If you're over 35 and still single, are you happy or sad?
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If you're over 35, do you feel that twinge of bitterness or self depression when you see another couple get engaged, or if you see someone you know wiith some hot young guy/girl?
nope, why get jealous over someone's happiness?
single then single lor... i rather be alone than be with the wrong person... of cos it's not easy lah... but wat to do? just try to up market value and see where fate brings us lah...
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Originally posted by martial:
35 years old already still so chosy. She deserve to be a old virgin in that case
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Originally posted by martial:
35 years old already still so chosy. She deserve to be a old virgin in that caseover 35 doesn't mean no QC hor....
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the only thing single no good is that very hard to find another person to enjoy SIA's 2 to go deal leh
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Originally posted by av98m:
that's the lesser of the 2 evils. -
IMHO marrying is for people who are lucky enough to find people to share their happiness with. Single and by yourself not necessarily its a sad thing although i think you would really miss out on quite abit. I would imagine if i were 35 and living on my own my life would still be pretty damn exciting
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Originally posted by tare:
If you're over 35, do you feel that twinge of bitterness or self depression when you see another couple get engaged, or if you see someone you know wiith some hot young guy/girl?
nope, why get jealous over someone's happiness?
single then single lor... i rather be alone than be with the wrong person... of cos it's not easy lah... but wat to do? just try to up market value and see where fate brings us lah...
Not everybody who is in a relationship/marriage is happy. He could be spending alot of money on that hot young materialistic girl and maybe he will go bankrupt too -
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Originally posted by NG QIBO AARON AUBREY:
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wow. deep.
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Single over 35, can buy own flat, decorate it to own needs and style, not have to fight for the use of the toliets and facilities.
Can always pick up skills which other people insist you shouldnt.
Can go visit places, which spouses usually will not want to go, for comofrt or whatever reasons.
Can also buy a young wife or a young man to father children.
Its all about personal choices. And if you regret your own life. Then its your private matter.
For others to comment about it. Is frankly they being kaypoh and insecure about themselves.
Why should other people having issues, be your issue on how you lead a exciting fun life while they want to bring you down to their level of misery?
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Self consolation.
Good also, the spouse don't have to be civil suited inside out.
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Originally posted by deepak.c:
Self consolation.
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Originally posted by deepak.c:
Self consolation.
Good also, the spouse don't have to be civil suited inside out.
and its free.
Though that is somewhat troublesome when Mrs Thumb and her four daughters is not keen to do housework.
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Originally posted by NG QIBO AARON AUBREY:
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thats actually just one word
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Originally posted by cApitaland:
thats actually just one word
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If I have a career which I like and I am earning more than I spent and I have a nice and cosy living place as well as a car, and travelling to other countries at least once a year, then I would probably be fine.
If I am jobless or working in a very stressful environment which I dont like and I get paid very little, and I go work early come home late, no car take bus and mrt, no money to eat, house no cosy, then i would probably enter depression and then end my life away rotting in a corner..
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Over 35 and single is ok mah.....again this depends on whether u are a guy or gal la.....for a gal....usually means G_G....coz girls after 30 not easy to find partner....and if they go for younger guys they will be branded as "Cougar"....
On the other hand if u are a guy and u are 35 and holding a good career and have everthing going in life for u....it is definitely much better to be single then attached.....coz guys who are highly successful at 30++ can easily looks for girls who are in the 20s.......there will definitely be a lot of girls queuing up for u.......Better wait till 40++ then to even consider settling down lol.....
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there are people who get depressed after marriage.
marriage do not guarantee happiness.
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I guess it's all up the individual. I will be 35 in another 1-2 years time, and sometimes i do feel that maybe i should find someone to settle down. On the other hand, if you want me to trade the fredom i am enjoying now for married life, I rather stay single.
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pros and cons la....35 and having a great career with a few good friends of both gender here and there....ok what.
35, single, no money no career.....kind of depressing. Marriage does not mean one is happy too. A lot of couples todays are getting sick of each other very early on and tolerating for the sake of kids.....a far cry from the old mentality of tolerating and enjoying each other's company till death.
