My story. Pls help...
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I have been in an relationship of 10 yrs now, I guess i can truely say i love her very much and would want to spend the rest of my life with her. I have nv been unfaithful to her during our relationship. She was the only 1 i ever have sex with. But i always long to have an intimate relationship with other girls.... To be able to have close contact with a diff girl really turns me on. Recently i've been thinking about it and i just cant stop myself from thinking about it. Sex with her is getting less appealing. I need some1 else. Can one really only have one sex partner for life?I feel bad but i cant control this urge. I am i a bad guy? I dont really think so. I work hard to take care of her. I do my best in every thing 4 her. She is very important to me. Does any guys have this feeling too? how can u all cope with it?
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follow the above steps...and u would see the light
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bad bad bad
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Yes you're very bad , now chop it off.
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Originally posted by thehappybunny:
ah ma...!
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Originally posted by Nccc1701n:
I have been in an relationship of 10 yrs now, I guess i can truely say i love her very much and would want to spend the rest of my life with her. I have nv been unfaithful to her during our relationship. She was the only 1 i ever have sex with. But i always long to have an intimate relationship with other girls.... To be able to have close contact with a diff girl really turns me on. Recently i've been thinking about it and i just cant stop myself from thinking about it. Sex with her is getting less appealing. I need some1 else. Can one really only have one sex partner for life?I feel bad but i cant control this urge. I am i a bad guy? I dont really think so. I work hard to take care of her. I do my best in every thing 4 her. She is very important to me. Does any guys have this feeling too? how can u all cope with it?
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Though the advices are abit harsh, i still thank u all for ur comments. I was a little lost and wanted to look for genuine pple to discuss it. I think in a way, i was trying to convince myself that wat i was thinking about was quite normal for a guy. That thought is absolutely selfish and naive. I agree with you guys. I think i need to stop thinking about it and set my priorities right. thank u all again
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glad dat u finally sorted out ur thinking..
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no yr priorities are wrong. u need to come visit me and donate yr genitals to the wall over my fireplace.
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Man ...
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Glad that you have a mature mindset when it comes to such a topic. Humans are imperfect. I only wanted to discuss this problem maturely and with a progressive and positive approach in mind.Though i may have not been a perfect boyfriend for my girlfriend in my thinking, but i can honestly say i have not done anything such as flirting, one night stand cheating or even hiring prostitutes in my life. There are lots of guys out there that cheats on their girlfriends frequently and still thinks narrow-mindedly thinks that it is alright.
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Originally posted by Nccc1701n:
Glad that you have a mature mindset when it comes to such a topic. Humans are imperfect. I only wanted to discuss this problem maturely and with a progressive and positive approach in mind.Though i may have not been a perfect boyfriend for my girlfriend in my thinking, but i can honestly say i have not done anything such as flirting, one night stand cheating or even hiring prostitutes in my life. There are lots of guys out there that cheats on their girlfriends frequently and still thinks narrow-mindedly thinks that it is alright.
great dat u have sorted out your thinking! ~
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Originally posted by Nccc1701n:
Glad that you have a mature mindset when it comes to such a topic. Humans are imperfect. I only wanted to discuss this problem maturely and with a progressive and positive approach in mind.Though i may have not been a perfect boyfriend for my girlfriend in my thinking, but i can honestly say i have not done anything such as flirting, one night stand cheating or even hiring prostitutes in my life. There are lots of guys out there that cheats on their girlfriends frequently and still thinks narrow-mindedly thinks that it is alright.
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10 years... I guess you can either follow the rule no 1 :
or rule no 2: (hmmmmm...man I don't like the pig head)
Anyway thats not the point... think you should question yourself on why your girl friend whom you know and been with for so long does not appeal to you more...
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We are only but human living in this world governed by temptations, be it greed or lust... Is it that hard to stay away from all these temptations? I sometimes wonder whether we(male or female) are in fact designed by the "one" on top to occasionally crave greed or lust. Are we made that way? Is there not a little greed or lust in everyone of us? If it is not right to greed or lust, then why make us the way we are. And make us condemn and contradict one another on what should or should not be the way.
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still haven't sleep yet ah..
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Haha... Been pondering alot about it. Realised this is quite an interesting topic to discuss about too. I like to know what everyone else feels and think. Maybe even a time for ignorant pple to reflect on certain things.
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10 years with her, and you can't discuss this?
Are you not already cheating? By discussing here.
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Please define cheating.....
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Please define cheating.....
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This is not the regular con job.
This is betrayal. Of trust. You hide things from her. She is going to be dissapointed in you, when she finds out what you are hiding. Because she will feel that you have no faith in her. Also there are elements of dishonesty in you. Dosen't matter if no one knows it, because you know it. And you won't feel good about yourself.
If you can't confide in her, then your relationship is just at the superficial level. You have to tread carefully. And that no way to have a permanent relationship.
Cheating just does not necessary mean having sex with another woman, not having faith in your partner is cheating, especially after professing faith in your partner.
Some cheating have serious consequences, some are just frown upon.
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betrayal of trust? how is he gonna explain such feelings to her? some things are better left unsaid. Or did u forget that one of the rules of a successful relationship is to keep some little secrets from each other?
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Like i said before. We are only humans. And humans are not made to perfection. At times, our mind can stray and drift.
It is always easy to say what a perfect boyfriend should be like. We think he should be like this, we think he should act like this... I think that actions can be done to show how much we care for others.The thing is we are talking about the mind now. Can the perfect boyfriend mentioned by mancha ever exist?? A guy with completely zero lust or even thoughts about lust. It is easier said. But I still do agree at some point in mancha's statement that faith is important in a relationship.
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ts how old liao?