If you're over 35 and still single, are you happy or sad?
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Originally posted by Genie99a:
Actually meybe in SG ba.... but in Australia... very common for handsome guys to have female partners that are fat. In fact I wouldn't give a 2nd look at them. Meybe becos over here no one cares who you are with so everyone just clicks with whoever they really like lor.Singapore got this problem meh? girls i mean.
Hmm. i would rather look for someone that is really beautiful in the 'inside' than the outside. and yea, singaporeans are quite 'practical'. really quite hard to find a really loving couple that can last forever and more...............hahaha. -
So many guys still go for looks. Since, men yearn for women with good look, no use trying hard to find a partner who will eventually break your heart.
With this question, if i am single and 35 , I will be happy cos I have less worry on whether my partner will cheat on me. One less worry is one less white hair.
I would spend my money on travelling and pamper myself.I may have lose out "fucking" experience but for female, we dont need that as much as men.
Rather be a happy single woman then badly married. Just my personal point of view.
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i am 37 years old this year, no gf, and i dun have a prob with that
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Originally posted by conradhilton:
So many guys still go for looks. Since, men yearn for women with good look, no use trying hard to find a partner who will eventually break your heart.
With this question, if i am single and 35 , I will be happy cos I have less worry on whether my partner will cheat on me. One less worry is one less white hair.
I would spend my money on travelling and pamper myself.I may have lose out "fucking" experience but for female, we dont need that as much as men.
Rather be a happy single woman then badly married. Just my personal point of view.
you say so cos these guys have not learn their lesson
I fully agree with your point it is better to be single than badly married
just take a look at the live case studies around you
there is no need for further explaination
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Originally posted by laurence82:
i am 37 years old this year, no gf, and i dun have a prob with that
Ah Pek..
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Can adopt a cat or a dog if you feel lonely also.
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Originally posted by Gackt247:
Ah Pek..
u si lang kia
go and die!
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Originally posted by deepak.c:
When you adopt it's different. It's easier said than done, serious.
You ever try adopting a child, treat it like your own flesh and blood?
Ultimately, at the end of the day, the child is not yours, it doesn't have your genetic material, it's like being an orphanage.
Well...its more of whether the child can take you as heart and soul I think...
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Nothing wrong for a man being single but sad for women as their physical started to fade away.It tend to be harder for a lady to get into relationship as men usually want younger one.
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Originally posted by Wacky Sung:
Nothing wrong for a man being single but sad for women as their physical started to fade away.It tend to be harder for a lady to get into relationship as men usually want younger one.
I only partly agree with this.I agree women lose looks and is harder to find relationship than for men.
But it's not easy for men either.
Decent women who see a single man who is over 40-50 usually think there's something wrong with him, and stay away.
It's only easy for men if they go to a poor country to meet poor women.
Educated single SG women in their 30's and beyond will never "lower" themselves and go to 3rd world country to find poor man for husband.
This si the main difference.
Even then, if a man "buys" a wife, there is also the stigma the man wasnt good enough to get a girl in his own country.
So men have more options, but still not a bed of roses.
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Originally posted by conradhilton:
So many guys still go for looks. Since, men yearn for women with good look, no use trying hard to find a partner who will eventually break your heart.
With this question, if i am single and 35 , I will be happy cos I have less worry on whether my partner will cheat on me. One less worry is one less white hair.
I would spend my money on travelling and pamper myself.I may have lose out "fucking" experience but for female, we dont need that as much as men.
Rather be a happy single woman then badly married. Just my personal point of view.
Not entirely true lar conrad.
I think that as men grow older... looks count less and less le. Although yes I agree men in general go for looks.
But to be honest I feel that so long as the girl isn't ugly that's when personality shines le... let me elaborate... plain jane vs leng lui. But say I prefer plain jane's personality and i happy then go lor... only thing is cannot be cialat lar. And i don't think it's difficult to be a plain jane lor..... try and keep slim....SLIM hor i dunno why SG so many Tek Kohs lol ..... cai png not enuf?
