouldn't matter that much if she steals what I have left .... for she'd have already tossed away the heart that I've given freely .... of course, I don't think I have that much now to be worth any harpy's while for her to do that to me ....
but who knows, if I had struck the CNY TOTO huat pot the other night ...
... or were some screwed up hollywood actor .... or a castle dwelling old world aristocrat looking for the cho cho san experience ........................would you ? .....
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Signing means u have no confident of ur future with the marriage. Never start then fail liao, so Y want to get married? I would choose not to sign the pre nup requested by him!!! If he not happy, then get lost.... If accidentially got kid, then too bad liao.... Babi is mine, MINE ALONE.....
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I had no idea pre-nups were legally binding in singapore?!
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It is getting more n more common among the rich? Cos their fortune gill zui during the economy downturn
Not enough $$$$ to spilt between themselves liao, dun want to include wives....
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the operative word is wives ? .. plural ? ....
frankly ... if I were female, I would be very very offended if the future hubster comes along and say "you have to sign this, if we divorce, you're getting only X dollars and nothing else" ....
and as a male ... I can't see myself hedging my bets this way ... -_-"
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Originally posted by Fatum:
the operative word is wives ? .. plural ? ....
frankly ... if I were female, I would be very very offended if the future hubster comes along and say "you have to sign this, if we divorce, you're getting only X dollars and nothing else" ....
and as a male ... I can't see myself hedging my bets this way ... -_-"
Then prevent urself to become filthy rich lor... That solves the problem. Enough for day to day expenses can liao.
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i've got nothing to give anyway
what would she want? my camera?
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Let's be realistic here. We like to indulge in the notion of marriage being 'till death do us part', but just look around you and I'm sure everyone of us will know of at least one divorcee. Sometimes, you might enter into marriage with the best of intentions, but there is no way you can guarantee that your spouse will stick to the same moral standards and ideals. Afterall, over the years, I've learnt that the only thing that's really constant in our lives is change.
IF I were an heiress to a great family fortune, IF I had in possession a priceless family heirloom that spans generations and generations, then yes, I will definitely consider a pre-nup. This is simply because I've seen too many lovey-dovey couples who ended up having splits that are so bitter and vengeful, it's shocking to watch.
I'd have to trust the guy a lot a lot a lot to jeopardise my family inheritance and heirloom. However, since I'm no Paris Hilton, and since I've got zilch to inherit and the so-called 'family heirlooms' are non-existent, there'll be no pre-nup!
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If there's something precious that I really want to keep, and suspect that the other person is eyeing, then why not?
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Originally posted by Kuali Baba:
If there's something precious that I really want to keep, and suspect that the other person is eyeing, then why not?
Precisely! Better than crying over split milk! Some things are just irreplaceable!
It's very very hard to meet sincere people these days who aren't materialistic. That's the way the world turns these days.
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Then dun get married lor, just sleep on the same bed can liao la....
Save time save $$$, for lawyer fee.
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Pre nups are a good idea in my opinion,people tend to be very greedy, especially when they know something is over, they want to get all they can get out of it
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Yes.
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No pre-nup, no marriage.
Let's see who has the bargaining power.
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i will sign
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Originally posted by RETARDED_MORON:
No pre-nup, no marriage.
Let's see who has the bargaining power.
I agree!!!! -
love never dies, it just changes over time
so, yeah i am for pre-nup
either as a guy to draft it, or as a gal who has to sign itif i am a guy
it simply says tt i am not agreeing to the 50-50 split of assets stipulated by law
alright, i do love you less than the 50% of my asset as it happens to be a lot
but it doesn't mean that i don't love you
it just happens that i have a lot of assets to protectc'mon
precisely if one day it turns out that she doesn't deserve to have my heart
all the more she jolly well don't take my other things away -
Well, with this getting popular, there will be more and more people abusing the pre nup.
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don't measure love by material things like $30K ring?
hurhurhur why issit that the willingness of him spending time and money with you or on you diminishes as time goes by? -
so, the point is, let's be realistic
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Originally posted by TehJarVu:
don't measure love by material things like $30K ring?
hurhurhur why issit that the willingness of him spending time and money with you or on you diminishes as time goes by?
ha ha ha, 30k ring, ha ha ha, depreciate lah now times are so bad. -
Let's put it this way. If your spouse refuses to sign a pre-nup, does it mean that she's aiming for half of your assets in future? If she doesn't have the intention, then sign it. Since it wouldn't make a difference.
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damm, this is terrible .....
is romance dead ? ......
I mean, are we all so cynical and jaded about love that so many are willing to partake in an undertaking that is, really, a sort of prep work for the failure of a marriage ? ...
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Originally posted by mamamamama:
Let's put it this way. If your spouse refuses to sign a pre-nup, does it mean that she's aiming for half of your assets in future? If she doesn't have the intention, then sign it. Since it wouldn't make a difference.
that's only one side of the coin ....
what would your spouse think ? .....
"shit, does he thinks I'm some gold digging harpy ? .... that I'm out for his money ? .... or does he not love me enough that he's already thinking of the failure of our marriage even BEFORE the start of it ? .... "
or, if I were someone like that singaporean woman in the article, first thought that comes to my mind would be ... "are you treating me like your cho cho san ? " .....
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last i checked...
pre-nup dun hold water in SG.
Sign for fun - maybe.
But seriously.... it's a case of mutual trust - you can always do up a will to prevent any gold digging spouse from touching your $$
P.s. tats why for most of us, it's always gd to have seperate bank a/c. Your $ is my $$.... my $$ is My $$... our $$ is MY $$....
Joint a/c can be set to required BOTH siggy in case anything happen.