Regrets...
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"No Regrets!"
That short phrase is so clichéd these days, to the extent that it's the norm to believe that one should live one's life with 'no regrets'.
However, I'd like to say that it's healthy to have a good dose of regret in one's life because regret is the fuel that pushes us to work towards improving ourselves and a situation and to ensure that we learn from mistakes and do not repeat them.
If we declare that we have 'no regrets', are we boasting that given a chance, there is nothing in our lives that we will change? Isn't that saying that everything we've done is 'perfect' and without blame? Isn't that narcissistic?
Looking back, there are things that I regret. However, I've learnt dearly from my mistakes and should similar situations present themselves, or should I meet anyone else who's in a similar predicament, I will not hesitate to try to set things right but doing things in a better way now, or to share my experiences so that hopefully, someone else will learn from my mistakes and avoid stumbling over the same obstacles in their lives.
I started this thread because for a long time, I felt that people have shunned regrets and too much of a negative connotation has been attached to it. It is only after regretting our actions that we can take full responsibility, and then address the issue and attempt to put things right. Regret has a place in our lives, and whilst it's unhealthy to linger on regrets and not progress, it's equally unhealthy to not accord it the attention it deserves.
So... any regrets you wanna share?
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Loads of regret here....
starting with regret being born...
Regret listening and heading mum's advise for once in choice of studies for my diploma - this is one of the biggest regret i ever made.
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Regret being such a slacker ... that I'm at the bottom rung of the ladder compared to my cousins >.<"
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Originally posted by elindra:
Regret being such a slacker ... that I'm at the bottom rung of the ladder compared to my cousins >.<"
Are you kidding me?!
You're at the 'bottom rung'?!! -
Originally posted by Rhonda:
Are you kidding me?!
You're at the 'bottom rung'?!!
Their salary is 5 figuresMine's only 4
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Originally posted by SaTaN_Ga|:
Loads of regret here....
starting with regret being born...
Regret listening and heading mum's advise for once in choice of studies for my diploma - this is one of the biggest regret i ever made.
Haiz... I regret thinking that I was filial, and respecting mom's cries for me to move to Australia instead of to my #1 choice destination.
As a result, I'm here living mom's dream, not mine. I regret being filial.
I cried watching Obama's Inauguration.
And then I cried even more thinking, "What if I reached old age, and I never got to live in my dreamland?" That's when I realised that I'm far aways from my dream... Regret weighs like a ton of bricks... and it's sad that my regret conflicts with filial piety and respect for mom!
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Originally posted by elindra:
Their salary is 5 figuresMine's only 4
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I regret not having considered studying in the Science stream when I was in Secondary School. I regret not being brave enough to conquer my Math phobia. I now realise that I do love the Sciences, but I pretty much can't do anything now unless I'm prepared to return to High School and start all over.
Too bad I don't have the luxury of resources to pull off something like that... -
Originally posted by Rhonda:
Haiz... I regret thinking that I was filial, and respecting mom's cries for me to move to Australia instead of to my #1 choice destination.
As a result, I'm here living mom's dream, not mine. I regret being filial.
Tell me abt itFew mths back, i just made a statement to a couple of friends.
When you're young, you live for your parents - coz u dun wanna disappoint them, you know how much high hopes they have for you etc etc
When you're in your teens, you live for your friends (and parents) - coz you're in need for social life
When you're done with studies, you live for work - for cold hard cash tat settles most stuff
When you're married and have kids - you live for the kids, to feed them, diapers, and mayb education
When you're old and done, you look back and start living for yourself - it's too late, the dreams all flushed dwn the toilet bowl
I guess I broke free from the majority regrets simply coz I lost the motivation to study at Pri 3. Gave the school and teachers and classmates hell they never forget.
It sux big time when people start piling hopes and expectations on you... and you can't breathe.
I learnt alot by not listening to mum. serious.
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i regret reading this thread
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i regret living a life full of regrets..
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Originally posted by stellazio:
i regret living a life full of regrets..
You got regrets meh?