I think xxings response also reinforces this viewpt in general qua...either that or i alien lol
Kind Regards
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generally can say dat both men on women would love to have a good looking partner rite? Who wouldn't.That will be a bonus,apart from having a stable career. but sumtimes ppl hav very high expectations on their partners. I'll b turning 36 dis year n generally i'm happy with my life. I have my freedom to go anywhere,no chains to shackle me down. Although once in a while a tingle of loneliness tends to creep up
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hmmm... interesting topic.
i do not think that being single at 35 (and above) is pathetic or anything that's close to degrading. some of my guy friends, they know their priorities in life and many would prefer to build up their career first. i can perfectly understand how they think: once your career is stable and bringing in big bucks, women in their mid-20s and above will have one more point to be attracted to you. of course, whether you put in effort to make it happen and develop into a happy ending depends on yourself.
FYI, divorce rates going up and average age is 40+ for guys (men). Doesn't mean that you get hitched early, you will live happily ever after. Most of the guys I see who are married have this constant frown on their faces when they are out with their kids. Most of the married guys look like they have aged 5years when they have kids. So tell me, why fret being single at whatever age?
if i may, i would advice guys who are >35 years of age and still single but looking out for the right lady to: take care of yourself physically (stay healthy, exercise, avoid having a beer belly, go for facial, take care of your hair), learn to socialize (learn to dance, etc), and stop behaving/dressing like an uncle. No offence to anyone here.
I'm 32 this year, married, but people think I look like 26 and still have a tiny bit of luck with the ladies in their mid-20s. My point? Age is not a factor unless you think it really is or you make it a problem.
Cheers, people.
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this is a national problem...ministers are seen to cajole and pushy on even TCS actresses to quickly get married as part of their campaign to produce more babies in view of pushing beyond the productivity frontier..
but the crux is to review on marital laws - to also make it more balanced for the males, and not just keep favouring women....taking males' interests at heart as well..now that women are financially independent...
the govt has already done a lot to squeeze our pocket monies....they also further aggravate it by squeezing the already dried pocket until torn with our 2 balls hanging out...
what the FCUKPAP....
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it is not as sad as being overlooked by the Godfather than to marry a bitch
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Originally posted by OneWithTheForce:
As a guy of a certain age, I've become quite aware of certain pressure, and it affects me sometimes.
I know this lady who is hitting 43 soon. Nice lady, average looks and a body of someone her age, still single. She tries hard, always goes to events, sports etc to meet people, but no success. For all the self confidence she has, it gets her down from time to time.
If you're over 35, do you feel that twinge of bitterness or self depression when you see another couple get engaged, or if you see someone you know wiith some hot young guy/girl?
Please, no married good looking guys/girls saying tripe s.h.i.t like- you should be happy with yourself, having another person in your life doesnt matter, etc etc
Man you sound sceptical. Be an optimist.
You are a guy and 35 isn't bad for a guy. You can still make children. I feel sorry for the women. I have two women friends, they are retired and age 62, yet I do not see a hint of sadness in them because they lost the opportunity to have children or get married. I am not going to say what this two woman is involve in, but they get involve in activities that make they joyous and give their life a sense of purpose.It is not the end of the world, dude. I have known some of my guy friends who get married at 37, 38 and even 40. And their wifes are like 31 years old. Singapore is extending the retirement age to 65 so you sort of get a life extension.
Don't get depressed. Make new friends. Try make friends with younger people. Don't care if they look at you like an uncle. Look - there are hot women at their 40s and they are single - Jennifer Aniston.
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Originally posted by love_vs_hate:
hmmm... interesting topic.
i do not think that being single at 35 (and above) is pathetic or anything that's close to degrading. some of my guy friends, they know their priorities in life and many would prefer to build up their career first. i can perfectly understand how they think: once your career is stable and bringing in big bucks, women in their mid-20s and above will have one more point to be attracted to you. of course, whether you put in effort to make it happen and develop into a happy ending depends on yourself.