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I do believe deep inside us, our asian values still exists, and most of us do want a happy marriage & a family of our own.
however, due to society pursuits, times do go by fast, and if U are struck @ work most times, not able to interact much. One day, U may wake up and realised, hey, I am 40 and I am still single.
There are pros/cons of being in a marriage and not. While, some may feel the pressure of being single, I think it is all up to expectations and confidence.
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i'm going to throw my two bits in...
okay.. i'm 40 this year and i'm in a deliriously happy relationship for the past couple of years...
before that, heck! the moment i started to work, the people who were on my case about getting settled and all that were my relatives whom i would say probably don't know me much and care for me even less... and their cronies.. their friends who don't even know who the hell i am, yet when i see them often during CNY or whatever, they will be on my case about getting settled down...
i'd smile at them in the beginning just to be polite and they took it as some kind of encouragement to ratchet up the pressure...
bloody assholes tried to matchmake, introduce and somehow try to trick me into going on dates or shit like that with people they think would "suit me"
until one day i got fed up when they mentioned something about "should settle down" and all that shit... i told them off..
like i was going to throw away my life, my happiness and destroy both my life and the girl's life just to satisfy their insane and stupid need to see people get married? just to get stuck in rushed marriages LIKE THEIRS and be unhappy JUST LIKE THEM in order to fit into their insane and screwed up view??
and i ended with a cold and scary "like hell i will"
that shut them up for good...
if there is someone out there, good.. coz love is wonderful
but if there isn't someone out there, hey! life can be wonderful too.. i was happy as a clam before i met her, and i'm happier now that i've met her...
thing is, don't let others make you happy or unhappy.. don't settle for someone you do not love just to conform to some fucked-up societal norm.. it's your life.. find your own happiness..
you may be with someone, you may be alone... but find that happiness and CHOOSE to be happy... not like some fucked-up people i know who insist on behaving like cynical emo angry people just because they think it's cool..
never thought that choosing to be unhappy is cool.. it's dumb...
a wise man in Abraham Lincoln once said that folks are generally as happy as they let themselves be... choose to be happy.. whatever age you are...
i choose to be happy...
may you find your own happiness...
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Originally posted by the Bear:
i'm going to throw my two bits in...
okay.. i'm 40 this year and i'm in a deliriously happy relationship for the past couple of years...
before that, heck! the moment i started to work, the people who were on my case about getting settled and all that were my relatives whom i would say probably don't know me much and care for me even less... and their cronies.. their friends who don't even know who the hell i am, yet when i see them often during CNY or whatever, they will be on my case about getting settled down...
i'd smile at them in the beginning just to be polite and they took it as some kind of encouragement to ratchet up the pressure...
bloody assholes tried to matchmake, introduce and somehow try to trick me into going on dates or shit like that with people they think would "suit me"
until one day i got fed up when they mentioned something about "should settle down" and all that shit... i told them off..
like i was going to throw away my life, my happiness and destroy both my life and the girl's life just to satisfy their insane and stupid need to see people get married? just to get stuck in rushed marriages LIKE THEIRS and be unhappy JUST LIKE THEM in order to fit into their insane and screwed up view??
and i ended with a cold and scary "like hell i will"
that shut them up for good...
if there is someone out there, good.. coz love is wonderful
but if there isn't someone out there, hey! life can be wonderful too.. i was happy as a clam before i met her, and i'm happier now that i've met her...
thing is, don't let others make you happy or unhappy.. don't settle for someone you do not love just to conform to some fucked-up societal norm.. it's your life.. find your own happiness..
you may be with someone, you may be alone... but find that happiness and CHOOSE to be happy... not like some fucked-up people i know who insist on behaving like cynical emo angry people just because they think it's cool..
never thought that choosing to be unhappy is cool.. it's dumb...
a wise man in Abraham Lincoln once said that folks are generally as happy as they let themselves be... choose to be happy.. whatever age you are...
i choose to be happy...
may you find your own happiness...
good for you to tell off these nosy parker relatives. btw how old is your gf? same age or younger?
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lau chye can be very nice de .....
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Originally posted by Fatum:
lau chye can be very nice de .....