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My life is filled with regrets
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Originally posted by SaTaN_Ga|:
Tell me abt itFew mths back, i just made a statement to a couple of friends.
When you're young, you live for your parents - coz u dun wanna disappoint them, you know how much high hopes they have for you etc etc
When you're in your teens, you live for your friends (and parents) - coz you're in need for social life
When you're done with studies, you live for work - for cold hard cash tat settles most stuff
When you're married and have kids - you live for the kids, to feed them, diapers, and mayb education
When you're old and done, you look back and start living for yourself - it's too late, the dreams all flushed dwn the toilet bowl
I guess I broke free from the majority regrets simply coz I lost the motivation to study at Pri 3. Gave the school and teachers and classmates hell they never forget.
It sux big time when people start piling hopes and expectations on you... and you can't breathe.
I learnt alot by not listening to mum. serious.
Totally true!
I've obeyed my mom way too much. My bro just up's and goes!
My modus operandi was always to inform mom, then she'll kick up some fuss and then I'll eventually succumb to her nagging but I'll sulk over it for ages whereas for my bro, he'll do whatever he wanted first, then tell them later, then THEY will sulk over it for ages but by then, my bro would have moved on to something else. He took all the smartie genes! 
My mom actually nagged me to near-death, that's why I switched my final destination, just to please her and shut her up.
I still think that the further I live from her, the better. We love each other more when we are far apart. Makes sense?
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Originally posted by skythewood:
i regret reading this thread
I regret reading your post.
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Originally posted by Rhonda:
You got regrets meh?
one of my biggest is coming into here..
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Originally posted by Rhonda:
that the further I live from her, the better. We love each other more when we are far apart. Makes sense?
the very reason I'm choosing my new home FAR FAR away from her.Can u believe she actually thinks it's OK for her to hold a copy of my house keys and come visiting anytime w/o informing 1st?
My younger sis is kinda like you, but for her case, she's got a big sister to help her neg with the mama.
Btw, I think parents are less strict wif boys compared to girls. :(
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Originally posted by stellazio:
one of my biggest is coming into here..
Where is 'here'?
If you daresay Club 30, I shall show you what true regret really is! -
Originally posted by Rhonda:
Where is 'here'?
If you daresay Club 30, I shall show you
what true regret really is! coming into this thread loh, reminds me of all my regrets which im counting with my fingers..
because before that, i never think about it!
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Originally posted by SaTaN_Ga|:
the very reason I'm choosing my new home FAR FAR away from her.Can u believe she actually thinks it's OK for her to hold a copy of my house keys and come visiting anytime w/o informing 1st?
My younger sis is kinda like you, but for her case, she's got a big sister to help her neg with the mama.
Btw, I think parents are less strict wif boys compared to girls. :(
Fwah! Heng ah my mom isn't that bad. She did, at one stage, ask for my house keys when I lived in a rented apartment in Holland V, but I firmly told her, "No" and as far as I was concerned, it was non-negotiable. It's really strange... she's a very modern mom, and yet, she can be very controlling all in the same breath.
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i've had a few...
but then again...
too few to mention...
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Originally posted by kopiosatu:
i've had a few...
but then again...
too few to mention...
how bout not being a thai?
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Originally posted by stellazio:
how bout not being a thai?
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Originally posted by stellazio:
how bout not being a thai?
i don't regret not being a thai
if i was a thai, my chances of living this life would be almost nil and i will be pushing pens for a few thousand baht a month.
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hi TS,
"Looking back, there are things that I regret. However, I've learnt dearly from my mistakes and should similar situations present themselves, or should I meet anyone else who's in a similar predicament, I will not hesitate to try to set things right but doing things in a better way now, or to share my experiences so that hopefully, someone else will learn from my mistakes and avoid stumbling over the same obstacles in their lives. ".. since you already learnt and move on, shouldn't these regrets be undone? and be "no regrets". cause you did learnt/earn something in a way.
There are many of us who do think of "if only" and "what if", but then, we all know time moves in one direction, so we know that having regrets won't help at all, it is how we mitigate it, and move on that's the key. And once we get that, there won't be any regrets right?