FYI, divorce rates going up and average age is 40+ for guys (men). Doesn't mean that you get hitched early, you will live happily ever after. Most of the guys I see who are married have this constant frown on their faces when they are out with their kids. Most of the married guys look like they have aged 5years when they have kids. So tell me, why fret being single at whatever age?
if i may, i would advice guys who are >35 years of age and still single but looking out for the right lady to: take care of yourself physically (stay healthy, exercise, avoid having a beer belly, go for facial, take care of your hair), learn to socialize (learn to dance, etc), and stop behaving/dressing like an uncle. No offence to anyone here.
I'm 32 this year, married, but people think I look like 26 and still have a tiny bit of luck with the ladies in their mid-20s. My point? Age is not a factor unless you think it really is or you make it a problem.
Cheers, people.
Great point ! Well, I think marriage is also a good thing. But just because a person is single and above 35 doesn't mean its a crime being single. Some people in their 30s just haven't found the rite person. If anyone above 35 is depressed with their singularity, go watch "My Greek Wedding". Its an excellent show.
On the other hand, there are things about the asian culture in which i dislike. One of my friends - who divorced, he tells me how his relatives look down on him because of that. I think he is a nice person but sometimes it is the asian culture that I really dislike. And then there is my cousin who is 33 and unmarried. Everytime we go to family gathering, the uncles and aunties would make jokes to him asking him when he is going to get married. And some of my other cousins don't treat him so well. These are some of the things I don't like about asian culture pressure on singles to get married.
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Originally posted by laurence82:
i am 37 years old this year, no gf, and i dun have a prob with that
Wah AH LAU!!!
I keep thinking you 30 odd niah!
Wait... Are you the same Ah Lau I saw a few times? =D
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Originally posted by OneWithTheForce:
As a guy of a certain age, I've become quite aware of certain pressure, and it affects me sometimes.
I know this lady who is hitting 43 soon. Nice lady, average looks and a body of someone her age, still single. She tries hard, always goes to events, sports etc to meet people, but no success. For all the self confidence she has, it gets her down from time to time.
If you're over 35, do you feel that twinge of bitterness or self depression when you see another couple get engaged, or if you see someone you know wiith some hot young guy/girl?
Please, no married good looking guys/girls saying tripe s.h.i.t like- you should be happy with yourself, having another person in your life doesnt matter, etc etc
see guys....then we have to ask the most basic question of all: what is marraige and what to the couple say during their wedding vows? It's all in the name of LOVE!
so i totally agree that u get bcoz for the sake of getting married or juz not to feel lonely. that are many things in live then marrying and having children...i think the world is populated enuff.
of course if u happen to find the right person and u want to be with that special person forever (or for him/her to stick with u n not to be with other candidates), n most importantly love, then it is not supprising to hear wedding bells for the couple.
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Yes i'd rather remain single if i don't find the right man.
Dating agencies only want to make money. I just turned 30, well-educated, successful career, good income, good shape, looks not stunning but ok. Joined a dating agency to see if i can meet eligible men. First date i got was with a guy in late 30s (but looked older than that), ITE dropout, in between jobs, not comfortable speaking english. I don't want to be mean, but really it was a waste of time for both of us. Sigh.
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It is more important to be happy and comfortable with the state you are at now
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Though i m still quite young but if im over 35 but still single i may be rather sad.
Bcuz i always think that no matter what, if girls can get married and have someone to rely on and someone taking care of you or even have your own children is a very blissful things.
Especially someone like me who wish to have a simple, comfortable yet meaningful life with my partner. Than being a workaholic or someone lonely. As i myself also a rather quiet person so don't wish till than i am still like what i am now. :)
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well, if you're over 35 and mr/ms sucessful, being single aint no problems.
still, be yourself.someone will come by no matter how old you are. -
well... i think its wats inside you. if you are constantly not content sure chui one. better single than unhappy or be wif a person u feel its not worth it.
guys def have more as they age. whether its money, maturity, eye contact, deportment, they way u talk n move. things become way easier and plentiful.